Southern Poverty Law Center Names Men’s Rights Activists (MRAs) as Hate Group.
What we’ve known for years, we now have confirmation.
10,000 Angels
All Smiles
Mindy McCready sang about Ten Thousand Angels in 1996 and now they sing for her. Protective mothers who also know all too well about family courts, DCF and abusers what Mindy has been through with custody of her son. This is a victory that will not go unnoticed with the large community of protective mothers. We applaud Judge Harrod for what we can only assume is reason and logic that a mother should be with their child, we couldn’t agree more.
By LUCHINA FISHER (@luchina) and YUNJI DE NIES Dec. 6, 2011
Country singer Mindy McCready left an Arkansas courthouse a “happy girl” Monday without divulging details about a juvenile court judge’s ruling on what will happen to her and her five-year-old son Zander.
“I can’t talk about it, but I can tell you all I’m a happy girl. I’m a happy girl right now,” she said to reporters gathered outside the Izard County courtroom of Judge Lee Harrod.
“I love Judge Harrod, I’ll tell you that. I love that man. He’s a good man,” she said before being driven away from the courthouse.
Later Monday evening, McCready sent a text message to HLN’s Jane Valez Mitchell that the host read on air.
“WE WON!!! ZAN STAYS,” McCready wrote. “Court details sealed but we love Judge Lee W Harrod.”
Details on when the singer may be able to take Zander back home to Nashville, and whether McCready will get permanent custody of her son remain unclear.
“The next step would be for the judge to decide,” Amy Webb, director of communications for the Arkansas Department of Human Services, told ABC News.
Florida Department of Children and Families officials had been expected to request in the hearing that Zander be sent back to Cape Coral, Fla., where McCready’s mother, Gayle Inge, is his legal guardian.
“We will not discuss details of this case per the judge’s order. Of course we continue to work with all involved parties to ensure this child’s safety and well-being,” a Florida DCF spokeswoman told ABCNews.com.
McCready’s rep offered no information either. “All proceedings and documentation surrounding the hearing are sealed,” Kat Atwood said in a statement to ABCNews.com. “No further information is available at this time.”
SOMEONE SAVED MY LIFE TONIGHT
This woman saved my life. When I was in a violent relationship I saw the particular story on Oprah. I recognized myself in these videos, trying had to be quiet to prevent his hands on me. The judge who sentenced this abuser was emotional when describing what he saw in that video of Susan. I wonder what did he see? Did he realize that domestic violence is far more damaging of a crime than originally thought? Do we really have the equal protection under law? We as survivors of intimate partner violence have come a long way. Just like Susan, I am a far cry from the subservient battered slave I once was.
If it were not for Susan and the countless other of survivors that have found their voice and share their story to the world to let us know, we are not alone, we are not crazy and you too can survive! My work on this blog and elsewhere has led me down a path filled with love and empowerment. My hope for the future is that all women will be protected as every human deserves. Since we cannot eradicate “abuse” it is up to law enforcement and the judiciary to be well-informed and educated on the subject of domestic violence. We have not only shattered that proverbial glass ceiling we are coming through it in masses.
You are not alone, your sisters are all around you, come find us!
In honor of Domestic Violence Awareness Month we want the world to know that we are here… we always have been. It was only up until recently with the slap in the face against domestic violence survivors and victims in Topeka Kansas that our voices have only gotten louder. We honor our fallen sisters who were not as lucky as we are to have survived a relationship. We have faith in knowing they are guiding us as we preserve their memory. Many are now gone but not forgotten, this is for you.
THE COLOR PURPLE
In the Month of October, the 24th National Domestic Violence Awareness Month– Topeka Legalizes Domestic Violence. All Survivors and Victims every where have been thrown back into the dark ages. Shame on Topeka for their ‘slap in the face’ to every victim nationwide. Topeka Kansas is now– the abuser.
This will set a bad precedence through the nation. One that will have deadly ripple effects. Myself and other advocates and the three Councilpersons who voted against repealing and legalizing Domestic Violence engaged in a tense hour and half with dialogue with the rest of the Council and especially Dan Stanley Interim City Manger.
I tip my hat to these three Council members who were ‘bullied’ by the rest of the council’s self serving needs on the ‘backs of Domestic Violence Victims
Those who opposed in the final vote were: (please lend to them your support and thanks)
- Denise Everhart
- Richard Harmon
- Larry Wolgast
The City Council members who sold out Victims of Violence: (and need to be voted out)Dan Stanley- Interim City ManagerMayor Bill Bunton
- Karen Hiller
- John Alcala,Deputy Mayor
- Sylvia Ortiz
- Chad Manspeaker
- Bob Archer
- Andrew Gray
The Councils email address and contact numbers are here: http://www.topeka.org/cityofficials/And to those I say:
The seven Topeka City Council and District Attorney, Chad Taylor’s, off-the-cuff comments have a distinctly shrewish tone. If you disagree with my claim that it can plausibly be surmised that these stooges compress their traducements into brief, highly reductive, definitive-sounding phrases, easily memorized and easily expressed, then read no further. The Topeka City Council doesn’t simply want people to believe that “metanarratives” are the root of tyranny, lawlessness, overpopulation, racial hatred, world hunger, disease, and rank stupidity. It wants this belief drummed into people’s heads from birth. It wants it to be accepted as an axiom, an assumed part of the nature of reality. Only then will the Topeka City Council truly be able to get away with twisting the truth. In a Topeka City Council-led society, people who educate the public on a range of issues will be suppressed, vilified, hated, imprisoned, exiled, and killed. From this anecdotal evidence I would argue that if a cogent, logical argument entered their brains, no doubt a concussion would result. Once you begin to see the light you’ll realize that Topeka sees the world as somewhat anarchic, a game of catch-as-catch-can in which the sneakiest skivers nab the biggest prizes.You might not care that my message has always been that by supporting stupid, incontinent mountebanks with inferior moral standards, we devalue ourselves, the lives of our children, and the heroes who died for our freedoms, but you’d better start caring if you don’t want the Topeka City Council or District attorney to regiment the public mind as much as an army regiments the bodies of its soldiers. Emotionalism is a plague upon us all, a pox that will likely not be erased in the lifetime of any reader of this blog. To Topeka City Council, however, it’s merely a convenient mechanism for crushing any semblance of opposition to its filthy, combative apothegms. The baneful nature of Topeka’s fulminations is not just a rumor. It is a fact to which I can testify.It would seem the seven Topeka City Councilpersons have been working for years to create a faux moral and ideological climate in which cranky leeches can provide cover for a contumelious, anti-humanist agenda.And that’s all I have to say. For now…
UNITED STATES OF TERROR
Tonight at 6pm CST the City of Topeka Kansas [http://www.topeka.org/video/] will decide whether or not they will make domestic violence “legal”. Troubling comes to the mind mostly fear. The fear that victims not only will be denied equal protection under law as outlined in the Fourteenth Amendment specifically, Equal Protection Clause requires each state to provide equal protection under the law to all people within its jurisdiction. The district attorney of Shawnee County, Chadwick Taylor, Topeka City Council and Shawnee County Commissioners are playing a dangerous game of chicken with victims of domestic violence. Tonight these white males with privilege will decide the fate of many victims by repealing a ban on domestic violence within the city of Topeka in other words, ‘Sharia Law’ has come to the Midwest. That’s right, it could be “legal” to beat your spouse with no repercussions, legal ones anyways. I doubt the city fathers have thought about what this legacy will bring to Topeka, then again maybe they have. But there is already a heavy cost on society when domestic violence and abuse are overlooked. Health costs and lost work costs, but a diminution of values. When prosecutions of violence and abuse against a family member become nothing more than a political pissing contest, victims burrow deeper into themselves, shamed, ashamed, and alone. No one can save them. At least, that’s how they feel. But that doesn’t stop their abusers, because there is not anything to stop them. With the possibility they’ll face no legal consequences, they will simply continue their abuse and victims will submit, believing there’s no way out, because there isn’t anymore.
UPDATE!!
Topeka’s governing body voted 7-3 Tuesday evening to repeal the city ordinance banning domestic battery, in a move interim city manager Dan Stanley said would force District Attorney Chad Taylor to resume reviewing and evaluating domestic batteries committed in Topeka for possible prosecution.
Mayor Bill Bunten and council members Karen Hiller, John Alcala, Sylvia Ortiz, Chad Manspeaker, Bob Archer and Andrew Gray voted in favor of the move while council members Denise Everhart, Larry Wolgast and Richard Harmon voted against it.
http://cjonline.com/news/2011-10-11/city-repeals-ordinance-banning-domestic-battery#.TpThbt7qP1Q
RUN FOR YOUR LIFE!
Shawnee County District Attorney Chad Taylor said Sept. 8 he would no longer prosecute misdemeanors committed in Topeka, including domestic batteries. Taylor said he could no longer afford to prosecute those crimes after county commissioners approved a 2012 budget for his office that cut its funding by 10 percent from the 2011 amount. Taylor indicated his move would require the Topeka city attorney’s office to begin prosecuting those misdemeanors.
When Shawnee County, KS District Attorney Chad Taylor decided to hand over misdemeanor cases, like Claudine Dombrowski’s, to the city, she knew the consequences would be the hardest on victims of domestic violence. Dombrowski, a victim of violence for 16 years, who ultimately lost the right to custody or visitation with her daughter through years of wrangling in court, speaks from a position of experience and first hand knowledge.
A result of the new ruling, facing the consequences a victim could encounter when the abuser is arrested, then released, she advises victims not to call the police. She says, “You, as a survivor, know how to survive. You just keep surviving. If you call the police right now, and God forbid you end up with the city, you might die.”
Knowing how victims of violence are already treated in an over burdened system, Dombrowski knows it will be even worse if offenders are not properly prosecuted.
According to Kansas First News, ”We know of three cases where judges have released the people accused of domestic violence back out because it’s their understanding that the district attorney will not prosecute and so there may be more of these.”
“Topeka Police Officers are forwarding misdemeanor cases involving domestic violence to the District Attorney’s Office. Stanley says the D.A.’s office has already turned away 30 cases. He believes the victims and their families are most affected.”
National Intimate Partner Violence Strategist, Susan Murphy Milano says, “This could be a violation of Federal Laws set forth and signed, not with ink, but with the blood of those who have been killed as a result of intimate partner violence. Domestic violence is a criminal act, against the law. The city officials and the prosecutors need to go into the cemetary business because that’s what’s going to be the most profitable if they allow this to stand.”
Hoping that the city receiving the domestic violence cases is only temporary until the District Attorney’s Office can restore their funding,Dombrowski says, “We’ve just jumped back 30 years into the dark ages, and it’s very dark. The lights just went out in Topeka.”
THE NUTTY PROFESSOR
WHEN WILL THIS STOP?!
ATLANTA — Three people were killed and at least one was injured in Athens, Ga., on Saturday when a University of Georgia professor opened fire at a community theater, police officials said.
The police identified the gunman as George M. Zinkhan III, a professor of marketing at the university’s business school. He was at large early Saturday evening.
The coroner for Athens-Clarke County, Sonny Wilson, said the shootings occurred around 12:30 p.m. Police officers responding to a call at the Athens Community Theatre, near downtown, said they had found three adults killed by gunfire. News reports said that one to three other people had been injured.
The Atlanta Journal-Constitutio n identified one victim as Marie E. Bruce, 57, the wife of Mr. Zinkhan and the president of the theater’s board of directors. Beth Kozinsky, the membership director for the theater, told the newspaper that the other victims were Ben Teague, 63, and Tom Tanner, 40, also theater officers.
Athens is 70 miles east of Atlanta.
An alert on the university’s Web site identified Mr. Zinkhan as “a suspect in a shooting off campus” and warned, “Use extreme caution if contact is made.”
Students were informed by a text alert.
“Some people are kind of freaking out,” said Carolyn Crist, a junior and the editor of the campus newspaper. “Some people are honestly nonchalant.”
A biography of Mr. Zinkhan, 47, on the university Web site said he was the co-author of two books, on consumption and electronic commerce, and had served as editor of The Journal of the Academy of Marketing Science and of The Journal of Advertising. He received a doctorate from the University of Michigan in 1981 and a bachelor’s degree from Swarthmore College in 1974. He joined the faculty at the University of Georgia in 1994.
Either immediately before or after the shooting, Mr. Zinkhan dropped off his two children at the home of a neighbor. “He indicated that he needed someone to watch his kids for an hour,” the neighbor, Robert Covington, said in a telephone interview. “He said there had been an emergency.”
Mr. Zinkhan’s children are now in the custody of the police, Mr. Covington said.
Another neighbor, Dana Adams, described Mr. Zinkhan as disarmingly quiet. “He was the kind of strange character that did not talk,” she said. “But I never thought he’d do something like this.”
Josh Gurley, 21, a university junior who was in Mr. Zinkhan’s course on consumer buying behavior, said the professor unexpectedly canceled class last week and said students did not need to take the final exam.
UPDATE!
GEORGE ZINKHAN BODY FOUND
Fugitive muder suspect George Martin Zinkhan III dug his own grave and covered himself with debris before firing a single bullet into his head, investigators told The Atlanta Journal-Constitution.
His well-hidden body was discovered Saturday by cadaver dogs in thick woods about 1,000 yards from an elementary school.
His body was removed a few hours later and sent to the State Crime Lab. Athens-Clarke County police are holding a news conference at this hour.
The dogs found the body about a mile from where Zinkhan’s red Jeep Liberty was recovered more than a week ago in some woods not far from his home in Bogart, in Clarke County.
The body has tentatively been identified as Zinkhan’s until the state medical examiner can make a final identification using dental records.
When Zinkhan’s jeep was found on April 30, police swarmed over the area looking for traces of the fugitive. The body was found outside the original search area, sources said Saturday. According to WAGA-TV, searchers returned to the area with dogs on Friday with no results. They resumed the search Saturday morning.
U.S. Marshals, Athens-Clarke County police and officials from the coroner’s office were on the scene when an AJC reporter arrived at 1:30 p.m. Saturday afternoon. Officials took the body away at 1:45 p.m.
Georgia Bureau of Investigations spokesman John Bankhead said the body had been taken to the crime lab and an autopsy and identification would be completed by the end of the day Saturday.
The playground at Cleveland Road Elementary School was cordoned off as a crime scene. A short distance away, toddlers and their parents were attending a birthday party in the school’s gym.
Aaron Clanton, a teacher at the school, arrived Saturday morning around 10:40 a.m. for his son’s party that was supposed to take place at the school playground. Clanton said police were already on the scene. They told him Zinkhan’s body was found about 1,000 yards behind the playground, in the woods.
Zinkhan, 57,was the subject of a nationwide manhunt since April 25 when three people were shot dead at Athens Community Theatre near the university campus — Zinkhan’s estranged wife, Marie Bruce, and Ben Teague and Tom Tanner.
All three were members of the Town & Gown Players. They were attending a luncheon with a few dozen current and former members that afternoon.
Witnesses said an argument ensued between Bruce and Zinkhan, who left the party. He returned with two handguns and started shooting, hitting Bruce, Tanner and Teague multiple times.
Zinkhan then went back to his car, in which his daughter, 10, and son, 8, were waiting. He drove the children to a neighbor’s house and asked Covington to watch the kids because there was an emergency.
A respected professor of marketing at UGA’s Terry School of Business, Zinkhan eluded authorities for nearly two weeks.
Police believed they caught a break April 30 when they found the Jeep Liberty. But a search by dozens of heavily armed law enforcement officers over more than 300 acres of Clarke and Jackson counties failed to locate Zirkhan.
Last Saturday, authorities staked out Hartsfield-Jackson International Airport in Atlanta. Zirkhan had purchased an airline ticket for a May 2 flight to the Netherlands, where he taught part time at an Amsterdam university and owned a home there. But again, there was no sign of him.
Police later said his passport had been recovered in the Jeep.
Law enforcement authorities intensified their search for leads in the case in recent days, distributing a GBI sketch of Zirkhan clean shaven and without a beard. The Athens-Clarke County Police Department on Thursday offered a $1,000 reward for information leading to his arrest
AT LAST
REVISIONS:
BILL NUMBER: AB 612 AMENDED
BILL TEXT
AMENDED IN SENATE JUNE 28, 2009
AMENDED IN ASSEMBLY MAY 5, 2009
AMENDED IN ASSEMBLY APRIL 22, 2009
INTRODUCED BY Assembly Member Beall
(Coauthors: Assembly Members Ma, Smyth, and Torrico)
(Coauthor: Senator Yee)
FEBRUARY 25, 2009
An act to add Section 3027.3 to the Family Code, relating to
custody and visitation.
LEGISLATIVE COUNSEL'S DIGEST
AB 612, as amended, Beall. Custody and visitation: nonscientific
theories.
Existing law governs the determination of child custody and
visitation with a child in contested proceedings. Existing law
provides for the use of court-appointed investigators, as defined,
including court-appointed evaluators directed by the court to conduct
a child custody investigation in those proceedings. Existing law
authorizes the court to appoint a child custody evaluator if the
court determines it is in the best interest of the child. If directed
by the court, the evaluator is required to file a written
confidential report on his or her evaluation. The report may be
received in evidence on stipulation of all interested parties and is
competent evidence as to all matters contained in the report.
Existing law requires all child custody evaluators to have completed
specified training relating to domestic violence and child abuse.
Existing law requires the Judicial Council to adopt standards for
court-connected evaluations, investigations, and assessments related
to child custody. Existing law also requires the Judicial Council to
formulate rules of court that establish education, experience, and
training requirements for child custody evaluators and to establish
related forms, as specified.
This bill would provide that a child's expression of
significant hostility toward a parent may be admitted as possible
corroborating evidence that the parent has abused the child. The bill
would prohibit a court from concluding that an accusation of child
physical or sexual abuse against a parent is false based solely on
the child's expression of significant hostility toward the parent.
The bill would also require that, on and after January 1, 2010, these
provisions be included in all training required of child custody
evaluators, and would, consequently, require the Judicial Council to
revise training standards for child custody evaluators
allegations of physical or sexual abuse against a child are to be
investigated using specified methods of data collection and analysis.
The bill would provide that the rules of evidence applicable in
criminal proceedings shall apply whenever the court considers an
allegation of physical or sexual abuse against a child in a custody
proceeding. The bill would also provide that unproven, nonscientific
theories, including, but not limited to, alienation theories, as
specified, are not consistent with generally accepted clinical,
forensic, scientific, diagnostic, or medical standards. The bill
would prohibit a court from relying upon an unproven, unscientific
theory and from accepting into evidence any finding provided by an
expert witness or court appointed professional who has relied on
an unproven, nonscientific theory that is a basis for that
finding. The bill would require the Judicial Council to provide
training consistent with these provisions . The bill would
include a statement of legislative intent.
Vote: majority. Appropriation: no. Fiscal committee: yes.
State-mandated local program: no.
THE PEOPLE OF THE STATE OF CALIFORNIA DO ENACT AS FOLLOWS:
SECTION 1. It is the intent of the Legislature
that courts strive to protect the safety of children by ensuring that
abuse allegations are investigated appropriately and that protecting
children from physical and sexual abuse is the highest priority in
custody and visitation decisions.
SEC. 2. Section 3027.3 is added to the
Family Code , to read:
3027.3. (a) Allegations of physical or sexual abuse against a
child are to be investigated using methods of data collection and
analysis consistent with the requirements of Section 3118, as further
clarified in paragraph (2) of subdivision (e) of Rule of Court
5.220, as it read on January 1, 2009.
(b) The rules of evidence applicable in criminal proceedings shall
apply whenever the court considers an allegation of physical or
sexual abuse against a child in a proceeding pursuant to this
division.
(c) Unproven, nonscientific theories, including, but not limited
to, alienation theories that assume that a child's report of physical
or sexual abuse by one parent is influenced or fabricated by the
other parent, are not consistent with generally accepted clinical,
forensic, scientific, diagnostic, or medical standards. The court may
not rely upon an unproven, unscientific theory and the court may not
accept into evidence any finding provided by an expert witness or
court appointed professional who has relied on an unproven,
nonscientific theory that is a basis for that finding.
(d) Nothing in this section shall limit the consideration of
actual evidence, behaviors, statements, or conduct by either parent
or by the child.
(e) The Judicial Council shall provide training consistent with
this section.
SECTION 1. It is the intent of the Legislature
that courts strive to protect the safety and best interest of
children in custody matters by ensuring that allegations of physical
and sexual abuse are investigated appropriately or referrals are made
to the child welfare services agency.
SEC. 2. Section 3027.3 is added to the Family
Code, to read:
3027.3. (a) A child's expression of significant hostility toward
a parent may, in the discretion of the court, be admitted as possible
corroborating evidence that the parent has abused the child. The
court may not conclude that an accusation of child physical or sexual
abuse against a parent is false based solely on the child's
expression of significant hostility toward the parent.
(b) On and after January 1, 2010, the provisions of this section
shall be included in all training required pursuant to Section
3110.5.
Assemblymember Beall: Junk Science Should Be Thrown Out of Court
AB 612 Requires Family Courts to Restrict Use of Pseudo Syndromes in Custody Cases
(Sacramento) – Assembly Bill 612, legislation from Assemblymember Jim Beall, Jr. (D-San Jose), outlawing unscientific “alienation’’ theories that have fueled bitter and expensive child custody battles, cleared its first hurdle on Tuesday when it was approved by the Assembly Committee on Judiciary. Supporting the measure at the hearing was award winning television star Nancy Lee Grahn (General Hospital’s Alexis Davis) and others. 
The bill seeks to prohibit courts from considering nonscientific theories when making decisions on child custody or visitation. The American Psychological Association Presidential Task Force on Violence and the Family “noted the lack of data to support so-called ‘parental alienation syndrome,’ ’’ according to an association statement.
AB 612 would also eliminate training in non-scientific theories, such as parental alienation theories, from Judicial Council-approved education for family court professionals.
“We want to change a harmful family court practice that apparently has gone unchecked for some time, resulting in innocent children being improperly placed,’’ Beall said. “This legislation requires family courts to follow the legal principals of accepted evidence. Pseudo ‘syndromes’ should not be allowed as evidence in life-altering custody determinations.
The Parental Alienation Syndrome presupposes that the custodial parent brainwashes the child to make false statements against the other parent. The theory or syndrome has been employed by some abusive parents to regain custody of the victimized child, experts say.
“Too many times, court evaluators are sidetracked by this pseudo syndrome into presuming the child’s hostility toward the non-custodial parent resulted from ‘programming’ by the custodial parent while completely ignoring symptoms of abuse or domestic violence by the non-custodial parent,’’ Beall said.
By prohibiting non-scientific theories, the bill makes evidentiary standards in family court more consistent with other courts.
For additional details on each of the measures please visit the website of Assemblymember Beall: www.asm.ca.gov/beall
Here are links to audio of Assemblymember Beall and Nancy Lee Grahn:
Assemblymember Beall says its time for California to ban the use of the so-called parental alienation syndrome argument.
Assemblymember Beall says use of the parental alienation syndrome argument has resulted in children being abused.
Nancy Lee Grahn, television actress (General Hospital’s Alexis Davis), says AB 612 is desperately needed.
Nancy Lee Grahn says parental alienation syndrome is bogus science.
CHRISTY
Friday night and Christy Grice is running from her own home and is shot in the back. This is not some random act of violence this is a growing trend in America where women are not being protected by the courts and the Judges that took an oath.
Violence Against Women Act is useless until Judges and other court officials are trained……we will never stop fighting for Christy, Kelly, Marie and all the other women that have become a statistic….your voices will never be silenced, that is my promise.
UPDATE: Monday 5/11 @ 10:45am
PORTSMOUTH, Ohio (WSAZ) — Scioto County Sheriff Marty Donini has released more information on the shooting deaths of Christy Grice and her ex-husband, Keith “Butch” White, over the weekend.
The sheriff says the case is being investigated as possible murder-suicide.
Donini says Grice was shot in the back, running away from her home on Filmore Lane in Wheelersburg late Friday night.
The sheriff says White was found dead at his home on Route 140 in Wheelersburg at around 11 a.m. Saturday morning.
Donini says White died of a self-inflicted shotgun blast.
Investigators say the couple had been divorced for about 6-7 months.
Court records show that Christy petitioned for a domestic violence civil protection order against her then-husband back in late 2007. Her attorney says Christy testified that Butch had threatened her life. Butch said he did not. The judge ruled it was a “he said, she said” with not enough evidence and did not grant the order.
Sheriff Donini says domestic violence protection orders do not guarantee safety.
“In this case, with such violence, you don’t know that it would have helped, but you can never tell,” Sheriff Marty Donini said.
Donini also tells WSAZ.com that Grice’s daughter was at an after-prom party when her mother was shot.
Grice worked as a pharmacist at King’s Daughter Medical Center
FRONT PAGE NEWS…CNN
For some of us, CNN is the official news source, meaning, it ain’t even important, unless we see in on CNN! So many murders, murder-suicides, and familicides have taken place since 2009 began, but few of them have made it to CNN headlines.
Many local news sources have made trivial attempts at explaining the deaths and the perpetrators’ motivations. There have been maybe one or two great articles that do not site the economy exclusively (See 52 Days of Domestic Violence Flu), because it’s not really the economy, but rather the thinking that prevails in a paternalistic society like ours. (See The Murder Suicide Epidemic: Larger Longitude Study Debunks “Mother Killer Myth” and, Family Annihilations, Murder-Suicides: Warning Signs Go Unheeded Because We Normalize Them and, Join Up the Dots)
This front page article on CNN (as of 10pm 5/19), Despondent dads driven to kill loved ones, presents multiple reasons behind why these fathers choose to murder. The economy is cited as a stressor, but at least it doesn’t overpower the fact that murder is still a choice that is being made by those thirsty for power and control. The two reasons cited are “revenge” and “despondency.”
Mental health was also cited as a factor (as usual):
Case Western researchers found that more than three-fourths of the offenders in 30 murder-suicides in the Cleveland, Ohio, area had signs of mental illness. Half of the men had borderline personality disorders, which trigger significant mood upheavals, impulsiveness and feelings of worthlessness.
So, now that this information has been provided, what are we going to do with it?
I’ll warn you, CNN, that you may get some hate mail/emails/phone calls and a nasty campaign from fathers’ rights groups in the near future for posting this article (like Lifetime Network and the DART bus ads). They will say that you are doing fathers a disservice, and that not all men are violent, and that this piece is misandrist, and that you have been infiltrated by the feminazis that also took over the family court…never mind the fact that many women, children and a few innocent men are dead and continue to die almost weekly, never mind that you are not talking about ALL men, never mind that this society spends all of its time talking about this and that bad mother (and when men abuse, women are “failing to protect”), never mind that society remains intent on using the field of psychology to exclusively label and punish women/mothers (the Mother’s Act, Parental Alienation), never mind that those who control the media outlets are men.
And I ask again, now that this information has been provided, what are we going to do with it? More will die next week. More restraining orders will be ignored, more judges will disregard the law, more psychologists will violate ethics…What are we going to do?
I just noticed that CNN’s Father-Killer Timeline, to which I linked above, is utterly inadequate. Please visit Violence Against Women and Children News Central, Intimate and Domestic Violence in the News, Violent Angry Men, and Chaos Theory’s murder-suicide map for more accurate accounts of the 2009 murders.
Also read great comments on Shakesville!:
Also, it’s telling that you don’t see nearly as many mentally ill women killing their spouses for reasons not related to domestic violence. If mental illness were the sole reason men so often kill their wives and children, mentally ill women would be doing it, too. Instead they usually hurt themselves or, sometimes, their children…
A PIG IS A PIG IS A PIG
Atlanta officer suspended over comments about mayor
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
Saturday, May 23, 2009
Atlanta Police Chief Richard Pennington on Saturday suspended the police union head who said he wanted to beat Mayor Shirley Franklin with a bat.
“The Atlanta Police Department does not condone nor will we tolerate supervisors making irresponsible and inflammatory remarks against the Mayor or any citizen of the City of Atlanta,” Pennington said in a statement released late Saturday night regarding Sgt. Scott Kreher.
Kreher would be relieved of duty and placed on paid administrative leave pending a psychological evaluation, Pennington’s statement said.
Kreher, president of the International Brotherhood of Police Officers — Local 623, on Wednesday told city council members that he wanted to hit the mayor “in the head with a baseball bat.”
Kreher could not be reached Saturday night for comment.
The comment came during a public discussion about seriously injured police officers receiving poor treatment from the city’s workers’ compensation program.
Kreher later apologized for the statement, but Franklin vowed publicly to file federal and state complaints against him.
A statement Saturday from the mayor’s office called Kreher’s comment “reprehensible,” and said she felt threatened.
Franklin declined to comment on the issue of the city’s workers’ compensation plan, however.
The Sun Also Rises
Why She Did It
Sunrise commissioner Sheila Alu exposed a judge’s misconduct — at great personal risk.
By Bob Norman
Published on May 26, 2009 at 3:50pm
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Kyle T. Webster
Alu: The judge slayer.
Sheila Alu sometimes feels like a marked woman. The Sunrise commissioner has been called a “rat” on blogs and newspaper websites, has been shunned at her day job as prosecutor in the State Attorney’s Office, has lost friendships, and was personally attacked in a recent deposition.
Her sin: coming forward about gross misconduct on the part of a well-connected local judge.
Alu, a single mom first elected to office in 2001, came forward in New Times last year about Broward Circuit Judge Ana Gardiner‘s improper socializing with a prosecutor during a first-degree murder trial. As a result, the Florida Supreme Court overturned the death-penalty conviction of Omar Loureiro last week and ordered a new trial.
Although a number of courthouse insiders laud Alu for speaking out about a courthouse rife with abuse and corruption, she has gained no shortage of enemies for doing the right thing.
And real justice hasn’t come. The erratic Gardiner, whose career has benefited from friendships with State Attorney Michael Satz and disgraced former Broward Sheriff Ken Jenne, has yet to be punished despite the fact that she had improper communication with a prosecutor and clearly violated a defendant’s constitutional rights.
Worse, the judge demonstrably lied in an April 30 deposition in the Loureiro appeal when she denied much of Alu’s story. In that deposition, Gardiner also made unseemly personal allegations against the Sunrise commissioner that Alu says are untrue.
The 46-year-old Alu says she’s not sure if speaking out about Gardiner’s misconduct was worth it. “I’ll think I made the right decision if other people come forward when they see misconduct at the courthouse,” she says. “If they don’t, it wasn’t worth it.”
To understand why Alu came forward against Gardiner, why she put her career as a politician and prosecutor on the line, you have to go back to her childhood in Palm Beach County, where she grew up in an abusive and neglectful household and was put into foster care when she was 11.
She says she suffered terribly in state-supervised care, an experience that later motivated her to want to change the bureaucracy and fight corruption. But before she ever thought about politics, she wanted a family of her own. After a failed first marriage, she and second husband, Joe Alu, a Plantation police officer, had a daughter, Christina, in 1991.
Four years later, Joe Alu was blown up in a house explosion that severely burned him and another officer, Jim O’Hara. Two young girls were killed, as was their estranged and distraught father, who had poured gasoline throughout the house.
While caring for her husband, Alu learned that if he were unable to return to work, the city’s health coverage would run out for the family. Her fight to change that put her in the public eye. “Go to the mayor’s office,” she told the Sun-Sentinel. “Go bang down his door.”
A political career was born. Her effort ended after a triumphant trip to Washington, D.C., where she watched then-President Bill Clinton sign the Alu-O’Hara Public Safety Officer Benefits Act on the lawn of the Rose Garden.
The issue also led Alu to become politically involved at the local level. In 2001, she won election to the Sunrise commission.
During her first term, she met lobbyist Ali Waldman, the girlfriend and lawyer for land baron Ron Bergeron. Waldman was leader of a group of political women who called themselves the Steel Magnolias. Alu joined the club, which also included state Rep. Ellyn Bogdanoff and political operative Mary Fertig.
The women were hyped at one time in the media as corruption fighters, and Alu took the role to heart. “I thought the Magnolias were about ridding Broward of corruption and putting incorruptible people into office,” she says. “I really believed that.”
Alu, who divorced Joe Alu in 2004, and Waldman became close. Alu says she looked up to Waldman, who encouraged her to enroll in law school at Nova Southeastern University. Waldman often brought Alu to Bergeron’s expansive ranch, Green Glades, and the women were seen at dinners and charities all around town.
But Alu knew that Waldman lobbied local governments on behalf of clients, including the superwealthy Bergeron. She says she told Waldman never to lobby her on Sunrise matters or the friendship would have to end.
“We had an explicit oral agreement, ‘You don’t lobby me, we don’t do any business together, we’re just best friends,’ ” says Alu.
There were a few gifts above the $100 limit she was allowed to receive. In 2005, she had Waldman and Bergeron over to her house for dinner. When Bergeron saw that only one burner worked on her stove, he had a new one delivered for $1,200. Alu properly disclosed the gift on state forms.
She didn’t see anything wrong with it because she never used her political office to help Bergeron or Waldman. And neither of them ever asked. Until 2007.
Early that year, Waldman began talking about a plan to build a large housing development on the old Sunrise Country Club site. Alu says Waldman told her that the company proposing it, Miami-based GC Homes, was good and that she was a friend of the owners, Pedro and Michael Garcia-Carillo.
Alu says she began to suspect that Waldman was using her friendship to push the golf course development in her city. She tried to avoid the topic.
Then came the night of March 23, 2007, when Alu met Judge Ana Gardiner at Timpano on Las Olas Boulevard for dinner and drinks.
Alu says that Gardiner called before arriving and said she was with someone she shouldn’t be with. Then the judge showed up with homicide prosecutor Howard Scheinberg and fellow judge Charlie Kaplan.
What happened next is well-known to those who follow Broward news: Gardiner and Scheinberg began laughing about a juror fainting at a murder trial after seeing gruesome photographs of the murder victim. They also laughed about the fact that both the defendant, Omar Loureiro, and the victim were gay.
When Alu realized that Gardiner was the judge in the case and Scheinberg the prosecutor and that the trial was still ongoing, she was stunned. She had just taken the ethics portion of the Florida Bar test the week before and knew this was utterly wrong — even cause for a mistrial.
As Scheinberg rode with her to another bar, Alu says she immediately asked him, with outrage in her voice, how he and Gardiner could talk about an ongoing case. He told her that if she felt it was wrong, she should report it to the bar.
When they arrived at the Blue Martini, Scheinberg was extremely upset by the conversation and left almost immediately. Kaplan and Gardiner left with him.
The next day, Alu sought advice from lawyer Stuart Michelson, husband of County Commissioner Ilene Lieberman.
“He was astonished at what they’d done,” says Alu. “He started spewing off canon violations. I asked him, ‘What should I do about it?’ He said that I wasn’t technically a lawyer yet so I didn’t have a legal obligation to report her to the bar.”
Another friend, property appraiser’s investigator Ron Cacciatore, heard about what had happened from Judge Kaplan, who has since died of a heart attack, and called Alu about it. He says he told her that she shouldn’t repeat what she had heard. “She was agonizing over the behavior of a sitting judge,” says Cacciatore. “I told her to forget about it… sometimes the right thing can cause you more problems.”
Now Alu was at odds with two friends, Waldman and Gardiner, over serious ethical issues. To top it off, the trio of women flew to New York City for a shopping trip the next weekend, in part to celebrate Alu’s graduation from law school.
She says that it was the first real vacation she’d taken in nearly a decade and that she was ready to have a good time. But once they were there shopping on Fifth Avenue, it went downhill fast.
Alu rarely spoke with Gardiner in New York or ever again; their budding friendship was already dead. (In a deposition taken more than a year later, when the Timpano incident was finally investigated, Gardiner denied talking about the case with Scheinberg. In an ad hominem attack, Gardiner also accused Alu of drinking too much and having an affair with the married Cacciatore — an accusation both Cacciatore and Alu strongly deny.)
Alu says that she still wanted to save her friendship with Ali Waldman but that the lobbyist wasn’t making that easy.
“Ali kept talking about developing this golf course,” she says. “It wasn’t like she just brought it up once — she kept going on and on and on about it. I finally said, ‘What is the deal with you and this golf course?’ And she said, ‘This is one of my clients.’ My mouth dropped wide open.”
Alu says she reminded Waldman of the no-lobbying rule. “I told her she wasn’t even registered to lobby and she wasn’t supposed to be lobbying me,” says Alu. “Ali said it was a gray area. I told her there was no gray area and that she could either choose our friendship or her client.”
About a month after returning from New York, Waldman made her decision when she registered as a lobbyist for GC Homes with the City of Sunrise. Alu and Waldman haven’t spoken since — and Alu, after hearing complaints from residents about the golf course, killed the plan before it even had a chance to come up for a vote on the Sunrise commission. Waldman didn’t respond to a call for comment.
Months after the Timpano incident, Alu told me, off the record, what Gardiner had done and said it still bothered her. I told her it was a very important story, but she refused to go on the record, saying that it might not do any good and that it could ruin her career as a lawyer.
In January 2008, Alu was hired as a prosecutor for the State Attorney’s Office. A month later, on Super Bowl Sunday, Judge Gardiner crashed her car on a Fort Lauderdale street while spying on a boyfriend at a party.
Using the bizarre accident as a springboard, I began reporting on allegations of improper relationships with lawyers that have been made against Gardiner over the years. Again, I asked Alu if she would go on the record about what she’d seen. After first refusing, she called and left a message on my answering machine.
“OK, I thought about it. I’m ready to give you my quote and what I want to say about Ana Gardiner, and you can use my name,” she said. “I realize by speaking out to the press about this incident… it could lead some people from the legal community to shun me or potentially blackball me, but I became a lawyer to seek justice… I still believe in a defendant’s right to a fair trial. I feel the public has a right to know.”
Soon we would find out.
X “MEN”
With festivities of “Father’s Day” rapidly approaching and knowing that all the “Super Dads” are all getting their superhero costumes cleaned and are preparing to sulk on Father’s Day because they get a bad rap. I must say a special “Thank You” to all the insipid, worthless assholes that think they can do a better job than a mother.
F is for Family Court, that you’re always in
A is for Abuse, and all other sins
T is for Tricks, dirty ones are all you know
H is for Hatred, driving you on and on so
E is for your Ego, when I do see you I want to vomit and scrub my skin
R is for Resentment, ask your children they’ll clue you in
Put that all together and what does it spell??
Egotistical, controlling, abusive mama’s boy with no backbone.
BTW…You CAN’T milk a FUCKER, FUCKER
FOUR DAYS OF DELIBERATIONS
http://www.boston.com/news/local/breaking_news/2009/06/rockefeller_jur_3.html
WONDER WHAT THE MYSTERY IS HERE?
Another day — and no verdict — in ‘Rockefeller’ case
June 11, 2009 04:29 PM
(David L. Ryan/Globe Staff)
Clark Rockefeller on Wednesday in Suffolk Superior Court.
By Maria Cramer and Andrew Ryan, Globe Staff
A Suffolk Superior Court jury has concluded its deliberations for the day in the parental kidnapping trial of the man who calls himself Clark Rockefeller.
 Judge Frank Gaziano |
The jury, which began deliberating after closing arguments Monday and has spent three full days since, was sent home at about 4 p.m. today.
On Wednesday, the jury asked a judge what prosecutors had to prove in the case in which the defendant has pleaded not guilty by reason of insanity. Judge Frank Gaziano told the jury that prosecutors had to prove that Rockefeller understood the legal and moral consequences when he kidnapped his 7-year-old daughter last summer after a bitter divorce.
“The Commonwealth does have to prove the defendant could appreciate the criminality or legal import and the wrongfulness or moral import of his conduct,” Gaziano told the jurors. “Further, when you asked ‘Or can the Commonwealth meet its burden by proving just one of these?’ The answer to that question is no.”
Rockefeller, 48, has pleaded not guilty by reason of insanity to the kidnapping charge. He is also accused of giving police a false name and two counts of assault on a social worker supervising the July 27 visit with his daughter in the Back Bay. Prosecutors allege that the defendant is really Christian Karl Gerhartsreiter, a con man who came to the United States as a German exchange student in 1978 and never left.
The question about the legal definition of insanity gets to the crux of the case, which hinges on dueling diagnoses from mental health experts, who gave contradictory testimony.
AND THE WALLS COME CRUMBLING DOWN
Public officials call for major changes in family law
By Kamika Dunlap
Posted: 06/11/2009 06:54:02 PM PDT
Updated: 06/11/2009 09:03:13 PM PDT
http://www.insidebayarea.com/oaklandtribune/localnews/ci_12573211
OAKLAND — One by one, parents around the Bay Area are beginning to step forward to share heart-wrenching stories of the injustices they experienced in California’s family court system.
These parents have joined with thousands of others statewide to reform the family courts and protect child victims of violence and sexual abuse from judicial decisions the parents say place children in harm’s way.
“I’m living proof this is happening today,” said Susan, a California Family Court litigant and mother whose daughter was placed with her accused molester. “The family courts crisis is a plague and it’s destroying peoples’ lives.”
About 58,000 children per year in the U.S. are ordered into unsupervised contact with physically or sexually abusive parents following divorce, according to experts at the Leadership Council on Child Abuse & Interpersonal Violence.
Many people concerned about the systemic problems with family court attended a daylong public forum Thursday at the Alameda County Conference Center.
Some compared the family court crisis to the Catholic Church sexual abuse scandals because of what they call an institutional level of collusion of harm against children. Event organizers said they hoped the forum would inspire families who have survived traumatic family court ordeals to come forward in order to shed more light on the breakdown of the family court system.
Participants, including family court litigants,
child advocates and the general public, gathered to discuss the family court crisis and take a closer look at problems and solutions. The forum’s session featured public testimony by speakers and a panel of legal experts and attorneys who gave free general legal advice about how to best protect themselves in the family court.
The event was organized by the Center for Judicial Excellence in partnership with UC Berkeley Boalt Hall School of Law, California Protective Parents Association, Justice for Children, California Safe Child Coalition, Child Abuse Solutions and the Incest Survivors Speakers’ Bureau.
Their collective goal was to push to improve the judiciary’s public accountability and strengthen and maintain the integrity of the courts.
In addition, the center produced a documentary, Family Court Crisis: Our Children at Risk, and screened a 12-minute clip at the forum.
The American Judges Association found that approximately 70 percent of batterers succeed in convincing authorities that the victims of their abuse are unfit or undeserving of sole custody.
Alameda County Supervisor Gail Steele and actress Nancy Lee Grahn from ABC’s “General Hospital” are family court reform advocates and also participated in the panel discussions.
Steele announced a new initiative to help better protect vulnerable children in family court. It includes her support of the passage of new proposed legislation by Assemblyman Jim Beall, D-San Jose, and Assemblywoman Fiona Ma, D-San Francisco, to reform family court. Her initiative also calls for the passage of Sen. Mark Leno’s request for a legislative audit of Marin and Sacramento Family Courts. She also is pushing for ombudsman positions to be created in the Alameda County District Attorney’s Office, where parents can go for help and to plead their case.
“The system has to change in California and across the country,” Steele said.
Grahn did not talk in detail about her $1 million family court battle but said her experience was “maddening and perplexing.”
She was upset to learn that some laws were unfair and that some court procedures were abusive and treated children like hostages or assets that need to be divided up.
After a three-year ordeal, Grahn finally gained custody of her 11-year-old daughter. She now works with community organizations and travels the state to meet with lawmakers and inform them about the about pitfalls of the family law system.
“I met people who were in similar or worse situations,” Grahn said. “There are thousands of women who were protective parents and their children were taken away and handed over to their abusers.”
For more information visit, www.centerforjudici alexcellence. org
Reach Kamika Dunlap at 510-208-6448 or e-mail kdunlap@bayareanews group.com.
HOW SUPERHERO DADS ARE MADE
Mario Salazar hit his 18-month-old son with a belt buckle, causing bad bleeding that required staples to close the wound. This genius then slapped a police officer who tried to arrest him. But you see, Mario can explain everything. He wasn’t TRYING to hit the child. He was trying to hit HIS WIFE, who was holding the baby and “using him as a human shield” (in Mario’s rather twisted take on things). So it was really HER fault. Thanks for clearing that up for us, Mario. Just like the time my ex husband threw a baby bottle at me while I was holding our youngest daughter. He told the police he “tossed” it at me…it just so happened that my face caught it, luckily.
http://www.eastvalleytribune.com/story/140432
An 18-month-old Mesa boy was hospitalized on Wednesday after his father hit him over the head at least twice with a belt buckle while trying to hit his wife, according to a police report.
Mario Salazar, 21, who also is accused of hitting his wife with the belt during an argument, later slapped a police officer in the face when officers attempted to arrest him at his residence in the 1700 block of East Elton on Wednesday, the report states.
Salazar was arrested on suspicion of felony child abuse, aggravated assault on police, resisting arrest and assault, according to the report.
The boy, who was badly bleeding, was taken to a hospital after the argument between Salazar and his wife. The boy had staples placed on his wound and medical staff called the police to report the incident, according to the report.
Salazar also told police, “I didn’t mean to hit him. His mother was using him as a shield.”
Salazar, who also told police he did not intentionally strike the officer, told the police he was an illegal immigrant and that he had been deported once before and returned to the United States after paying a coyote to smuggle him across the border.
ADIOS MUCHACHO
FATHER HOOD
Pedophiles, abusers and felons getting sole custody,because everyone in Family Court gets a suckle from the teat of the grants. I’ve followed the blood money trail in the name of “Responsible Fatherhood Initiatives”.
Access and Visitation Grants:
Federal Allocation and State Match
| State | Federal Allocation | State Match | Total Funding |
|---|---|---|---|
| Alabama | $142,610 | $15,846 | $158,456 |
| Alaska | $100,000 | $11,111 | $111,111 |
| Arizona | $179,474 | $19,942 | $199,415 |
| Arkansas | $100,000 | $11,111 | $111,111 |
| California | $988,710 | $109,857 | $1,098,567 |
| Colorado | $130,679 | $14,520 | $145,199 |
| Connecticut | $101,505 | $11,278 | $112,783 |
| Delaware | $100,000 | $11,111 | $111,111 |
| District of Columbia | $100,000 | $11,111 | $111,111 |
| Florida | $519,757 | $57,751 | $577,508 |
| Georgia | $272,041 | $30,227 | $302,267 |
| Guam | $100,000 | $0 | $100,000 |
| Hawaii | $100,000 | $11,111 | $111,111 |
| Idaho | $100,000 | $11,111 | $111,111 |
| Illinois | $329,141 | $36,571 | $365,712 |
| Indiana | $164,289 | $18,254 | $182,544 |
| Iowa | $100,000 | $11,111 | $111,111 |
| Kansas | $100,000 | $11,111 | $111,111 |
| Kentucky | $115,835 | $12,871 | $128,706 |
| Louisiana | $175,073 | $19,453 | $194,525 |
| Maine | $100,000 | $11,111 | $111,111 |
| Maryland | $176,152 | $19,572 | $195,724 |
| Massachusetts | $171,937 | $19,104 | $191,041 |
| Michigan | $289,707 | $32,190 | $321,897 |
| Minnesota | $123,675 | $13,742 | $137,417 |
| Mississippi | $113,215 | $12,579 | $125,795 |
| Missouri | $171,130 | $19,014 | $190,144 |
| Montana | $100,000 | $11,111 | $111,111 |
| Nebraska | $100,000 | $11,111 | $111,111 |
| Nevada | $100,000 | $11,111 | $111,111 |
| New Hampshire | $100,000 | $11,111 | $111,111 |
| New Jersey | $217,628 | $24,181 | $241,809 |
| New Mexico | $100,000 | $11,111 | $111,111 |
| New York | $605,368 | $67,263 | $672,631 |
| North Carolina | $272,566 | $30,285 | $302,851 |
| North Dakota | $100,000 | $11,111 | $111,111 |
| Ohio | $334,160 | $37,129 | $371,288 |
| Oklahoma | $100,000 | $11,111 | $111,111 |
| Oregon | $100,000 | $11,111 | $111,111 |
| Pennsylvania | $341,055 | $37,895 | $378,950 |
| Puerto Rico | $100,000 | $11,111 | $111,111 |
| Rhode Island | $100,000 | $11,111 | $111,111 |
| South Carolina | $142,481 | $15,831 | $158,312 |
| South Dakota | $100,000 | $11,111 | $111,111 |
| Tennessee | $178,061 | $19,785 | $197,845 |
| Texas | $646,627 | $71,847 | $718,474 |
| Utah | $100,000 | $11,111 | $111,111 |
| Vermont | $100,000 | $11,111 | $111,111 |
| Virgin Islands | $100,000 | $0 | $100,000 |
| Virginia | $192,500 | $21,389 | $213,889 |
| Washington | $171,388 | $19,043 | $190,431 |
| West Virginia | $100,000 | $11,111 | $111,111 |
| Wisconsin | $133,236 | $14,804 | $148,040 |
| Wyoming | $100,000 | $11,111 | $111,111 |
| Total | $10,000,000 | $1,088,889 | $11,088,888 |
FATHER WRONGS
“Father Rights” groups are gearing up in trying to get people to believe they are biased against in Family Courts, especially for “Father’s Day”
Their agenda is that they have no agenda…they mold their views to align with their views...or a as a fellow blogger succinctly put it..
“Child abuse doesn’t exist, or if it does exist, it’s for the good of the child (discipline you know), but if it’s not proper fatherly disclipline and it’s child abuse, only moms do it. Any questions? (Abandon logic all ye who enter here)”
The year 2009 hasn’t been too good for the Father Righters to get their point across since the countless of murders of children and estranged women. One hell bent father has written about an Ol’ School deadbeat dad.
In 1927, Samuel W. Reid apparently refused to pay his child support a.k.a. alimony he stated he “would not pay to have HIS child with the evil ex wife”.
Which is how these men operate, the same as they did in the relationship, they are angry. They stalk their ex wives, girlfriends and even us bloggers who are mothers that tell the truth about Family Court. They call us nasty names, leave nasty comments and lie. But at the end of the day I laugh when I think of their little worlds crumbling with each murder, each arrest and each expose….Goodnight boys.
THE WHEELS OF ABUSE
GO ROUND AND ROUND
ENTER AT YOUR OWN RISK
Domestic Violence experts and advocates all advise women that if you are in an abusive relationship, get out! The other side to that coin is that when you bounce back from an abusive relationship with the intent on making a new life with your children be forewarned, the Family Court system is not your friend.
In some counties the Judges will not even consider any domestic violence evidence. A Judge in Family Court in Australia is quoted as:
“Whether in fact there was on one side allegations of domestic violence and abuse or whether the applicant was in any way involved in extra marital affairs does not in any way concern me.” Judge Bell
This is just one more slap in the face for an abused woman. Family Court cares not for you or your children, they care for money and boy what money they get! (see Father Hood post). Judges give their friends, GAL’s, Psychologists and Attorneys business.
Lesson One
How Guardian Ad Litems work…
An Oconto County WI Family Court Commissioner, Frank Calvert has consistently appointed attorney, Aaron Krzewinski as a GAL in cases that come before him. What does this mean? Well..for starters this means that Mr. Krzewinski will get at least $2500 for his duties. His duties will allegedly include talking to both parties, the children, family members, school officials, you name it. Now depending on who filed first and IF the father wants a substantial change in placement will depend on how Mr. Krzewinski will make his recommendations.
Five out of five parents that had Mr. Krzewinski as their children’s GAL stated that he had little if no contact with the children. In fact one child wished to speak to this GAL and was refused so the 11 yr old took a cab from his home for five minutes with “his” attorney. The child was amidst a custody dispute where the father wished to retain sole custody and move them out of the country. This child expressed to the attorney that he did not want to leave America, neither did his older austistic brother, both wanted to stay with their mother. The recommendations of the GAL was that the children were to move with their father due to the fact that the father was offering to fly the GAL twice a year to the foreign country to “check” on the children. Luckily the attorney for the mother proved to be worth his salt and objected to such a blatant use of bribery and a new level of corruption.
Now back to the GAL and his fees, like I said $2500 is usually the minimum deposit for his “hard” work. Then you’ll get an itemized bill that will have his phone calls, faxes, emails and other various GAL duties that he’s done. But wait, what’s this? He talked to you once and your ex abuser ten times? But I’m not solely picking on Mr. Krzewinski, he’s not the only useless prick out there in Guardian Ad Litem-land. He is among other of corrupt Family Court officials that do not have the best interests of children at heart but rather their bank accounts and wallets instead.
These stories and more is what has made the new breed of women that have rose from the ashes. We are the monsters that you created. We know that they can’t teach you ethics, morals or even to tell the truth in law school but as long as we have freedom of speech, your deceptions will be uncovered.
JUNE 16, 2009
UPDATE
Pedro Enrique Rosabal, the poor dear suffered something terrible from those ubiquitous “marital problems”–which naturally justifies why he picked up his kids at school, taunted the mother by calling her on the phone and telling her he was going to kill them, and then doing so. (When will the press finally stop referring to scumbags who torture and kill their families as having “marital problems”? Wrong! Innocent women and children have problems with violent scumbags.)
To ALL people that believe that mothers commit more violence and murder I challenge you to a 30 day countdown. Even though since January of 2009 there have been numerous murders of women and children from their estranged fathers versus mothers……we will start…..NOW.
Father suspected of killing 2 children in Houston
3 hours ago
HOUSTON (AP) — A father was suspected of shooting and killing his two children on Tuesday and then turning the gun on himself in an apparent attempted suicide, police said.
Police had been looking for the 8-year-old girl and her 6-year-old brother after their mother reported to authorities that “her estranged husband had called saying he had picked the kids up from the school and planned to drive them to an unknown location and kill them,” spokesman John Cannon said.
A short time later, officers were called to an apartment complex in southwest Houston after a resident and a maintenance worker became concerned when they saw two children and a man in a car with its engine on.
The children were found shot and pronounced dead on the scene. A .380-caliber pistol was found in the car.
“All evidence indicates the suspect shot the kids while inside the car at the apartment complex parking lot and turned the gun on himself,” Cannon said.
The 33-year-old man was transported in critical condition to Ben Taub General Hospital with a gunshot wound to the head.
Cannon said the names of the children would be released by the Harris County medical examiner’s office. He did not release the father’s identity.
Copyright © 2009 The Associated Press. All rights reserved.
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WHEN A MAN LOVES A WOMAN
HE DOESN’T HIT HER
HE DOESN’T THREATEN HER
HE DOESN’T PUSH HER
HE DOESN’T HURT HER IN ANY WAY…..BUT IF HE DOES…..YOU BETTER WATCH OUT…BECAUSE YOU NEVER KNOW….
The news report below is encouraging….the comments that the ignorant made are disgusting, but this is how DV Survivors are treated.
Supreme Court sets new precedents in domestic violence
by Andrew Clevenger
It was big news last week when the state Supreme Court reversed and vacated Tonya Harden’s 2007 murder conviction. Harden, you will recall, killed her husband, Danuel Harden, with a shotgun he had used to beat and threaten her during what Justice Menis Ketchum described as a “night of domestic terror.”
(That’s Harden’s booking photo, from September 2004, on the right. Her two black eyes are obvious, but the puncture wound to her right forearm, bruising to her chest and arms and her fractured nose aren’t visible.)
By a 4-1 vote, with Chief Justice Brent Benjamin dissenting, the justices ruled that the physical and sexual assaults by Harden’s husband and his threats to kill her and their children informed her state of mind and were relevant to her claim of self-defense.
As Angie Rosser of the West Virginia Coalition Against Domestic Violence and the Associated Press’ Tim Huber have pointed out here and here, the 44-page opinion sets some new precedents in West Virginia law. It’s a pretty big deal when the Supreme Court issues new precedent, so the new syllabus points are worth repeating here:
–Where a defendant has asserted a plea of self-defense, evidence showing that the decedent had previously abused or threatened the life of the defendant is relevant evidence of the defendant’s state of mind at the time deadly force was used. In determining whether the circumstances formed a reasonable basis for the defendant to believe that he or she was at imminent risk of serious bodily injury or death at the hands of the decedent, the inquiry is two-fold. First, the defendant’s belief must be subjectively reasonable, which is to say that the defendant actually believed, based upon all the circumstances perceived by him or her at the time deadly force was used, that such force was necessary to prevent death or serious bodily injury. Second, the defendant’s belief must be objectively reasonable when considering all of the circumstances surrounding the defendant’s use of deadly force, which is to say that another person, similarly situated, could have reasonably formed the same belief. Our holding in Syllabus Point 6 of State v. McMillion, 104 W.Va. 1, 138 S.E. 732 (1927), is expressly overruled.
–Where it is determined that the defendant’s actions were not reasonably made in self-defense, evidence that the decedent had abused or threatened the life of the defendant is nonetheless relevant and may negate or tend to negate a necessary element of the offense(s) charged, such as malice or intent.
–An occupant who is, without provocation, attacked in his or her home, dwelling or place of temporary abode, by a co-occupant who also has a lawful right to be upon the premises, may invoke the law of self-defense and in such circumstances use deadly force, without retreating, where the occupant reasonably believes, and does believe, that he or she is at imminent risk of death or serious bodily injury. In determining whether the circumstances formed a reasonable basis for the occupant to believe that he or she was at imminent risk of death or serious bodily injury at the hands of the co-occupant, the inquiry is two-fold. First, the occupant’s belief must be subjectively reasonable, which is to say that the occupant actually believed, based upon all the circumstances perceived by him or her at the time deadly force was used, that such force was necessary to prevent death or serious bodily injury. Second, the occupant’s belief must be objectively reasonable when considering all of the circumstances surrounding the occupant’s use of deadly force, which is to say that another person, similarly situated, could have reasonably formed the same belief. Our decision in Syllabus Point 2, State v. Crawford, 66 W.Va. 114, 66 S.E. 110 (1909), is expressly overruled.
11 comments
- 1 Courtney { 06.17.09 at 10:15 am }
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Do you know what the opinion says? It says that this woman was justified in killing her husband in cold blood. That’s what it says. The DV advocates are rejoicing but if the genders had been reversed, they’d be singing a different tune. What this opinion does is give abused women an exception to the murder statute. They can lay in wait and kill their abusers. But if a man ever advances this defense, I have a feeling the outcome will be different. The cour has basically crafted an exception to the murder statute with this opinion, for abused women. But according to the language of the opinion, anyone in a situation where they felt they were in danger could put on this defense. However, the DV advocates consider it a victory for abused women. Now what’s wrong with this picture?
- 2 Courtney { 06.17.09 at 10:17 am }
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P.S. – for anyone who feels threatened in their own home, I meant.
- 3 Expatriate { 06.17.09 at 10:36 am }
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Courtney, clearly you know nothing about the psychology associated with being a battered woman or have been battered yourself, or you would not make such ignorant statements. And what I find most intriguing is that this sort of comment would come from a woman. How progressive of you! I have said for years that we women are our own worst enemies. Your comments are proof of that assertion.
- 4 Courtney { 06.17.09 at 10:53 am }
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Expatriate, I live with it for the five years of my marriage and for five more after that. And typical of women, you attack me personally for not agreeing with you. I too was trapped and it took me five long years to extract myself. And I can tell you that if there had been a gun in that house, one of us would be dead today. I thought myself about waiting until he passed out and killing him with a baseball bat, but I was afraid I’d just make him mad.
You have a lot of nerve to attack me because I am objective aboout this opinion. You think DV victims deserve an exception to the murder statute and the court agrees with you. So you are in the catbird seat. I disagree and you call me backward, ignorant and undermining. YOU girl are Exhibit A of what’s wrong with women.
Because I lived with a mentally ill (he was committed shortly after our divorce and has been in and out of mental insitutions since) violent drunk and because I worked myself free and am no living well, I might be actually harder on these women because I know it can be done. I also know that I wouldn’t kill the SOB because he was my children’s father (odly he was a very good and kindly father) and they would be left to the system if I were in prison. So I did what was best for them. I finished school, I left, I married well and was able to give them a good life.
(edited to remove objectionable language, personal attack)
- 5 Courtney { 06.17.09 at 10:58 am }
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P.S.
A defenseless man was shot and killed in his hospital bed by his estranged wife. Where are you rightous types and your candle light vigils? Maybe his wife will invoke this opinion by saying she was emotionally battered and had been threatened, and felt he would kill her.
Under the language of this opinion, she can advance self defense theory at trial.
The court regularly carves out exceptions to the law to benefit particular litigants. But with this case, they set new precedent. They said that with a “reasonable” fear, a victim of domestic violence could kill her spouse in cold blood.
Now you, are a little hypocrit. This opinion advocates vigilante justice and murder. Isn’t that what you’re against?
Those close to the investigation know a lot you don’t know, things that couldn’t come into trial and therefore, not in the appeal record. You dear, are the ignorant one.
- 6 Nature Boy { 06.17.09 at 11:19 am }
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Courtney, you are entitled to your opinion and I will not call you names for it. I do disagree with you. If you read Angie Rosser’s Op-Ed linked in at the beginning of this blog or you can cut and paste to your browser from here http://www.wvgazett e.com/Opinion/ OpEdCommentaries /200906120470 this is an important decision for victims of domestic violence. You explained that you were able to escape your circumstances of abuse and better your life, and for that you are both lucky and to be congratulated. But what of the next woman? The women like Harden? I do not understand domestic violence, and cannot for the life of me understand how a man could do what this man did to Mrs. Harden and their children. What I do know is that if someone were treating me like that or threatening my kids like that, I would hope that the law protected me and my right to protect my kids and myself. From reading the news and op-ed articles and the court decision about Mrs. Harden, it sounds like the law almost failed to protect her, because I do not see what she did as deserving prison time.
- 7 Courtney { 06.17.09 at 11:48 am }
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Nature Boy, Expatriate could learn a few lessons from you.
I will tell you why I’m disturbed by this opinion and the response of the DV advocates to it.
First of all, I believe the law is the law and as much as some people would like to, it shouldn’t be bent or distorted to accomodate sympathetic litigants.
Before this decision, the bar was fairly high for proving self defense. That is because you can’t have people going around and killing each other then screaming self defense. It’s not the Old West. Before Harden, a person had to be in imminent danger. That meant someone was actively trying to kill them and they defendend themselves.
In Harden, this woman waited until her husband was passed out drunk on the couch (the court glossed over this but it was established by investigators) then took a shotgun, put it behind his head and shot him, literally spraying the area with brain matter and moving his eyeball to his cheekbone.
The court has now removed the immenent danger element of self defense and replaced it with the subjectively reasonable standard. That means what is fear of death depends is fact based and in consideration of what a person PERCIEVES as the threat of death or bodily injury. They further carved out this murder exception for people who are co-habitating.
To people like Expatriate, violence is okay when someone has it coming as in Harden. That’s what the opinion really says if you read between the lines. These DV advocates claim to be against violence yet they are advocating violence by saying this opinion is a victory for battered women.
This opinion nor DV experts contemplate personal responsibility excpet to eliminate the duty to retreat, and as a former DV victim, I can tell you that simply being a victim should not exempt the victim from accountability.
When I was living the nightmare of domestic violence, my chief concern was my children. I did not want them growing up in such an environment. They kept me from killing their father. I also did not want to face them and explain why I murdered their dad and why they would be growing up with a dead father and imprisoned mother. So I was motivated to do the right thing by them.
Now I’m free. I raised them in a good environement and educated them both. They had trips and good clothes and a nice house and cars on their sixteenth birthdays (I actually overcompensated I think) none of which they would have had if I’d been in prison. But if this opinion had been out and I knew about it and I had in fact kept a gun, things might have been different.
We shall agree to disagree. Then see how this opinion plays out in the court system if a man tries to raise it as a defense.
- 8 Courtney { 06.17.09 at 12:13 pm }
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Another P.S. I’ve had a down morning but that’s over so I won’t be able to follow up to the attacks from people like Expatriate who think that because they are righteous in their beliefs they can personally attack those who don’t agree with them.
The Harden opinion removed very important deterrent elements from domestic violence situations. Rather than promoting women to flee a home of violence and take some sort of responsibility for a potentially deadly situation, it tells them they can skip divorce court and go straight for the shotgun.
That’s a fact and the DV advocates need to own up to the subtlties and implications of this decisions. If the goal is to get women out of abusive sitations then this opinion is a set back.
Last week a woman, estranged from her husband, shot and killed him while he lay helpless in the ICU of the hospital. Clearly that man had a reason to fear for his life. Under Harden, he could have killed the wife before she killed him – that what Harden says, “wait ’till he’s asleep and kill him before he kills you.”
But then you can imagine how that would have gone over with the myopic jerk knee advocates.
In the past two weeks, two men in Charleson have been killed by wives or estranged wives. Watching how their deaths have played out in the media is a prime example of why the system is flawed. As an objective person who believes in seeing both sides of every story, I find it disturbing. But by doing so, I am an enemy of women according to people like Expatriate.
I’ve said my piece.
- 9 Previously Bruised & Battered { 06.17.09 at 1:03 pm }
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I for one am just as excited about this change in precedent as the DV Advocates. The law has not exactly stood behind victims of domestic violence, on the contrary, a lot of times, it forces them to be in the situation.
I have personally experienced this…. 5 years ago, as I stood, crying, beaten, bloody and bruised from face to feet, I had a police officer tell me that my beating (with my baby in my arms) was MY FAULT, because I let my abuser come home. It did not matter that after he left, and I changed the locks so he could not come back, that same police department told me I HAD to let him come home, because his name was on the lease too. I was also told I could not have him removed from the lease without his permission. This same police officer threatened to arrest me if I decided to file charges against my abuser, because I defended myself, and he had a BITE MARK. I did not file charges because I had children that needed me to be at home with them. I did file for an order of protection, and was granted one, but only after my abuser was given the right to stay in our apartment, and myself and our children were forced to leave (I was from here, he was not, so the judge determined that I could stay with relatives) with only a few personal belongings that my abuser chose to let me take (while a police officer watched).
To make a VERY long story short… I can understand why women choose to kill their abusers… why not kill them instead of continue to be abused by them, or you can try to take the legal route and be abused all over again. I somehow managed to get back on my feet and me and my children now have a good life… Do I wish that I would have killed him… yes, sometimes I think it would have been easier than dealing with the 2 years of legal hell I had to endure trying to fight (in court) the man who tried to kill me in front of my children.
Am I saying this is always the case? No. But it happens. Courtney, you call victims of domestic violence sympathetic litigants… I see them for what they are…. VICTIMS. It does not matter their gender, if someone is abused, beaten or killed by their significant other, they are a victim. I am happy that you made it out of your situation… you were fortunate. Perhaps you should attend one of the candlelight vigils (there are plenty) that are held all over the US in October as a remembrance to those who have lost their lives to domestic violence (my great-grandmother was one)…. it may change your perspective.
- 10 J { 06.17.09 at 1:37 pm }
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Really, cut the BS. The woman could have left while he was passed out. Instead, she chose to get a gun and shoot him while he couldn’t defend himself. To say that she’s justified is to condone vigilante justice.
DV advocates ignore the fact that it’s not always one sided. Rather than empowering women, teaching them that they’re equals with men, and promoting non-violence, these organizations have devolved in to the most base of gender-hate clubs, and now it’s apparent that they cheer outright murder.
- 11 Dawn Miller { 06.17.09 at 2:08 pm }
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Thanks, all, for commenting. Just a reminder of the rules:
Disagree all you want, but no personal attacks, please. Thanks to Nature Boy for pulling the discussion back on topic.
OBAMA ONLY HAD A MAMA
Good thing Obama Sr. didn’t want custody of his son…Obama Jr. might not have turned out as good as he did with the help of being raised by a SINGLE MOTHER?!
Barack Obama got a basketball, his first name and ambition from his father. Little else.
The son gave back more than he received: a lifetime of ruminations about the man who abandoned the family, a memoir named “Dreams from My Father,” and endless reflections on his own successes and shortcomings as a parent of Sasha, 8, and Malia, 10.
As a candidate and now president, he’s been telling men what sort of father they should be. It’s become his Father’s Day ritual.
He’s asking American men to be better fathers than his own.
The president showcased fatherhood in a series of events and a magazine article in advance of Father’s Day this Sunday. He said he came to understand the importance of fatherhood from its absence in his childhood homes — just as an estimated 24 million Americans today are growing up without a dad.
Fathers run deep in the political culture as they do everywhere else, for better and worse. Michelle Obama has said many times how her late dad, Fraser, is her reference point and rock — she checks in with him, in her mind, routinely, and at important moments.
Obama’s presidential rival, John McCain, called his own memoirs “Faith of My Fathers,” tracing generations of high-achieving scamps. The father-son presidencies of the George Bushes were bookends on Bill Clinton, whose father drowned in a ditch before the future president was born and whose stepfather was an abusive alcoholic nicknamed Dude.
A Kenyan goatherder-turned-intellectual who clawed his way to scholarships and Harvard, Barack Hussein Obama Sr. left a family behind to get his schooling in the United States. He started another family here, then left his second wife and 2-year-old Barack Jr. to return to Africa with another woman.
His promise flamed out in Africa after stints working for an oil company and the government; he fell into drink and died in a car crash when his son was 21, a student at Columbia University.
“I don’t want to be the kind of father I had,” the president is quoted as telling a friend in a new book about him.
And in an interview Friday with CBS News, Obama said: “It was only later in life that I found out that he actually led a very tragic life. And in that sense, it was the myth that I was chasing as opposed to knowing who he really was.”
His half-sister, Maya, called his memoirs “part of the process of excavating his father.”
Obama now cajoles men to be better fathers — not the kind who must be unearthed in the soul.
His finger-wagging is most pointed when addressing other black men, reflecting years of worry about the fabric of black families and single mothers, but it applies to everyone.
Father’s Day 2007: “Let’s admit to ourselves that there are a lot of men out there that need to stop acting like boys; who need to realize that responsibility does not end at conception; who need to know that what makes you a man is not the ability to have a child but the courage to raise a child.”
Father’s Day 2008: “Any fool can have a child. That doesn’t make you a father. It’s the courage to raise a child that makes you a father.”
Father’s Day 2009: “We need to step out of our own heads and tune in. We need to turn off the television and start talking with our kids, and listening to them, and understanding what’s going on in their lives.”
He doesn’t hold himself out as the ideal dad. No driven politician can.
“I know I have been an imperfect father,” he writes in Sunday’s Parade magazine. “I know I have made mistakes. I have lost count of all the times, over the years, when the demands of work have taken me from the duties of fatherhood.”
He volunteered for those demands, as all people do when they want power. His years as a community organizer, Illinois lawmaker, U.S. senator and presidential candidate often kept him apart from family.
At the same time, he went to great lengths in the 2008 campaign to find time with his girls and wife, and now considers the routine family time one of the joys of living and working in the White House.
The new book “Renegade” by Richard Wolffe recounts strains in the marriage early this decade, arising from his absences and from what Michelle Obama apparently considered his selfish careerism at the time. The author interviewed the Obamas, friends and associates.
Obama himself attributed his “fierce ambitions” to his dad while crediting his mother — a loving but frequently absent figure — with giving him the means to pursue them.
“Someone once said that every man is trying to either live up to his father’s expectations or make up for his father’s mistakes,” he once wrote, “and I suppose that may explain my particular malady as well as anything else.” By malady, he meant the will to achieve.
Obama was a schoolboy in Hawaii when his father came back to visit. He gave his dad a tie. His father gave him a basketball and African figurines and came to his class to speak about Kenya. He was an impressive, mysterious figure whom Obama found compelling, volatile and vaguely threatening.
The visit took a sour turn when Obama went to watch “How the Grinch Stole Christmas” and his father made him shut off the TV, saying he watched too much. Obama slammed the bedroom door; a loud argument ensued among grown-ups.
Not the quality time Obama has in mind in asking dads to turn off the TV now.
HE WHO LAUGHS LAST
Do Lawyers, Judges, GAL’s or any other court appointed court whore think they really have no repercussion to their crimes? Apparently they thought that ALL the children they failed to protect and represent would never remember or ever grow up. Guess you thought wrong. So now all the children that are coming of age and whose lives are irretrievably changed forever…NOW they all will have their reckoning….and THIS is just the beginning. Sorry you didn’t steal all our laughter.
Marin Teen Files State Bar Complaint Against Court Appointed Lawyer
Misconduct Allegations Against Sandra Acevedo include Fraud, Perjury and Conspiring to Cover Up Child Abuser, Neglect and Endangerment
In what may be the first case of its kind, 18-year-old college honor student, Alanna Krause, formerly of San Geronimo, has filed a complaint with the California State Bar against attorney Sandra M. Acevedo, the lawyer appointed by then Marin Family Court Commissioner, Sylvia Shapiro-Pritchard, to represent her best interests during her parents’ divorce.
The complaint against Ms. Acevedo (State Bar # 129188), the court appointed attorney for the Minor Child in 1993-1994 in Marin County Superior Court case FL 4889, alleges that Ms. Sandra M. Acevedo conspired with Alanna’s father, Marshall Krause, his girlfriend, Lana Clark, LCSW, and others to:
1) commit fraud and illegally obtain money
2) delay, hinder and prevent evidence, testimony and prosecution
3) commit and suborn perjury
4) commit child abuse, neglect and endangerment
In 1994, Ms. Acevedo was appointed by Commissioner Sylvia K. Shapiro-Pritchard to represent Alanna’s “best interests” in Marin County California Superior Court case FL 4889 – the divorce/custody case of her parents, Marshall W. Krause v. Lauren Krause. Instead of representing her best interests, Alanna alleges that Ms. Acevedo knowingly and willfully colluded with her father, a nationally renowned attorney and past president of the Marin Bar Association, and his girlfriend, Lana Clark, to cover up Mr. Krause’s child abuse of her.
Throughout Family Court FL 4889 proceedings, Alanna, who has spoken nationally to conventions and conferences on the issue of Child Abuse, repeatedly told Ms. Acevedo about her father’s abuse and mistreatment of her and asked Ms. Acevedo directly to make these facts known to the court.
Records submitted to the State Bar show that Ms. Acevedo had extensive contact with Alanna teachers and doctors and attended Alanna’s meetings with Child Protective Services. Though Alanna told her teachers and CPS about her father’s abuse, apparently Ms. Acevedo misled them into believing that Alanna’s abuse was being handled by the court, when, in fact, Alanna alleges that Acevedo acted to keep the truth and the issue out of court.
Alanna claims that Ms. Acevedo threatened her mother and her when they tried to bring the truth to the court’s attention themselves. Acevedo supposedly repeatedly attempted to convince Alanna to stop trying to communicate these important facts about her father to the court. Alanna claims that Acevedo ignored medical records of Alanna’s injuries and perjured herself in declarations to the court.
Furthermore, Alanna alleges that Ms. Acevedo maintained intimate constant contact with her father’s girlfriend, Lana Clark, and intruded Clark’s fabrications and false opinions into the case, which heralded Mr. Krause, blamed Alanna’s mother, and undermined and destroyed Alanna’s credibility, despite the fact that she was a child with no motive other than her own safety. (Services for which Clark received approx. $15,000).
Ms. Acevedo billed nearly $17,000 for her services. Though the court clearly stated it did not have jurisdiction to legally assign Alanna’s mother’s family support to legal fees, Ms. Acevedo took payment from her mother’s family support anyway.
If Ms. Acevedo had done her job, Alanna alleges, the abuse would have been investigated, facts would have been brought into evidence, court rulings might have accorded with evidence, justice might have been done and she might not have had to endure years of her father’s abuse in his full custody. Because Ms. Acevedo willfully did not act in her best interests, Alanna claims to have suffered years of abuse, neglect and endangerment.
In September, 1997, at the age of thirteen, Alanna ran away from her father and Marin to Los Angeles where she sought and obtained protection, adequate legal representation and justice in Los Angeles Juvenile Court. In the hand of a capable attorney, the court was made aware of the abuse from the first hearing and chose to protect her from her father, in contrast to the results of Acevedo’s representation.
After several months of investigation, on January 12, 1998, the LA Department of Child and Family Services Investigation Report was adopted by Los Angeles Juvenile Court. On this day her father, Marshall Krause pled “No Contest” to WIC Section 300; subdivisions a) & b). The charges that he was a current and future danger to Alanna were sustained. Alanna was then made a Ward of the Court. Her Juvenile Court case stayed open for almost 18 months to protect her from the actions of the Marin Court and it’s appointees for as long as possible. In August 1999 she was placed in my mother’s full custody, where she always wanted to be.
Her attached editorial, “Letting Children Speak For themselves- Youth in Court Need Attorneys Who Represent their Interests Fairly, Strongly” published statewide in the Daily Journal in July, 2000, describes Ms. Acevedo’s failure to represent her best interests and the effect that failure had on events. Click.
Alanna sent numerous documents and supporting evidence of Ms. Acevedo’s alleged professional misconduct. She asked that the complaint should be cross referenced with the current State Bar investigation of her father, Marshall W. Krause, Esq. in State Bar case # 98-0-01507, which is being handled by Mr. Jeff Dal-Cerro, Assistant to the Chief Trial Counsel, and Ms. Lisa Edwards, CA State Bar Investigator. Click.
Alanna believes there is sufficient clear and convincing evidence for State Bar disciplinary action against Ms. Acevedo. Among the documentation submitted to the State Bar are copies of KCAL TV’s three part investigation “Crimes of Custody” which aired in LA in November 2000 which features Alanna and her mother; Alanna’s editorial, “Letting Children Speak for Themselves-Youth in Court Need Attorneys Who Represent Their Interests Fairly, Strongly”, published in the SF and LA Daily Journal in July 2000; Pertinent sections of “Findings on Judge Michael Dufficy, Commissioner Sylvia Shapiro & Court Appointees in Marin County’s Superior Court in California” by Karin Winner, published by The Justice Seekers, Inc. in February 2000; LA Children’s Social Worker’s Judicial Review Report and LA Juvenile Court rulings; A complete history of the several Krause v. Krause cases in Marin, Ventura and LA County courts with “Attachments” of supporting evidentiary documents as well as Ms. Acevedo’s itemized bills revealing the extent of her involvement and influence in Alanna’s case.
HAPPY FATHERS DAY
Father’s Day Horror: Man Kills Himself and Daughter in Apparent Murder Suicide
By Ray Stern in Crime Blotter, News
Monday, Jun. 22 2009 @ 4:02PM
It’s been a particularly bloody few days for Valley children. Loggan Lampert, 14, is bludgeoned to death by his uncle. A 2-year-old beaten with a belt buckle, allegedly by her mom’s boyfriend, dies. Another 2-year-old dies after being hit by a car in his trailer park. And now this:
A Valley father who went camping with his 3-year-old daughter in a remote area near the Grand Canyon apparently shot himself and the girl.
Family members were unable to make contact with Ryan Peters, 29, and began call police frantically, worried that Peters was suicidal after his recent divorce and loss of child custody to his ex-wife. A relative made mobile-phone contact with Peters, who said he was camping between Jacob Lake and the Canyon’s North Rim. A Coconino County deputy found the bodies early this morning.
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See full text of news release by the Mesa police below:
Coconino County Sheriff’s Detectives Investigate the Deaths of a Father and his Daughter at Jacob Lake
Flagstaff, AZ- Coconino County Sheriff’s Deputies are investigating the death of 29 year-old Ryan Peters and his three year old daughter Teigan Peters, both from the Phoenix area. On June 22, 2009 at about 12:25 a.m. the deputy assigned to the Fredonia district located a campsite in the area of Parissawampitts Point off of Highway 67 that leads to the North Rim of the Grand Canyon. He observed the bodies of an adult male and a very young female, both with apparent gunshot wounds.
On Sunday June 21, 2009 at about 9:p.m. officers of the Mesa Police Department called the Coconino County Sheriff’s Office with an attempt to locate on Ryan Peters and his daughter. The Mesa Police Department was contacted by a relative of Ryan Peters who described him as despondent and possibly suicidal as the result of a recent divorce and the determination of the custody of his daughter.
Mr. Peters’ family members contacted the Mesa Police department on Sunday at about 5:30 p.m. with concern for the safety of Mr. Peters and his daughter Teigan. At the time of the initial report it was only known that he was camping however the location was unknown. During the course of the afternoon several family members were in cell phone contact with Mr. Peters and shared that information with the Mesa Police Department.
During their investigation Mesa Police Officers and Detectives learned that Ryan Peters’ ex-wife filed a custodial interference complaint with the Gilbert Police Department on June 19, 2009 when Mr. Peters failed to return Teigan to her mother as stipulated by a custody agreement.
At about 9:p.m. on Sunday a family member told Mesa Police Officers he had talked with Ryan and confirmed he was camping in an area between Jacob Lake and the North Rim of the Grand Canyon.
Coconino County Sheriff’s Detectives will continue the investigation of this apparent murder-suicide in an attempt to determine the events that lead to the deaths of Ryan and Teigan Peters.
10 comment(s)
Brenda says:This is my grandneice. She is an angel and her father the devil.
Posted On: Monday, Jun. 22 2009 @ 6:50PM
chad says:I know teigans mom and had the pleasure to work with her for a year or so. I am so sorry for your loss. I am so sorry this happend to you T. Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you right now. I just dont understand, no matter how messed up you are why this precious little girl? such a selfish act.
Posted On: Monday, Jun. 22 2009 @ 7:17PM
Terrence says:I read throughout the article and I dont think to anything else in this article.I agree with you. Nice comment as well as nice article.
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Posted On: Monday, Jun. 22 2009 @ 10:16PM
Suzanne Reynolds says:I met Teigan brefly at a Family Easter gathering…my first response to her as a mother to her mother was…she is so adorable!! Teigan was loved by my nephew who is currently in a relationship with her mom and all though I didn’t know her well my heart goes out to her and her family. ~Auntie SR
Posted On: Monday, Jun. 22 2009 @ 10:17PM
Uncle Tony says:Angel Teigan, make room in heaven for the rest of us who had the honor to be introduced to you. And “T”, Uncle “T” is telling you that beautiful and precious little “T” will be welcoming us into God’s Kingdom in exactly 688 days from today (6-23-2009)and I would not dare give someone false hope at such a time as this !
So don’t despair dear mamma, and get yourself ready to be acceptable before the Lord by picking up that Gospel of Grace and it is where your comfort lies at this time; for there isn’t anything more that the rest of us could say to you that could get you closer and quicker to your baby right now than this.
Begin with the Psalms and then check out Amos 3:7 & Matthew 24…
By so doing, God will be gently taking you by the hand and towards your precious little girl who will run to greet you again !!!
The hope of the God’s eternal LOVE that awaits us is what will keep you strong right now; and don’t let ANYTHING stand in the way of that, YOU HEAR ME ???
Posted On: Tuesday, Jun. 23 2009 @ 12:48AM
Uncle Tony says:Angel Teigan, make room in heaven for the rest of us who had the honor to be introduced to you. And “T”, Uncle “T” is telling you that beautiful and precious little “T” will be welcoming us into God’s Kingdom in exactly 688 days from today (6-23-2009)and I would not dare give someone false hope at such a time as this !
So don’t despair dear mamma, and get yourself ready to be acceptable before the Lord by picking up that Gospel of Grace and it is where your comfort lies at this time; for there isn’t anything more that the rest of us could say to you that could get you closer and quicker to your baby right now than this.
Begin with the Psalms and then check out Amos 3:7 & Matthew 24…
By so doing, God will be gently taking you by the hand and towards your precious little girl who will run to greet you again !!!
The hope of the God’s eternal LOVE that awaits us is what will keep you strong right now; and don’t let ANYTHING stand in the way of that, YOU HEAR ME ???
Posted On: Tuesday, Jun. 23 2009 @ 12:50AM
Crystal says:I don’t think that anyone has the correct thing to say in this situation,You just simply exist and thats all you can do at this point. I grew up with this family and I too have a daughter the same age and being a close member of the family and hearing the cries of a mother wanting her baby is the single worst sound in the world and I looked at the strongest women, mother,girlfreind,daughter ect that I have ever seen. The strength that she posessed was beyong explanation. I love you all so much more than you will ever know and Leah, If you ever get a chance to read this…It’s you and me, thick or thin no matter the odds no matter the hurt, we get through it togather, always have…always will, you are my sister and I love you very much!
~I know your in heaven you beautiful little angel!Make sure to hold your mamma tight and lay with her as she knows your right there with her!
-Crystal and Hayle
Posted On: Tuesday, Jun. 23 2009 @ 1:14PM
Heather Selby says:My heart breaks for Ryan and Teigan’s family’s. This is a horrible situation. Ryan is not a horrible person he did a horrible thing. He loved that little girl so very very much!! Seems like now almost to much. He was so afraid of losing her. I remember the 1st time I meet Teigan she kept yelling daddy daddy fix my egg. Ryan went right over and put her easter egg back together. Teigan lend over and kissed him on the cheek and said I love you daddy. People can say whatever they want about Ryan but the one thing he was, was a really good dad.
Posted On: Tuesday, Jun. 23 2009 @ 4:55PM
MaryJane says:”Good Dads” don’t kill their children. “Good Dads” don’t kill their children.”Good Dads” don’t kill their children.”Good Dads” don’t kill their children.
Posted On: Tuesday, Jun. 23 2009 @ 7:47PM
Murderers
Sorry we can’t stomach the father rights agenda anymore….remember…
GOOD FATHERS DON’T KILL
GOOD FATHERS DON’T KILL
GOOD FATHERS DON’T KILL
GOOD FATHERS DON’T KILL
GOOD FATHERS DON’T KILL
GOOD FATHERS DON’T KILL
GOOD FATHERS DON’T KILL
GOOD FATHERS DON’T KILL
http://www.indystar.com/article/20090623/LOCAL0503/906230356/
MURDERER
BROWNSBURG, Ind. — In the last minutes of Father’s Day, police believe, a Brownsburg man violently stabbed his estranged wife to death.The couple’s two daughters, ages 8 and 12, slept with their mother as the attack began before midnight Sunday. The girls ran and escaped injury, police said.
“Daddy stabbed Mommy,” one of the girls said in a 911 call after her father left early Monday. They hid in a closet about 20 minutes, police said.
Joseph L. Warnock, 41, is charged with murder in the death of Angela A. Warnock, 38. He was arrested about 9 p.m. Monday north of Brownsburg and taken to Hendricks County Jail in Danville.
Detectives said Angela Warnock was stabbed many times. Sheriff’s Detective Sgt. Charles Morefield described injuries to her arms as “defensive wounds, like she tried to resist.”
“This looked like a crime of passion,” he said.
A judge had ordered Joseph Warnock to stay away from the family home in the 10400 block of Splendor Way in the Eagle Crossing subdivision, about a half-mile west of 56th Street and Raceway Road on the Hendricks-Marion county line.
Shortly before midnight, Warnock parked in a church lot about a quarter-mile from the home, walked through farm fields and broke in the patio door, investigators believe. He stabbed his wife with a steak knife, a weapon he apparently took to the house, detectives said.
Police and their dogs tracked Warnock to the church lot but didn’t find him during a search around Eagle Creek Park and nearby areas on the Northwestside of Indianapolis.
Sheriff’s officials said a caller reported seeing a man matching Warnock’s description sitting next to a utility box in the 10500 block of East County Road 600 North — about a quarter-mile from the Warnock home.
An off-duty officer working night security at Eagle Crossing arrested Warnock without incident, sheriff’s officials said.
“Our officers recognized him immediately,” Morefield said. “He just put his hands in the air and gave up.”
Warnock was shirtless and wearing shorts and tennis shoes. He was dirty and had light scratches on his body — the kind that might come from running through twigs, Morefield said.
WHEN THE GOVERNMENT DOES THEIR JOBS
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/31569447/ns/us_news-crime_and_courts/
Duke official charged in child sex case
Court documents say he identified himself online as ‘perv dad for fun’
updated 1:21 p.m. CT, Fri., June 26, 2009//
WASHINGTON – A Duke University official has been arrested and charged with offering a 5-year-old boy for sex.
Frank Lombard, the school’s associate director of the Center for Health Policy, was arrested after an Internet sting, according to the FBI’s Washington field office and the city’s police department.
According to an affidavit by District of Columbia Police Detective Timothy Palchak, an unidentified informant facing charges in a separate child sex case led authorities to Lombard.
Authorities said that Lombard tried to persuade a person — who he did not know was a police officer — to travel to North Carolina to have sex with a child.
The detective’s affidavit charges that Lombard identified himself online as “perv dad for fun” and said in an online chat that he had sexually molested the boy. The court papers say Lombard also invited the undercover detective to North Carolina to have sex with the boy and even suggested which hotel he should use.
Lombard was charged in federal court in Washington with attempting to induce someone to cross state lines to engage in sex with a child. If convicted, he could face a maximum sentence of 20 years in prison.
He appeared in federal court in Durham, N.C., on Friday before Magistrate Judge Wallace Dixon. At the hearing, Lombard agreed to be transferred to Washington for a later court hearing. His lawyer did not immediately return a call seeking comment.
Michael Schoenfeld, vice president for public affairs at Duke, said Lombard has been employed with Duke University since 1999. He is now on unpaid administrative leave.
“Duke is cooperating with the investigation,” Schoenfeld said. He said the university was notified of the incident after Lombard was arrested.
Authorities executed a search warrant Wednesday evening at Lombard’s home, according to court documents. The papers show investigators seized two webcams, five computers and a sex toy, among other items.
THE GREATEST DAD EVER?
Good News For 2-Mo Old Child Abuse Victim
Updated 6/26/2009 9:35:29 PM
Posted By: Kevin Rowson
Casey Todd, 27, charged with sexually assaulting his 2-mo. old daughter.
CARROLL COUNTY, GA — The Carroll County Sheriff Office says a 2-month old baby who was sexually molested and battered by her father, has been released from the hospital. Chief Deputy Brad Robinson says “The baby is expected to make a full recovery.” Robinson says the baby is in the custody of the Department of Family and Children Services.
The baby suffered a fractured skull and a broken leg. Casey Todd, 27, of Carroll County was charged with Aggravated Child Molestation, Aggravated Battery and First Degree Child Cruelty. He was arrested on June 15th. Six days prior to the alleged abuse, the baby’s mother talked about her concerns for how her husband was treating the baby on-line.
On momslikeme.com, the baby’s mother expressed her concerns about her daughter’s well-being. Atlanta’s Momslikeme.com web site is owned and run by 11Alive’s parent company Gannett.
We are not identifying the mother or her daughter for their protection.
On June 9th the mother wrote: “Help me please my daughter is not even two months and she’s has already had little bruises on her arms and legs and back. Her daddy is really rough with her. And every time he picks her up she screams and don’t stop.”
“I’ve talked to him and told him if I seen one more bruise on her he’s gone and he’s doing much better with her, but she still screams, I still think he hurts her but I don’t see anything.”
But one day later the mother backed off the serious nature of her first post and wrote: “Well I think he’s just a little rough with her. There not like blue or black bruises but there little red ones. I know he’s not doing it on purpose.”
“I asked the doctor if she bruises easy and she said its possible.”
“Thanks for everything everybody I really appreciate it.”
The Carroll County Sheriff Office says Todd’s own mother questioned how her son treated his daughter, but said she never would have expected what allegedly happened.
On the same day the baby’s mother posted her concerns, she also entered her husband into a photo contest on the moms like me website. The baby’s mother posted a picture of Todd holding his baby daughter. The mother called him “The greatest dad ever.”
Your Story, My Story, Our Story
Father and Murderer Leslie Schuler Didn’t Want to be a “Visitor” to His Child Anymore
Seven year-old Nathaniel Turner will be taken off of life support following a brutal father’s day beating by none other than his father. According to what I have gathered from the media, this case has many twists and turns–almost every one of them a relevant issue that I continuously write about…It is all very confusing but I’ll try to sort it out.
Father Leslie Schuler was an absent father who paid child support when he felt like it.
There was a paternity test–don’t know if the father initiated, or perhaps the mother was on government assistance and thus the Child Support Office would have surely gone after their money the money due to the child. After paternity was established, a child support order was issued.
At some time, the mother, Alicia Taylor, asked for child support to be increased whilst simultaneously, father Leslie Schuler asked for visitation. No mention if perhaps the Child Support Office or the local fatherhood groups/program put this nonsense (asking for visitation) into the father’s head (see The Purpose of Child Support Enforcement). And God knows how both the fatherhood groups and the Child Support Office target Black men. Oh, whoops, my bad, the Office of Child Support Enforcement (OCSE) and the fatherhood groups ARE THE SAME THING!!! (see The Office of Child Support Enforcement Wants to Promoted Both Agreed Upon Child Support Orders and Visitation Orders)
The judge denied the child support increase request and also the visitation request because a Department of Revenue (DOR= Child Support) lawyer told the judge that the mother didn’t have custody of the child. I have heard this same scenario repeated many times in my circles. Remember that when DOR comes into your case, you, the custodial parent, are no longer a party to what was originally your own case.
But the father didn’t have the child at that time either. It seems that the Nathaniel had been with his grandmother in Alabama because the mother had “mental problems.” Could her mental problems have been related to…um…maybe not having enough money to support her son…or…um. ..maybe.. .her history [of abuse] with the father of her child? I don’t know. Just speculating.
However, the father does have a “lengthy criminal record.”
But what does this mean?
According to the fresh U.S. Department of Justice Special Report: Practical Implications of Current Domestic Violence Research for Law Enforcement, Judges, and Prosecutors:
Most studies agree that the majority of domestic violence perpetrators that come to the attention of criminal justice or court authorities have a prior criminal history for a variety of nonviolent and violent offenses against males as well as females, and of a domestic or nondomestic nature.
…Similarly, 84.4 percent of men arrested for domestic violence in Massachusetts had
prior criminal records, averaging a little more than 13 prior charges (resulting from five to six arrests) — including four for property offenses, three for offenses against persons, three for major motor vehicle offenses, two for alcohol/drug offenses, one for public order violations, and 0.14 for sex offenses.
More eye opening, in light of the fact that many men are not charged or convicted (money and power)…you know, since “false allegations” are so prevalent:
Even if abusers have no prior arrest records, they may be known to local police..
Studies of abusers brought to court for protective orders find similarly high rates of criminal histories, ranging from slightly more than 70 percent in Texas to 80 percent in Massachusetts.
Anyway, moving forward, since most of the corruption is occurring with the law enforcement, judges, and prosecutors who don’t give a damn about the report…
Of course DCF is covering its ass saying that they investigate people before they give them custody. When the hell did they start doing that? And obviously, absent father Leslie Schuler wasn’t a part of this investigation.
And CPS won’t comment on whether they were previously involved with the family. Well, of course they won’t comment if there could be any possibility of negligence on their behalf. CPS, like DCF and DOR/CSE are all government entities.
Somehow, the grandmother is lead to believe that the father has court-ordered summer visitation with Nathaniel. She never sees an order, but want to be sure she is in compliance with the law. Grandmas don’t want to be caught up in no shit (ask Eddy Curry’s child’s grandmother). BUT, somehow, no one from the court can find any order granting custody or visitation to the father. WTF?
And so, the father gets his wish to “meet the child and build a relationship,” and while he is doing so, proceeds to emotionally and physically abuse his son Nathaniel who has ADD (which, by the way is an oh-so common condition that manifests itself during and after abuse). This ends in the father’s day demise of the young boy.
Father Leslie Schuler is originally charged with assault and battery. Additionally, his girlfriend, Tiffany Hyman, is charged with the same for failing-to-protect. There goes that infamous woman-only charge again. Failure-to-protect.
Now I have read the comments on the article and they really paint girlfriend Tiffany out to be a monster accomplice. I MAJORLY disagree, based on the little bit on info that we have so far.
Tiffany is 28 years old. Is she a mother also? Does it matter? Was she responsible for this child? If so, who made her responsible? And is she legally responsible?
I know no one wants to hear the “maybe she was a victim of abuse, too” argument, because society is woman-blaming. ..but I have to present this to you:
- Are we, as a society, saying that it is some random person’s responsibility to protect other people?
- Is it some random person’s responsibility to protect someone just because that person is a child? Or disabled? Or what?
- In which scenarios must we intervene? And who gets to decide if we properly intervened, or not?
- What about the risk to ourselves?
- Are we saying that every person is required by law to take on the hero/heroine/ shero role given some specific or non-specific situation?
This is major!!!
Unless Tiffany participated in the beating, I think it is insane to hold her accountable. We could have had two dead human beings.
Why don’t we hold Child Support, DCF and the legal system responsible?
And then, to top it off, bringing the child off of life support is now a public forum with the decision subject to a judge’s approval. Is this necessary? Can’t families make decisions for their own loved ones. The government fucked this whole thing up and now it wants end-of-life decision-making powers?
Fatherhood. Fatherless. Visitation. Child custody. Child Support. DCF. CPS. Judges. Children. Access/Visitation. Your tax dollars
Who’s paying attention?
DING BAT GIRL
http://www.madhunt.com/paulette-macdonal-20090629.html
Bradford fire wants Alliston’s ‘Bat Girl’ to pay for broken truck
Posted June 29, 2009
An Alliston woman charged with mischief for climbing the Cookstown Outlet Mall’s water tower in April is facing about $50,000 in potential restitution costs, including a $36,921 bill by the Bradford fire department because the truck that responded to the call, broke down on the way back to the station.
Paulette MacDonald, dressed as Bat Girl, climbed the tower to draw attention to Parental Alienation Awareness Day, made a second court appearance last week, and learned from the Crown’s disclosure the total cost being sought by South Simcoe Police, Innisfil Fire, and Bradford Fire, is $48,944.
Ms. MacDonald had scaled the tower before sunrise, unfurled a banner supporting her cause, then spent several hours unnoticed before “I finally yelled down to a group of young ladies coming out of the mall and requested that she notify the mall security for me.”
Police were called, as were firefighters, first from Innisfil, but then Bradford for its aerial truck.
“When the fireman asked me to come down the ladder of the firetruck, I didn’t want to,” said Ms. MacDonald in a press release from the group Fathers 4 Justice (F4J). “I felt much safer getting back down the way I came up.”
The F4J has also weighed into the situation, suggesting that Bradford should thank “Bat Girl.”
“In my eyes, Ms. MacDonald should receive thanks for highlighting flaws in the fire department’s equipment before it was actually needed in an emergency,” said Kris Titus, F4J National Coordinator. “This might have more to do with the competence of their maintenance system than our featherweight superhero. We’re obviously glad that she was safe during the rescue, considering the circumstances.”
Ms. MacDonald is due back in Bradford court July 23.
THE DR. WILL SEE YOU
Dr. William H. Ayres appeared in a Redwood City courtroom Friday but did not enter a plea. Photo courtesy of the San Mateo County Sheriff's Dept. via AP
http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?file=/c/a/2007/04/07/MNGTTP4OGV1.DTL
Stain doesn’t wash off,’ psychiatrist’s accuser says
Boys 9, 11, 12 in molestation case; probe found 21 alleged victims
John Coté, Elizabeth Fernandez, Chronicle Staff Writers
Saturday, April 7, 2007
Dr. William H. Ayres impressed colleagues as an articulate, accomplished child psychiatrist with a civic bent, and San Mateo County officials once lauded him for “his tireless effort to improve the lives of children.”
View Larger Imagesbut for some of the 2,000 patients he saw in his private office over the past four decades, Ayres allegedly scarred their lives instead.
“It’s like a stain that doesn’t wash off,” said Greg Hogue, 37, of Santa Rosa, one of 21 men who prosecutors say have accused Ayres of molesting them as boys as far back as 1969. “He is trained to know exactly what kind of damage he is causing and is doing it anyway. That’s what blows me away.”
Ayres, 75, a former president of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry, appeared Friday in a Redwood City courtroom after his arrest at his San Mateo home Thursday night. He did not enter a plea to 14 molestation counts alleging that he masturbated three boys in his office from 1991 through 1996, when they were 9, 11 and 12 years old.
The alleged victims, all now in their 20s, are not named in court documents. Ayres, who is married and once served on a children and family commission with San Mateo County District Attorney Jim Fox and Supervisor Richard Gordon, faces up to 112 years in prison if convicted, prosecutors said.
During the four-year criminal investigation, 21 men accused Ayres of molesting them as children, prosecutor Melissa McKowan said, but childhood sexual assault charges could be brought in only three cases because the statute of limitations for such crimes is 10 years or until the victim turns 28.
Several alleged victims and a social worker wondered how Ayres could continue receiving dozens of referrals from the juvenile justice system for nearly two decades after the first complaint was lodged.
“He continued to be sent families and kids who put their trust in him when the county knew that there was this report put in by me and possibly others,” said Jeff Lugerner, who was a licensed clinical social worker when he brought a complaint to authorities in 1987 after Hogue told him Ayres had fondled him at age 15. “That’s what’s shocking to me. How do you continue to send people to somebody like that when you have had a claim filed against them?”
San Mateo police investigated the 1987 complaint and determined it was unfounded, the social services report read. County Counsel Thomas Casey said he couldn’t comment on how the county handled earlier complaints against Ayres.
For decades, the psychiatrist with the ruddy face and reddish beard — now turned gray — was a fixture in San Mateo County mental health circles. The county’s juvenile justice system, its court-appointed attorney program, pediatricians and social workers all referred patients to him for years.
He evaluated a patient referred by Juvenile Court Judge Marta Diaz as recently as March 2003, even though San Mateo police or the county Social Services Department had received at least three complaints of molestation by that time, including Hogue’s report with the department in June 1987, records show.
Police also investigated a Folsom state prison inmate’s allegation that Ayres had molested him, according to the transcript of police Detective Randall Billingsley’s 2004 deposition in a civil case brought by a former patient.
The inmate, who had been convicted of armed robbery, told a nurse during an evaluation at Atascadero State Hospital that Ayres had molested him during court-ordered sessions, Billingsley said. The detective said he was unclear on the outcome of that original investigation by his department. The inmate refused to talk to Billingsley when he followed up about 10 years later, the detective said.
A third incident was reported to San Mateo police in November 2002, records show. The alleged victim balked when police asked him to try to get Ayres to confess over a recorded phone call or to wear a recording device and confront the psychiatrist in person, the police report read.
That victim later filed the civil suit against Ayres after a 2003 U.S. Supreme Court ruling struck down a state law that had retroactively extended the statute of limitations for child molestation and allowed prosecutions years after the alleged crimes occurred.
County and court payments to Ayres stopped shortly before that lawsuit was filed in December 2003, documents show. The lawsuit ended with a confidential settlement in July 2005, after which Ayres’ attorney said the psychiatrist did not concede any wrongdoing.
Margaret Kemp, who worked as a San Mateo County judge from 1978 until 2004, said Ayres had a “glowing” reputation, and she referred as many as 200 cases involving juvenile sex offenders to him.
“He always did good work for the court,” Kemp said. “I never had reason to question him. … When we had kids who were charged with sex offenses, we would send them to him for evaluation.”
In an interview Friday, Kemp mused that her words sounded similar to those voiced in her courtroom by supporters of accused child molesters.
“Every time we saw someone charged with child molest, family and friends would stand up in court — even after the person had pleaded guilty — and say there had to be a mistake, he wouldn’t do such a thing,” said Kemp. “I hear echoes of that in what I’m saying to you. Oftentimes, child molesters, particularly middle-class, educated people, are completely unsuspected by people who live with them or work with them.”
Dr. David Schwartz, who worked for San Mateo County from 1965 until his retirement in 1987, said he initially thought highly of Ayres but later grew suspicious when a youth, who was living in a group home, adamantly refused additional treatment by Ayres.
“I had referred him to Dr. Ayres, but after a visit or two, he refused to go back and he wouldn’t talk about it,” said Schwartz. “His social worker and I were both concerned. That was my first clue.”
His second clue came years later, when a San Mateo detective consulted Schwartz, asking whether it was common practice for a child psychiatrist to perform a genital examination with a latex glove.
“I said absolutely not,” Schwartz said. “I told him that it was entirely inappropriate, unnecessary and potentially very destructive to a child. He did not name Dr. Ayres, but when I said Dr. Ayres to the detective, he nodded. I put two and two together.
“Child psychiatrists have a lot of power, they are almost priest-like,” Schwartz said. “These kids were reluctant to see a psychiatrist in the first place. In the child community, going to a shrink is something to be ashamed of. It’s a trust issue, and betrayal of trust is unconscionable.”
One of Ayres’ alleged victims, who is now dead, was detained in a juvenile facility for a few days in 1973, when he was 14, for drinking beer in a park. At the facility, Ayres had him strip naked and lie on an examination table while the doctor fondled his genitals, the victim later told his mother.
When news of the civil lawsuit settlement was released two years ago, her son told her about the alleged molestation, then went to San Mateo police, the mother said.
“They said the case was too old, but he insisted they make a report,” the mother said Friday. “My son carried this with him all his life. He had thought he was the only one.”
The chargesDr. William H. Ayres, a prominent San Mateo psychiatrist, is accused of 14 felony counts of lewd and lascivious acts with a child under 14. He allegedly molested three boys repeatedly between 1991 and 1996 while they were his patients.
HOW DO YOU SOLVE A PROBLEM LIKE FAMILY COURT?
YOU GET A BUNCH OF VICTIMS TOGETHER AND DEMAND JUSTICE….THIS MEANS YOU!!!!!
By the way Sacramento…..make sure you audit about ALL the abusers that got custody of their children. Take a look at restraining orders, past abuse record and BELIEVE THE VICTIMS….. ie; children, women
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A HIStory OF VIOLENCE
It is the opinion of this blog owner that DV shelters and/or Visitation Centers AND especially CPS workers/Social Services that this case is proof enough that you don’t do enough or anything at all. The CPS workers that I’ve had the “pleasure” of dealing with have been totally useless in protecting my child. Stay tuned because I plan on exposing every last one of you.
Supervised visitation centers: A safe haven for children and mothers amid threats of violence
But many facilities struggle with a lack of state support and declines in private contribution s
For Michael Connolly’s two young sons and their mother, the McLean County Family Visitation Center was a safe haven, a place where the boys could meet their erratic father under the watchful eyes of clinical social workers.
Connolly was prohibited from removing his sons from the facility in Bloomington. Carefully staggered arrival and departure times prevented him from crossing paths with the children’s mother, who secured a protective order against him after he threatened to “cut her open” and commit suicide.
It wasn’t until after a family court judge granted Connolly unsupervised visitation that he abducted Duncan, 9, and Jack, 7, whose bodies were discovered last month in the back seat of their father’s car in rural Putnam County. After the apparent double-homicide, Connolly hanged himself, officials said.
“In this case, the supervised visitation center worked really, really well,” said Alicia Aiken, a professor of family law at DePaul University. “It was a controlled setting that kept everyone safe.”
More than half a dozen centers like the one in Bloomington have sprung up in Illinois during the last decade, drawing rave reviews from attorneys, judges and other experts. They are viewed as one of the most valuable ways to keep victims of domestic violence and their children safe after a divorce or separation.
But many of these facilities do not have adequate resources to meet demand and struggle with a lack of state support and declines in private contributions, officials say. At the same time, federal “Safe Haven” start-up grants that provide crucial funding are phased out over time.
Last fall, a reduction in federal grant money forced the Bloomington center to all but eliminate supervised visits. DuPage County’s center, meanwhile, has a limit of six weekly visits.
And at the non-profit Branch Family Institute, which operates one of Chicago’s three centers, officials wonder how long it can survive. Federal grant money has been trimmed from $75,000 in recent years to $36,500, and funding from the city has remained relatively flat at about $50,000.
“We used to be hanging by a string, but now we’re hanging by a thread,” said Brenda Thompson, the institute’s president.
When such centers are unavailable, judges often place the responsibility for supervising visits with friends of the parents, relatives or other community members who are often untrained and ill-equipped to deal with the challenges and possible dangers, experts say.
Private supervision services are available, but at a cost of up to $150 an hour, they are out of reach for many families.
Some publicly supported centers charge a small fee, such as $5 an hour for parents who use the one in Rock Island County. The three centers in Chicago provide free services to city residents.
Apna Ghar, which means “Our Home” in Hindi and Urdu, is perhaps the oldest center of this kind in the state. Launched in 1991, it occupies space on two floors of an old brick building in Uptown and serves about 45 families at any given time.
The custodial parent usually arrives 15 minutes before a visit begins, remaining in a locked waiting room on the sixth floor while a staff member escorts the child to the ninth floor. The non-custodial parent unites with the child there in a comfortable room furnished with couches, toys and a television.
The visits, typically one hour a week, are supervised by a clinical social worker trained in domestic violence.
When the visit is over, the non-custodial parent remains on the ninth floor for 15 minutes, allowing the custodial parent and child time to leave the building. The non-custodial parent is escorted out and helped with any safety precautions, said Bob Gallenbach, a supervisor.
“We have an alarm, but we’ve never had to use it,” he said.
On a recent afternoon, a young mother was in the waiting room. She said she filed for divorce last fall when the abusive behavior of her alcoholic husband caused her to fear for their child’s safety. The father was granted unsupervised visitation until his wife proved to a judge that he was getting drunk during visits with the child, said his wife, who asked not to be identified.
The supervised visits, begun a few months ago at Apna Ghar, made a huge difference, the woman said. “I know my child will come back to me in one piece.”
Under Illinois law, the non-custodial parent almost always retains visitation rights, forcing interactions that can pose grave risks in cases of domestic violence, mental illness and substance abuse.
In December 2007, Herbert Poleate Jr., fatally shot his estranged wife during an exchange of their children in the parking lot of an automotive store in south suburban Lansing. The Illinois Department of Corrections employee then turned the gun on himself.
And as the Michael Connolly case underscores, non-custodial parents can use visitation as a chance to flee with the children.
In January, the judge granted Connolly alternate weekend and Wednesday visits, with pickups and drop-offs at a police station. He never returned with his two boys after a March 8 exchange, prompting authorities to launch a nationwide manhunt that ended when the bodies were found three weeks later.
When judges in family and domestic violence courts order supervision during visitations and exchanges, it’s an attempt to prevent this very thing from happening, experts say.
Moshe Jacobius, presiding judge in Cook County Court’s Domestic Relations Division, said the supervised visitation centers have been “a tremendous help.”
Many centers were opened with the help of the federal grants. Between 2002 and 2008, more than $3.5 million was awarded to them throughout Illinois. The cutoff point for such money varies from center to center. Nationally, federal funding for the program increased slightly, officials say.
Chicago’s three centers, which get an additional $135,000 in combined financial assistance from the city each year, have served as one of the federal program’s four national demonstration sites.
A new three-year Safe Haven award for $395,000 will help fund a supervised visitation center in Joliet. But as the federal start-up grants are trimmed, officials say the centers have had a hard time finding other financial support.
In 2000, the Illinois General Assembly passed a measure permitting counties to create fees for court filings to help fund the centers. DuPage County seized the opportunity, charging an $8 filing fee. So did McLean County, but so far Cook County hasn’t taken that step.
“In these economic times, it’s been very hard,” said Leslie Landis, manager of Chicago’s domestic-violence project who distributes funds to the city’s centers. “We’re trying to sustain the centers when they really need to grow.”
Meanwhile, officials at Chicago’s centers say the visits they oversee for hundreds of parents each year generally last no longer than eight or nine months. They usually end when a judge grants the non-custodial parent unsupervised visitation.
Experts emphasize that months of supervised visits do not guarantee that unsupervised meetings will be safe, as the Connolly case illustrates.
“A lot of judges see time passing as evidence that the problem is cured,” said Denice Markham, executive director of Life Span Center for Legal Services and Advocacy in Chicago, which represents victims of domestic violence. “Just because the parent complied in a controlled setting doesn’t mean it’s safe to grant unsupervised visitation.”
“Rats desert a sinking ship” Proverb
This one is somewhat shocking to me…but not totally.
We reposted a post from a mom’s group in Indiana which was pretty shocking….an Indiana ”shared parenting” advocate by the name of Stuart Showalter blamed a mother (Angie Warnock) for her own death when her violent husband stabbed her to death on Father’s Day in front of their children. She had gotten a Protective Order against him three days prior because she feared him. Stuart claimed she was practicing “parental alienation” because she went to get the Protective Order, and blamed her for her own death because she enflamed the situation by getting it. Stuart’s view in his comment on the above post suggests any father, violent or not, deserves shared parenting. While I have no problem with sharing parenting, I do have a problem with abusive, violent parents of either gender sharing parenting of children.
“Shared Parenting” Advocate Stuart Showalter of IndianaStuart is “Executive Director” of the Indiana Custodial Rights Advocates and runs a “law blog.” This is also a front for “Boone County Fathers.” Stuart claims he has the ear of many politicians in the State of Indiana. I wonder if they really know who they are talking to and that he is accusing dead mothers of so-called “parental alienation.” If Indiana politicians are listening to this nutcase, God help them all.
As I always had thought and feared, many father’s rights organizations are run by violent men like this. They are accusatory…blaming mothers for any and everything. They are huge supporters of using the so-called “parental alienation” claim. Their very drivel is abusive. Unfortunately, good fathers hurting from a break in their relationship are lured into these groups, a goal of these nutcase leaders to make themselves look legitimate. One of the commenter’s on our repost noted he was probably a neonazi…and they were right! Yesterday, the mom’s group posted a story about it…and I thought it was just too good to let go…
Wanna see a little of Stuart’s history:
933 F.2d 573
UNITED STATES of America, Plaintiff-Appellee,
v.
Stuart W. SHOWALTER, Defendant-Appellant.
No. 90-1361.
United States Court of Appeals,
Seventh Circuit.
Argued Oct. 29, 1990.
Decided May 30, 1991.
Robert M. Barnes, Susan E. Heckard, Asst. U.S. Attys., Indianapolis, Ind., for plaintiff-appellee.
Daniel J. Coffey, Indianapolis, Ind., for defendant-appellant.
Before CUDAHY, RIPPLE, and MANION, Circuit Judges.
MANION, Circuit Judge.
1 Stuart Showalter pleaded guilty to possession of an unregistered firearm in violation of 26 U.S.C. Sec. 5861(d). He appeals the length and conditions of his supervised release. We remand for resentencing because the length of supervised release exceeds the amount authorized by statute, but affirm the conditions of Showalter’s supervised release imposed by the district court.I.
2 Showalter headed an Indianapolis organization called the “Pure American Freedom Party,” which was loosely associated with other white supremacist “skinhead” and “neo-Nazi” groups in Indiana and around the United States. Showalter, then 20 years old, was prominently featured in a July 1989 article in the Indianapolis Monthly magazine called “Skinhead Society: Should a Local Group of Neo-Nazis be Feared, Tolerated or Ignored?” The article described the weaponry in Showalter’s apartment, and discussed the group’s potential for committing acts of violence. This publicity apparently brought him to the attention of his landlords, who sought to evict him from his apartment (in a predominantly black neighborhood) for late payment of rent and violation of the lease by having too many occupants. Showalter failed to leave on time, and was seen outside the apartment brandishing a weapon, so the police were called in to assist in his departure. When he failed to respond to their request to drop his gun and come out, the police broke in and arrested him and another occupant.
II.
3 Pursuant to a plea agreement, Showalter pleaded guilty to possession of an unregistered firearm–a “Remington Wingmaster .12 gauge sawed-off shotgun with an obliterated serial number”–in violation of 26 U.S.C. Sec. 5861(d). He was sentenced within the guidelines to 14 months imprisonment, followed by five years supervised release. The terms of supervised release included the condition that Showalter “shall not participate in, or associate with those who do participate in, the organization known as ’skinheads,’ or in any neo-Nazi organization.” Showalter appealed both the length and conditions of his supervised release.
III.
4 The government concedes the district court erred in imposing a five-year period of supervised release. Title 18 U.S.C. Sec. 3583(b)(2) provides that the maximum length of supervised release for a “Class C” felony–where the maximum term of imprisonment is between 10 and 25 years, pursuant to Sec. 3559(a)(3)–is three years. The maximum term for violating 26 U.S.C. Sec. 5861(d) is 10 years. See 26 U.S.C. Sec. 5871. Thus, under guidelines Sec. 5D3.2(b)(2) (renumbered November 1, 1989 to Sec. 5D1.2(b)(2)), Showalter must receive a term of supervised release of “at least two years but not more than three years.” We remand to the district court for the purpose of adjusting the length of supervised release.
5 Showalter does not challenge the condition of supervised release that he not participate in white supremacist organizations, but does raise three related objections to the requirement that he avoid associating with other skinheads and neo-Nazis. We review the district court’s imposition of conditions of supervised release under the deferential “abuse of discretion” standard. United States v. Alexander, 743 F.2d 472, 479-80 (7th Cir.1984) (citations omitted).
6 He first contends that the condition lacks the “certainty” required by the new Sentencing Reform Act of 1984 “because skinheads and neo-nazis are not readily identifiable groups.” No case law is cited to support the contention that the Sentencing Reform Act was intended to limit the broad discretion given district courts to determine conditions of supervised release (formerly conditions of probation). See Burns v. United States, 287 U.S. 216, 220, 53 S.Ct. 154, 155, 77 L.Ed. 266 (1932); United States v. Williams, 787 F.2d 1182, 1185 (7th Cir.1986).
7 The district court placed similar conditions on Showalter during the time between the guilty plea and sentencing, and Showalter had no difficulty understanding them then. At the sentencing hearing, the district court reprimanded Showalter for writing a letter espousing his white supremacist views to a newspaper in Washington state.1 Showalter responded:As regards to this happening after my plea agreement, I was under the understanding I was not to hang out with the skinheads out on the street up in Broad Ripple, so forth, have them over at my house, things like that. I wasn’t aware that it covered giving my opinion to a newspaper.
8 We hold that the condition is sufficiently clear to put Showalter on notice regarding the parameters of the court’s restriction on his associational activities.
9 Next Showalter argues that the condition of probation is not specific enough to comply with 18 U.S.C. Sec. 3563(b)(7), which allows the district court to order the defendant to “refrain from frequenting specified kinds of places or from associating unnecessarily with specified persons; …”. Pressed at oral argument, Showalter’s counsel did not say that these “specified persons” must be listed by name, but he did contend they must be specified to some greater, but unexplained, degree.
10 We first point out that the district court is empowered, under 18 U.S.C. Sec. 3583(d), to impose “any other condition it considers to be appropriate.” That would seem to provide an independent authority for the district court’s decision here. Even so, we think the condition imposed by the district court is authorized by 18 U.S.C. Sec. 3563(b)(7).
11 In Malone v. United States, 502 F.2d 554, 555 (9th Cir.1974), the Ninth Circuit upheld similar conditions of probation on a defendant who was convicted of unlawful exportation of firearms from the United States to the United Kingdom. These conditions prevented him from participating in any American Irish Republican movement, from belonging to any Irish organization, from participating in any Irish Catholic organization, from visiting any Irish pubs, and from accepting employment that would directly or indirectly associate him with any Irish organization. The court found that the conditions of probation … are not too vague and are reasonably related to the goals of probation and the accomplishment of public order and safety and … do not constitute an abuse of the Court’s discretion in the circumstances.
13Id., 502 F.2d at 557.
14 We cited Malone with approval in Alexander, 743 F.2d at 480-81, where we noted that district courts frequently were allowed to prevent defendants from being involved in different types of “gainful activity” as a condition of probation. While the restriction on Showalter’s associational activity is significant, it is no more significant than that approved in Malone, and it is justified by the court’s concern that Showalter not involve himself with those who might fuel his proclivity for lawbreaking.
15 Finally, Showalter suggests that this condition does not comport with 18 U.S.C. Sec. 3583(d)(2)’s requirement that it involve “no greater deprivation of liberty than is reasonably necessary” to deter future criminal conduct and protect the public from further crimes. See 18 U.S.C. Sec. 3553(a)(2)(B), (C) and (D). However, the district court’s explanation of the condition adequately supports depriving Showalter of the liberty to associate with skinheads and neo-Nazis:
16 Because those groups embrace violence and the threat of violence as a method of advancing their views, I find that your association with them would create a high likelihood that you would be drawn into that same behavior, and that’s the reason for the restriction.
The court also reminded Showalter that (17) supervised release is intended to be a period of time when you’re under close supervision by the court to make sure that after you get out of prison you can abide by the terms and conditions that hopefully will keep you within a lawful groove and keep you from slipping back into your criminal behavior.
18 After reviewing the entire record, including the magazine article about Showalter and his organization, we conclude the district court was correct that Showalter needs to be separated from other members of white supremacist groups to have a chance of staying out of trouble. This condition of supervised release therefore meets the statutory requirements of 18 U.S.C. Sec. 3583(d)(2).
19 The district court did not abuse its discretion in ordering special conditions of supervised release, and that portion of the sentence is affirmed. We remand to the district court to resentence on the length of supervised release in a manner consistent with 18 U.S.C. Sec. 3583(b)(2), and guidelines Sec. 5D3.2(b)(2), now Sec. 5D1.2(b)(2).
20AFFIRMED IN PART, AND REMANDED.
1 Although the district court seemed to think the conditions placed on Showalter prior to sentencing should have at least discouraged him from writing controversial letters to newspapers, there is nothing to that effect in the conditions imposed at sentencing. This incident illustrates the importance of specificity in formulating conditions of supervised release.
Geez….I hope some people start waking up to the fact that dangerous individuals run groups like these…
DIE BATMAN DIE!
DEAD BEAT DAD, DEAD BAT...ANY SIMILIARITY?
The militant “father’s rights” group F4J is at it again. Although this blog doesn’t like spreading their hateful propaganda it is too good to pass up a chance to show their insanity.
Geoff Hibbert, an activist with the group has put his “life and freedom on the line” as he enters day 21 of his hunger strike.
What do you say to that? This is how a MAN acts in everyday life because he dresses and thinks he’s a superhero. Mr. Hibbert a.k.a. “THE M25 Batman” has been convicted by a jury after police had to halt traffic for several hours on the M25 highway in August 2008 and faces a 7 YEAR sentence.
So….you become a public nuisance, justice is SERVED to you and then you starve yourself over a 7 year stint in prison? Well, at least this is one father that won’t be able to murder his children…..for 7 years…..or less.
MOVING ON
San Jose man recounts murder-suicide that left wife dead
Shane Coffman kissed his wife goodbye, and opened the garage door in his San Jose home — expecting to slip on his shoes, drive his stepdaughter to Chinese school, and face a typical Monday morning at work. Instead the electrical engineer faced his wife’s ex-boyfriend.
He had a gun. It was pointed right at Coffman.
Before Coffman’s five-hour ordeal was over, he had dodged a hail of bullets, sprinting down the street in his socks. Neighboring townhomes and a mobile home park were evacuated, and San Jose police flooded the area, believing Coffman’s wife was being held hostage.
But Ying “Brandi” He was dead, slain in her kitchen in front of her 9-year-old daughter. After fatally shooting her, Jian Ming “Nelson” Liang turned the gun on himself, according to police.
On Thursday, for the first time since the murder-suicide in their Montecito Vista townhouse, Coffman told his story in an exclusive interview with the Mercury News. He described how his pretty, cheerful wife had come into his life after leaving China and then her obsessive, troubled boyfriend. He described in detail what happened that day as the bullets cut past him, one tearing his earlobe. And he told of his grief and confusion that no one could save his wife.
“We were starting a very good life together,” Coffman said. “We just bought a house. We were elated. Life was good. Now I have to accept what happened and deal with the consequences. “
“But I’m also
asking, ‘Is there something else that should have been done?’ ” he said. “I expected something could have been done right then to stop the torment of my wife.”
His family’s tragedy began that morning with Coffman facing the armed Liang.
“I froze, he froze,” Coffman, 35, said. “He was nervous, I think. He dropped his clip on the floor. I went for it. He picked it up and ran away to reload.”
Liang came back quickly, firing. Bullets whizzed past Coffman. His stepdaughter ran inside to hide. His wife phoned 911. It was 8:39 a.m.
Coffman ran inside. Liang fired again and again, chasing him out of the townhome. Coffman ran down the street, followed by Liang in his gold Lexus.
“I was thinking, ‘He wants to take me out first.’ “
Then Liang appeared to drive away. Coffman ran back home, only to find it locked. He later realized Liang had somehow returned to the home first. Coffman decided to run for help at a neighbor’s.
His stepdaughter joined him minutes later, screaming, “Mommy’s bleeding all over the place.”
Police arrived. It was 8:49 a.m.
Try at establishing contact
The San Jose Police Department’s MERGE team — also known as SWAT — arrived at the scene soon after patrol officers. At this point, police believe the woman was dying or dead. But the elite team did not enter the home because there were no signs of shooting or life inside, sources told the Mercury News. Facing earlier reports of gun shots and then silence, they set up a perimeter, and tried unsuccessfully to establish contact. When they finally determined there were no threats, they went in.
Inside they found the two bodies.
Coffman is left with a stepdaughter and memories.
He and Brandi met seven years ago while she was waitressing. He was her regular customer and then her friend. He became her husband in South Lake Tahoe two years ago.
The couple had long been leery of Liang and worried he could be capable of violence. A 2003 stalking charge was dismissed against Liang for threatening to kill the two of them, even though Coffman said neither he nor his wife were called as witnesses.
Ying He and Liang came to the United States from China in 1999, Coffman said. They had a baby girl in the Bay Area on June 14, 2000. Liang sent the girl to live with his wealthy parents in Guangzhou, and because Ying He had pending immigration status, she couldn’t freely travel between the countries.
In 2006, Ying He discovered her daughter and Liang were living in Southern California. She also discovered, Coffman said, that her ex-boyfriend, a gambler, was short on cash.
“They made a deal,” Coffman said. “Brandi said she’d give Nelson some money and he said he’d give her their daughter.”
But Liang reneged on his part of the deal, Coffman said, and disappeared with the girl. Coffman and his wife hired an attorney to find Liang and fight for full custody. After about two years, Liang and the girl surfaced again in Southern California. In March, Liang didn’t pick his daughter up from school one day, and police reports show Liang told school officials in Arcadia that he no longer wanted to care for his child. He was soon arrested and pleaded no contest to child endangerment. The girl was put in state care.
Daughter home with Mom
Finally, on April 6, Ying He was able to bring her daughter home for the first time. They painted Easter eggs together. They went to therapy. They played ball in the yard. Ying He, by then a respiratory therapist at El Camino Hospital, took her daughter to work. Colleagues said she was beaming.
Liang still had visitation rights and weekly phone calls.
On Sunday, the day before the shooting, Liang called to speak with his daughter, asking her strangely specific questions about her schedule. Coffman believes Liang was casing the family for the attack.
When Coffman and his stepdaughter were about to go to New Concept Chinese School in Sunnyvale on Monday morning at 8:35 a.m., Liang was waiting.
Now, Coffman is trying to put back together his life, make funeral arrangements for a woman he calls “someone very special and a beautiful person inside,” and establish legal custody to raise his stepdaughter as his own.
“She’s a beautiful little girl,” Coffman said. “I’m going to provide for her the life that she deserves.”
GUARDIAN AD CHARGEM
GUARDIAN AD CHARGEM a.k.a. GUARDIAN AD LITEM
Appointed by a judge to act in a child’s best interest, some lawyers can also help themselves by billing a small fortune
By Bob Whitby
For most people who help kids entangled in the legal system, the only reward is the warm glow that comes from having done a good deed. For a lucky few, however, the payback is more pecuniary. Downright lucrative in some cases.How do you go from being a concerned citizen to being a concerned citizen who gets paid? By becoming a private guardian ad litem. But there are a few hurdles you’ll have to clear first.
First you’ll need a law degree, and membership in the Florida Bar helps to get in this club. Besides, there’s really no better way to meet and schmooze with family court judges, which is the second thing you want to do. Make sure the judges know you like kids.
Then sit back and wait for a juicy divorce or custody case to pop up, preferably one involving at least one rich parent able to pony up big time and several kids. You might have to handle a couple smaller cases for 1000 bucks or less to prove your worth. But sooner or later, if you’ve done your networking, the judge might remember you fondly and put your name on an order appointing a guardian ad litem in a contentious case involving well-heeled parents. If you’re extra lucky, the judge won’t dictate how much you can charge or how many hours you can put into the case. Now you’re in the money.
A guardian ad litem is a person appointed to act in a child’s best interest in legal proceedings, usually a shield between warring parents. The guardians are also investigators. In custody cases, for example, the court needs to know which parent is best suited to have primary custody. Parents who don’t want to lose their children are not the best sources of objective information, so it falls to the guardian ad litem to make a recommendation.
Every circuit court system in Florida has a publicly funded Guardian Ad Litem Program. Usually administered by a few overworked staffers, these programs recruit and train laypeople — non-lawyers — to be guardians ad litem, which is Latin for “guardians at law.” These guardians are volunteers; they serve because they want to help kids and are to be commended for it. Putting oneself in the middle of a disintegrating family is, as one guardian put it, “like sticking your head in a meat grinder.”
Volunteer guardians are assigned in cases where the parties cannot afford a private guardian. (Broward County is in desperate need of volunteer guardians, with about 1000 kids waiting for their services.)
But if a judge decides one party or the other can pay, then pay they must. That happens in a small percentage of cases and usually only in divorce or custody matters. Dependency cases, where abuse and neglect are the issue, tend to involve foster children and people who simply don’t have much money. As one guardian ad litem put it, “Dependency is the redheaded stepchild of the court house.”
A private guardian ad litem is almost always a lawyer (but isn’t serving in that capacity, which would be a conflict of interest), and that’s when the bills can start to mount.
Unless you regularly sit in on court proceedings, there is no way to determine which lawyers repeatedly get assigned as guardians ad litem. The county’s Guardian Ad Litem Program keeps tabs only on volunteers, not private, paid guardians.
Court watcher Eleanor Mendlein has sat through a lot of divorce and custody cases in the last few years, and she sees patterns in who gets assigned. “The same people get appointed over and over again,” says Mendlein. “It’s money. If you have deep pockets, you get due process.”
Through the court watchers, New Times found three instances in which paid guardians made big money — as much as $40,000-plus for a single case — advocating for children. Not surprisingly, such dollar figures raise questions of bias. If your ex is paying a guardian ad litem thousands of dollars, will the guardian be influenced by the one who foots the bill?
“The concern is real, but I don’t know if it’s justified,” says Melinda Brown, a family-law attorney who also works as a private guardian ad litem. “I deal with a whole lot more issues than who pays me.”
But the people who’ve been through the system in divorce or custody cases think differently. “These guardians don’t care anything about kids,” says Teresa Cummings, who battled with her ex-husband over custody of their two children. “Believe me, they don’t.”
After their divorce, Cummings’ husband decided he wanted custody of their children. The judge appointed a private guardian ad litem, and Cummings’ ex-husband paid the bills. “They got money from the person who has it, which in this case was my ex,” she says.
She can’t quite put her finger on it, but Cummings had the feeling the guardian ad litem was swayed by her ex-husband. “She would say things to me to aggravate me,” Cummings says. She also says she had no idea the guardian was an attorney and didn’t realize who was paying the bills until the case was almost over.
Perhaps Cummings’ fears were overstated, because she ultimately prevailed in the case and kept primary custody of her children. The guardian’s bill was about $5000.
That’s small change compared to a $27,000 bill for guardian ad litem work in the case of Ulbrich v. Ulbrich.
John Ulbrich and Christina Coolidge Ulbrich were already divorced when guardian ad litem Jeffrey Bryer came into their lives. At issue was visitation for Christina’s daughter, Nichole. Though he is neither Nichole’s biological nor adoptive father, John wanted visitation rights with the child. Christina didn’t feel her ex was entitled but gave in to avoid a costly legal battle. The case was settled out of court but not before the guardian ad litem wrote a 55,000-word journal on every aspect of the Ulbrich’s lives and charged John Ulbrich $75 for each of the 365 hours he spent doing it.
“I think he is a frustrated writer,” says John Ulbrich.
And not a very good guardian ad litem to boot, he adds. “It was just an absolute horror, a nightmare. [Bryer] had no ability to gain confidence with my daughter.”
Bryer recommended that John Ulbrich be granted visitation rights and devised a somewhat complicated schedule to that effect. Though he was the one who requested that a guardian ad litem be appointed in the first place, Ulbrich refused to pay what he believed to be a wildly inflated bill. Not that he couldn’t have paid if he wanted — Ulbrich owns a Jaguar dealership on Sunrise Boulevard. Bryer, who did not answer repeated phone calls for this story, settled for $16,500.
And then there’s the granddaddy of all guardian ad litem bills, a $40,000-plus whopper for services rendered in the divorce case of Gumberg v. Gumberg.
Again the pattern: Rich husband pays the bill, less financially endowed wife feels shafted by the system.
The Gumbergs’ divorce case defines contentious — the case file sprawls over 21 volumes. Lorraine Abruzzo Gumberg says her legal bill alone is more than $200,000. She estimates her ex-husband’s bill at close to $800,000, a figure which could not be confirmed because Andrew Gumberg did not return phone calls from New Times.
At the heart of this mess is the custody of a four-year-old boy. The guardian ad litem recommended custody be awarded to the father, with the mother having visitation rights. Not surprisingly, that didn’t sit well with Lorraine Gumberg. “I didn’t stand a chance,” she says. “I lost custody of my child.”
Gumberg says the guardian ad litem criticized her for picayune things, like feeding her son from a bottle though he was 20 months old and letting him sleep in bed with her. The guardian also suggested that, should custody be awarded to the husband, the wife should live close by so the child’s life would not be unduly interrupted. Gumberg scoffs at the notion, noting that her ex-husband, whose worth is put at some $32 million in court records, lives in a $2.5 million waterfront home in Fort Lauderdale. “The idea was that Jordan should not have to go from dad’s beautiful house to mom’s trailer park,” she says. “That’s bullshit.”
Anne Alper, the guardian ad litem in the Gumberg case, was out of town and could not be reached for this story.
In the end Gumberg says her ex-husband got the best legal help money could buy. “I just don’t think the system works right,” she says. “I think the system sucks. He has money. I don’t. That’s the bottom line.”
S.O.S
Who is listening?
What did we do to deserve this?
Where is our advocates?
When will the murders stop?
How are you sleeping at night?
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Son of porn king captured in Novato slaying, kidnap; infant unharmed
CALLING ALL FATHER RIGHTS GROUP….WE’RE STILL KEEPING COUNT…..WHERE IS YOUR STATISTICS THAT WOMEN/MOTHERS KILL MORE THAN MEN/FATHERS? COME ON…..WE KNOW YOU CAN LIE SOME MORE…..JUST ASK MENS DAILY FUCKS
MURDERER
By Jim Staats
Marin Independent Journal
The 27-year-old son of the late pornography king Jim Mitchell was booked into Marin County Jail early Monday on suspicion of beating to death the Novato mother of his 1-year-old daughter.
James Raphael Mitchell, of Pittsburg, was detained late Sunday night in Citrus Heights, near Sacramento, after fleeing with the toddler, triggering a statewide Amber Alert.
James Mitchell is suspected of killing 29-year-old Danielle Keller, a Novato High School graduate who was living with her mother and the couple’s daughter, Samantha Mitchell, on Diablo Court in Novato. Police found Keller dead in the backyard when they responded to a call at 6:53 p.m. Sunday about a possible assault.
Mitchell was located using cell phone technology in Citrus Heights and arrested at 11:59 p.m. Sunday by local police. Samantha was recovered unharmed and was placed with child protective services in Sacramento, according to Novato police Capt. Jim Berg.
“They will most likely contact Marin County child protective services to coordinate the best location for the child,” Berg said.
Mitchell was booked in Marin County Jail at 6:50 a.m. Monday on suspicion of murder, child concealment, violation of court orders and domestic violence, according to police. He was due to be be arraigned in Marin Superior Court at 1:30 p.m. Tuesday. His attorney was reported to be former San Francisco district attorney Terence Hallinan.
Marin County Coroner Kenneth
Holmes said the cause of death was blunt force head trauma. Berg said police have a suspected weapon, though he declined further comment. There have been unconfirmed reports that a baseball bat was used.Keller’s mother, Claudia Stevens, spoke outside her home Monday morning as investigators searched for evidence on the property and yard behind her.
Stevens said she arrived home at about 5 p.m. Sunday after a Giants afternoon baseball game and was playing with Samantha, who was celebrating her first birthday. They had an ice cream cake ready for the young girl and Stevens went to visit some friends at 5:30 p.m. when she received a phone call from neighbors.
“They said I better get back over here right away,” said Stevens, a retired California Highway Patrol officer from Bakersfield. “I asked if Dani was OK and they told me she was dead and Samantha was missing.
“She was such a wonderful mother,” said Stevens of her daughter, who moved in with her six months ago after leaving the Pittsburg home she had shared with Mitchell.
Shaking with emotion as she spoke, Stevens said she saw Samantha on television Monday morning in the arms of a police officer.
“She seemed to be OK,” Stevens said. “She’s such a loving child.”
Stevens said her daughter, who worked in the cosmetics industry, had been interviewing for a new job and was trying to get her life back together after exiting an abusive relationship with Mitchell. She said the two had met two years ago at a club in San Francisco.
San Rafael attorney Charlotte Hideko Huggins represented Keller six months ago, helping her to gain a domestic violence restraining order against Mitchell.
Hideko Huggins said she had just mailed paperwork for a three-year restraining order Friday to Mitchell that he likely received Saturday.
Gina Stahl-Ricco of Novato was a fellow Novato High School graduate with Keller in 1998 who reconnected with “Dani” recently through Novato Mothers Club events.
“She moved back here six months ago to get away from this horrible person,” Stahl-Ricco said. “She always seemed bubbly and happy even though she was going through hard times. She was so committed to Sam. She was trying to get a support system here. She was trying to make a good life for Sam. She knew that’s what it was all about.”
Stahl-Ricco said although Mitchell had been abusive to her, Keller wavered in recent months about going back to him until she caught him doing drugs a month ago.
“She was sympathetic to his cause and would say ‘Oh, I hope he gets some help he’s had a tough past’ and I would tell her it doesn’t matter” and that she should stay away from him because he had allegedly hit her.
She said Keller was constantly having to ignore calls on her cell phone from Mitchell and had become increasingly scared of his recent messages.
“Sadly, it’s like you hear: You have a child together with somebody and you want it to work out and be ideal,” Stahl-Ricco said. “It didn’t seem like he wanted help.”
Hideko Huggins said Sunday was also the two-year anniversary of the death of porn king Jim Mitchell, the suspect’s father.
The elder Mitchell had developed a multimillion-dollar adult-film empire with his younger brother, Artie, and later was convicted of killing Artie in 1991 in Corte Madera. Jim Mitchell died on July 12, 2007 at his ranch near Petaluma at age 63 after serving three years of a six-year sentence for manslaughter in San Quentin State Prison.
Longtime Mitchell family friend Warren Hinckle, a veteran Bay Area author and journalist, said he saw Mitchell on July 5 at a party celebrating the 40th anniversary of the opening of the Mitchell brothers’ O’Farrell Theater. Hinckle said Mitchell had recently been doing well, having worked for a time at his family’s theater and serving in the Marines as a weekend reserve.
“He seemed in good shape to me, but a little tense,” he said. “I’m not sure how well domestic life suited him.”
A donation fund in the name of both Danielle Keller and Samantha Mitchell has been set up at Chase Bank, 1595 Grant Ave. in Novato.
Contact Jim Staats via e-mail at jstaats@marinij.com; IJ reporters Jim Welte and Brent Ainsworth contributed to this report.
SILENCE OF THE ASS
CONFUSION
CONFUSION
NEXT THING YOU KNOW MEN WILL WANT YEARLY PAP SMEARS AND MAMMOGRAMS……….yeah right.
I try not to get into the habit of giving any of the father rights idiots anymore attention, but then I think about all the people that need to be educated on the blatant misogyny that Glenn Sacks and his minions bathe in.
In a recent post on Glenn Sacks rag “Mens Daily News” he confesses that,
“I posed as a male victim of domestic violence and called every domestic violence shelter in all of Los Angeles and San Diego counties.”
Isn’t it illegal to prank call?
According to Sacks,
“Not a single one would accept me or offer assistance, with the exception of Valley Oasis. Most flatly refused any assistance at all, but a couple did offer me space in a homeless shelter.” Apparently Sacks cares not for the women that may be stalked there and an ex may pretend he’s abused to gain entrance? All those calls must have put all residents and staff on high alert, how awful to be stressed more.
Mr. Sacks must be confused about a lot of things, mainly his gender. Sacks goes on to say when he asks them “Am I supposed to take my children to a homeless shelter?”
If you TRULY are a abused man allegedly with children and you are escaping an abuser a homeless shelter seems like the safest place to be.
But this is the typical trash from a man that makes you wonder how he treats other women in his life, wife, mother, sister or child?
The world according to these father rights activists is that feminism destroyed their lives.
They want you to believe that men are abused equally if not MORE than women but yet they do NOTHING to get their OWN shelters for the throngs of men who get their ass whipped by their women. Women and men saw a need and they built shelters for women with their children a safe haven from abusers.
The intention was clear, if your men group needs to have some place to go after they get raped by their wives after a night of boozing it up….build a male sexual abuse shelter!
If one of your brethren gets his face shoved into the carpet because he didn’t do ALL the dishes…by all means build that man a place to live.
IF he gets a baby bottle “tossed” at his face (while he’s holding a baby) then I say build a SHELTER! Instead of blaming shelters and everyone else for your problems do something about it!
END YOUR CONFUSION
I LISTENED TO OPRAH
Let it be known that I have had a love/hate relationship with Oprah since I was a child. I am almost 41 years of age but I can say that as a child in Chicago I watched Oprah when she was a lowly reporter on AM Chicago.
Oprah started to have shows that women really cared about and she cared about us. She got us to leave our abusers and that one day when I watched a woman named Susan sit with Oprah and talking about her life of abuse, soon after that show I left my abuser, for good.
So now in this August isssue of “O” magazine there is an article “Why Didn’t They Stop Him?,” by Phoebe Zerwick. It details of how Vernetta Cockerham
“did everything by the book. She took her abusive husband to court. Got a protective order. Reported his violations to the police. Yet in the end, none of that was enough to prevent the worst tragedy she could imagine. Why aren’t the laws against domestic violence enforced?”
Gee…let’s think about this one
Instead of the chastising that women received about the Rhianna case, where Oprah instructed that if “he hits you once he’ll hit again” now we’re getting understanding, finally. Oprah is finally wrapping her head around the concept that it’s easier said than done getting out of an abusive relationship and harder still when children are involved.
As we’ve seen in 2009 with the surge in domestic violence and subsequent murders (murder-suicides)
The most dangerous time for a woman is when she leaves her abuser.
Abusers make it hard for you to leave and when and if you do they really make your life hell. I lost my job because my ex vandalized my vehicle not to mention the other economic, social and other forms of control. The most important factor in leaving an abuser is having family, friends and government to be your support system, that doesn’t usually happen.
Family and friends will shy away from an abused woman…not wanting to get involved and the government will ignore you and usually fail to protect you.
NOT to mention what they do to you in Family Court.
I am a lucky one because I am literally a survivor. I saw the future if I stayed and I saw death, his or mine and I was sure it wasn’t going to be mine.
So thank you once again Oprah for shedding a light on the dirty secrets of domestic violence….we could have done it without you….mostly.
Although we survivors have learned, the hard way, that we won’t get the help we need or deserve so we’ll have to do it ourselves as with leaving an abuser and don’t expect any Oprah’s on white horses to save you….save yourself first.
http://www.oprah.com/article/omagazine/200908-omag-domestic-violence
BRITISH SCIENTISTS GROW SPERM IN LABORATORY
British scientists grow sperm in laboratory
GUESS SOMEONE JUST GOT DOWNSIZED
Women who say they don’t need a man might be onto something – after human sperm was created in the lab.
I already know what is going to be said, I hate men and that is a lie, because there is one in particular I love very much. He is the man that I wished I could of made a father because he is the one that very much deserved to be one.
Still….I can’t help but wonder what it would be like if you took out the factor of the one thing allegedly women only want men for and the one thing that they are good at (impregnating their sperm). This could be an end of child support! This could be the start of something beautiful…..
THE WORDS OF GOD DO NOT JUSTIFY CRUELTY TO WOMEN
Discrimination and abuse wrongly backed by doctrine are damaging society, argues the former US president
by Jimmy Carter
“Everyone is entitled to all the rights and freedoms set forth in this Declaration, without distinction of any kind, such as race, colour, sex, language, religion, political or other opinion, national or social origin, property, birth or other status …” (Article 2, Universal Declaration of Human Rights)“There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus.” (Galatians 3:28)I have been a practising Christian all my life and a deacon and Bible teacher for many years. My faith is a source of strength and comfort to me, as religious beliefs are to hundreds of millions of people around the world.
So my decision to sever my ties with the Southern Baptist Convention, after six decades, was painful and difficult. It was, however, an unavoidable decision when th e convention’s leaders, quoting a few carefully selected Bible verses and claiming that Eve was created second to Adam and was responsible for original sin, ordained that women must be “subservient” to their husbands and prohibited from serving as deacons, pastors or chaplains in the military service. This was in conflict with my belief – confirmed in the holy scriptures – that we are all equal in the eyes of God.
This view that women are somehow inferior to men is not restricted to one religion or belief. It is widespread. Women are prevented from playing a full and equal role in many faiths.
Nor, tragically, does its influence stop at the walls of the church, mosque, synagogue or temple. This discrimination, unjustifiably attributed to a Higher Authority, has provided a reason or excuse for the deprivation of women’s equal rights across the world for centuries. The male interpretations of religious texts and the way they interact with, and reinforce, traditional practices justify some of the most pervasive, persistent, flagrant and damaging examples of human rights abuses.
At their most repugnant, the belief that women must be subjugated to the wishes of men excuses slavery, violence, forced prostitution, genital mutilation and national laws that omit rape as a crime. But it also costs many millions of girls and women control over their own bodies and lives, and continues to deny them fair access to education, health, employment and influence within their own communities.
The impact of these religious beliefs touches every aspect of our lives. They help explain why in many countries boys are educated before girls; why girls are told when and whom they must marry; and why many face enormous and unacceptable risks in pregnancy and childbirth because their basic health needs are not met.
In some Islamic nations, women are restricted in their movements, punished for permitting the exposure of an arm or ankle, deprived of education, prohibited from driving a car or competing with men for a job. If a woman is raped, she is often most severely punished as the guilty party in the crime.
The same discriminatory thinking lies behind the continuing gender gap in pay and why there are still so few women in office in Britain and the United States. The root of this prejudice lies deep in our histories, but its impact is felt every day. It is not women and girls alone who suffer. It damages all of us. The evidence shows that investing in women and girls delivers major benefits for everyone in society. An educated woman has healthier children. She is more likely to send them to school. She earns more and invests what she earns in her family.
It is simply self-defeating for any community to discriminate against half its population. We need to challenge these self-serving and out-dated attitudes and practices – as we are seeing in Iran where women are at the forefront of the battle for democracy and freedom.
I understand, however, why many political leaders can be reluctant about stepping into this minefield. Religion, and tradition, are powerful and sensitive area to challenge.
But my fellow Elders and I, who come from many faiths and backgrounds, no longer need to worry about winning votes or avoiding controversy – and we are deeply committed to challenging injustice wherever we see it.
The Elders have decided to draw particular attention to the responsibility of religious and traditional leaders in ensuring equality and human rights. We have recently published a statement that declares: “The justification of discrimination against women and girls on grounds of religion or tradition, as if it were prescribed by a Higher Authority, is unacceptable.”
We are calling on all leaders to challenge and change the harmful teachings and practices, no matter how ingrained, which justify discrimination against women. We ask, in particular, that leaders of all religions have the courage to acknowledge and emphasise the positive messages of dignity and equality that all the world’s major faiths share.
Although not having training in religion or theology, I understand that the carefully selected verses found in the holy scriptures to justify the superiority of men owe more to time and place – and the determination of male leaders to hold onto their influence – than eternal truths. Similar Biblical excerpts could be found to support the approval of slavery and the timid acquiescence to oppressive rulers.
At the same time, I am also familiar with vivid descriptions in the same scriptures in which women are revered as pre-eminent leaders. During the years of the early Christian church women served as deacons, priests, bishops, apostles, teachers and prophets. It wasn’t until the fourth century that dominant Christian leaders, all men, twisted and distorted holy scriptures to perpetuate their ascendant positions within the religious hierarchy.
I know, too, that Billy Graham, one of the most widely respected and revered Christians during my lifetime, did not understand why women were prevented from being priests and preachers. He said: “Women preach all over the world. It doesn’t bother me from my study of the scriptures.”
The truth is that male religious leaders have had – and still have – an option to interpret holy teachings either to exalt or subjugate women. They have, for their own selfish ends, overwhelmingly chosen the latter.
Their continuing choice provides the foundation or justification for much of the pervasive persecution and abuse of women throughout the world. This is in clear violation not just of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights but also the teachings of Jesus Christ, the Apostle Paul, Moses and the prophets, Muhammad, and founders of other great religions – all of whom have called for proper and equitable treatment of all the children of God. It is time we had the courage to challenge these views.
• Jimmy Carter was US president from 1977-81. The Elders are an independent group of eminent global leaders, brought together by Nelson Mandela, who offer their influence and experience to support peace building, help address major causes of human suffering and promote the shared interests of humanity.
GOOD MAN AND AWESOME FATHER
Jealousy,
threats of violence part of Fort Lewis gunman’s
history
The man who fatally shot his ex-girlfriend before killing himself at Fort Lewis on Wednesday had previously threatened his former wife, according to court records.
Seattle Times staff reporter
The tipping point for the 59-year-old retired soldier who killed his former girlfriend at Fort Lewis before turning the gun on himself seemed to come when he learned she was dating another man, the victim’s family said.
Lafayette Meminger found out that Sharlona White, 33, had reunited with her high-school boyfriend and that the new man was moving to Washington state, White’s daughter said on Thursday.
“He told her that if he couldn’t have her, no one could,” said 14-year-old Zeunna Woodruff.
According to law-enforcement and Army officials, Meminger walked into the crowded main post exchange at Fort Lewis and fatally shot White at around 11:20 a.m. Wednesday. He then shot himself in the head, and he died a few hours later.
Meminger, of Lakewood, Pierce County, had retired from the Army as a sergeant first class in 1992. White was a civilian vendor, according to the Army.
The FBI, which is investigating the murder-suicide because both Meminger and White were civilians who died on a federal installation, did not release new information on Thursday.
According to court records and White’s family, jealous rage was not unusual for Meminger.
His former wife had sought an order of protection from him from a Pierce County Superior Court judge in November 2002. In her request, she stated that she had divorced Meminger in 1999 after 30 years of marriage.
“He did not bother me until one month ago when he found out that I am dating,” she stated in court documents.
Since that time, she wrote, he had staked out her apartment, left dirty and threatening messages on her voice mail and threatened to kill her boyfriend.
He had told relatives and friends that he planned to get a gun, go to the firing range and then “take me out,” she wrote.
“I think he is consumed by jealousy,” she stated. “He says a restraining order won’t stop him, that it’s just a piece of paper.”
The former wife also said Meminger had been arrested for stalking and harassing her in 1994. “He was dangerous then and I feel he is even more dangerous now,” she wrote.
The protection order was granted.
White, an East St. Louis, Mo., native who loved fashion and design ever since she was a child, moved to Washington before her children were born. She was working at a kiosk at the post exchange, or PX, selling clothing and jewelry of her own design.
She also ran a small clothing store in University Place that she’d named “ZnZ Wear” after her daughter and her 10-year-old son, Zaron.
Meminger was working as an unarmed guard at Western State Hospital.
Woodruff said her mother, a devoted Christian, had been introduced to Meminger about 18 months ago through a woman in her church.
“He was really good to us at first. He cooked and cleaned and said he would never hurt my mother, but then he tried to strangle her,” Woodruff said.
When that happened, about eight months ago, White broke up with Meminger, her family said.
“He became crazily obsessed, worse than in the movies,” Woodruff said. “He was coming around the house all the time, banging on the doors, banging on the windows. He would send crazy text messages to her and show up at her work all the time.”
About a week before she was killed, White and her two children had taken shelter at the Tacoma home of White’s parents. The night before her death, she had bought a dog for protection, her daughter said.
Her family urged her to get a restraining order, said her mother, Rose Braggs, but White didn’t believe that would help.
Meminger’s ex-wife couldn’t be reached Thursday. But the couple’s son said his family’s thoughts and condolences are with White’s family.
Maurice Meminger said his father had been a “good man and an awesome father.”
Nevertheless, “his actions don’t reflect our family,” he said.
BETTER OFF DEAD
FACTS
MALES KILL MORE OFTEN THAN FEMALES…..
MALES ABUSE MORE OFTEN THAN FEMALES….
MURDER-SUICIDE, ABUSE OR ANY OTHER VIOLENT CRIME IS MORE OFTEN A MALE
I CHALLENGED ANY ONE TO PROVE ME WRONG…THE SILENCE IS DEAFENING….BUT I AM NOT QUIET
NEITHER IS USA TODAY WHO REPORTS THAT THE ECONOMY IS NOT THE ONLY REASON FOR THE HIGH VOLUMES OF MURDERS, SUICIDES, VIOLENCE AND FAMILICIDES.
http://www.usatoday.com/news/nation/2009-02-04-family_N.htm
Wendy Koch of USA TODAY reports that the economy has been blamed for a lot and that financial problems can be a factor but the scholars do suggest that the crime of “familicide” is rare.
“The economic downturn is not triggering a rash of this,” says Louis Schlesinger, professor of forensic psychology at John Jay College of Criminal Justice. Hundreds of thousands have been laid off recently, he notes, and more have lost money in the stock market, without killing their families.”
Since October, at least three men who lost jobs or money, two in California and one in Pennsylvania, killed themselves and their families.
The people who commit such crimes are almost always men, Schlesinger says.
“They honestly believe their family is better off dead than without them,” says Kristen Rand of the Violence Policy Center, a gun-control research group.
Her group has done three studies on slayings followed by suicide, but most did not involve the deaths of an entire family. In the first half of 2007, the most recent study found, murder-suicides caused 554 deaths, including 45 children under 18. Firearms were used in nine out of 10 cases.
Most murder-suicides, 78.5%, are caused by problems between intimate partners, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. A CDC report, using 2005 data from 16 states, found that financial problems were a factor in 8% of the 199 deaths studied.
Family slayings are usually one of two types, says Phillip Resnick, psychiatry professor at Case Western Reserve University. Some involve men who are angry at partners, who may have been unfaithful or want to leave the relationship, he says. Others involve men who lose their jobs or savings and, if they are vulnerable to depression, become hopeless or psychotic.
“There is a relationship (to finances), particularly when a man loses his job,” he says.
“It’s a combination of factors,” says Sampson Blair, a sociology professor at the University of Buffalo in New York. He says suicide, spouse-battering and child abuse increase slightly in bad times.
“It’s not the economic conditions per se but the stress created,” Blair says. “The sense of desperation pushes them right off the edge.”
He says that when people lose their jobs, they are at least twice as likely to commit suicide.
“Familicide is different,” Schlesinger argues. “Most people don’t kill their families when they lose their jobs.”
He says no one should expect family killings to increase in an economic downturn.
Schlesinger says it’s difficult to explain such horrific events. The killer doesn’t live to answer questions, so unless he leaves a suicide note, the reason may be unknown.
In Spring Garden Township, Pa., John Goodman, 39, left no note before killing his wife, their 2-year-old son and himself in November. He had lost his job of six years in August.
Police don’t know why he acted, but his job loss may have been a “stressor,” says Police Chief George Swartz.
In Whitehall, Ohio, last week, Mark Meeks, 51, killed himself, his wife and two children. He left a note but police won’t reveal its contents.
Detective Steven Brown says “financial problems were not a factor.” Meeks had just been hired at a car dealership.
Also last week, Ervin Lupoe, 40, killed himself, his wife, 8-year-old daughter, 5-year-old twin girls and 2-year-old twin boys in Wilmington, Calif. He and his wife had both lost their jobs.
THE TERMINATOR
HE WON'T BE BACK Gov. Schwarzenegger Cut 100% of Domestic Violence Funding and What Californians Can Do About It
Please look at WHO is getting the grants, and look at the bar chart below — in 2009, suddenly, it’s Zero.” (OR data not in yet?). . . .
I know some of these groups. Others I don’t. They’re doing training and web-based webinars, conferences, etc.
They are not STREET-level help, and this is the bulk of the funding, too:
Here’s who got the money in CA in 2008:
| ASIAN-AMERICAN HEALTH FORUM | California | $400,000 | 1831831360 |
| CENTER FOR COMMUNITY SOLUTIONS | California | $75,000 | 005138644 |
| FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION FUND | California | $1,323,812 | 6183756870 |
in 2007:
| CENTER FOR COMMUNITY SOLUTIONS | California | $75,000 | 005138644 |
| CHILDRENS HOSPITAL LOS ANGELESDIV OF ADOLES M | California | $75,000 | 52277936 0 |
| EAST BAY COMMUNITY FOUNDATION | California | $95,648 | 084516632 |
| FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION FUND | California | $1,394,127 | 6183756870 |
| SOUTH BAY COMMUNITY SVCS INC | California | $75,000 | 1134077790 |
(2006 — no one; 2005):
| Recipient Name | State | Federal Funding (for this search) | DUNS Number |
|---|---|---|---|
| ASIAN & PACIFIC ISLANDER AMERICAN HEALTH | California | $400,000 | |
| CHILDRENS HOSPITAL LOS ANGELESDIV OF ADOL | California | $75,000 | |
| FAMILY VIOLENCE PREVENTION FUND | California | $1,125,689 | |
| SOUTH BAY COMMUNITY SVCS INC | California | $75,000 |
Now look at 93.591. It’s going straight to the COALITIONS, one/state. Even though the title includes the word “grants to battered women’s shelters,” I don’t think the money ever gets to these shelters through these grants.
California Alliance Against Domestic Violence (WHO?)
The Feds are instead sending money DIRECTLY to the State Coalitions Against Domestic Violence, under the new “grant” program # 93.591, which contains the words “Grants to Battered Women’s Shelters” IN it, but the money is not going to probably go to shelters. It is going to web-based trainings such as the ones we were looking at by the Battered Women’s Justice Centers. It is getting centralized and streamlined.
this category “93.591″ only came into being in 2008.
93l.592 is also for shelters, and we should ask EVERY recipient what they did with their money.
FVPF, a group that (I heard) is majorly responsible for the VAWA passing to start with, has had a real injection of federal funding (including under 93.592, which is SHELTERS, but it’s a high-class conference and training initiative.
INDIANA STEPMONSTER CELEBRATES BABY’S DEATH
STEPMONSTER KELA PRICE
Wow, I couldn’t believe this until I saw it myself. Indianapolis “stepfamily counselor” Kela Price published something I find quite astonishing for someone who claims she is for children. Here is her bio from the Examiner, where she recently posted an article titled “Children speak up about relationships with their fathers post divorce“:
Kela Price has been an ex/second wife, mom/stepmom for over 8 yrs. As Founder of www.blendedfamilysoapopera.com and a Certified Stepfamily Counselor, she is well-versed when it comes to divorce and remarriage issues. Kela can be reached at kela@blendedfamilysoapopera.com.
Second wives are often recruited to the Father’s Rights movement, to show they have women on board with them and give them more credibility. Often though, after several years, the FR groups will throw them away when they have lost their usefulness. They are easy recruits…they see what their current husbands deal with their exwives and the children.
Kela recently published an article on her local blog called “Blended family karma – what goes around always comes back around.”
Read what Kela gets miffed over:
Two weeks ago my husband went to visit his son (he lives 3 hours way). Two weeks prior to that, he informed his ex-wife that he was coming to see him play in his baseball game. She responded by giving him directions and the phone number to the facility just in case he got lost.
Gee, sounds pretty nice of her to do that, I know a lot of custodial fathers who would not do that, much less even let the moms see their own kids.
When he got there the game was being cancelled due to rain, so he told his son (K) that he’d take him out to dinner instead. K was excited and ran to tell his mom that he was going out to dinner with my husband and she said no because they had plans. My husband told her that they couldn’t have plans because they had planned to be at the baseball game but it was cancelled. He took him to dinner anyway and returned him to her home 2 hours later.
That is pretty crappy, they had plans and her husband took him anyway….oh well. Life goes on, dad had dinner with son. This is where it gets nasty…the very next paragraph, still carrying on about the same event:
At nine months pregnant she was still up to her old game of “keep away.” I couldn’t believe that she had the energy or even the desire to do so. There was absolutely no reason why she shouldn’t have agreed to let him go. Did she really expect my husband to drive 3 hours to see his son for 5 minutes and then leave? Surely not. My husband came home really upset; mainly because of the position that she put K in. He didn’t want to argue with her in front of K, but he also didn’t want to turn around after driving 3 hours and not spend any time with his son. It was a tough decision and he didn’t understand why he had to be in that position in the first place. He was tired and completely frustrated with the situation and we all have been for quite some time now. Two days later, while walking our dog, my husband received a phone call from a very emotional K saying that his mother LOST THE BABY! She was 36 weeks pregnant, went into the hospital for spotting and the doctors told her that the baby had no heartbeat. The universe is shifting!
It is no coincidence that the same woman who snatched my husband’s son away from him after years of developing a close bond and wonderful relationship with him and for no reason at all, had her baby snatched away as well. Hopefully now she and her husband truly understand what it feels like to love, prepare for, bond with and sacrifice so much for a child, only to have him snatched away for reasons that can’t be explained…
Well, I don’t have the words now for this “certified” counselor. Telling a mom she deserves to have her baby die is very wicked. I hope that Indianapolis people become aware of this so-called “counselor” and how she really feels about children. Who in the hell certified her? They need to know about this! I believe she may need some heavy-duty counseling for herself and her own twisted issues. Kela Price puts the monster into Stepmonster…
To the mom who lost her baby, my condolences to you dear.
COMMENTS FROM ORIGINAL BLOG POST ON
http://mothersoflostchildren.wordpress.com/2009/07/31/local-stepfamily-counselor-celebrates-babys-death/
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It’s too bad that you are basing your judgement on something that you have no knowledge of. I wish you knew our entire story before publishing this post, but we all speak from our respective pain. I’m sorry about what you have experienced that has caused you to write this vicious post about someone you do not know, but you are certainly free to have your own opinion; even if it’s without substance. Go back and re-read the post. It is not a celebration of a baby’s death. As a matter of fact, I expressed my sympathy for the ex-wife, despite what she’s done to my family. It is about a life lesson! I’ll pray for you.
Peace and Blessings,
Kela Price
Certified Stepfamily Counselor (who has helped MANY with the challenges of stepfamily life. -
This is disgusting and thank you for finding this.
Exposethetruth
August 1, 2009 at 2:11 am
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Wow Kela, your idea of a life lesson is pretty icky.
mothersoflostchildren
August 1, 2009 at 2:20 am
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It is said that true understanding comes only from a person who has experienced a similar event. I could wish that this-”Kela”? experience this kind of learning.
Apart from that-many humans have a sense of empathy- that enables them to appreciate another’s situation-even if they have not had a similar experience. Those that don’t- have a serious lack. Even animals of different species have been seen playing together and helping each other.Animals of the same species often help each other.Only predators attack a vulnerable- – — -. What an atrocious example of a human-an example of the worst kind. -
Just re-read a comment by- the-one-who-has-no-empathy. A life lesson? So- if you get cancer- it will only be a life lesson-for the text you published. Pray for -the blog writer ? Somehow that is an insult of the lowest kind. Perhaps I should pray for you to have a life lesson.
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Just sad and so typical for a wanna be mother aka stepmonster. I am so glad tonight I was at a place where there were moms, stepmoms, stepdads, and none of them disagreed. They at least can be grownup UNLIKE this wanna be.
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Oh and Kela, we know YOUR side of the story. What is MOM’s side of the story? Truth is probably somewhere in between. And who knows whose side it is closer to, but reading some of your monster rants, I think she is probably telling more truth.
But that again is just MY opinion in dealing with hundreds of stepMONSTERS through my blog.
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…I hope mothers like you don’t ever get your children back. Oh and before I get a bunch of angry emails, the email address isn’t real. I don’t wish to engage in a bunch of childlike behavior that so many ex-wives wish to do. We “stepmonsters” are just trying to raise children…
Kela, Kela, Kela. You do need help. Get checked for multiple personality syndrome. Your credibility isn’t looking so hot. Of course the e-mail isn’t real…you went to gmail and made a fake account, then posted the comment from your computer. These are your words posted here, expressing some type of twisted joy over a baby dying. You really are certified…
Candace’s IP: Author Candace (IP: 70.236.4.32 , ppp-70-236-4-32.dsl.ipltin.ameritech.net)
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Candace
August 2, 2009 at 12:23 pm
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…You are the monsters and like Candace said….
ROFLMAO!!! Kela, you need to wait before the fake comment is posted before commenting on it….LOL. Really, check into that multiple personality thing, and maybe ask about getting a special on anger management classes…
Author : Kela (IP: 70.236.4.32 , ppp-70-236-4-32.dsl.ipltin.ameritech.net)
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Arielle
August 2, 2009 at 12:45 pm
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Oh my, Kela that’s not very nice coming from someone who is “qualified”. It seems like your true personality has been revealed over and over.
I feel so sorry for any children in your care, step and biological.
How did you find this blog anyway, googling your name daily?August 2, 2009 at 9:20 pm
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Not nice at all…you think that by saying that somehow this woman has lost her baby is karma? The universe is shifting…you should be aware of what you say…and put in PRINT.
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You are SO outed!! LOL….
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Bullshit! Kela apart from being a witch, you are also a liar!
August 2, 2009 at 11:08 pm
HE MAN WOMAN HATERS CLUB
Glenn Sacks, Ned Holstein, Dr. Richard Gardner, Warren Farrell…just to name a few….are all a part of a group of men who insist that poor little them get discriminated against, abused and women are just downright mean to them….poor little fellas. 
Right Spanky?
The best part of their little club is that not all MEN feel as they do. They know the reality IS that woman are abused more often than men….AND men do have many more advantages than that of a women.
Another former member of this group is George Sodini. George seethed with anger and frustration toward women. He couldn’t understand why they ignored him, despite his best efforts to look nice. He hadn’t had a girlfriend since 1984, hadn’t slept with a woman in 19 years.
“Women just don’t like me. There are 30 million desirable women in the US (my estimate) and I cannot find one. Not one of them finds me attractive,” the 48-year-old computer programmer lamented in a chilling diary he posted on the Internet.
For months, he also wrote vaguely about using guns to carry out his “exit plan” at his health club, where lots of young women worked out.
Yesterday his plan was executed.
He went to the sprawling L.A. Fitness Club in this Pittsburgh suburb, turned out the lights on a dance-aerobics class filled with women, and opened fire with three guns, letting loose with a fusillade of at least 36 bullets.
He killed three women and wounded nine others before committing suicide.
“He just had a lot of hatred in him and (was) hell-bent on committing this act, and no one was going to stop him,” Allegheny County Police Superintendent Charles Moffatt said Wednesday.
The 4,610-word Web diary appeared to be a nine-month chronology of his plans to end his misery with a shocking act of carnage at the health club. He portrayed himself as painfully and inexplicably lonely.
“Every evening I am alone, and then go to bed alone,” he wrote. “I see twenty something couples everywhere. I see a twenty something guy with a nice twentyish young women. I think those years slipped right by for me. Why should I continue another 20+ years alone?”
It was unclear when the Web diary was posted and whether it had been updated online repeatedly since November or posted in its entirety recently. Moffatt said investigators are trying to determine whether anyone saw it online before the rampage.
“If anyone knew of it, they would have a moral and ethical obligation and legal obligation to bring it forward,” the police superintendent said.
Killed were Heidi Overmier, 46, of Carnegie, a sales manager at an amusement park; Jody Billingsley, 37, of Mount Lebanon, who worked for a medical-supply company; and Elizabeth Gannon, 49, of Pittsburgh, an X-ray technician at Allegheny General Hospital.
“She can’t be gone,” said Gannon’s next-door neighbor and close friend, Carl Rady, who knew her for 35 years and said she loved to work out and pamper her dog. “It can’t happen that way.”
Sodini was a member of the health club and had been there two times Tuesday before he came back at night, police said. He did not have a relationship with any of his victims, according to police.
In his Web diary, Sodini wrote of planning the attack since at least November and said he tried to carry it out when the same Tuesday-night aerobics class met on Jan. 6. “I cannot wait for tomorrow!” he exulted the night before. But he backed out at the last moment.
“It is 8:45PM: I chickened out!” he wrote. “I brought the loaded guns, everything. Hell!”
In his diary, he complained that women “don’t even give me a second look ANYWHERE” even though he was tan and fit and claimed to dress well and smell nice. He listed his status as “Never married.” In a chilling addition, he recorded the date of his death as Aug. 4, 2009.
On that evening, he walked into the health club wearing black workout gear and a headband, and entered the “Latin impact” class with four guns.
Jordan Solomon, 14, said she thought it was weird when a man walked into the all-female class and put a black duffel bag on the ground and reached into it.
“All of a sudden all the lights went out and I turned around, he started firing. I turned around and I saw him holding a gun,” she said.
Solomon said the man was expressionless, and she didn’t hear him say anything as he sprayed bullets. The teenager ran out of the room and into the parking lot, bolting into a restaurant where she told the workers to call 911.
Lauren Dooley, 27, who was exercising on a treadmill on the second floor, ran down the fire escape and out the rear of the building, where bystanders were applying pressure to victims’ gunshot wounds.
“You just feel like you’re in a movie … a horrible movie where someone comes in and unleashes fire on everyone. You just don’t know what to do,” Dooley said.
She returned to the gym Wednesday morning to retrieve her purse and cell phone, but the doors were locked. A sign read: “Each of us in the LA Fitness family are shocked and saddened by the senseless acts of violence that took place at our Bridgeville club Tuesday evening.”
Sodini did not have a criminal record, and he legally bought the guns he used, police said. Sodini used his cell phone a few minutes before the shooting, but Moffatt would not say whom he called.
Sodini’s family issued a brief statement: “Our hearts and prayers are with the victims and their families and we pray for the full recovery of the survivors.”
Six patients remained hospitalized, including the aerobics instructor, Mary Primis, 26, who was listed in fair condition. Primis is pregnant but said doctors told her the baby is fine.
Authorities initially had difficulty identifying the victims because they had workout clothes on and weren’t carrying wallets.
Sodini graduated in 1992 from the University of Pittsburgh with a degree in computer science and had worked as a systems analyst at a Pittsburgh law firm since 1999.
A neighbor, Connie Fontanesi, said Sodini was so anti-social that “we really didn’t learn anything personal about him.”
Roberta Kozel, co-owner of Salon IAOMO, said Sodini was a regular at the tanning salon and last visited on Saturday.
The best line of all….“He was just pretty normal, a little quiet — like the classroom nerd,” Kozel said.
My predication from the He-Man Woman Haters Club? I’m sure they will blame women for not wanting to be with this psychopath….guess women saw more than a nerd.
Rest In Peace HEIDI, JODY and ELIZABETH
NO JUSTICE, JUST US
Two little girls ages 5 and 8 have literally had their lives turned upside down in the last 87 hours since their mother Suzan Annette Sowlers-Fuller and Grandmother Sharon Sue Cannon were killed, before their eyes.
The very system that was supposed to protect their mother and grandmother likely aided in their murders when they failed to upgrade the case and properly charge the estranged husband.
In those 87 hours the girls have lost their in what I refer to as their “country.” A place where they each learned to ride their first horse. Where the girls learned how to roller skate down the drive-way, they each played their first game of hopscotch. At night their mom would read them a bedtime story, they would say their prayers and then Suzan or Annette as she liked to be called would kiss her daughters goodnight.
In a matter of moments, gone. They can never return, because, their warm safe world, has vanished. Since Saturday they have been whisked from strange beds, to people with badges to interviews with forensic investigators, appearances in court and questions from strangers who are unable to tell the girls why their mommy is dead.
The order of protection is a document to track the abuse, nothing more. Leading experts are commenting that these cases do not often end in murder when a victim obtains a court order. Well perhaps those experts need to examine these cases a bit closer. Many women do not obtain a court order for fear of being killed. A woman for numerous reasons decides on various factors usually not disclosed to others that prevents her from seeking assistance. It is more of a damn if you do and damn if you do not decision on the part of each victim.
On The Susan Murphy Milano show, we will discuss the various obstacles highlighting this tragedy in hopes that those listening will learn what direction they need to take when faced with imminent danger. This is also a case of “maternal deprivation abuse” that ended in murder. Simply, the father and killer hijacked the children from their mother. We will be joined on the show by Claudine Dombrowski a leading expert in the area of motherswithout custody. And a we will be joined by a close relative and friend who was in daily contact with both women who died.
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/SusanMurphyMilano/2009/08/12/The-Susan-Murphy-Milano-Show
SO YOU THINK YOU CAN RAPE? AGAIN
http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,540388,00.html?loomia_ow=t0:s0:a16:g2:r5:c0.076968:b27221128:z0
A former choreographer for “So You Think You Can Dance” was arrested again for allegedly sexually assaulting four women — but this time he’s actually being charged with a crime … or eight, to be exact.Cops say Alex Da Silva was arrested this morning at his North Hollywood home, after the District Attorney filed an arrest warrant charging him with eight felony counts of assault.
That includes four counts of forcible rape, two counts of assault with intent to commit rape and two counts of sexual penetration by a foreign object.
The D.A. says the alleged assaults occurred between August 2002 and March 2009. The four alleged victims were between the ages of 20 and 26 and were all dancers or aspiring dancers who say they met Alex through his dance instruction classes.
Alex was arrested for pretty much the same thing back in April, but prosecutors declined to press charges — saying further investigation was needed to move forward.
Alex is being held on $6.2 million bail.
JUDGE DREAD
Convicted former Brooklyn Supreme Court Judge Gerald P. Garson has been granted parole, 25 months after he began serving a 3 to 10-year prison term for bribery and receiving rewards for official misconduct.
Garson, 77, had been convicted in April 2007 of fixing divorce cases and accepting a box of Dominican cigars worth $250 and $1,000 in cash. He had turned down a plea deal in October 2006 that would have given him 16 months in jail in exchange for a guilty plea to bribery charges.
Garson’s release has been sent for Dec. 23 by the state Parole Board. The board has stipulated that following his release, he is prohibited from being affiliated with any law firm. Garson has been disbarred due to his felony convictions. He is also required to participate in an alcohol abuse treatment program and to submit to substance abuse testing.
Garson had gotten a 12-day reprieve on reporting to prison in June 2007 so that he could “dry out”. He has been in state prison since July 7, 2007.
Garson, former leader of the Brooklyn Democratic Party, had argued that his bladder cancer, heart condition as well as admitted severe alcoholism would likely result in his death should he be incarcerated.
Garson’s release was “strongly opposed” by the Kings County district attorney’s office.
Michael F. Vecchione, chief of the district attorney’s Rackets Division who was the lead prosecutor at Garson’s trial said “This was an overwhelming case of greed, of him selling his office for drinks, lunches, dinners and gifts and a violation of the trust voters and citizens of Brooklyn placed in him”.
THE GRUDGE
WARNING
THIS SHIT IS ABOUT TO GET
PERSONAL
In the coming days this blog is about to get really personal. We will not only continue to report the truth about Family Court we are going to name names.
That’s right….all you criminals of the organized crime system a.k.a Family Court….shit is hitting the proverbial fan.
We have reported the blood money trail from Responsible Fatherhood Intiatives and we have followed the scum of neo-natzi skinheads that are trying to pawn themselves off as human. Now we will report for every mother and child that have been silenced by you. We will be their voice.
Oh and by the way….to the child protection worker who said that just because a child was in a car driven by their drunk father didn’t make him a “bad father he made a bad choice”….your wrong sweetie…and you’re going to be first, everything personal.
FIGHT OR FLIGHT?
Posted previously by RightsForMothers.com
Another custodial father allegedly killed by child because of ongoing abuse…again. As the rant by father’s groups and “shared parenting” groups continue, and abusive fathers get custody more and more, we will see these incidents increase. This is, because in the eyes of some of these groups, an abusive father is better than no father at all. I bet this little boy thought differently.
Why in the world would an abusive father have custody of children? Because, when they try for custody, they get it 70% of the time. Research has shown that these fathers who abused the mother will start abusing the children 40-60% of the time, if they hadn’t been already.
The Children, Youth and Families Department had SEVEN reports of abuse in the household, and did NOTHING.
And AGAIN…neighbors are quoted as saying what a nice guy this was…geezzzz. Who could ever believe a father would abuse a child…not many men’s rights advocates I know which I won’t name.
Someone needs to take charge here and stop abusive parents from getting custody of children and to have abuse allegations taken seriously. Child protective service’s agencies are a JOKE, and will excuse any reports of abuse if it is in the context of custody disputes. For more on this, see:
I’m as Mad as Hell, and I’m Not Going to Take This Anymore
How many more children will be put in this position of “him or me” in determining survival? How many children will not be able to take one more beating, or one more rape, and then break?
From the Digital Journal:
Boy, 10, could face murder charges in death of his father
Published 3 hours ago by ■ Chris Dade
A 10-year-old boy from Belen, New Mexico is facing a possible charge of first-degree murder after his 42-year-old father died from a wound to the head, allegedly inflicted by his son.
According to ABC News, which in turn quotes a report by KOAT-TV, a boy allegedly used his own gun to shoot his father. Police were then called to the home of Byron Hilburn last Thursday evening, where they found him dead with a head wound.
Police believe the boy’s 6-year-old sister witnessed the shooting.
Hilburn was eventually pronounced dead at the University of New Mexico Hospital in Albuquerque.
The motive for the killing is apparently that the dead man, divorced and with custody of his three children, disciplined his son too harshly and too frequently, according to the boy. As the London Times reports, the man’s third child, a 9-year-old boy, was on a visit to other members of his family when the shooting occurred.
Police have reportedly not ruled out the possibility the shooting was an accident; the London Times says that the boy, who will be appointed a legal guardian prior to any police interviews, cannot be charged with murder without the approval of the New Mexico juvenile probation department.
The boy’s younger sister is now being cared for by family members, as their mother’s whereabouts and her involvement in their lives’ has not been made clear. The 10-year-old himself is in the custody of the New Mexico’s Children, Youth and Families Department (CYFD). And the CYFD has confirmed that since 2003 it has received seven anonymous calls alleging child abuse and neglect within the victim’s household. But its inquiries into the welfare of the children have not produced sufficient evidence to warrant removing the three children from the household.
Neighbors of the family reported nothing untoward in their experience of them, with descriptions such as “a good family” and “the kind of family you’d like to live next to” being used.
If the boy is eventually charged with his father’s murder, there are expected to be protests from human rights groups, among them Amnesty International. The London-based organization has been critical in the past of the record of the U.S. with regard to the human rights of children. (YES, YES, YES)
Personally, I just signed up my child for gun safety and shooting…
WATCH OUT DADDY
I learned from the best on how to abuse and now my aim is getting better!
ABUSED AGAIN
For many abused women the above “wheel of abuse” will be familiar although changes have been made to reflect that the abuse that some women have endured is continued in the Family Court system. The statistics are nauseating, the American Psychological Association’s Presidential Task Force on Violence in the Family, the leading review of the research as of 1996, found that men who abuse their partners contest custody at least twice as often as non-abusing fathers. Makes you wonder what the statistics would tell for 2009. (American Psychological Association Presidential Task on Violence in the Family, 1996 at p. 40. )
The Family Court system is not set up to resolve “high conflict” divorces/custody disputes, they are set up to instigate, aggravate and allow your abuser to continue the circle of abuse all in the name of greed and professional gains. All figures in the Family Court system profit in some form or another (legally and illegally) and everyday women and children are placed at risk by abusive men.
As we’ve seen in the Judge Garson case in New York, where he accepted bribes by his favorite court appointed Guardian Ad Litem. According to Michael F. Vecchione, chief of the district attorney’s Rackets Division and also lead prosecutor at Garson’s trial said, “This was an overwhelming case of greed, of him selling his office for drinks, lunches, dinners and gifts and a violation of the trust voters and citizens of Brooklyn placed in him”. Judge Garson is not an isolated incident this happens everyday in Family Court. In order for change to begin then we must make these elected officials accountable and expose the dirty little secrets of the Family Court, this is the mission of many. Action is needed as we speak to expose the greed and corruption. As anyone who has faced abused, survived, moved on and empowered yourself we will also stand up to our abuser, Family Court and say, ENOUGH!
JUSTICE IS DEAF, DUMB & BLIND
Note: Cross posted from [wp ridezstormz] Silent No More!.
“Domestic violence is about control, not anger. Once a victim says ‘I’m leaving you,’ the last thing the batterer has over the victim is the children“.
Advocates of domestic violence victims say a growing number of batterers are using the tactic in court to gain custody of their children.
“In cases where domestic violence is alleged, the perpetrator’s attorney can put in this alleged parental alienation syndrome,” said Dallas psychologist Jane Toler, who will give a presentation on the issue at the conference. “Then, all of a sudden, it takes the focus off the perpetrator and puts it back onto the victim.”
Dr. Toler, who has a private practice and also works for The Family Place for victims of domestic abuse, said lack of awareness about the complex concept can lead to a violent parent gaining custody. That can raise questions about the safety of the children involved, she said.
The one-day family violence conference also will include presentations about women who use violence, elder abuse, the clergy’s response to victims, and domestic violence in the gay community. The keynote speaker is Carolyn Thomas, a Waco woman whose ex-boyfriend shot her in the face and caused extensive injuries in December 2003.
The conference, which is expected to draw about 200 people, is sponsored by the Dallas County district attorney’s office and the Dallas County Domestic Violence Awareness, Child Abuse Awareness and Elder Abuse coalitions.
Parental alienation syndrome recently has become a leading defense in custody cases – and a controversial topic among family violence experts.
Casey Alexander, president of Texas Fathers for Equal Rights in Fort Worth, said the defense should not be discounted.
“I tend to believe there are far more cases of legitimate alienation than there are guys beating their wives who are using this to get their children,” Mr. Alexander said, adding that he experienced parental alienation syndrome during his divorce.
Paige Flink, executive director of The Family Place, said parental alienation syndrome has increasingly been used against her clients.
“A lot of it is rooted in blaming the victim,” she said. “We’ve seen the judges taking the kids from the mother and giving them to the abuser.”
State law prohibits family court judges from awarding full or joint custody to an abusive parent if there is a finding of family violence. However, advocates say such evidence is not always presented in court, sometimes because the victim cannot afford legal representation.
Some abusers have gone so far as to accuse victims of domestic violence of going to a shelter just to keep the children away from them, said Katie Foster, regional training coordinator for the family violence division of the Dallas County district attorney’s office.
“Domestic violence is about control, not anger. Once a victim says ‘I’m leaving you,’ the last thing the batterer has over the victim is the children,” she said.
The division also conducted training on the issue in February, Ms. Foster said.
“There is a need for more awareness about this issue. There’s a need for more education about it,” she said.
ONE BAD APPLE
http://justice4mothers.wordpress.com/2009/08/30/fatherhood-initiative-bill-senator-evan-bayh-d-in-is-not-his-fathers-son/
This is from the Indiana Mothers For Custodial Justice, covering the recently introduced Fatherhood Initiative Bill:
Evan Bayh is Not His Father’s Son
I heard this comment in a meeting yesterday, and how true it is. ” Evan Bayh is not his father’s son.”
In Birch Bayh’s eyes, women should be given the same chances that men have. Women deserved equality and this was evident in his legislation.
By Richard Veilleux
Former U.S. Sen. Birch Bayh of Indiana, considered the “father” of Title IX, the landmark federal legislation created more than 30 years ago that greatly expanded educational and athletics opportunities for girls and women, was honored during half-time of the women’s basketball game between UConn and Rutgers on Martin Luther King Day.
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| Former U.S. Senator Birch Bayh |
“Thanks to Title IX, women have taken their rightful place in American education – as students, teachers, administrators, and athletes,” said U.S. Sen. Christopher R. Dodd, in joining University President Philip Austin to present the award. “Sen. Bayh’s leadership as original author of this legislation has directly impacted the millions of young women whose lives have been touched and bettered through equality in education, collegiate athletics, and opportunities for success in virtually every aspect of American life.”
Although UConn began admitting women in 1893, many publicly funded universities did not admit women, and many women who did enter universities were discouraged from studying math, science, law, or medicine, before Title IX became law in 1972, Dodd said. Perhaps the most profound change came in the area of athletics, however; and participation by women in virtually every sport has boomed since passage of the act.
“Title IX represented a major advance not just for women, but for all Americans and for higher education,” said University President Philip E. Austin. “I’m proud that UConn has a long and worthy tradition in making a university education accessible to women, and I’m especially proud of our efforts to encourage women to pursue their aspirations in fields in which they have been historically underrepresented.
“And of course, the success of our women’s sports programs and what that means for all the people of Connecticut speaks for itself,” Austin added.
Sen. Bayh also played a leadership role in many other areas and in framing two Constitutional amendments: the 26th Amendment, which lowered the legal voting age to 18, and the Equal Rights Amendment, a proposed Constitutional amendment guaranteeing equal rights to women, which has been ratified by 35 states, including Connecticut.
Bayh, who also served in the Indiana House of Representatives, represented Indiana in the U.S. Senate from 1963 to 1981.
But for Evan Bayh, the apple has fallen far from the tree…he supports fatherhood (not parenthood)…this being sent out in preparation of the reintroduction of a Fatherhood Initiative Bill into the U.S. Senate:
Senator Bayh sent out this wonderful message for fathers on Father’s Day to the Hoosiers he represents. He missed sending out a message for mothers…tells you a lot, doesn’t it. He is up for re-election next year….Hoosiers mothers, are you paying attention?
Watch out for these bill just introduced:
S. 1309, introduced by Sen. Evan Bayh, (D-IN) and two co-sponsors.
H.R. 2979, introduced by Rep. Danny K. Davis (IL-7) and 27 co-sponsors.
President Obama told Senator Bayh last year he would sign the bill when he gets it.
The 2006 attempt at this bill (with U.S. Senator Barack Obama as one of the two co-sponsors) died:
The list below shows legislation in this and previous sessions of Congress that had the same title as this bill. Often bills are incorporated into other omnibus bills, and you may be able to track the status of provisions of this bill by looking for an omnibus bill below. Note that bills may have multiple titles.
This one needs to die too.
Is it fair for our government tax dollars to go help take children from mothers, to help fund a custody battle in court (among other ‘fatherly’ support things), help that is only available to fathers? These funds pay for dads to do this. All dads are not good (see Dastardly Dads). Abusive custodial fathers are constantly in the news, such as today: New Mexico Custodial Father Murdered Allegedly By 10 Year Old Son Who Couldn’t Take Anymore Abuse and Jon Pomeroy, Father of Seattle-area Girl, Pleads Guilty to Starving Her. Why should we help abusers take children from their moms? The American Judge’s Association knows this is a problem, why do you want to fund abusers to take custody of the children?
Yes, Evan, your dad took time to be with you. He didn’t seek to take your mother out of your life though, did he? Yes, this apple has fallen very far from the tree.
COURT WHORES WHO BECOME MADAMS
With a resume like hers it’s no wonder she’s as incompetent as she is….wonder how much blood money she’s actually taken?
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MOTHERHOOD: YOU CAN’T REPLACE HER
THE HAND THAT ROCKS THE CRADLE IS THE HAND THAT RULES THE WORLD
MATERNAL DEPRIVATION
Is being perpetrated against human babies by Family Court
The time is now to expose every criminal of this flawed system
- Blessings on the hand of women!
- Angels guard its strength and grace,
- In the palace, cottage, hovel,
- Oh, no matter where the place;
- Would that never storms assailed it,
- Rainbows ever gently curled;
- For the hand that rocks the cradle
- Is the hand that rules the world.
- Infancy’s the tender fountain,
- Power may with beauty flow,
- Mother’s first to guide the streamlets,
- From them souls unresting grow—
- Grow on for the good or evil,
- Sunshine streamed or evil hurled;
- For the hand that rocks the cradle
- Is the hand that rules the world.
- Woman, how divine your mission
- Here upon our natal sod!
- Keep, oh, keep the young heart open
- Always to the breath of God!
- All true trophies of the ages
- Are from mother-love impearled;
- For the hand that rocks the cradle
- Is the hand that rules the world.
- Blessings on the hand of women!
- Fathers, sons, and daughters cry,
- And the sacred song is mingled
- With the worship in the sky—
- Mingles where no tempest darkens,
- Rainbows evermore are hurled;
- For the hand that rocks the cradle
- Is the hand that rules the world.
DUNCAN & JACK
Angels, Duncan & Jack
A Mothers worst nightmare came true the day her ex-husband didn’t return their two sons, Duncan & Jack, back to their Mother Amy Leichtenberg.
In fact this mother had tried tirelessly to protect them, as we all do from abusive men. This case is not rare, in fact the increasing court ordered abuse is causing children to placed in danger by their father makes the news on a daily basis.
The justice system failed this family and now two little boys are taken forever from their Mother because the abuser knew that was the one thing that would hurt the Mother the most…this is their modus operandi, it’s the ultimate act of control, which is what an abuser does best.
Today Susan Murphy-Milano talks with Amy Leichtenberg about her tragedy from March. Don’t miss this important show can help others see the warning signs and how to protect yourself against your abuser and Family Court. Most importantly we need to learn how we can hold accountable the Judge and any other person(s) affiliated with the court ordered murder. A law should be in place so that other children will never part from their Mother, for ANY reason.
Show Time: 4:00 PM EST 3:00 PM CST 1:00 PM PST Call-in Number:
(347) 326-9337
If you have a question for Amy… and are unable to call in please email Susan Murphy-Milano at: contact@movingoutmovingon.com and it will be read on air Wednesday, September 9, 2009
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/susanmurphymilano
http://duncanandjackconnolly.com/
Duncan
Jack
FROM THE HORSE’S MOUTH
Straight From The U.S. Department of Health & Human Service’s Mouth: Children are More at Risk With Fathers
As she says…this is straight from the government statistics. The blogger Dastardly Dads did a great job on this by combing through all the statistics in the Third National Incidence Study of Child Abuse and Neglect (also known as NIS-3), put out by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services.
Why then does HHS give all these grants to father’s organizations to take custody of children from moms???
Fathers rights people often remind us that married couple families do better than single-parent households in nearly every measure of child abuse and neglect, which on the face of it is true. I suppose the public policy implication is keep everybody married with a man in the house (how we will do this is never made entirely clear–outlaw divorce?), and child abuse will lessen.
This is basically a variation of the BMW fallacy, or confusing correlation with causation. Here’s how it goes. BMW owners are nearly uniformly well-to-do successful professionals with six figure incomes who own their own homes. So–if somebody who’s low-income manages to buy a BMW, will they be financially successful?
No, they will be broke. Saddled with more car can they afford and with more financial troubles than ever.
So it is with marriage. People who are happily married tend to stay married and tend not to have families plagued with abuse, drug or alcohol issues, mental health problems, and other stuff like that. Married people who do have these problems in their relationships will tend to split up over time and form single parent households.
So the question is not comparing single parents with married households, but comparing the relative safety of father-headed households and mother-headed households, even though the numbers of these households are not the same. (And not because of the family courts. Most mother-headed families are that way by default, not by design or legal proceedings.) Hence, we convert the child abuse data from each type of household type into incident rates per 1,000 children.
So what do we have then? Let’s start by taking a peek at maltreatment (i.e. abuse and neglect) under what’s called the “harm standard.” Under the “harm standard,” children were considered to be maltreated only if they had already experienced harm from abuse or neglect. (The other standard is the “endangerment standard,” which is children who experience abuse or neglect that puts them at risk of harm, combined with kids who are alreadly harmed by abuse or neglect.)
Let’s start with overall maltreatment (abuse and neglect combined). Children living with their only their mothers experienced maltreatment under the Harm Standard at a rate of 26.1 per 1,000 children. Children living with only their dads? 36.6 per 1,000. As NIS-3 notes, “This rate is more than two and one-third times higher than that of children in two-parent families.”
Oops. So much for the theory that keeping a dad–any dad–in the family somehow confers protection from that nasty abusive mommy.
What about abuse as such? Children living with only their moms: 10.5 per 1,000. Children living with only their dads: 17.7 per 1,000. Here’s what NIS-3 says about that: “Children in father-only families had more than twice the risk of abuse as defined by the harm standard compared to children living in both-parent families. Their risk was more than one and two-thirds that of children in mother-only families, a marginal difference in this maltreatment category. Thus, the pattern in connection with abuse essentially reflects the higher risk of children who live with only their fathers.”
Physical abuse is a subcategory under abuse. Children living with only their moms: 6.4 per 1,000 children. Children living with only their dads: 10.5 per 1,000 children. Here’s what NIS-3 states: “When specific types of abuse under the Harm Standard are examined, it is apparent that the findings described in the previous paragraph stem from the disproportionate incidence of physical abuse among children in father-only households….An estimated 10.5 per 1,000 children living with only their fathers were harmed by physical abuse in 1993, which is more than two and two-thirds higher than the incidence rate of 3.9 per 1,000 for children living with both their parents. Children in mother-only families were not statistically different from those in both-parent households in their risk of physical abuse under the Harm Standard.”
Let’s turn to neglect now. Children living with only their moms: 16.7 per 1,000 children. Children living with only their dads: 21.9 per 1,000 children.
Emotional neglect is one of the subcategories under neglect. What do the numbers say now? Frankly, I figured moms would get nailed on something as nebulous as emotional neglect, but I was wrong. Children living with only their moms: 3.4 per 1,000 children. Children living with only their fathers: 8.8 per 1,000 children.
How about severity of injury? The data was said to be statisically unreliable for Fatalities, so let’s turn to Serious Injuries. Children living with only their moms: 10.0 per 1,000 children. Children living with only their dads: 14.0 per 1,000. And Moderate Injuries? Children living with only their moms: 14.7 per 1,000 children. Children living with only their dads: 20.5 per 1,000.
I’m not sure if there’s enough data geeks among you to go into maltreatment under the “endangerment standard” (see definition above), but I will go into it briefly anyway. Suffice it to say that the pattern is very much the same, except with bigger numbers.
All maltreatment (abuse and neglect) for children living with only their moms: 50.1 per 1,000 children. For children living with only their dads: 65.6 per 1,000.
All abuse for children living with only their moms: 18.1 per 1,000 children. For children living only with their dads: 31.0 per 1,000.
Physical abuse for children living with only their moms: 9.8 per 1,000 children. For children living with only their dads: 16.5 per 1,000. As NIS-3 concludes, “Similar to the pattern described above in relation to Harm standard physical abuse, children who live with only their fathers are at a marginally higher risk of physical abuse than those who live with two parents. (The father-only household is associated with two and one-third times greater risk.)”
To read the whole post, please visit Dastardly Dads.
MURDER-SUICIDE, IT HAPPENS MORE OFTEN THAN YOU THINK
DEAD
Taken away forever
Gone
DEAD
Taken away forever
Not one day goes by that a murder-suicide has NOT occurred.
The ‘father/men rights’ activists try to say that women, not men, commit more acts of violence and also murder.
These men are becoming so entrenched with hating women that they are seriously losing the plot. I say to all women that are in an abusive relationship and are thinking of finally getting out…please be EXTRA careful! The precautions that were previously taken when leaving an abusive relationship should be upped an notch or two. If you think you cannot do it on your own, know you can! If you think your abuser will change, no he will not! Or if you fear for your children’s safety you definitely should! The following is an abstract from a publication regarding murder-suicide from 2005…
I am sure nothing has changed since then except that the rate is probably higher for 2009
From Murder-Suicide: An Overview by Roger W. Byard M.D.
Murder-suicide is an act in which the perpetrator of a homicide kills him or herself after killing the victim(s). Rates of murder-suicide are fairly consistent across communities and are much lower than rates for homicide or suicide. The most common murder-suicide scenario involves a White male perpetrator in his 40s who kills his estranged spouse and perhaps his children before killing himself. The three most common categories of murder-suicide are cases in which (1) the act is caused by jealously or concern about age or illness; (2) the act is perpetrated by a parent who kills all of the children and then themselves; and (3) the act involves disgruntled employees, cult members, or members of religious or political groups who target a large number of victims before committing suicide. Aspects of the investigation are reviewed, international rates of murder-suicide are presented, and the possible motivations for murder-suicide are briefly considered.
 forever young
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FIFTEENTH ANNIVERSARY OF THE VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN ACT
THE WHITE HOUSE
Office of the Press Secretary
___________________________________________________________________________
For Immediate Release September 14, 2009
FIFTEENTH ANNIVERSARY OF THE VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN ACT
- – - – - – -
BY THE PRESIDENT OF THE UNITED STATES OF AMERICA
A PROCLAMATION
Today, we commemorate a milestone in our Nation’s struggle to end violence against women. Authored by then United States Senator Joe Biden and signed into law in September 1994, the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) was the first law to create a comprehensive response to this problem at the national level. This landmark achievement has helped our Nation make great strides towards addressing this global epidemic.
VAWA sought to improve our criminal justice system’s response to violence against women and to increase services available to victims. It directed all 50 States to recognize and enforce protection orders issued by other jurisdictions, and it created new Federal domestic violence crimes. The law also authorized hundreds of millions of dollars to communities and created a national domestic violence hotline.
This bipartisan accomplishment has ushered in a new era of responsibility in the fight to end violence against women. In the 15 years since VAWA became law, our Nation’s response to domestic violence, dating violence, sexual assault, and stalking has strengthened. Communities recognize the special needs of victims and appreciate the benefits of collaboration among professionals in the civil and criminal justice system, victim advocates, and other service providers. With the support of VAWA funds, dedicated units of law enforcement officers and specialized prosecutors have grown more numerous than ever before. Most importantly, victims are more likely to have a place to turn for help — for emergency shelter and crisis services, and also for legal assistance, transitional housing, and services for their children.
Despite this great progress, our Nation’s work remains unfinished. More families and communities must recognize that the safety of our children relates directly to the safety of our mothers. Access to sexual assault services, especially in rural America, must be increased. American Indian and Alaska Native women experience the highest rates of violence, and we must make it a priority to address this urgent problem. We must also work with diverse communities to make sure the response to violence is relevant and culturally appropriate. We must prevent the homicide of women and girls who have suffered from domestic violence, dating violence, sexual assault, and stalking.
Far too many women in our communities and neighborhoods, and across the world, continue to suffer from violence. Inspired by the promise and achievement of the Violence Against Women Act, our Nation stands united in its determination to end these crimes and help those in need.
NOW, THEREFORE, I, BARACK OBAMA, President of the United States of America, by virtue of the authority vested in me by the Constitution and laws of the United States, do hereby proclaim the Fifteenth Anniversary of the Violence Against Women Act. I call upon men and women of all ages, communities, organizations, and all levels of government, to work in collaboration to end violence against women.
IN WITNESS WHEREOF, I have hereunto set my hand this fourteenth day of September, in the year of our Lord two thousand nine, and of the Independence of the United States of America the two hundred and thirty-fourth.
BARACK OBAMA
YOU’RE NOT BETTER THAN ME
Dedicated to my abusers…J— and C—-….you might have tried to break me but I’m not broken….my life is better than ever…..you never had me.
Dedicated to my loving husband, best friend, soul mate, Chad
Sisters O Sisters
We lost our green land, we lost our clean air ,
We lost our true wisdom and we live in despair.
O sisters, o sisters, lets stand up right now,
Its never too late to start from the start.
O wisdom, o wisdom, thats what we ask for,
And, yes, my dear sisters, we must learn to ask.
Wisdom, o wisdom, thats what we ask for,
Thats what we live for no-oo-ow.
Wisdom, o wisdom, thats what we ask for,
Thats what we live for no-oo-ow.
O sisters, o sisters, lets wake up right now,
Its never too late to shout from our hearts.
O freedom, o freedom, thats what we fight for,
And, yes, my dear sisters, we must learn to fight.
Freedom, o freedom, thats what we ask for,
Thats what we live for no-oo-ow.
O freedom, o freedom, thats what we ask for,
Thats what we live for no-oo-ow.
O sisters, o sisters, lets give up no more,
Its never too late to build a new world .
O new world, o new world, thats what we live for,
And, yes, my dear sisters, we must learn to live.
New world, O new world, thats what we live for,
Thats what we must now learn to build.
O new world , o new world, thats what we live for,
Thats what we must now learn to build.
New world, o new world, thats what we live for,
Thats what we must now learn to build.
O new world, o new world, thats what we live for,
Thats what we must now learn to build.
lyrics by Yoko Ono
THIS IS HOW WE DO IT–IN WISconSIN
Wisconsin, The “Dairy” State, The “Badger” State but most importantly a State of CONFUSION. Where child protection workers and/or “social” workers do not know how to draw the line in their “profession”. Where county employees are able to lie under oath, place children in abusers hands and play God.
Another shocking case of legal and ethical misconduct by a Milwaukee WI social worker, participating in the decision of whether a Black mother would retain custody of her two children. Instead of helping her to get her life together, he began a sexual relationship with her, impregnated her, and when she gave birth to their child, he took custody of the child, all while working for the Bureau of Milwaukee Child Welfare.
Peter Nelson, a social worker with the Bureau of Milwaukee Child Welfare, acknowledges that he had sex with a then current client, thirty-two year-old Theola Nealy, during a period in which Ms. Nealy was trying to demonstrate to this social worker and to his employer, the Bureau of Milwaukee Child Welfare, that the client was capable of caring for two children who had been taken from her by the Bureau. Peter Nelson has acknowledged that he engaged in sexual intercourse and impregnated his client during the course of the social worker/client relationship.
There are at least two chargeable felony statutes
available under Wisconsin law, each with a maximum 15 year prison term per conviction:” – - Atty. Francis L. Holland
- “Sexual Exploitation by a Therapist,” (Wisconsin Statutes Section 940.22 (2)), (Class 3 Felony), and
- “Second Degree Sexual Assault” (Wisconsin Statutes Chapter 940, Section 940.225(c) (2), paragraphs (a), (b), and/or (c)). (Class 3 Felony)
Class 3 felonies are punishable by a maximum 15 year prison term for each count.
“If convicted and sentenced consecutively
for all potential Class 3 felonies
Peter Nelson could conceivably face life imprisonment.”- – Atty. Francis L. Holland
Legislative Reference Bureau, p. 12.
Peter Nelson, a social worker with the Bureau of Milwaukee Child Welfare, acknowledges that he had sex with a then current client, thirty-two year-old Theola Nealy, during a period in which Ms. Nealy was trying to demonstrate to this social worker and to his employer, the Bureau of Milwaukee Child Welfare, that the client was capable of caring for two children who had been taken from her by the Bureau. Peter Nelson has acknowledged that he engaged in sexual intercourse and impregnated his client during the course of the social worker/client relationship.
“If convicted Nelson would be required to register as a serious sex offender,
face lifetime court supervision.”
Wis. Stats. Section 301.45, LRB-01-1B-1, p 2. , Wis. Stats, Section 939.615.
Ms. Nealy reports that she engaged in sex with social worker Nealy because he represented to her that he would not authorize the return of her two children in Bureau custody otherwise. http://www.wisn.com/news/20606268/detail.html
The District Attorney’s Office told 12 News it will not file criminal charges against Nelson because the sex was consensual, and it’s not a crime for a social worker to have sex with a client. That news devastated Nealy.
“He should go to jail,” Nealy said. http://www.wisn.com/news/20606268/detail.html
The criminal law issue this case presents is whether, as per the Milwaukee District Attorney’s Office and as a matter of law, “it’s not a crime for a social worker to have sex with a client,” or whether Wisconsin state statutes specifically criminalize the sex acts to which the social worker has confessed.
WISCONSIN LAW SPECIFICALLY FORBIDS
“SEXUAL EXPLOITATION BY A THERAPIST”
It appears, based on the social worker’s statements to the ABC affiliate, that Peter Nelson may have committed the criminal acts of “Sexual Exploitation by a Therapist,” (Wisconsin Statutes Section 940.22 (2)) and “Second Degree Sexual Assault” (Wisconsin Statutes Chapter 940, Section 940.225(c)(2), paragraphs (a), (b), and/or (c)).
Wisconsin Statutes Section 940.22 (2), entitled “Sexual Exploitation by a Therapist” provides:
(2) SEXUAL CONTACT PROHIBITED. Any person who is or who holds himself or herself out to be a therapist and who intentionally has sexual contact with a patient or client during any ongoing therapist−patient or therapist−client relationship, regardless of whether it occurs during any treatment, consultation, interview or examination, is guilty of a Class F felony. Consent is not an issue in an action under this subsection. (Emphasis added.) http://www.legis.state.wi.us/statutes/Stat0940.pdf
Section 940.22 (1)(i) defines the term “therapist” broadly and specifically includes social workers among those who commit a criminal act when they engage in sexual intercourse or other sexual contact with clients. Section 940.22 (1) (i) states that:
“Therapist” means a physician, psychologist, social worker, marriage and family therapist, professional counselor, nurse, chemical dependency counselor, member of the clergy or other person, whether or not licensed or certified by the state, who performs or purports to perform psychotherapy. http://www.legis.state.wi.us/statutes/Stat0940.pdf
Explaining the application of Section 940.22 (1) (i), the State of Wisconsin Legislative Reference Bureau, Informational Bulletin 01-1, January 2001, says that Wisconsin Statutes Section 940.22 (2), entitled, “Sexual Exploitation by a Therapist”:
Prohibits intentional sexual contact by any person who is or who holds himself or herself out to be a therapist with a patient or client during any ongoing therapist-patient or therapist-client relationship, regardless of whether it is or is not consensual and whether it occurs during any treatment, consultation, interview, or examination. “Therapist” is defined in Section 940.22 (1) (i) as “a physician, psychologist, SOCIAL WORKER, marriage and family therapist, professional counselor, nurse, chemical dependency counselor, member of the clergy or other person, whether or not licensed or certified by the state, who performs or purports to perform psychotherapy.” As provided by Section 940.22 (3), a therapist who suspects that a patient or client has been sexually exploited by another therapist may, with the patient’s or client’s consent, report the sexual contact to the appropriate regulating body or the district attorney (Class C felony). (Emphasis added.) Legislative Reference Bureau, Informational Bulletin 01-1, January 2001
Although the Milwaukee District Attorney’s Office has announced its decision not to prosecute the social worker, “because the sex was consensual”, Wisconsin Statutes Section 940.22 (2), entitled “Sexual Exploitation by a Therapist” clearly states, under the heading “SEXUAL CONTACT PROHIBITED”, that “Consent is not an issue in an action under this subsection.” Therefore, the defense that the District Attorney’s Office offers for the social worker’s behavior is quite specifically excluded as a potential defense by the statute itself therapist anti-sex abuse statute itself. Consent simply is not available as a defense when sexual contact occurs between a therapist and client or patient.
Legislative Reference Bureau, Informational Bulletin 01-1, January 2001 makes it clear that a social worker is a “therapist” for purpose of the statute, so Peter Nelson was statutorily prohibited from having sexual contact and sexual intercourse with his client, Theola Nealy.
This blog will not only continue to expose the dirty little secrets of Milwaukee and their corrupt officials….coming soon….the misdeeds of another Wisconsin County….OCONTO
EVER WONDER…
What the “Father Rights” Joke about? Below is a joke found on FR group…..how appropos….since they’re always complaining about how much child support they have to pay.
Tired of constantly being broke & stuck in an unhappy marriage, a young husband decided to solve both problems by taking out a large insurance policy on his wife with himself as the beneficiary, and then arranging to have her killed.
A ‘friend of a friend’ put him in touch with a nefarious dark-side underworld figure who went by the name of ‘Artie.’ Artie then explained to the husband that his going price for snuffing out a spouse was $5,000. The husband said he was willing to pay that amount, but that he wouldn’t have any cash on hand until he could collect his wife’s insurance money.
Artie insisted on being paid at least something up front, so the man opened his wallet, displaying the single dollar bill that rested inside. Artie sighed, rolled his eyes, & reluctantly agreed to accept the dollar as down payment for the dirty deed.
A few days later, Artie followed the man’s wife to the local Super Wal-Mart store. There, he surprised her in the produce department & proceeded to strangle her with his gloved hands. As the poor unsuspecting woman drew her last breath & slumped to
the floor ……. The manager of the produce department stumbled unexpectedly onto the murder scene Unwilling to leave any living witnesses behind, ol’ Artie had no choice but to strangle the produce manager as well.
However, unknown to Artie, the entire proceedings were captured by the hidden security cameras & observed by the store’s security guard, who immediately called the police. Artie was caught and arrested before he could even leave the store.
Under intense questioning at the police station, Artie revealed the whole sordid plan, including his unusual financial arrangements with the hapless husband who was also quickly arrested.
The next day in the newspaper, the headline declared…
*’ARTIE CHOKES 2 for $1.00 @ WAL-MART!’*
Why doesn’t Family Court get “it” that there is no such thing as joint/shared parenting when mothers have to deal with this type of a man?
Then this today…
Northfield man gets 15 years for killing mother of his five children
MAYS LANDING – Friday used to be the day Louis Ceresa took his five children out for pizza.
But this Friday, instead of picking them up, the Northfield man was sentenced to 15 years in prison for killing their mother.
Ceresa admitted in July that he strangled Amanda Carmen, 34, while the two sat in her minivan outside his Revere Avenue home during a scheduled custody exchange Jan. 11.
Superior Court Judge Bernard DeLury called the plea agreement’s recommended 15-year sentence “lenient,” but said that Ceresa’s willingness to admit his guilt spared his children from a painful trial and his eldest from having to testify in court.
The couple’s 11-year-old son witnessed the killing.
“I can’t tell you what I did that night or why I did it,” Ceresa, 33, told the judge Friday. “I don’t know what happened.”
When he pleaded to aggravated manslaughter in July, Ceresa said “I exploded” after Carmen told him she was moving away with their children.
“I didn’t mean for this to happen,” he said at the time.
“To lose a child, at any age, from illness or accident is horrific,” Carmen’s mother, Margaret, said in a statement read in court by victim counselor Trisha Hayek. “But to lose her because someone was angry and just ‘didn’t mean to kill her’ is unbearable.”
Now, Carmen’s children will not have their mother with them for all the important things in life, she said: “What Louis did will have an effect on our family not just now, but also for generations to come.”
“I have no excuse for what I did,” Ceresa said.
He apologized to his children – who were not in court – as well as the dozen family members there to support him. He also apologized to the Carmens, explaining, “they were my family for many years.”
And once again, as he had when he pleaded, Ceresa professed his love for Carmen.
“Louis claims he loved Amanda,” Margaret Carmen wrote. “How do you put your hands around the throat of someone you love and watch them take their last breath of life? How is his defense, ‘I didn’t mean to’?”
But defense attorney Anthony Previti said the killing was an anomaly, and Ceresa is a good man who has shown consistent remorse since the killing.
Previti said Ceresa asked that nothing positive be said about him in court, “but I am compelled to say it.”
“I don’t feel like a good person,” Ceresa said. “I do feel rotten. I do feel like crap, and I should. I’ll make sure I come down on myself for the rest of my life.”
For at least the next 12 years, that life will be in prison. He must serve 85 percent of the imposed sentence before he is eligible for parole.
By that time, the victim’s mother said, the children “will have the time to grow up and understand the situation and how they feel about it.”
She said she would like to see Ceresa spend the rest of his life in jail, but the family accepted the plea deal to spare her 11-year-old grandson “the agony of having seen his mother strangled to death by his father and then have to testify and put his father in prison.”
It is more time than the nine years Millville police Sgt. Robert Vanaman received after admitting during jury selection for his murder trial in March that he killed his wife and tried to cover up the crime in 2006.
In August, DeLury sentenced Rosina McKinnie to nine years in prison under a plea agreement in which she admitted to fatally stabbing her live-in boyfriend Aramis Smith during a 2008 party at the couple’s Pleasantville home. There was a history of domestic violence against McKinnie in that case.
Previti told DeLury on Friday how the judge often said domestic violence cases are one step away from homicide. But in this case, “there was no warning,” Previti said.
Police had not broken up fights between the two. Ceresa had no criminal background.
“I don’t believe he’s even had a parking ticket,” Previti said.
But there was daily alcohol consumption and a history of cocaine use, DeLury pointed out.
“This defendant was not entirely a law-abiding person, as evidence by his frequent (drug) abuse.”
Ceresa relinquished his parental rights. The children, ages 5 to 11, now live with their maternal grandmother in Egg Harbor Township.
“I lost my children. I lost Amanda. I lost everything over something stupid,” Ceresa told the judge. “When I die, I’ll pay for this again. I’ll be judged again.”
BUTTERFLIES & HURRICANES
“Children say that people are hung sometimes for speaking the truth.” St. Joan of Arc
“I AM NOT AFRAID, I WAS BORN TO DO THIS”
St. Joan of Arc & Mama Liberty
“My child and I have been threatened and intimidated by the possibility that I may go to jail and be held in contempt due to my child refusing to have visitation with her abusive father and she may go to foster care.” Her father has told her this over and over again, as well as Judge David Miron.
This is not the first time that this mother has had to protect her child from the father. Oconto County CPS did substantiate sexual abuse allegations against the the father, he found a loop hole and had the recused Family Court Commissioner, Frank M. Calvert unsubstantiated the sexual abuse allegations.
The system has failed my child, from Oconto County and its CPS worker, Carrie Silbernagel-Burke to Marinette County Circuit Court Judge, David Miron.
This father does not have the means to care for her. She has no bed or a bedroom due to the fact he lives with his mother who only has two bedrooms.
The 11 yr old child is given the choice to sleep either on the floor in the living room or down in the basement. She has no privacy or space to call her own while she is in her fathers care. She is continually tormented and tortured by both her paternal grandmother and father, this is nothing new.
This child has been exposed to domestic violence by her father towards her mother several times. She was also a passenger in his car when he was arrested for driving drunk in the middle of the day. The CPS worker, Carrie Silbernagel-Burke told the mother:
“drinking and driving with his daughter did not make him a bad father, he made a bad choice.”
This was nothing compared to the sexual abuse my child endured and other court ordered abuse.
My child has taken her stand against her abuser, the court ordered abuse and threats of foster care by Judge David Miron.
My child is not an empty vessel, she KNOWS where she is safe. She has not lied to social workers, even with her father prodding her to.
All her needs are provided by her loving Mother and she knows that
“I am not going to shut up, give up or go away!”
“My only wish is for my daughter to be safe and sane.”
If this mother is jailed for doing what any mother would do for her child
the consequences to my accusers and judges will be as follows.
There will be a hunger strike (Troscadh), and all the battles up until now were training for we intend to win the war and expose the dirty little secrets of family court and the criminals that run it.
Change
Everything you are
And everything you were
Your number has been called
Fights, battles have begun
Revenge will surely come
Your hard times are ahead
Best
You’ve got to be the best
You’ve got to change the world
And use this chance to be heard
Your time is nowChange
Everything you are
And everything you were
Your number has been called
Fights and battles ‘ve begun
Revenge will surely come
Your hard times are ahead
Best
You’ve got to be the best
You’ve got to change the world
And use this chance to be heard
Your time is now
Don’t
Let yourself down
Don’t let yourself go
Your last chance has arrived
Best
You’ve got to be the best
You’ve got to change the world
And use this chance to be heard
Your time is now
I KNOW WHY THE CAGED BIRD SINGS
On November 12, 2009 in Marinette County Courthouse, I have to answer to a contempt hearing regarding why my 11 yr old refuses visitation with her father. I am being held accountable and the “Honorable” Judge David Miron has already sentenced me to 30 days, if my daughter would have returned to her father then I would have purged that contempt. He also threatened to place my child in foster care…her father told her she’s going…she says she’d rather go there then be with him.
But she hasn’t gone and he hasn’t come to pick her up…but he insists that I am withholding her. If I am jailed I WILL HUNGER STRIKE….make no mistake……I do this for my daughter and every other child that is made to live with their abuser, their mothers former abuser…we will never give up, shut up or go away!!!!!!
I played pretend between the trees, and fed my houseguests bark and leaves, and laughed in my pretty bed of green.
I had a dream
That I could fly from the highest swing.
I had a dream.
Long walks in the dark through woods grown behind the park, I asked God who I’m supposed to be.
The stars smiled down on me, God answered in silent reverie. I said a prayer and fell asleep.
I had a dream
That I could fly from the highest tree.
I had a dream.
Now I’m old and feeling grey. I don’t know what’s left to say about this life I’m willing to leave.
I lived it full and I lived it well, there’s many tales I’ve lived to tell. I’m ready now, I’m ready now, I’m ready now to fly from the highest wing.
I had a dream
That I could fly from the highest swing.
I had a dream.
The stars smiled down on me, God answered in silent reverie. I said a prayer and fell asleep.
That I could fly from the highest tree.
I had a dream.
I lived it full and I lived it well, there’s many tales I’ve lived to tell. I’m ready now, I’m ready now, I’m ready now to fly from the highest wing.
HAVE YOU BEEN BRAINSMASHED?
“Hey! My name’s Tony and I wanted to to let you in on a how you can make your child a mess and get back at the kids mother, all you got to do is accuse them of PAS…that’s right Parental Alienation Syndrome, a.k.a. “brainwashing”.
Don’t worry that it was invented by a total loon and pro-pedophile, Dr. Richard Gardner, who wound up offing himself by stabbing himself…a lot.
Don’t even fuss about the fact that PAS is not even accepted by any mental health care provider worth their salt anyways….hehehe If you think you might be a victim of PAS or your kids were or are a victim of PAS, or wait a minute, you’re the victim, but then the kids are the victim too, no, okay, you’re the victim but the child is the TRUE victim…yeah…that’s the ticket….fool me twice, shame on you…ah, you get it.
Please take the below quiz to find out if one of yous guys is a victim.
Question 1 Are you an Asshole?
Question 2 Does or did more than one person have a restraining order against you?
Question 3 Do/did you hit your wife/girlfriend?
Question 4 Do/did you hit your wife/girlfriend?
If you answered yes to any of these questions…then congratulations!
You have PAS or your kid does…doesn’t matter….somebody has it and your lawyer, the judge, the guardian ad litem and other court whores are going to profit from it and your kids are seriously going to hate you for accusing their mother of it, but they already do anyways don’t they?
BTW….if you can’t spell “brainwashing” or use the word “brainsmashing” instead of using the correct word…you probably shouldn’t use it at all.
Just When You Think You’re Out, They Pull You Back In…
Do you spend time with your family? Good. Because a man that doesn't spend time with his family can never be a real man. Don Corleone
Family Court a.k.a. Organized Crime is one of the most dangerous organizations in the world.
Children and Mothers are victimized everyday by the “Goodfellas” that run it.
Let’s break down all the criminals that believe that the best interests for children is taking them away from the primary caregiver, usually the mother, and placing them in that hands of abusers, usually fathers.
The flawed Family Court system starts out with a Judge or “Godfather” who takes his cues from his Consigliere or Guardian Ad Litem. Even though the Godfather ultimately makes the decisions he relies heavily on what he says.
The Underboss or Family Court Commissioner is usually the one who carries out the actions of the Godfather and Consigliere, although he’s not a real “judge” he’s appointed by his Godfather.
Now in order to support the “crime family” they need the help of the “Capos” who are Lawyers, Psychologists, Mediators and any other court whore who takes money in exchange for looking out for the “best interests” of your child(ren), the ones that make you an offer you can’t refuse.
These Capos are in charge of the “Soldiers” who carry out orders that come down directly or indirectly from “The Godfather”.
In a small county in Wisconsin there is such a set up of Mafiosos that pilfer and pillage good parents by taking their money, but more importantly their children.
This Organization is known as Oconto County Family Court which is aided and abetted by another crime family, Marinette County Family Court.
The Godfathers, either Judge Richard Delforge or Judge David Miron and their Underbosses, FCC Frank M. Calvert and Francis Boyle do everything and anything to make certain that the protective parent (mother) pays dearly, mostly in money but especially in fear.
They intimidate, threaten and even go as far as ripping loving parents away from children who beg not to have to live with the abuser (the father).
This crime family has ONE objective and that is to make more money for ALL of their friends. The popular Consigliere and “Golden Boy” of Guardian Ad Litems, Aaron Krzewinski, is almost always handpicked by his Underboss and/or Godfather. He’s the one that smiles to your face, acts indifferent and NEVER does his job. Even when his job details that he must make sure there is no history of Domestic Violence and with a law enacted entailing,
“a rebuttable presumption against awarding a parent joint or sole legal custody if the court finds that the parent has engaged in a pattern or serious incident of abuse.”
click here for a .pdf file of Act 130
he apparently doesn’t make use of the Wisconsin Circuit Court Access as a tool to actually DO his job, which would provide him with details of patterns of abuse, but that matters not to the Consigliere, he wants to keep the Godfather and Underboss happy because those are the men that send business his way.
But at the end of the day when all the Mafiosos gather to play poker, drink beer above lawyer/ wannabe Godfather, Ed Burkes’ law office and think of new ways to keep them all rich and in jobs, including his child protection worker wife, they don’t realize the ramifications of all of their actions collectively as a organized crime organization.
What all the crime families/Family Courts don’t know or realize is that a lot of intelligent, strong and persistent Mothers are not going to let them get away with their crimes any longer. The truth is out and the line in the sand is drawn…because I’m not going to shut up, give up or go away!
Word to the wiseguys….the RICO Act isn’t just for La Cosa Nostra anymore!
SHE WILL BE LOVED…
As October approaches I think about Halloween, the changing color of Autumn and most importantly Domestic Violence Awareness month. Since being a survivor since 2005 when I made a promise to myself to never allow any man to abuse me again.
In 2008 I began helping other women caught in abusive relationships, networking with other survivors and continuing my journey from victim to survivor. The attitude of “pay it forward” I’ve held has come to fruition with my blog and website, alongside several other projects that I’m positive the “powers that be” will not be pleased with.
I have pledged my life to help women that need it
I will never shut up, give up or go away, not now, not ever
I AM A SURVIVOR, WARRIOR, MOTHER, WOMAN
I AM STRONGER NOW
MORE THAN EVER
THANK YOU
I was 18 when I was first hit by the man who would someday become my first husband. I will never forget that first time nor any other later abuse, but they say, the first cut is the deepest, but they probably never have been abused, because women can and will take abuse for years for various reasons. Learning that you deserve love and safety is hard to recognize.
It took me three daughters and almost ten years of marriage and one baby bottle thrown “tossed” at my face while holding my 14 month old baby girl in my arms that made me realize my dreams and hopes for happiness were waning. My ex-husband to this day maintains that he has never abused me and merely “tossed” the bottle at me….who tosses anything to anyone while holding a baby…especially a bottle filled with milk?
My abuser knew my weakness… my daughters, and taking them from me.
But he’s never expected the strength I’ve gained by his rigorous training of making his “perfect family”….but he doesn’t know that….
Children and mothers never truly part -
Bound in the beating of each other’s heart.
- Charlotte Gray
But this is not the moral of the story, it is empowerment, growth, loving and respecting yourself, but most of all forgiving yourself for not recognizing the signs of an abuser. Once you are a full-fledged survivor you will recollect what your training has taught you, he had tried to break you but you are NOT broken. I found my love, best friend and soul mate. I have forever broken the circle of abuse and I can now say that I love myself first, I didn’t settle, I fought and I never gave up. I hope that my daughters and their daughters someday will never have to experience the abuse that I have endured.
But IF I had to do it all again, knowing NOW what I didn’t know then…I would never change what brought me here to this day….for anything.
- TRUE LOVE FOREVER
TURNING JAPANESE
14th century Japan was mostly a matriarchal society, where women ruled the household
The following is re-posted from “Dastardly Dads”, after reading this story it is amazing how Japanese society still respects mother and child bonds while the American society devalues it as much as possible. I hope the Japanese government stays strong and realizes what dirty little tricks that American courts and fathers play on mothers and children.
Japanese view: American dad kidnapping kids “not news”
I was interested to track down Japanese views on American dad CHRISTOPHER SAVOIE and his attempt to abduct his children from their mother and take them back to the U.S. And I just couldn’t find anything. I kept wondering why my searches of various Japanese newspapers–even in Fukuoka–kept coming up with zero.
Then I found this piece on CNN. Seems the Japanese don’t see this as “news,” so they’re not reporting it. Needless to say, the apparently Japanese reporter who interviewed various Americans found that they all declared–in a rather jingoistic humph–that Japan’s ways of doing things were “archaic and rigid” because they’re different from the way things are now done in U.S. The reporter also asserts that Japan treats DV and child abuse as strictly private affairs, and ignores them somehow because they believe in sole custody. Where the evidence for that is, I don’t know. And you don’t think that Americans try to sweep DV and child abuse under the rug too, especially in family court? Of course they do.
Frankly, I’m not seeing any of it. According to one of the very few articles on the attempted abduction to come out of Japan (Japan Times–posted here earlier today), one of the reasons that Japan doesn’t endorse the Hague Convention is because too many Japanese women are being abused by foreigner husbands, so there’s a need to protect them and their children post-divorce through sole custody. So the Japanese seem to be quite aware of domestic violence, at least no less so than the Americans, who are always trying to push battered women into joint custody with a violent ex-husband.
The comments to this CNN piece are interesting too. Of course, you have the usual self-righteous fathers rights types and disgrunted ex-husbands. But you also see a lot of Japanese anger over American attempts to meddle in their family policies. I’ve reproduced some of these mostly Japanese responses below the CNN piece. Oh, and check out the little digs regarding the U.S. criminal justice system, high violent crime rates, high divorce rates, and lack of universal health care. Juicy stuff!
An interesting question comes to mind here. If the FRs insist that selfish American women get divorces in high numbers because they get everything (in reality, they mostly get poverty and joint custody), then WHY is the divorce rate much lower in Japan? With the promise of sole custody, you’d figure every married Japanese woman would be clamoring for a divorce–if the FR assumption were correct. Quite the opposite. So it doesn’t appear that divorce rates necessarily have much to do with cultural assumptions about custody.
http://inthefield.blogs.cnn.com/2009/09/30/family-mans-plight-not-news-in-japan/
Family man’s plight not news in Japan
Posted: 806 GMT
Christopher Savoie’s case is playing out dramatically over the airwaves and in the blogosphere — an American man with sole legal custody of his young children, jailed in Japan for trying to bring his abducted children back to the U.S.
But if you’re Japanese, you’ve never heard of Savoie, because the story hasn’t been on a newscast or in the newspapers.
Based in Tokyo, among our first calls was to the local press in Fukuoka. The newspaper told us “This isn’t news.” When we asked if they would cover it because of the growing international interest, the paper flatly said, “No.”
That response is a window into the Japanese mindset of the privacy of the home, and helps explain the cultural and legal clash in which Savoie is trapped.
Invading into the domicile is considered taboo, where issues like domestic violence and child abuse still culturally remain private matters.
Japanese family law follows suit, hesitant to order families to recognize joint custody. It prefers to obey the cultural norm of the woman having primary custody, which often means the father never has any contact with the children. That would be unthinkable in a U.S. court, which sees joint custody as a matter of course in divorce.
The Americans I’ve interviewed in this story say they’re flabbergasted by Japan’s archaic and rigid laws. But in this culture, there’s no discussion about it. They don’t even consider it news.
Posted by: Kyung Lah
And a few of the reader responses:
How is it archaic just because it disagrees with American laws and values?
Why is it always that American values are considered fashionable, while East Asian values are considered a thing of the past? Americans need to wake up and start to realize that as they associate themselves more in this ever increasingly globalized world, that them and their values are not superior.
American opinion regarding children and divorce is very onesided. Yesterday the news was about the Japanese wife that kidnapped the kids. If she ever comes back to USA most likely she will be harassed and most likely jailed by the USA justice system ( police, prosecutors, judges, marshals, jail people) . This problem is temporary for until the kids become of age when they will anyway separate from their parents. USA thinks that it’s justice system is perfect and the rest of the world’s is flawed. Just let the kids be happy and with the next wife the man can be more caring. He can also visit them and make his presence known by sending gifts. All in all is not lost.
If this was about a European or any one else besides an American this wouldn`t be news Either. Epic Fail CNN. 85% of your news is about the united states. Sad really.
Well, the gentleman has apparently broken the law, and without knowing any details of his particular case it is impossible to justify his actions. As far as Japanese laws are concerned, the country enjoys 97% crime solvency rates, versus around 19% in the USA. Domestic abuse is a problem in every society, but there is hardly an indication of its predominance in Japan.
Did the father get the Japanese citizenship for a free medical care for his heart ailment? Or was it the mother’s idea to keep him and the kids under the Japanese law, in which case she is a smarter and more fit parent I must say.
CNN Japan site reveals some facts and the other side of the story which caught my attention. Mr. Savoie and the ex- wife is still legally married in Japan since they never filed for divorce in Japan. Japanese police discovered that Mr. Savoie has been Naturalized in Japan since 4years ago and therefore this case is dealt as married couple and the father trying to abduct children from their country.Both children hold Japanese passports.These facts were never discussed on American news.
also, on the talks about american v japans society and their laws, the crime rate here is almost nil in compairison to the US so abduction, even if the american laws said they were your children is a serious offense. also if this news were televised in japan or put in the news papers, it would be the american, mr savoie who is portraid as the criminal because he tried to take the children from the mother, who has sole custody, so if your asking for news coverage you would be asking for another bad light to be shinned on america
I am a Japanese. You are so right about one thing, “invading into the domicile is considered taboo” in Japan. I can’t even believe that picure of his kids and his ex-wife is exposed to the world and being controberted behind their back. I think Japan have many things to learn from other countries, but we have to respect different culture. As to this case, the problem is that they got divorced.Why dovorce rate is high in the States?I hope Japan and U.S. will work together to bring back quiet life to these kids
MOTHER
Child
WHAT A WANKER
Anyone that doubts that women get treated like shit in court will have their eyes opened to this. It appears that Judge Jerkoff is as reprehensible as any Family/Divorce Court Judge I’ve had the “pleasure” of meeting.
Lawyer Says Judge Masturbated at Hearing, Carried Out Vendetta When She
Complained
By JOE HARRISKANSAS CITY, Kan. (CN) – A district court judge appeared to be
masturbating and used foul language during a divorce mediation, an attorney
claims in Federal Court. The attorney claims Judge Kevin P. Moriarty’s
actions were so offensive even her estranged husband complained about it
during their divorce trial.
Kimberly Ireland claims that while mediating, Judge Kevin P. Moriarty
tried to discuss her underwear and her sex life, though neither was relevant
to the divorce matter. And she claims that “Moriarty appeared to be
masturbating during the mediation..”
Ireland says that Moriarty’s actions were so outrageous that her
estranged husband Kevin testified about them at the divorce trial.
Ireland says she filed a complaint about Moriarty’s behavior on Oct. 3,
2007 with the Kansas Commission on Judicial Qualifications.
In response to her complaint, she says, Moriarty launched his own
investigation into her private life and discussed her with the judge
presiding over her divorce case and with the opposing counsel.
Ireland claims Moriarty used his power to influence her divorce
proceeding, to start an ethical investigation of her and to have court
personnel write false letters to the commission attacking her and claiming
that Moriarty did nothing wrong.
On Nov. 15, 2007, the Kansas Commission on Judicial Qualifications
filed an ethical complaint against Ireland, claiming she made false
accusations about Moriarty, though it never conducted an investigation into
her claims, according to her complaint.
Ireland said Attorney Edward Byrne, at Moriarty’s request, filed a
complaint with the commission against her on Dec. 12, 2007.
Moriarty served as an investigator for the Kansas Disciplinary
Administrator for 15 years and serves on the Tenth Judicial District
Judicial Nominating Commission that appoints Johnson County District Court
judges. The Johnson County Board of Commissioners is named as a defendant
because it was put on notice of Moriarty’s actions, but allegedly took no
action.
Ireland says she suffered loss of income, reputation, inconvenience,
insult, mental distress, embarrassment, humiliation, anxiety and emotional
pain and suffering as a result of Moriarty’s actions. She seeks punitive
damages.
http://www.kctv5.com/news/21165277/detail.html
THE ELEPHANT IN THE ROOM
Found a blog that not only talks about the “elephant” in the room…they paint it a bright, beautiful color of purple!
AMERICA’S DIRTY LITTLE SECRET: CHILD ABUSE AND INCEST
http://beheardshow.blogspot.com/2009/10/americas-dirty-little-secret-child.html?showComment=1254790925849
Here in the U.S. we give a lot of lip service to looking out and caring for children but the reality is different. Actions speak louder than words. Cut backs and under funding of federally mandated child related programs, like Head Start and No Child Left Behind for example, and cut backs in student money for college . But worse are the number of children that are coming out of households where rape, incest and child abuse has been a living reality. Millions of children have become adults to lead families that are directly or indirectly affected by this scourge. Throughout my life I’ve met and talked with kids and adults who had these mental, physical, and emotional battle scars to overcome.
What makes my story intriguing is that I had no idea that my family had a direct connection to this abuse and an indirect one as well until about 8 years ago. While growing up there were things that seemed odd at times leaving me with open ended questions in mind. Mom is loving, has a youthful approach to life, is a talented seamstress, church going, and meticulous about a clean house. She was a worrier, always thought the worse of a situation, and would rather tell you what you thought than to ask you what you were thinking. If things were going well for too long, she would wonder what `bad’ thing was coming up next. Sometimes the obsession with worrying and fear caused arguments between she and Dad, and made me a nervous wreck throughout my childhood (stomach ailments & eczema). I was shy, outgoing, and followed my father’s personality in being a leader. It affected my brother in the sense that he had difficulty in speaking up for himself (extremely shy), although he overcame that in college.
My wife and I dated while we were teenagers. When I came on the scene her parents were divorced. She lived with her mom, who was an alcoholic with the problems that brings: inconsistencies, embarrassment, confusion, little structure, etc. My attempts were to be there with the shoulder and to give support as much as I could. But there was this secret that made it difficult to get a handle on what was happening. When my wife (girlfriend) got frustrated living with her Mom she moved in with her father. That’s when her mother let on surreptitiously that there was something more going on with the father. It turned out, the relationship she had with her father is what broke up her parents. Being a teenager the full impact of this didn’t hit me until much later. I was more concerned with being the loving, caring boyfriend. She kept going back and forth between her mother’s home and her father’s with no peace of mind. A couple of years later while we’re still together she tells me about what was happening with her dad. If I knew then what I know today, I would have been a gentleman and assisted her, but I never would have married. She never received counseling for the alcoholic mom nor for the deviant father.
My marriage was consumed with unexplained anger directed at me, times when I could ask questions and not get an answer – just stares, and an attitude toward sex that made her father a hero and her husband the sexual deviant. And even that was contradictory because we both enjoyed love making. Although my son did well in school, we did get called into the school counselor’s office for some behavioral problems he started to have. The counselor picked up on something right away, saying that there was something going unsaid. I wasn’t conscious of the fact incest upsets the basic foundation of security that a mother and father provide for the child. When the sexual predator breaks that basic trust, the child’s view of the world is changed forever. The view the child has of the gender of the perpetrator, is skewed with conflicting and invalid beliefs that affect future relationships.
She rejected counseling saying she didn’t need it. Three years later we parted company. 8 years ago I’m driving through mid-town Manhattan with my mother talking about politics and how I thought Al Sharpton couldn’t get political support from all races because of Tawana Brawley ( someone who claimed to have been raped but never brought charges against her perpetrators). Mom goes on to say that she believed Tawana. I insisted that if it were true, she should have moved forward with criminal charges against the perpetrators. In a little voice Mom said, `No body believed me!’ I said, `What did you say?’ She repeated it and began to relay a story to me of how her father had told her and all 6 of her brothers and sisters to go to bed. And then called her down to be with him. While he abused her, her oldest brother came down and knocked the father off of her. While the father pummeled her brother she ran away to another relatives house and never went back. She said some of her siblings didn’t believe she was raped. This also included her mother and her favorite aunt at that time.
Throughout my childhood I wondered why her mother and aunt treated her so bad, when she and my father would buy things her mother needed and would send money too. But this was never good enough. Two sisters and a brother would be very off and on in a strange way. With my mother telling me about this travesty, I now understood why the family would act in ways I didn’t understand. I now understood why my mother had her quirks that affected the whole family. She’s a loving person who needed counseling and didn’t get it. Her self esteem was low, so she didn’t stand up for her own personal growth within the family. Although she had some say, she did more of what my father wanted. He had his insecurities too and demonstrated them in how he limited my mother’s behavior. Neither my brother nor I followed his behavior with our wives, but I couldn’t get over how subconsciously I chose a woman to marry that had the same problem as my Mom and I didn’t know my Mom had the problem. Truth is stranger than fiction.
The blogosphere is filled with equally strange cases of child abuse and incest. There is a sickness out there in America. And it’s in our homes, directly and indirectly. We say `SAVE THE CHILDREN’ and then send them off to schools that need metal detectors to protect them from guns. We say we love children and have them learning in inferior schools, with textbooks a generation old, little supplies and very few computers. Then we say we want to prepare them for the good paying jobs of the future while offering a curriculum that won’t keep their future job from going overseas.
Even with these additional problems in the treatment of children, the first place children need to be saved is in the home and at school. Parents must scrutinize each other’s behavior with children. Be vigil of your child’s relationships in school and at church. Don’t be blind to abuse because of someone’s status: teacher, coach, priest, neighbor. Listen to what your children are saying to you. Child abuse and incest must come to an end. We all can use some analysis. But children who have been sexually abused need counseling most definitely. And those who are indirectly effected, can use a little help too. The predators need a jail cell and counseling.
RAPE IS RAPE
I stopped watching “The View” years ago…before the obnoxious Elizabeth Hasselbeck. I almost started watching it when Rosie came on board but then again was too painful to watch a grown woman be bullied by the annoying, right wing, baby making machine that they still pay to be on that show…ugh.
It wasn’t just that person in particular that annoyed me it was their whole “View” on everything…which is not the “VIEW” of all women as they seem to tout themselves as being. After the Rosie O’Donnell debacle and spectacle that Barbara Wawa took NO ownership over…she brought in “Whoopi”.
The one an only “Sister Act” that came into America’s heart as a maverick…speaker of the truth..that is until last week when my heart stopped as I watched her say that Roman Polanski didn’t commit “Rape Rape”.
HUH? Not only were her words and verbiage dangerous to women but to 13 year old girls that may go through the same situation as the Polanski victim and think..well..it wasn’t “Rape Rape”.
This has only solidified my VIEW that Ms. Walters and her crew need to get another view. They do no justice for women or children for that matter.
Their VIEWS are slanted, tainted and just as fucked up as a man forcing himself upon a 13 year old in any shape of form.
It’s unfortunate that Ms. Goldberg doesn’t realize that Polanski is a pedophile “poster boy” and has been for years. He never did any time, he went on the lam…still made movies, won awards, and now he’s caught and Hollywood is in an uproar? The real VIEW of women is that if he did nothing wrong, no rape rape then why run? Why not “man up” and face your “alleged” crime?
Fuck you Whoopi…and your little view too.
HOW ABUSERS USE THE COURT SYSTEM
How Abusers Use The Court System To Continue to Victimize Their Partners and Children
This is a copy of the speech written by Gail Lakritz and given today by Angela Warren at the Pueblo Colorado Conference. This speech was given to judges, police, lawyers and DV advocates.When a woman finally makes that decision to end the abuse and to flee the abusive situation, she rightfully expects that the police, her lawyers and the courts will protect her and her children from further harm. Being a member of the Sheriff’s Posse, that is what I was thought. After all, the courts always operate solely by the law, correct? (Scan audience for nods of agreement) We all know that does not happen and that is why I was so confused by my litigation. When injustice reared its ugly head, it flew in the face of everything I thought our country stood for, and, as with most victims of abuse, I came to realize that the system is stacked against the victim.
Today, I want to speak to you about some of the ways the abuser will use the system to further the abuse during the litigation process. It is my hope that, by exposing these tactics, you will recognize in your peers, and perhaps yourselves, what is being done has real, and all too often, deadly consequences.
The litigation abuse begins the moment the abuser is arrested. He plays on the sympathy of the arresting officers. He will use excuses to enlist them in his game. He is, after all, a master at deception. He has years of practice. He is the person who can look you straight in the eye and lie. During the ride to the lock up, he will say things like “She is an alcoholic or a drug addict”, “She is always picking on the kids” or “She takes all the money and spends it on herself and we never have enough to eat.” Anything that will garner sympathy and sway them to lessen the severity of what is written in the arrest report. And, being taught to spot the antagonist of a situation as they true perpetrator of the situation, the police officer, who is generally male, will empathize with the abuser, and slant his report to favor the abuser. He will ignore what he has been taught, that the victim is most often the one who is hysterical and angry at having been attacked and side with the often calm and rational sounding architect of the situation. And the abuser has gained his first needed corner stone to further the abuse, for in the future, any calls to 911 will be met with skepticism by the police and all future reports of violence will be seen as insane acts by the actual victim.
During the booking process and his appearance for arraignment, when the victim is not present to hear what is being said to the magistrate, he will again repeat his reasons for the attack. Laying the blame on the victim. Now he has widened his circle of conspirators. Word will filter from these people to the Bailiff and on to the judge that there were “extenuating circumstances” that predicated the attack.
Now, as we all know, the key to any successful litigation is money. With money, comes the right lawyers and a venue that is considered to be the “home turf” for that lawyer. Abusers control the money, therefore, they can afford the lawyers who consider winning to be the sole measure of success, not the just application of the law.
In each court system in America, there are lawyers that are known to be the “dirty trick” lawyers. They are the ones who use often unethical and illegal means to deny the Constitutional Rights of a litigant and victim. They will look the other way, or outright encourage, the use of terror tactics against a victim. Judges and other lawyers within the local Bar Association know who these practitioners are will look the other way. In some court systems, judges will actually instruct new lawyers with “I don’t care what you do in my courtroom so long as I am not investigated” leaving the avenue open for them to ply their brand of law in any manner they see fit. The idea is to win, not to be just. The abuser will seek out these lawyers, perhaps getting the name of one from a police officer or someone else in the system who just happens to be overheard talking or from another inmate in the lock up.
So now, the abuser has assembled his “dream team”. The police, the dirty tricks lawyer and the complacent judge. What more could he ask for than to have swayed the system and set the victim up for further abuse? The abuser will get a slap on the wrist, be sent to Anger Management and, in some jurisdictions, have his record of abuse sealed. In Anger Management, the prep will learn new and better ways of abusing. He will learn to abuse without leaving the outward marks that would land him back in jail. He will hone his skills, through the knowledge passed on by other perpetrators attending these sessions. The things that worked for them will be shared in group in the form of “I reacted to the situation by….” You fill in the blank, as each and every one of you know the tactics, know how the pain can be caused both mentally and physically to a victim without leaving the marks or a trail of abuse.
The first thing the abuser will do after being released from jail is to widen his circle of allies. His dirty tricks lawyer has instructed him to get out in front of his victim, and being the superior liar that he is, he is only too willing to accommodate. Generally, abusers are loners, having few friends and having disassociated themselves from family. He has allowed only minimal if any contact between his victim and her family. He will suddenly become the “social butterfly” contacting people to enlist their help, always with the story of having been the victim in the situation. Neighbors that were shunned by him in the past are now become his confidants. Whispers of abuse by the victim are passed from one person to another. This serves two purposes. It provides a support system for the abuser as well as removing any hope of support for the victim.
The next step to the tried and true method of using the system to abuse is to make the victim seem insane to the system. The abuser or one of his allies will begin the relentless process of attacks that are designed to discredit. Break-ins of the home of the victim are a common means as are well placed phone calls where the abuser uses threats, such as the victim never seeing her children again. An abuser will actually enlist the help of the unwitting child, promising rewards of gifts or, if teenagers, no boundaries to live by. The abuser will reward the child for such things as removing evidence against the abuser from the victims home, lying to police or being complacent about what was witnessed in an incident. Often, no system of reward is needed. It is fear of the abuser, that places the child in the unenviable situation of having to lie. The child senses what will cause the wrath of the abuser to rise against them. If you come away from this presentation with anything, this is the one piece of information I hope you retain. The cycle of abuse is learned and continued by this one tactic alone, using the children as tools of abuse. Any person within the system who even suggests that the abuser use this tactic is guilty of nothing less than murder. (Scan the audience to see who is squirming or looks disinterested and focus your eyes on them for a split second. They are a guilty party.)
Police, having been repeatedly told that the victim is insane, will respond to such things as break-ins as a sign that the abuser is correct in his assessment of the victim. All too often, the abuser will leave something that informs the victim he was there, but at the point in time that the police are called, the victim will not know what is missing, if anything. Sometimes the victim will find veiled death threats, a picture that only the victim and her abuser knows the meaning of, a cartoon left on the computer screen, that is meant to frighten and intimidate. A tire will be slashed when her car is hidden from public view, mementos that have little or no monetary value will be missing. Reporting these incidents to the police enforce the abuser’s position. And, when the victim turns to her lawyer for help, if she has one, she is told to ignore all violations of her home and person. You see, it takes two lawyers to execute a well choreographed legal Tango, and by this time, the repeated calls to the police by the victim, the well placed lies by the perpetrator, and, with the assistance of the complacent judge, her lawyer has been won over to not assist in any meaningful manner. Thus the victim is turned into the abuser and seen only as a source of possible revenue for her own lawyer who will offer little if any assistance in seeing that justice is blind, not blinded by gold. ( Pick out a person you have predetermined to be guilty and look directly at them)
During the actual litigation process, there will be a number of players that will be easily swayed by the events that have lead up to this process. GALs and CLRs are swayed by having contact with the abuser and his ever growing stable of allies, lawyers, police and judges. If the children are afraid of the abuser, they dare not say anything to these people that would endanger themselves. Social workers, mental health professionals, even medical doctors who rely on the system for income will not oppose the well built facade of the abuser and his well scripted theater of abuse.
At this point, I would like to see a show of hands. How many of you are judges? Please raise your hands. Keep your hands raised, please. How many are police officers? Keep your hands raised, please. How many of you are lawyers who represent abuse victims exclusively? Good, now if you could all stand up and look around. Do you recognize people from your own court systems in this room? Isn’t it nice to know that some of the people who are not standing could, and I emphasis the word could, be manipulating you? (Pause for about 10 seconds) Thank you, you may all be seated.
How do the dirty tricks lawyers actually manipulate? First, talk is cheap, and the dirty tricks lawyer and his client never seem to run out of voice. They will take every chance to influence the judge and the opposition lawyer if there is one, the GAL and CLR, the therapist and mental health evaluator , the social worker, shelter workers and people in the Court Clerk’s office. Ex parte is common and rampant in any court system. It can’t be stopped unless you, the judges, choose to stop it. A few well placed words prior to the opening of court, the happened, but planned, introduction of the abuser to you prior to proceedings so that you can see how likeable this person is and to get his side, again getting out ahead of the opposition in the litigation. Tools used to put a human face on an inhuman act of violence.
During the early stages of the litigation, the dirty tricks lawyer and an abuser will go for the “all or nothing” approach to a custody question. The abuser, and his lawyer, being confident in the groundwork they have already laid, will not present a parenting plan. They will often seek to move out of the jurisdiction, often so far away from the abused, as to effectively terminate all parental rights. The abused, on the other hand will present a generous plan which will include more time with the abuser than a court would normally mandate. The judge, being the Solomon of the court, knows he cannot split a child down the middle, will have to award temporary custody to one parent or another, and this is usually to the person who already has “possession” of the child at the time of the hearing. (make the hand sign for quotes when you say the word possession). If the victim was forced to flee without the child, or if the child happens to be visiting the abuser at the time of the hearing, guess who gets the temporary custody? Yup, the abuser.
This is the beginning of the motions process. The abuser’s lawyer will file motions with the court, often filing them back to back, and always asking for contempt sanctions against the victim. If the victim is unrepresented, this confuses and terrorizes her. If she is one of the fortunate ones, one of the women who was able to afford a lawyer, and motions and subpoenas are filed on her behalf, they are ignored by the dirty tricks lawyer. In the meantime, if she is Pro Se, her filings are ignored by the clerk’s office or disappear all together. It never ceases to amaze me how often victims report missing filings, even whole files of proceedings that have gone missing. I can only surmise how it could happen, all of which violate state law. When she asks for a subpoena which must go through the courts for approval, the subpoena that is received for service contains errors made by the person who entered it into the system, precluding the effectiveness of that subpoena. These errors would only be obvious to a trained lawyer, thereby giving the dirty tricks lawyer a reason to quash.
The motions process will offer more ample opportunities for the dirty tricks lawyer to ply his trade. He will mail important filings to the wrong address, often transposing the actual numbers, to prevent receipt in time for rebuttal. He will refuse to accept mail from the Pro Se and then claim that it was not sent to him. He will state a date and time verbally, but put another date and time in writing, often bolding it to attract attention to the erroneous information. He will send a copy of a minor issue in a motion, with proof of mailing, and have a second copy hand served. The problem with this is that he has actually filed two separate motions with the court, one of paramount importance and the one of minor importance. He will then have proof of two separate deliveries to the victim and state that the one hand served was in reference to the major issue while the one mailed was in reference to the minor issue. Of course, he will blame all of this on the victim. She gave me the wrong address, I never got it, she was served and I have the proof.
Depositions are an extremely useful tool for the trickster. Though most states follow the rules of the Federal Courts for deposition, tricksters do not. As all lawyers know, the only time depositions should be used is when information cannot be gotten by subpoena. The dirty tricks lawyer will force deposition to make the victim face her abuser in an environment controlled by the trickster. One deposition trick will be to inform the pro se that a date and time for a deposition of his client has been set. He will send a list of questions to be asked, and state that the deposition will be limited to these questions. This offers the opportunity to pound the Pro Se with intimidation and terrorist tactics of threats. It also forces the Pro Se into setting up a second deposition of her own. Not knowing that it is not required to submit questions in advance, the Pro Se will dutifully submit the entire list of questions to the trickster, giving him time to concoct answers that would favor him. And lest the abuser make a mistake, there is nothing to worry about. The Court Reporter in attendance is one favored by the lawyer. One only need to Google the search term “Changed Transcripts” to confirm this is a common practice. The number of hits are well in excess of 7,000,000.
Proffers are useful when it comes to the dirty tricks lawyer. It is not uncommon for them to submit Proffers to the Pro Se that are never filed with the courts. These are filled with the lies that the abuser intends on in court and are designed to see which arguments are going to be used to counteract the lies in court.
Surprise witnesses are the life blood of the trickster. No subpoena has been issued to these people to appear, but they just happen to be in the area when the court date came up. Judges have a duty to curtail the use of these convenient witnesses, but seldom do, preferring to overrule objections. Often, they are nothing more than hired guns for the defense, parroting whatever the trickster wants them to say. There is often no rebuttal for their testimony, as the Pro Se or her lawyer had no time to prepare for their appearance.
Witness tampering is blatantly illegal but used by the dirty trick lawyer and his client at every turn. All that is needed is for the potential witness to be mislead with a story of the victim being the true abuser, and after all, if they testify, they would be putting the children, and perhaps themselves, in danger. Surely, anyone in their right mind would not want to testify under these circumstances, given that few people are willing to testify in the first place. If that doesn’t work, there is intimidation of the witness. Most people have something in their backgrounds they would prefer no one find out. The dirty tricks lawyer is a master at using innuendo and sources like police, family and acquaintances to find that one skeleton. If that doesn’t work, there is always the avenue of the witness’s employer. Innuendo can be placed in letters to the employer from the lawyer stating that this or that has never been cleared.
In his bag, the dirty trick lawyer and his client rely on the assistance of Child Protective Services. If a direct call from his client does not produce the desired response, there is always the “innocent and disconnected” third party report. These reports can vary from the upper end of sexual abuse or exploitation of the child to reports that the mother is furnishing drugs to the child to such things as a child being left alone. In one case I know of, the GAL was talked into calling CPS when a teenage boy overdosed. What the GAL forgot to report was that the 15 year old had arrived from his father’s home with a plastic bag full of pills, and when the mother discovered them, he grabbed them and downed them in an attempt to get rid of the evidence. The same mother was accused of leaving the than 16 year old alone for two hours by the same GAL. Again the GAL left out a very important fact. The child was at the home of a friend.
Court orders are often altered to reflect what the attorney and abuser wants. One mother, while living here in Colorado heard a knock on her door one day. The father, who had never once exercised his visitation, had moved five years previously to Washington state. He went to the local Colorado police with an altered court order for full custody of the son, than 7 years old. No one questioned the validity of the order, in fact, the police were only too willing to help him in removing the child from the mother. She never saw her son again. She was able to locate him last year in a suburb of Seattle, but now 20, he has had it drilled into his head that she wanted nothing to do with him and had willing given him up.
If all else fails, there is always the use of Parental Alienation to fall back on. Dr. Richard Gardner, using no identifiable research and much to the consternation of all recognized authorities, first placed this Syndrome in the minds of the courts to discredit mothers and to help men save on alimony and child support payments. We are all familiar with the theory that states that the mother is toxic to the relationship between the father and his children and that the only true cure for this toxicity is to severely limit visitation or to remove it all together. Abusers and their attorneys love to use PAS. It is one of the most effective forms of abuse of the victim.
Through all the court abuse, and I have only touched on some of the verifiable things that women suffer in the courtroom, there is a continued onslaught from the abuser. Stalking, break-ins, destruction of property and threats of further harm to the victim are normal. Checks for alimony or child support that are never received are also widely reported. Harassment is an ongoing problem to the victim. Planting seeds of doubt of a mother’s love for her child in the child’s mind, any avenue an abuser can think of will be used.
All of this for one objective, to carry on the abuse. And, the players in the courtroom are all aiders and abettors to that abuse, whether they realize it or not. The crimes we allow these people to get away with are crimes that are punishable by law, and by each and every one of you allowing them to be predicated on victims of violence, you are taking part in those crimes.
Now, as one last thing, I would like some of you to take part in a fun little exercise to reinforce some of what you have heard here today. I would ask that every judge in the audience stand up and glace around the room. I want you to pick out a person here that you do not know and walk over to them and without saying a word, I want you to grasp their hand and shake it. (Wait for them to do this)
Now, again without giving this person your name, I want you to whisper in their ear the year, color and make and model of the car your closest loved one drives. Now, I want you, without giving the city or town you live in, to tell them the street address of that person. Good. You have just given someone who may be a trickster lawyer or an abuser all the information they need. You have just put your loved one in danger, possibly signing that their death warrant. Think about it and try to have a nice day.
REBEL WITH A CAUSE
Who am I? I’m a Mother and I’m the most deadliest woman on the face of the earth
After years of abuse, threats, coercion and colluding with my abuser one woman is taking on a county (two actually) who have tried very hard to break her and her child. What they don’t know is that the Mother that they decided to use their underhanded tactics on isn’t from around these parts. She’s a warrior…and just like Beatrix Kiddo in Kill Bill…her enemies made her stronger.
So thank you Oconto County for giving me the strength, courage and tenacity to fight for my child and for what is right. Thank you Marinette County for helping me realize that you will never stop colluding with my abuser and for that I will never shut up, give up or go away. My child also has learned from your tactics and you will NEVER break the bonds between us…you have made us stronger….to face our abuser that you allow to stalk us in family court. The days of the corruption, collusion and cronyism is numbered for your ilk. Soon my daughter WILL be of age and I hope she sues ALL of your asses for failing to protect her when you had the chance….but for now….you should all remember that……
YOU NEVER GET BETWEEN A LIONESS AND HER CUB
A HISTORY LESSON—In case you forgot
FIRST AMENDMENT PROTECTS ME
Freedom of speech, or the freedom of expression, is recognized in international and regional and human rights law.
Looking at my statcounter I’ve seen the nosy county worker searching and googling for their own name….pathetic if you ask me.
Nonetheless…continue reading my blog you might actually be educated on how CPS workers, Judges, Attorneys and other Whores of the Court place children at risk.
You originally called the mother and child a liar, it was proven they were not and then you did what you do best…NOTHING.
This is what has brought us all here and you should know that my blog is very popular within several organizations that are aware of your actions particularly…don’t tread on me.
Hope you enjoyed your time here 
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LIBERTY AND JUSTICE FOR ALL
F**** YOU CPS
EVEN IF CPS HASN’T PROTECTED YOU DEAR DAUGHTER….THERE IS HOPE
http://www.nationalpost.com/news/story.html?id=2130034
B.C. incest victim awarded $600,000 judgment
Keith Fraser, Canwest News Service
Wednesday, October 21, 2009
A 19-year-old Victoria woman who suffered horrific sex assaults at the hands of her father has been awarded nearly $600,000 in damages.
The girl, identified only as C.C.B. in a B.C. Supreme Court ruling, sued her father, identified only as I.B., over sex assaults that occurred while she was between the ages of about five and nine years old.
The crimes were reported to police in 1999 and after a 19-day criminal trial, I.B. was convicted and sentenced to six years in prison. He was released from prison in 2008, but for the civil lawsuit he chose not to appear or be represented by a lawyer.
B.C. Supreme Court Justice Victoria Gray concluded that the victim suffers from an anxiety disorder, depression and intrusive thoughts about the abuse, lack of trust in others and low self-esteem and educational underachievement.
The judge said the plaintiff was entitled to a “significant” award of damages because of the severity of the abuse and the many aggravating factors.
“The defendant was the plaintiff’s natural father and sole custodial parent, and in a relationship of trust,” said the judge. “The plaintiff had little support from anyone else, because the defendant kept her from school and insisted that she spend time with him, and as a result the plaintiff was extremely vulnerable.”
The plaintiff was awarded $250,000 for pain and suffering, $300,000 for future earning capacity and $41,800 for cost of future care. Though the defendant did not appear at trial, his father recently passed away and the judge said the inheritance is available to be applied to the judgment.
Canwest News Service
MY DOG HATES ME
I don’t understand it….why would my dog hate me? I’m his owner, I give him housing and shelter, he is only here because of me.
I own him, I can do whatever I want to him and he better not hate me for it, I own him.
Why does my dog hate me when I buy him treats but then it is so much fun to tease him by taking them away. Just withholding his milkbone a few extra seconds makes him appreciate me more, I am his owner, I own him.
Why does my dog hate me, he reminds me of his mother… that bitch, I use to kick her around too and then she ran off, I OWNED her. But I still have my little buddy here to keep tormenting….torturing her still…..this dog really hates me…why? Must be his mother that taught him to hate me…what other reason would a dog have to hate it’s owner? He’s my dog to kick…you can’t hate me for that, I own him.
What’s that? You want your Mommy? Sorry….I own you.
ANOTHER GUARDIAN AD CHARGEM
What minor’s counsel does not want you to hear
http://www.examiner.com/x-14600-LA-Family-Courts-Examiner~y2009m10d20-What-minors-counsel-does-not-want-you-to-hear?cid=exrss-LA-Family-Courts-Examiner
Remember Maija? She is the young girl we heard on YouTube, crying and begging her attorney Ruth Estep, pleading not to be forced to live with her father.
Ms. Estep, appointed by the court, said the judge did not listen to a word she said. But listen to this YouTube video that dramatizes the testimony in court by Ms. Estep after the tearful plea from her client.
I have heard, but not seen any order or transcript, that Tonya Pinkins is required to remove all copies of the tape from the internet. This perplexes me. My understanding is that tapes cannot be used as evidence against a person if made without consent, but the actual taping is not a violation of law. And even if criminal charges cannot be brought against Ms. Estep, shouldn’t the court rethink its appointment of an attorney who does not seem to be representing her client?
PAYBACK IS A BITCH
This is a repost from another BADASS blogger, Randi James…important information for anyone in California that has had to deal with a corrupt whore of the court, Janelle Burill. The intent of the blogging is to expose the corruption of family court everywhere. If we need to take down the corruption one official at a time so be it. Family court and it’s whores have underestimated the power of a woman….that was your first mistake among many that are coming…because payback IS a bitch…and a mother too.
Payback is a Bitch
I’d like to dedicate this to that special person that likes to Google their name and then get gag orders placed on bloggers:
The first step in exposing a corrupt MFT or LCSW is usually the filing of a complaint with BBS –
{ To : Enforcement Analyst Board of Behavioral Sciences 1625 North Market Blvd, Suite S200, Sacramento, CA 95834. Tel 916-574-7830 http://www.bbs.ca.gov Ref : Fraud & Misconduct by Janelle Burrill LCS 16216 }
A small percent of valid complaints are investigated by the Boards enforcement analysts and actions taken. Serious misconduct that justifies revocation of license and requires further criminal investigation is sent to the Division of Consumer Affairs, Division of Investigation – They are tasked to conduct a detailed investigation and their findings with details are given back to the BBS for action. BBS sends the findings with evidence to the Attorney General’s office for prosecution along with either interim or permanent suspension orders.
There are many complaints against Burrill. Her perjury, fraudulent practices are exposed with evidence that she or her lawyer husband cannot hide, suppress any more. It is with law enforcement and the people who are supposed to protect consumers have seen and heard it. The complaint against Burrill is being actively investigated by a small team of senior investigators at the Division of Investigators since April 2009. Its been six months and they have uncovered necessary and sufficient evidence and are in the process of sending in their findings. If you are a victim – You can supplement their case and send your complaint with any factual evidence of Burrills fraud directly to the investigators – address below
{To : Senior Investigator, Department of Consumer Affairs
Division of Investigation, 444 North 3rd Street, Suite 201, Sacramento, CA 95811 Tel : 916-324-1497
Ref : Fraud & Misconduct by Janelle Burrill LCS 16216}
Burrill is exposed and her corrupt ways will end soon (Another couple of months). We are optimistic that her ability to harm California families especially children will end. All her prior reports and recommendations to the courts will be thrown out. Prepare yourself – The AG’s report on Burrill is public content and you can call BBS or DCA and get a copy to go back to the courts on any bull shit, fraud she served the courts in her career.
If you are in Sacramento or Placer County then you can send a letter to the District Attorney for their help as-well.
Jan Scully, Sacramento DA, 901 G Street, Sacramento, CA 95814
Bradford R Fenocchio, Placer County DA, 10810 Justice Center Drive, Suite #240, Roseville, CA 95678
Be optimistic, don’t give up – Lets get the facts in to the DCA investigators so we can see Burrill in handcuffs for Christmas
JUST SOME OF THE VICTIMS OF BURILL
BRING HIM BACK HIS FILET O FISH
"I only drink a little bit your honor".....yeah, one bucket at a time
Once again “Father of the Year” in Wisconsin, Craig Hensberger, lies under oath to the Judge that he only drinks a “little”. Apparently ONE bucket at a time. After lying again under oath Craig Hensberger insists that his one time girlfriend and mother to his only child be jailed as he didn’t have visitation with his child…the reason….he was “busy” or at “work”. Should be interesting how this father who puts his child up to LYING, CHEATING and STEALING in THREE separate fishing tournaments comes up with next…wonder if he ever got that fish mounted?
Great father that CPS also substantiated sexual abuse against this degenerate….he shouldn’t be around any child (or women) including his own.
http://www.fox11online.com/dpp/news/local_oconto_county_same_fish_different_derby_20090313_rev1
http://www.nbc26.com/Global/story.asp?S=10005532
OXYMORONS
http://www.thelizlibrary.org/fathers/farrell2.htm
Do not doubt the quote from above…I have seen it first hand when my step father showed me that issue of Penthouse when I was 9 years old. This is a man who stands side by side by the filth that call themselves “Father Rights” or “Mens Rights” activists, which is a complete OXYMORON as men who have ALL the rights in the world to rape, murder, commit incest and every other unimaginable crimes against women and children want MORE rights? More importantly the organization known as “Fathers & Families” that is run by more MORONS stating:
“In a move that will change the course of the family court reform movement, Fathers & Families has just hired two experienced, accomplished legislative representatives.”
Who would ever endorse these pro-pedophiles?? A Pfizer bigwig (makers of Viagra) to push their legislative agenda (like they did in FL) Sorry Ballsacks and the rest of you schmucks…America and other countries will be educated on your sick agenda.
AMERICA IS NOT BUYING YOUR AGENDA!
MENS RIGHTS ACTIVISTS AND THEIR ANGRY INCH
Once again the story of the MRA, militant (mens rights activists) complaining over a story removed from Psychology Today. They think that PAS will get into the DSM….sorry it will NEVER happen. But interestingly enough there is research that suggests that these types may have what is called….Small Penis Syndrome….I present to you…
Review of small penis syndrome
1. June 2007 13:20
Women are much more interested in a man’s personality and looks than the size of his penis, but men can experience real anxiety even if they are average sized, according to a research review published in the June issue of the urology journal BJU International.
Dr Kevan Wylie from the Porterbrook Clinic and Royal Hallamshire Hospital, Sheffield, UK, reports that while men often have a better body image, genital image and sexual confidence if they have a large penis, women don’t necessarily feel that bigger is better.
He teamed up with Mr Ian Eardley from St James, Hospital in Leeds to bring together the findings of more than 50 international research projects into penile size and small penis syndrome carried out since 1942.
By drawing together the results of 12 studies that measured the penises of 11,531 men, they discovered that average erect penises ranged from 14-16cms (5.5 to 6.2 inches) in length and 12-13cm (4.7 to 5.1 inches) in girth.
Wylie and Eardley also looked at the bizarre practices used by men worldwide to enhance the size of their penis, including the Topinama of Brazil, who encourage poisonous snakes to bite their penises to enlarge them for six months!
They report that Indian Sadhus men are known to use weights to increase the length of their penis and Dayak men in Borneo pierce the glans of their penis and insert items into the holes to stimulate their partner.
Other key findings of the review include:
- A survey of over 50,000 heterosexual men and women found that 66 per cent of men said their penis was average sized, 22 per cent said large and 12 per cent said small. 85 per cent of women were satisfied with their partner’s penile size, but only 55 per cent of men were satisfied.
- Two studies reported that 90 per cent of women prefer a wide penis to a long one. Other studies pointed out that the issue of male attractiveness was complex, but that penile size was not the most important factor for women.
- Small penis syndrome is much more common in men with normal sized penises than those with a small micropenis with a flaccid length of less than 7cm (2.7 inches).
- One study found that 63 per cent of men complaining of small penises said their anxieties started with childhood comparisons and 37 per cent blamed erotic images viewed in their teenage years. None of the men studied actually had a micropenis.
- Another report based on data collected by Kinsey in the 1940s reported that, on average, homosexual men had larger penises than heterosexual men. The report authors suggest that exposure to male reproductive hormones in the womb may be one explanation.
- Individual research studies have also suggested that penis size is smaller in studies focussing on older men, but Wylie and Eardley found no overall differences when they collated the results of various studies.
- The review also provided little evidence of racial differences, with the exception of one Korean study where the men had smaller than average-sized penises. The authors suggest this area needs further investigation.
- Evidence on the effectiveness of vacuum devices, penile extenders and traction devices was found to be limited, but the authors noted that patients may experience psychological benefits from some of them.
- The review also showed that the results of surgery are poorly documented and significant complications can ensue.
“It is very common for men to worry about the size of their penis and it is important that these concerns aren’t dismissed as this can heighten concerns and anxieties, says Dr Wylie.
“It is helpful to normalise the situation and provide as much accurate information as possible, as many men either lack any information or have been misinformed.
“This extensive review aims to provide clinicians with an overarching summary of the many research projects that have been carried out into penile size and small penis syndrome.”
Clinicians who are presented with a man with small penis syndrome need to consider a number of treatment approaches.
“The initial approach should be a thorough urological, psychosexual, psychological and psychiatric assessment, possibly with more than one clinician involved, say the authors.
“Conservative approaches to therapy, based on education and self-awareness, as well as short-term structured psychotherapies, are often successful.”
They authors are, however, very cautious when it comes to treating a psychological condition like small penis syndrome with gadgets or surgery.
“There is poorly documented evidence to support the use of penile extenders, and while information is starting to emerge on the success of some surgical techniques, this is not backed up by data on patients, satisfaction with such procedures, stresses Dr Wylie.
http://www.blackwel lpublishing. com
http://justice4mothers.wordpress.com/2009/11/27/divorce-separation-and-parental-alienation-syndrome-straightening-them-out-one-social-worker-at-a-time/
WILL THE REAL PSYCHO PLEASE STAND UP
Another father/psycho has plotted, kidnapped and has taken his son on the high seas to escape. What kind of father/psycho other than a mentally deranged one would do such a thing…no safety even considered for his young child…it is hard enough to take a three year anywhere…even buckled in a car seat… let alone on a boat with a psycho in charge.
Prayers going out to the Mother and hopefully she will be reunited with HER son soon and the PSYCHO brought to justice…
http://www.tampabay.com/news/publicsafety/mother-of-abducted-boy-issues-a-tearful-plea-for-his-safe-return/1055279
ST. PETERSBURG — Nothing about Paul Martikainen seemed suspicious when he showed up in St. Petersburg a month-and-a- half ago to retrieve a boat that his friend purchased.
The 35-year-old Palm Bay man made friends with other Salt Creek Marina boat owners, sharing beer and doughnuts with them as he lived on the sailboat while refurbishing it. He spoke fondly of his son and asked about basic boating tips, the boaters recall.
He certainly didn’t seem like the kind of guy who would abduct his 3-year-old child and take off with him in the boat, braving the Gulf of Mexico with no sailing experience. But that’s what authorities said Martikainen did after escaping a supervised visit with the boy in a Cocoa Beach park on Saturday.
The Cocoa police, FBI and U.S. Coast Guard were still searching for Martikainen and the boy, Luke Finch, on Monday as the boy’s mother issued a tearful plea before reporters.
“Please,” Christa Finch said at the Cocoa Beach Police Department press conference, “just bring Lukey home.”
Finch, who said the visits have been going on for six months, didn’t elaborate on how Martikainen and the boy got away from the court-appointed supervisor. But interviews with authorities and witnesses piece together what happened before and after the abduction.
Around 4 p.m. that Saturday — only a few hours after the father and son left the visit — boaters Gabriel Guzman and Sam Mageramov saw Martikainen sailing away from the Salt Creek Marina.
As he was leaving, they said a dinghy attached to Martikainen’s boat came loose. The two helped him tie it back to his boat, they said.
Guzman said at one point the boy emerged from inside the boat, but Martikainen told him to go back. The boy didn’t seem scared, Guzman said.
“We should have saved the boy,” Guzman said. “We could have saved him had we known.”
In recent weeks, Guzman said, Martikainen started asking various boating questions, such as how to tie certain types of knots.
Debra Van Skiver, who works for Neptune Towing and Recovery near the marina, said she sold the boat, a 1977 32-foot Bristol, to Martikainen for $6,109 during the third week of October. He told friends he was purchasing it for someone in Arkansas and would be transporting it after working on it, but Martikainen himself had no sailing experience.
He appeared to be living aboard the boat as he worked on it, said Ted Suratt, whose boat was docked next to Martikainen’s.
Suratt said Martikainen claimed to have dual citizenship and said he once served in the military in Finland. “He never gave an indication that he was capable of this,” Suratt said.
Van Skiver said the boat was seaworthy. It has a sleeping cabin, a kitchenette and standard safety equipment such as a compass and VHF radio. Martikainen purchased a GPS system before Thanksgiving, she said, but it has no EPIRB, a device that helps rescuers locate boats in distress.
The boat also had adult life vests but no child vests, and Van Skiver didn’t know if Martikainen bought one.
He mentioned he would try sailing it after visiting his son over Thanksgiving, Van Skiver said, and she advised him to take some boating classes first.
“This is a man with not a lot of sailing experience,” Van Skiver said, noting that she has a child, too. “It is impossible to take care of a child and sail a boat without multiple people.”
An Amber Alert sent out Saturday evening said Martikainen was thought to be traveling in a green 1995 Ford Explorer with tag number 142KEA. Shortly after news of the alert ran on local news broadcasts, a caller told authorities that the vehicle was at the marina, Matthews said, but the boat was gone.
The boat was recently painted battleship gray, covering the identifying numbers and making the vessel difficult to find in the water. This led authorities to believe the abduction was planned in advance, Cocoa Beach Police spokeswoman Barbara Matthews said.
The supervised visits had been going on for about six months, Finch said during her press conference. Martikainen was ordered to have supervised visitation because of previous allegations of abusing the boy, Matthews said.
Allegations that the father was physically abusing his son were verified by a Department of Children and Families investigation just days before the child went missing, according to DCF spokeswoman Carrie Hoeppner.
But DCF said there was no reason for the state to intervene because the mother had primary custody and the child was also under the supervision of a family court judge.
DCF said it conducted several investigations into Martikainen this year but the only one it could comment on was the most recent, which verified the abuse.
Typically DCF refers such cases to the Brevard County State Attorney’s Office to determine if the allegations warrant criminal prosecution.
But that couldn’t have averted the boy’s disappearance Saturday. DCF closed it’s investigation on Nov. 25, the day before Thanksgiving.
Records show that Martikainen and Christa Lee Finch got a marriage license in 2004 in Palm Beach County. The ceremony was held at Great Outdoors in Titusville in Brevard County on Dec. 3, 2004.
Today reported Brevard County court records show they filed for divorce in July 2005. She was pregnant with Luke, and Martikainen agreed to give up his parental rights to the unborn child as part of their divorce agreement, the newspaper reported.
The two began living together again in September 2006, then moved out in January 2008, Today reported. He filed for joint custody when they broke up a second time because he said he had developed a bond with Luke.
Martikainen has an arrest record that includes driving without a license and failing to go to court multiple times in the 1990s. In 1999 he was arrested in Palm Beach on a felony charge of trafficking Ecstasy.
In February he was charged with child abuse and domestic battery.
Times researcher Carolyn Edds and staff writer Jamal Thalji contributed to this report. Emily Nipps can be reached at nipps@sptimes. com or (727) 893-8452.
Police seek help
Paul Martikainen is described as being 5 feet 11, 176 pounds, with blond hair and green eyes. Luke Finch is described as 2 feet 9, 33 pounds, with blond hair and blue eyes. According to the Amber Alert, the child was last seen wearing a blue sweatshirt, blue pants, and black and red fire engine sneakers.
Cocoa police ask anyone with information to call (321) 639-7620 or dial 911.
UPDATE
9:56 A.M. UPDATE — Luke Finch, 3, and his father have been found on a sailboat about 100 miles off the Sanibel coast, according to reports.The Coast Guard will be holding a press conference at 11 a.m.
news-press.com will continue coverage of this story as information becomes available.
Here’ s the official statement from the Cocoa Police Department:
The search for 3-year-old Luke Finch ended early this morning. The United States Coast Guard located the sailboat late last night and kept the boat under surveillance the entire night. By sunrise today, two Coast Guard Cutters and a helicopter converged on the sailboat and safely recovered Luke.
Right now, Luke is aboard the Coast Guard Cutter Crocodile which is expected in at the Coast Guard Station in Ft. Myers Beach at approximately 7:00 p.m. tonight. Detective Nellie Woodruff is also aboard the Cutter with Luke. Luke seems to be in good health. Investigators are transporting Luke’s mother to Ft. Myers for the reunion.
Paul Martikainen is still aboard the sailboat which is being towed to shore by the Coast Guard Cutter Kodiak Island. They will make landfall much later in the evening, at which time Martikainen will be taken in custody by the FBI on a Federal arrest warrant.
“We are extremely happy about the outcome of this. It could have gone so much worse and we are so thankful that Luke is safe. This was a group effort and would not have been possible without the help of many, many law enforcement agencies” stated Cocoa Police Chief Mark Klayman.
Cocoa PD and Luke’s family want to thank the Florida Department of Law Enforcement, Game Over Task Force, FBI, ICE, United States Attorney’s Office, Middle District, Fish & Wildlife, St. Pete PD, and especially the United States Coast Guard.
MEN BEING ABUSED
According to several mens rights activists and groups men are abused more often than women. Yes, you heard me right…according to one of those fellas…
My ex-wife verbally, psychologically, and physically abused me over many years…..the first thing they did was send a Children’s Aid worker to my home to interview my wife.
So much for confidentiality. So not only did my wife know I had spoken to Family Services about the abuse so did her father. This led to my ex-father-in-law verbally harassing and threatening me.
Gee…so you put up with verbal, psychological and physical abuse for YEARS? Then you are complaining because an aid worker came to your house to investigate? Then on top of someone actually investigating the alleged abuse (more than we women get) you poor thing…your father in law started to abuse you too?
If this was a true allegation why not just leave? I mean that is what they tell women to do. By the way…stop your complaining about not having any shelters for you tools to go to…build one of your own! Ask Sacks or Holstein to help you out…maybe even Warren Farrell can unload some room in his house with his 1977 issues of Penthouse and let you stay with him…. mens rights…or just big ol pussies.
Pussies don’t like dicks, because pussies get fucked by dicks. But dicks also fuck assholes: assholes that just want to shit on everything. Pussies may think they can deal with assholes their way. But the only thing that can fuck an asshole is a dick, with some balls. The problem with dicks is: they fuck too much or fuck when it isn’t appropriate – and it takes a pussy to show them that. But sometimes, pussies can be so full of shit that they become assholes themselves… because pussies are an inch and half away from ass holes. I don’t know much about this crazy, crazy world, but I do know this: If you don’t let us fuck this asshole, we’re going to have our dicks and pussies all covered in shit!
20/20 EQUAL VISION
DR. RICHARD WARSHAKS VIEW
I heard in certain circles of Parental Alienation Syndrome (a.k.a PAS) pushers this Friday on ABC 20/20 they will have a equal view on the pseudo scientific theory invented by the late Dr. Richard Gardner. According to the grapevine the show will feature Dr. Richard Warshak during the first hour. It is important to know about this very special guest and expert on Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) because Dr. Warshak profits BIG TIME over this junk science. PAS pushers who are determined to get it into the DSM as a real mental health disorder will only lead to MORE profits to these who intend to only harm children by separating them from one parent to the other. How is that in the best interest of the child? Dr. Warshak was involved in a case in where he concluded the children were suffering from PAS but then the case was reversed as Dr. Warshak had never even MET the children! Dr. Warshak along with the other WHORES OF THE COURT profit off of parents and childrens pain. So lets tune in tonight to see if reporter Chris Cuomo reports BOTH sides to Dr. Warshak and his view on PAS.
Hopefully the producers at ABC realize that this side of the story has vision that is better than 20/20!
“Parental Alienation Syndrome” Pusher Richard Warshak Makes $40,000 a Week per Inmate per Week at His “PAS Treatment Center”
Judge reverses parental alienation ruling
Controversial trend continues because opposing parents lack funds: lawyer
By Heather Capannelli | Publication Date: Monday, 09 November 2009
In another case underscoring the controversy over parental alienation workshops, Justice Thea Herman of the Ontario Superior Court struck down part of an arbitrator’s award earlier this year that would have removed two teenage boys from the custody of their father and sent them to Texas. The decision follows a series of judgments in which Ontario courts have ordered a change in custody and sent the custodial parent along with the children to participate in the workshop.
In S.G.B. v. S.J.L., the court set aside part of an award concluding that the workshop was in the best interest of the boys because the arbitrator relied too heavily on an assessment of them prepared by Richard Warshak, who admitted he hadn’t met them personally.
In his testimony and written evidence, the psychologist and author explicitly declined to make recommendations with respect to the children because he had never observed them before.
Yet the arbitrator ordered that the remedy was “necessary for the children in this case and completely consonant with their best interests.” Herman, however, decided that in making such a finding, the arbitrator’s order amounted to a “fundamental error.”
Another issue arose prior to the hearing when the father asked the arbitrator to order an assessment to determine the appropriateness of the workshop for the children.
The arbitrator declined to do so, instead relying on his own experience as a custody and access assessor. But Herman rebuked that decision, saying “the arbitrator’s experience can only be brought to bear on the evidence. The arbitrator cannot create evidence.”
In addition, Herman said the arbitrator failed to consider the psychological impact the workshop would have on the younger boy. He suffered from Klinefelter syndrome, a genetic disorder that, among other things, caused a language delay.
The facts of the case were as follows. The applicant, the father, and the respondent mother entered into the arbitration to help resolve issues surrounding their two sons L.B. and J.B., aged 17 and 14 respectively. The parents had been divorced since May 1999 and since then, the mother experienced an estranged relationship with both of her children.
After several attempts to resolve disputes about custody, access, and raising the children, both parents agreed to what turned out to be an unsuccessful arbitration in August 2007.
The proceedings were due to continue on Nov. 20, 2007, but the father brought a pre-hearing motion to prevent the arbitrator from making an order that might result in the children leaving the province given that the mother had been in consultation with Warshak for several years despite the fact that he had never met the boys. The motion was denied.
The arbitration took place in February and March 2008 and, based on Warshak’s report that the children were suffering irrational alienation towards their mother, the arbitrator awarded sole custody of both children to her and ordered that they participate in the workshop to help to restore their ties with her.
Logistically, this meant no contact with their father for the three months that the boys were in the program. Once the workshop concluded, communications could resume as long as those in charge authorized them.
The order also allowed the mother to use transporting agents to take her children to the workshop in Texas if they were unwilling to go on their own volition.
“The work of Dr. Warshak has been submitted for peer review so it’s not as controversial as the media hype may lead some to believe,” says Jaret Moldaver, counsel for the mother. “Dr. Warshak has successfully worked with children who have been alienated, and in cases where conventional approaches don’t work, it’s the only viable option to save the child from abuse.”
A larger issue, however, is that often these cases come down to a battle of costly expert evidence, says the father’s counsel, Jan Weir.
“My concern is that in most of these cases, it appears that one parent has the financial means to retain high-end counsel and experts like Dr. Warshak, but the other parent seems to have modest means and never retains an expert, meaning that they can’t lead evidence against the findings or methodology of Dr. Warshak.”
A week at the workshop costs about US$40,000.
According to Warshak, parental alienation syndrome is “a child’s unjustified campaign of denigration against, or rejection of, one parent, due to the influence of the other parent combined with the child’s own contributions.”
It is recognized as a form of emotional abuse that happens when parents get so caught up in their own problems that they lose sight of their children’s needs.
In an interview in 2008 with Maclean’s magazine, Warshak said the workshop “teaches children how to stay out of the middle of adult conflicts and how to maintain a compassionate view toward each parent” and that it helps the child “recapture a major part of his identity.
When the child no longer feels the need to pledge allegiance to one parent by rejecting the other, that’s enormously liberating.”
But Weir says the test in law for admissibility of expert evidence is whether it’s generally accepted by the profession. That’s because courts don’t interpret the evidence of experts on their own. “Is this a method that’s generally accepted by the profession at large?” says Weir.
“This kind of evidence is getting in because the parents who are on the receiving end just don’t have the funds to retain an expert to say that it’s not, that it’s untested.”
PHOENIX
You have not killed me…you have made me stronger like a Phoenix born from the ashes…so am I. You may have taken a piece of my soul but that part has been replaced by love and justice. Our children will someday come looking for their Mothers, they will not be pleased. Why you ask? Why would children that have purposefully separated from them for no good reason want to see you? Why indeed is the question you should all write upon your souls how you desecrated the most sacred of a womens being….MOTHER.
Why do you think I fight so hard? I fight as any Mother would, never-ending, unconditional LOVE. Our children feel the same way even though you have tried to break our bond it also is never-ending. So beware to those who intend to cause to do harm on my child…we will never give up in getting justice, we will never shut up about how much we love and miss our children and now that we are reborn and anew we will NEVER GO AWAY! For we have loved and lost and will never LOSE again!
UPDATE: Dombrowski Case: Trial set January 8th, 2010 (The Murder of Motherhood)
http://angelfury.wordpress.com/2009/12/18/pquick-publish-update-delve-dear-friends-familypblockquotepto-perpetrator-attorneys-dea-judge-monitoring-ww-activity-relating-casea-hrefhttpwwwgooglecomsearchhlenaqigp1g9-target_blanki-shut-give-awaya/
December 18, 2009 — Claudine Dombrowski
Quick Publish to just update, will delve further as I can, Thank you my dear friends and family,
(To the Perpetrator and his many many attorneys and the dea Judge who is monitoring the ww for any activity relating to this case!)I will not shut up, give up and I WILL NOT GO AWAY!
Sin Denied Telling All; Reminding Others of Morals
UPDATE: Dombrowski Case:
December 16, 2009
“ We walked into Court and Jason P Hoffman one’ of Attorney’s for the Perpetrator came with a two inch stack of ‘contempt’ papers (to clean up the internet) I still do not have copy of the recent contempt’s not allowed to have (as with GAL and FOC’s private reports) as I turn them all over to be published.
The current ‘claim’ remains – is I STILL have ‘ alleged images’ of my daughter (now why would I want images of my child and my dead mom?) But are actually ‘court documents’ and several media appearances’ most recently on Domestic Violence.
Not to mention that Kansas is at an all time record high in DV Fatalities in TWO DECADES with State Warnings and the Media and Senate Hearings Testimonies on the Kansas Joint Committee on Children’s Issues.”
KansasWatchDog: Video
and Audio Testimonies:
Claudine Dombrowski: An abused mom victimized again by the Kansas Courts
The bottom line is this:
1. I am NOT a threat to my daughter nor have I ever been alleged to be a threat to my daughter unlike that of the well documented HX of violence of the perpetrator.
2. Under K.S.A 60-1616: Unless AFTER hearing- showing that I am a threat or harm to my daughter- The Courts can not deny our parenting time- (as they have this past ten years) DV by Proxy and other Court Whores that Profit.
Like my daughters Guardian ad Litem GAL M. Jill Dykes, Topeka Kansas Bottom dweller and blood profiteer of children. and we shant forget the ‘good judge himself’ Judge ‘death’ David Debenham Who one year ago denied my daughter the right to go to her Grandmothers funeral.
So………..
We kill off Granny, now a year later, time to finish off mom? I think not!!
The ‘Best interest of the Perpetrators’ remains quite clear. Domestic Violence by Proxy
Domestic Violence (DV) by Proxy: Terrorist Tactics Employed by Batterers
In the below is a recent appellate court opinion where this statute was upheld and remanded back down to the lower courts, for error in denying parenting time and or ‘conditioned’ parenting time.
So, on Jan 8, 2010 ‘charge us or release us’- Habeas Corpus, find me a threat to my daughter or sever my (alleged) rights under the law. (the only piece of paper they have NOT done)
Media and testimonies to the Kansas Senate does NOT make me a Threat or danger to my child.
“ I am tired this is draining to do- so I will publish now- and update as possible.” I Love you my Mother and my daughter- “ Don’t Give up”
K.S.A. 2004 Supp. 60-1616(a), a parent has a right to reasonable parenting time unless the trial court finds, after a hearing, that the exercise of parenting time would seriously endanger the child’s physical, mental, moral, or emotional health. K.S.A. 2004 Supp. 60-1616(a) creates a rebuttable presumption that a parent is entitled to reasonable parenting time and visitation. This presumption may be rebutted if, after a hearing, the trial court finds that the exercise of parenting time would seriously endanger the child’s physical, mental, moral, or emotional health.
http://www.kscourts.org/Cases-and-Opinions/opinions/ctapp/2005/20050916/93450.htm
SYLLABUS BY THE COURT
No. 93,450
IN THE COURT OF APPEALS OF THE STATE OF KANSAS
In the Matter of the Marriage of
JANET BOULEY, f/k/a KIMBRELL,
Appellee,
and
WILLIAM DAVID KIMBRELL,
Appellant.
SYLLABUS BY THE COURT
1. Under K.S.A. 2004 Supp. 60-1616(a), a parent has a right to reasonable parenting time unless the trial court finds, after a hearing, that the exercise of parenting time would seriously endanger the child’s physical, mental, moral, or emotional health. K.S.A. 2004 Supp. 60-1616(a) creates a rebuttable presumption that a parent is entitled to reasonable parenting time and visitation. This presumption may be rebutted if, after a hearing, the trial court finds that the exercise of parenting time would seriously endanger the child’s physical, mental, moral, or emotional health.
2. The fundamental rule of statutory construction to which all other rules are subordinate is that the intent of the legislature governs if that intent can be ascertained. The legislature is presumed to have expressed its intent through the language of the statutory scheme it enacted. When a statute is plain and unambiguous, the court must give effect to the intention of the legislature as expressed rather than determine what the law should or should not be.
3. Orders which condition parenting time and visitation upon a minor child’s desires to see a parent give a minor child the authority to determine parenting time and can have the effect of denying parenting time altogether.
4. Among the factors that must be considered when determining the issue of child custody, residency, and parenting time under K.S.A. 2004 Supp. 60-1610(a)(3)(B) and K.S.A. 2004 Supp. 60-1616(a), the trial court must look at the desires of a minor child as to the child’s custody or residency. The child’s wishes as to custody, residency, and parenting time and visitation cannot be the exclusive factor relied upon by the trial court in determining parenting time.
Appeal from Douglas District Court; JEAN F. SHEPHERD, judge. Opinion filed September 16, 2005. Affirmed in part, reversed in part, and remanded with directions.
Brant M. Laue and Chadler E. Colgan, of Armstrong Teasdale LLP, of Kansas City, Missouri, for appellant.
Sherri E. Loveland, of Stevens & Brand, L.L.P., of Lawrence, for appellee.
Before MALONE, P.J., GREEN and BUSER, JJ.
GREEN, J.: William David Kimbrell (David) appeals the trial court’s decision regarding parenting time with his 16-year-old son Evan Kimbrell. The issue in this case is whether the trial court can condition a noncustodial parent’s right to parenting time with his or her minor child upon the desires of the child.
We determine that this cannot be done.
K.S.A. 2004 Supp. 60-1616(a) makes it clear that a parent has a right to reasonable parenting time with his or her minor child “unless the court finds, after a hearing, that the exercise of parenting time would seriously endanger the child’s physical, mental, moral or emotional health.” Conditioning parenting time on the wishes of a minor child improperly gives the child the authority to determine a noncustodial parent’s rights to parenting time and visitation and can have the effect of completely denying the noncustodial parent’s rights to parenting time.
WHY F4J MUST BE STOPPED
Fringe groups such as F4J (Fathers 4 Justice) has reached new lows in attacking others now they are instructing their brothers who are thinking of suicide: “If things ever get so bad that you consider taking your own life, don’t let it be a total waste. Take a judge or a lawyer with you.” Find more here:
Suicide: How Father’s Rights Groups Drive Men Over the Edge by Randi James
Psychology tells us that if you want to get a good opinion on that Toyota Camry you’ve been thinking about, do NOT ask someone who has just recently purchased one. Why? Because of confirmation bias.
What does this have to do with father’s rights groups? Give me a minute and let me work through this ;P
Most support groups seek to validate the victim’s experience and console those who are in pain. When men seek the assistance of these father’s rights groups, many of them haven’t a clue what they are stepping into. The men that make up the most vocal minority of these groups feel that they’ve been unfairly taken advantage of by their ex-wives/ex-girlfriends and shitted on by the family court system. This isn’t so much of a support group as it is a terrorist organization. Their solutions include, but are not limited to, flooding, intimidating, bullying, and threatening anyone who speaks or writes against their mistaken beliefs. They hype each other up with pissing matches on whose ex was the biggest bitch. Nothing is their own fault.
What some of the men in these father’s rights group fail to reveal is that they weren’t really dicked by the court system or their exes–they either failed miserably in their relationships (and somehow it wasn’t apparent to them) and/or, they didn’t participate (perhaps even acquiescing) in any court “battle” but rather made assumptions based off of what their other male counterparts (who have also “lost”) have fed them.
These father’s rights groups should come with warning labels to the men who fall prey to them. Any half-decent man may seek answers to some basic questions only to be mind-fucked into a hate campaign against his current or ex-partner. He then goes into a downward spiral beginning with trying to play games with his ex instead of confronting the situation honestly and trying to figure out peaceful solutions.
Let’s review this e-mail circulating through the father’s rights groups right now, notice the title:
(emphasis mine)
—– Original Message —–
From: Jeremy Swanson
To: swanson@storm. ca
Sent: 12/26/2009 6:16:54 PM
Subject: Read this (Another Dad dead by suicide. Another child fatherless)Fathers’ and Children’s Equality (FACE)
Jeff GoldenIt grieves me deeply to report this:
About two weeks ago, I received a call from Chris Wise of Hammonton NJ. He had been referred to us by an attorney-friend of ours who gave him my cell phone number. He told me he and his girlfriend had an almost two month old son. Both parents are in their early 30s, they lived together in his house throughout the pregnancy, he is disabled and not working, and his mother and brother also live in his house. The girlfriend and her mother were telling him they were going to take away the baby, never let him see the baby again, and take away from him everything he has.
(notice the connection)
There’s nothing unusual about threats like that. We handle them all the time. Personally, I don’t like to give too much information on a first call. What I tell about fathers’ rights is probably exactly the opposite of what they have always believed and what they will be told by police, lawyers, court personnel, DYFS, etc. I prefer people to come to a meeting where a whole room-full of people will reassure them that what we say is true.
(doesn’t this sound like when one of your friends starts selling Amway and they “need” you to come to the meeting to find out more…and then you get there and everyone is so friendly and excited…almost cult-like???)
I asked Chris if anyone had been to court yet for anything. They had not. I explained to Chris that at their first time in court, one of the parents will leave with less parental rights than s/he came in with, but until they go to court both parents had equal rights. I asked where the baby was right then. Chris said the mother was about to return to work from maternity leave, and she had made arrangements to move in with some strange older woman she will be working with. I suggested that won’t last long because this stranger won’t like a crying infant interfering with her household routine. I asked why the mother didn’t go to her parents’ home. She couldn’t. Her parents are divorced. Her mother and step-father live in a little one bedroom apartment, they both smoke, and they have dogs. She had no contact with her real father until quite recently, and he also did not have proper accommodations for a new-born.
I reminded Chris of the adage “possession is nine tenths of the law,” and told him that whoever had possession of the baby on that day they first go to court will have a very good chance of keeping him. “But,” said Chris, “I don’t want to take the baby away from his mother.” Of course not … you WANT her to have liberal visitation. But remember, she already told you that if she gets custody she doesn’t want you to ever see the child again. Are you capable of taking care of the baby and doing everything that child needs? “Yes.” Who do you want to have custody?
(notice the initial resistance from Chris)
I asked Chris if he thought it would be possible for him to get possession of the baby without breaching the peace. He very confidently answered “Sure!” I asked how he could be so sure of that, and where and how would he do it? He said the mother was bringing the baby back to his house that evening, and they were all going to sleep in his house that night! Under these circumstances I couldn’t make Chris wait for our next meeting; he needed help NOW!
(notice the urgency…kinda like a snake oil salesman)
I told Chris there were two things he needed to know: First we discussed the domestic violence law. I emailed him a copy of the statute, listing all the acts that are considered to be domestic violence in New Jersey. I pointed out that whoever gets a domestic violence restraining order against the other can also automatically get custody, and that “domestic violence” does not necessarily have to have anything to do with violence. I told him if he is holding the baby and won’t release him to her, and she commits an act of domestic violence to get him away from you, especially with your mother and brother as witnesses or if she leaves marks on you, you can get a restraining order against her and get custody of the child.
(a lot of premeditation)
Second, what happens if there is no domestic violence, but she calls the police and says “He won’t give me my baby?” When the police arrive, the first thing they will do is ask to see the custody order. When they find there is no order, both of you will have equal rights. Still, to smooth things out, the police might say to you something like “Why don’t you just be a nice guy and give her the baby? You can go down to family court and straighten it all out.” JUST SAY NO! Remember, possession is nine tenths of the law, and when you go into family court that first time YOU want to have possession.
Chris called me the next morning. It was a very cold day — low 20s. The mother was getting ready to take the baby out. She wasn’t going to her co-worker’s house. She was going to some other friend’s house where she and the baby would sleep on air-mattresses on the floor until she could get into her friend’s house. She wouldn’t identify the friend or where she would be. I reminded Chris to get possession of the baby without breaching the peace, and what to say if and when the police arrived.
Chris DID get possession without breaching the peace. Mom was lying on the bed with the baby. Chris said “Let me just kiss him goodbye,” took the baby from her and would not let go of him. Mom called the police. Chris called the police too. “The mother wants to take the baby out somewhere in the cold where they’re going to sleep on an air mattress.” Two police officers arrived, one male and one female. The male officer spoke with the mother in the bedroom and the female officer spoke with Chris. They asked about a custody order and found there was none. The officers told both parents they could not force the father to give the baby to the mother! The mother said she would leave, but she wanted to come back for her personal property. The female officer recommended to Chris that he not allow the mother back into his house. Instead he should pack up all of her stuff and leave it on the porch for her.
Chris called me later to let me know what happened. GREAT, I said, now YOU have possession of the baby! “No,” he said, “something else happened too. Before she left, while the police were here, she asked to have a private conversation with me. We went into the bedroom together. She said she wanted to take the baby to her father’s house, and I said OK. She and the baby are gone.” Well, I said, we’ll either have to get possession again, or it will just be a little more difficult for you on that first day in family court.
We had a FACE meeting on Monday evening. I sent Chris a meeting schedule, asked him to come to this meeting, and gave him directions. I called him again Monday to remind him, and left a phone message. He didn’t show up.
That’s it, I thought. I scared another one away. I’ve said it before, but now I’m really NEVER again going to give a lot of advice on the phone. Regardless of urgency, they’ve got to come to a meeting first.
Chris’s mother left a message on my phone this morning. “Mr. Golden, I don’t quite know how to say this, but I didn’t want to leave you hanging. Christopher took his own life.” I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. I had to replay it a few times, then I called her.
On Monday, Chris left the house to go to a doctor appointment and then go to family court. He called his mother later and told her he was in Atlantic City, about 15 minutes away from both. That was the last she heard from him. On Wednesday she got a call from the Port Authority police. Chris’ truck was found at the Ben Franklin bridge. They had video of him entering a parking area at the base of the bridge. They don’t know how long he was there. He left his wallet, cell phone and keys in his truck, along with a note, and then he apparently went up on the bridge. They also had video of someone going over the side of the bridge.
Why did this happen? Chris’ custody situation wasn’t too bad … yet. He had let defeat get snatched from the jaws of victory in his first skirmish, but, I told him, that would just make things a little more difficult. I never met him face-to-face, but Chris was a very soft-spoken guy. At times during our conversations, I thought he was hyperventilating. His child’s mother was herself an adult child of Parental Alienation Syndrome who was not allowed a parent-child relationship with her own father, and was now being coached by her PAS-inflicting mother. Maybe he just didn’t want to face the conflict that he knew was coming. Now fatherlessness will go one generation further in that family.
(how could he diagnose the child’s mother and grandmother? he must be friends with Warshak, Rand, or Bone)
There is one thing I regret never having had an opportunity to discuss with Chris. He wasn’t far enough into the process yet to understand it. As one FACE member was known to say: “If things ever get so bad that you consider taking your own life, don’t let it be a total waste. Take a judge or a lawyer with you.”
Jeff Golden
Fathers’ and Children’s Equality (FACE)
Cinnaminson NJ
I cannot find any record of this suicide on the www. The more that I think about it, doesn’t it sound like one of those serious, emotionally compelling e-mail forwards you get from your associates? Well, I happen to do my part and look up those forwards and I have found that 90% of them are on Snopes.com as untrue. Whether or not this is true isn’t even important.
What is important is how the father’s righters try to shift the blame for this. Chris committed suicide. If it were to be anyone else’s fault (other than his own), it would lie with the person who gave him all this “advice.” In fact, if I were the mother of Chris, I would sue the hell out of Jeff Golden. Chris didn’t know how his situation would turn out, and neither did Jeff Golden. Chris could have done well by using common sense and talking to, or appealing to his wife; but instead, Jeff Golden wanted him to engage in a powerplay with a war mentality.
Check out this further commentary on the e-mail:
(emphasis mine)
—– Forwarded Message —-
From: Shatteredmen
To: Shatteredmen@yahoogroups.com; MensIssuesOnline@yahoogroups.com; female-male@yahoogroups.com; Fathers_are_Parents_too@yahoogroups.com; abusedguys@yahoogroups.com
Sent: Sun, 27 December, 2009 5:38:25 PM
Subject: [Shatteredmen] FW: Read this (Another Dad dead by suicide. Another child fatherless)I received this in an e-mail today. I do have to say that I totally disagree with the last statement… “If things ever get so bad that you consider taking your own life, don’t let it be a total waste. Take a judge or a lawyer with you.” It contend it would be far better to become….A Formidable Enemy
http://shatterdmen. com/Enemy. htm
I also believe that many of the “murder/suicides” we see may often be a result of situations like this but instead of taking a lawyer or judge with them, they take the one that they believe caused the problem.
This is all a waste…a waste of precious human lives due to a radical agenda that is well hell bent on destroying families.
http://shatterdmen. com/Bitter. htm
When our society finally (if ever) realizes that children need BOTH parents, maybe then we will not have to see reports such as this. Meanwhile according to most of society, children are “her children” until it comes time to get the support check. When the right of either parent to have an active and equal part in their children’s lives is as important as that child support check, then and only then will we see an improvement not only in a major reduction of these suicides, but we will see a major reduction in all the results of fatherless or motherless homes
http://shatterdmen. com/Fathers% 20who%20needs% 20them.htm
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Blame it on everything, minus the ones doing the killing. Chris was disabled and stressed (unemployed, living with several people in the household) and on top of that suicidal…a very difficult combination for parenting. But somehow, father’s righters seem to think that the answer to all of fathers’ problems, is 50/50 child custody. Part of the Australian father’s rights groups platform is the supposed correlation between men “suiciding” and those who are divorcing and have “lost custody.”
It just so happens that many of the murder-suicides that continue to happen, involve families with joint custody. So, how can joint custody be the solution? Furthermore, do we want our children around suicidal people? I don’t think so.
If Chris is real I sympathize with his loved ones. Sometimes I wonder if it would be best if men solicited the advice of a good woman, instead of selling their souls to the devil. Chris was driven over the edge by a father’s rights group member who gave him an unfair, limited vantage point. I wonder how many other men they have killed.
GOD HELP THE MERRY GENTLEMEN
Whore of the court Dr. Amy J. Baker has sent greetings and tidings of the coming year and how her and her colleagues intend to milk money from the government and unsuspecting parents in family court. Here is her spiel straight from the court whore:
Seasons Greetings,
I hope this message finds you well. I am writing to share a brief
end-of-year update on various parental alienation projects.
1) “I don’t want to choose” book and workbook were developed with Dr.Katherine Andre, designed to help middle school children resist the pressure to choose one parent over the other.
2) A school-based program “I don’t want to choose” was developed and will be launched in half a dozen schools this school year.
3) Media attention to custody battles, international abductions, and parental alienation has been high this past year including personal appearances on WABC TV, WPIX TV, Good Morning America, and in U.S. News and World Report. Most of the clips can be viewed from mywebsite.
4) I have been hired to train New York child protection workers about parental alienation and to help develop the North Dakota custody investigation manual.
5) I have been invited to participate in a plenary panel discussion
about parental alienation at the upcoming Association of Family and Conciliation Courts conference in Denver.
I hope that the new year brings targeted parents everywhere closer to
their children and that as a professional in the field I can shed some
light on this tragic problem and help heal alienated children and
their families.
Best Wishes,
Amy J.L. Baker, Ph.D.
For those of you who do not know the AFCC read about it here http://thetruthaboutthefamilycourt.blogspot.com/2009/10/afcc-man-behind-curtain.html
or here
http://www.randijames.com/2009/02/do-you-know-your-afcc-you-should.html
I almost feel sorry for the mens and fathers groups that cling to these whores of the court, AFCC and others that seek to milk off the teat. You do realize they only seek your money as well as federal grants?
If they only knew how they were being used as pawns in a sick and twisted game of corruption.
Just remember you reap what you sow.
PATHETIC FOOTNOTE
“The truth is the engine of our judicial system, and if you compromise the truth, the whole process is lost.” - 
US SpecialProsecutor
Patrick Fitzgerald
Suicide
Dr. Richard Gardner’s Complete Autopsy Report
Dr. Richard Gardner, M.D.
born April 28, 1931
Committed Suicide
May 25, 2003
“CAUSE OF DEATH:
Incised wounds of chest and neck.”
Allow us to disabuse the pro-abusers. Dr. Richard Gardner’s son told the New York Times that his father committed suicide. Contrary to false assertions made by the father’s rights movement, Richard Gardner most certainly did not die peacefully in his sleep.
It was far uglier than that.
The Bergen County (New Jersey) Medical Examiner reported that Dr. Richard Gardner died a gory, bloody and violent death – from his own hand. Gardner took an overdose of prescription medication while stabbing himself several times in the neck and chest. Gardner plunged a butcher knife deep into his heart.
The medical examiner removed the knife from Gardner’s chest and listed the stabbing wounds as the cause of death.
(Here is Gardner’s autopsy report and the NY Times obituary.)
County Of Bergen
Department of Public Safety
Medical Examiner Autopsy ReportMay 27, 2003
02030860.aut
GARDNER, Richard A.
New York Times
June 9, 2003, Monday
METROPOLITAN DESK
Richard Gardner, 72, Dies;
Cast Doubt on Abuse ClaimsBy STUART LAVIETES
“Dr. Richard A. Gardner, a psychiatrist and psychoanalyst who developed a theory about parental alienation syndrome, which he said could lead children in high-conflict custody cases to falsely accuse a parent of abuse, died on May 25 at his home in Tenafly, N.J. He was 72.
The cause was suicide, said Dr. Gardner’s son, Andrew, who said his father had been distraught over the advancing symptoms of reflex sympathetic dystrophy, a painful neurological syndrome.
Dr. Gardner, who testified in more than 400 child custody cases, maintained that children who suffered from parental alienation syndrome had been indoctrinated by a vindictive parent and obsessively denigrated the other parent without cause.
In severe cases, he recommended that courts remove children from the homes of the alienating parents and place them in the custody of the parents accused of abuse.
His theory has provoked vehement opposition from some mental health professionals, child abuse experts and lawyers. Critics argue that it lacks a scientific basis, noting that the American Psychiatric Association and the American Medical Association have not recognized it as a syndrome.
They also say that the theory is biased against women, as allegations of abuse are usually directed at fathers, and that it is used as a weapon by lawyers seeking to undermine a mother’s credibility in court.” …
… “His marriage to Lee Gardner ended in divorce. In addition to his son, of Cherry Hill, N.J., he is survived by two daughters, Nancy Gardner Rubin of Potomac, Md., and Julie Gardner Mandelcorn, of Newton, Mass.; his mother, Amelia Gardner of Manhattan; eight grandchildren; and his partner, Natalie Weiss.
Correction: June 14, 2003, Saturday An obituary on Monday about Dr. Richard A. Gardner, a psychiatrist and psychoanalyst, misstated his position at Columbia University. He was a clinical professor of psychiatry in the division of child and adolescent psychiatry — an unpaid volunteer — not a professor of child psychiatry.”
End of Obituary Excerpt
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A comment about Dr. Richard Gardner’s suicide released by the last man to cross examine him, attorney Richard Ducote:
June 1, 2003
“Parental Alienation Syndrome is a bogus, pro-pedophilia fraud concocted by Richard Gardner. I was the last attorney to cross examine Gardner. In Paterson, NJ, he admitted that he has not spoken to the Dean of Columbia’s medical school for over 15 years, and has not had hospital admitting privileges for over 25 years.
He has not been court appointed to do anything for decades.
The only two appellate courts in the country who have considered the question of whether PAS meets the Frye test, i.e., whether it is generally accepted in the scientific community, said it does not. As Dr. Paul Fink, former president of the American Psychiatric Association has stated, Dr. Gardner and PAS should be only a “pathetic footnote” in psychiatric history. Gardner and his bogus theory have done untold damage to sexually and physically abused children and their protective parents. PAS has been rejected by every reputable organization considering it.
In a Florida case in which I was recently involved, when the judge insisted on a Frye hearing, Gardner simply did not show up. Perhaps because he finally realized that the entire nation was on to his scam, he committed suicide on May 25. Let’s pray that his ridiculous, dangerous PAS foolishness died with him.”
Richard Ducote
attorney at law
New Orleans, LA
Dr. Richard Gardner, seen here at age 67 in February 1999, authored the money making PAS theory that made him a very rich man. Gardner committed suicide on May 25, 2003, plunging a seven inch butcher knife into his neck and heart. Gardner testified mostly for men, charging $500 per hour, routinely recommending custody to abusers, deprogramming children and threat therapy for mothers. Gardner was against society’s overly moralistic and punitive reaction to pedophiles.
To get a better understanding of the damage Dr. Richard Gardner did in his lifetime, go to this link:
“I know no safe depository of the ultimate powers of society but the people themselves; and if we think them not enlightened enough to exercise their control with a wholesome discretion, the remedy is not to take it from them, but to inform their discretion.”
Thomas Jefferson, 1820
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OH BABY BABY
Sorry FReaks 
http://justice4mothers.wordpress.com/2010/01/13/another-parental-alienation-syndrome-article-bites-the-dust-mom-logic-takes-down-its-shameful-post/
Another Parental Alienation Syndrome Article Bites the Dust: Mom Logic Takes Down it’s Shameful Post
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They just weren’t posting an honest story about parental alienation. Written by Dr. Michelle Golland, a clinical psychologist in California, it actually sounded more like an advertisement to drum up business. Parents who have lost their children to abusers came to the article to tell their story, and to inform this psychologist that claims of so-called parental alienation syndrome was all it took. Some of these psychologists just don’t get it. From the article “Parental Alienation, Divorce & Mental Illness” (now gone):
The APA will announce on January 20, 2010, what proposed changes will be included in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. If they are considering including Parental Alienation, they will begin three years of field studies, which will enable them to decide the diagnostic relevance and accuracy of Parental Alienation.
I believe it is important to realize the damaging negative emotional consequences of PA on children in high-conflict divorce. It is why I advocate for divorce therapy for any of my divorcing clients who have children. My goal is to avoid this type of harmful behavior and educate my clients on ways to create a peaceful and less stressful experience for their mutual children.
These mental health professionals do not have any training in domestic violence situations. The professionals that do know have debunked so-called parental alienation syndrome, such as the American Judges Association, the National District Attorney’s Association, and the National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges, who have warned judges about parental alienation syndrome:
2009: A Judicial Guide to Child Safety in Custody Cases
National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges Family Violence Department
Page 12:
C. [§3.3] A Word of Caution about Parental Alienation34
Under relevant evidentiary standards, the court should not accept testimony regarding parental alienation syndrome, or “PAS.” The theory positing the existence of PAS has been discredited by the scientific community.35 In Kumho Tire v. Carmichael, 526 U.S. 137 (1999), the Supreme Court ruled that even expert testimony based in the “soft sciences” must meet the standard set in the Daubert case.36 Daubert, in which the court re-examined the standard it had earlier articulated in the Frye37 case, requires application of a multi-factor test, including peer review, publication, testability, rate of error, and general acceptance. PAS does not pass this test. Any testimony that a party to a custody case suffers from the syndrome or “parental alienation” should therefore be ruled inadmissible and stricken from the evaluation report under both the standard established in Daubert and the earlier Frye standard.38
The discredited “diagnosis” of PAS (or an allegation of “parental alienation”), quite apart from its scientific invalidity, inappropriately asks the court to assume that the child’s behaviors and attitudes toward the parent who claims to be “alienated” have no grounding in reality. It also diverts attention away from the behaviors of the abusive parent, who may have directly influenced the child’s responses by acting in violent, disrespectful, intimidating, humiliating, or discrediting ways toward the child or the other parent. The task for the court is to distinguish between situations in which the child is critical of one parent because they have been inappropriately manipulated by the other (taking care not to rely solely on subtle indications) , and situations in which the child has his or her own legitimate grounds for criticism or fear of a parent, which will likely be the case when that parent has perpetrated domestic violence. Those grounds do not become less legitimate because the abused parent shares them, and seeks to advocate for the child by voicing his or her concerns.
The American Medical Association and American Psychological Association do not recognize it, but plenty of abusers, crooked father’s rights lawyers, book sellers, professors trying to get tenure by whoring for research dollars, and those who sell their paid-for expert testimony do. Nothing is worse than when a parent loses their children to their abuser, because short of actually killing them, they know nothing will hurt them worse. We are tired of the Whores of the Court making a living taking children and giving them to abusers for a price.
SHAKE YO MONEYMAKER
PSEUDO SCIENTIFIC THEORIES AND THE WHORES WHO PEDDLE IT
If You Think This is Science, You are an Idiot: Amy Baker and the Parental Alienation Syndrome Cult
As a scientist with an advanced degree, I am appalled to read this. The “research” method used by Amy Baker is a joke, almost high school level attempt at shoddy research. But you don’t have to have good research to sell books. This is from Randi James, who comments on a thesis by Francoise T. Bessette. This is an excellent treatise on the social construction of so-called parental alienation syndrome. The thesis can be downloaded at the Liz Library.
Amy Baker and Parental Alienation Syndrome: Is This What Scientific Research Looks Like?
(emphasis mine)
In 2005, Amy Baker conducted a study of adults who self-identified as having been alienated from one of their parents during childhood. Thirty-eight adults (14 males and 24 females) were recruited by word of mouth and from over one hundred advertisements placed on the internet message boards for people who had been victims of parental alienation syndrome.
Through one hour semi-structured telephone interviews, Baker learned about the participants’ perceived relationship with their estranged parent. Interviews were transcribed verbatim and analyzed using a content analysis program coding for “impact of the alienation on the participant” (Baker, 2005:292). All but seven of the alleged alienators were mothers. The findings showed that the alienation perceived by the participants negatively affected several areas of their adult lives and relationships. The participants reported high rates of low self-esteem/self-hatred, believing themselves unlovable because of the alienation from one parent, which they interpreted as rejection (2005:294). This self-hatred accounted for the guilt they felt because of the role they played in the alienation (2005:294). Over 70 percent revealed episodes of depression that they attributed to the separation from their alienated parent, and the lack of opportunity to mourn this loss while children (2005:296). Thirty-three percent of the participants had drug or alcohol addictions that they associated with their childhood circumstances. Some of these participants confessed to having a conflicted relationship with their alienating parent during their teen years because of their mental manipulation; they had turned to drugs and alcohol as an escape (2005:297-298). Sixteen people talked of their difficulties trusting others as well as themselves and of falling into the same divorcing and/or alienating pattern as their parents (2005:294). Sixty-six percent of the participants were divorced and of the twenty-eight who were parents, half were alienated from their own children (2005:300). All the participants believed they had been victims of parental alienation syndrome.
Baker qualifies her study by stating it represents only a fraction of the data collected and that many of the 38 subjects reported having positive life experiences not included in her results. She only reported negative outcomes, presenting the subjects as unhappy, maladjusted individuals, and did not address possible confounding variables that could account for her results such as poverty and lack of opportunities. Instead, she presents the results as a package combining all the participants’ responses together under different headings such as “low self-esteem”, depression, and drug/alcohol problems, referring to the number of participants in the various categories as “some” or “many”. Baker based her study on the premise that parental alienation syndrome was a conclusive element in her subjects’ lives and drew on Gardner’s theory to analyze their retrospective stories. She does not volunteer the list of questions asked during the interviews and little information is provided regarding the content analysis of the transcripts. She does not offer any scale of reference to help the reader judge the extent of the impact on the subjects. The reader is expected to accept the author’s conclusions as “true”.
–SOCIAL CONSTRUCTION OF PARENTAL ALIENATION SYNDROME By F. Besset
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You will find Dr. Amy Baker across the internet, mainly on news publications that touch on, or allude to, parental alienation syndrome (see Every Child Has Parental Alienation Syndrome). She promotes her book heavily while expressing sympathy for victims…of PAS. She is touted as a major authority on the subject matter. With all the education she has received, you’d think that she recognize the lack of science in her “research.”
In order for adults to self-identify with the concept of parental alienation syndrome, you’d have to assume they had some knowledge of what the term means.
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Who provided the definition to them?
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What did that definition consist of?
This is the first error of parental alienation syndrome: You cannot use the definition of the syndrome to diagnose the syndrome. This is circular reasoning. (ie, with a stomach ucler: the patient describes the symptoms, the practitioner observes the signs through testing measures, the diagnosis is then given based on the evidence. The practitioner does not tell the patient what constitutes an ulcer, and then have the patient verify that THOSE particular symptoms are present, and then confirm the diagnosis.)
Furthermore, it would be unwise to have an adult make a judgement about a situation that occurred during childhood because that adult is able to process and rationalize things in a different manner, which will be influenced by other life circumstances that may or may not be revealed to the researcher. Also, hindsight is 20/20, and some adults may be looking for an escape or excuse for behaviors for which they are indeed responsible. Their current perception of what once existed is not necessarily proof that it did [exist].
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How can this adult know the difference between a protective parent that alienated, and a malicious parent that is alienated unless all truth be known about what occured in the past?
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And how do you verify this without including the parents themselves?
This is another error of parental alienation syndrome: it is based on the victim’s (just like the target parent) perception (although the victim of PAS is said to be the child) of what has occurred.
Is this what scientific research looks like?
SO YOU THINK YOU CAN BE A COURT WHORE?
UPDATE!
Tsk….Tsk…Tsk….Seems like this whore of the court is soon to be behind bars….karma really is a bitch isn’t it?
According to her resume, Janelle Burrill is many things: psychologist, attorney, social worker. To the Sacramento Superior Court, she’s both an approved family court mediator and a special master, a person appointed by the court to make sure judicial orders are followed. She’s also been active in Placer and El Dorado Counties, testifying in numerous cases.
But to some critics of California’s family courts system, she’s something else: Exhibit A for what’s wrong with family courts in California.
To at least one litigant, she’ll soon take on another role: defendant in a civil rights lawsuit.
Audio above from KFBK
For Immediate Release: Contact: Kathleen RussellAugust 4, 2010 Cell: 415-250-1180
Outraged Parents Take Action Against Janelle Burrill
Criminal Complaints Against Custody Evaluator to be Filed at 10AM Thursday, Followed By 11:30AM Picket at Her Office
— PHOTO OPPORTUNITY –
SACRAMENTO- A number of local parents who have lost custody of their children during local divorce proceedings are seeking an official criminal investigation of the professional that they claim is responsible. Multiple parents will file criminal complaints against custody evaluator Janelle Burrill this Thursday August 5th at 10am at the Sacramento Police Department (5770 Freeport Blvd) followed by an 11:30am picket at Burrill’s 915 University Ave office.
The California State Auditor is currently investigating the Sacramento Family Court’s use of court appointees such as Burrill in divorce proceedings. As we understand it, Janelle Burrill is also currently under investigation by the California Board of Behavioral Sciences because of multiple, longstanding complaints against her. We have also seen written confirmation that her board certification was revoked by the American Board of Examiners in Clinical Social Work this past Spring for failing to report an existing complaint against her.
Parents allege that Burrill has engaged in serious misconduct during the course of her investigations, which in one case reportedly led to the handcuffing, hospitalization and drugging of a gifted 14-year-old boy because he allegedly refused to visit with his mother.
Parents have also raised questions about the veracity of Ms. Burrill’s pr imary psychological and legal credentials, given the unaccredited status of some of the educational institutions she reportedly graduated from, and her non-listing with the California State Bar Association. She is reportedly also unlicensed by the California Board of Psychology.
“If these claims are true, then the children of Sacramento deserve a proper investigation. Appointees like Burrill make life-altering recommendations to the courts, which are often routinely accepted by the courts. The welfare of children and the rights of parents to parent their children are often literally in the hands of appointees like Burrill. We are aware of reported negative allegations about Burrill that date back years. These parents deserve to have a formal investigation of their claims, to determine whether state laws have been broken and codes of professional ethics violated,” said Kathleen Russell, the Executive Director of the Center for Judicial Excellence.
“If laws have been broken, then appropriate action must be taken,” Russell said.
A growing frustration with family court appointees who violate state laws and codes of professional conduct around the country has led to recent arrests and lawsuits against court appointees, which is a relatively new occurrence for a once untouchable and politically powerful industry.
See links below for related stories on this subject:
Therapist’s arrest may mean a review of cases
http://www.timesunion.com/news/article/Therapist-s-arrest-may-mean-a-review-of-cases-556589.php
Custody Evaluator’s Credentials Questioned In Lawsuit
Dr. Stephen Doyne Has Been Involved In 3,000 To 4,000 San Diego Custody Cases http://www.10news.com/news/19985926/detail.html
http://10newsblogs.com/iteam/?p=657
Teen sues county for placing her in custody of sex offender grandfather http://www.whas11.com/news/Teen-sues-county-for-placing-her-in-custody-of-sex-offender-grandfather-90358309.html
Questions surround methods, credentials of drug screener
Family Court relies on Robert Bennett’s findings to decide crucial issues of custody and divorce http://www.truthinjustice.org/drug-screener.htm
Mothers Interrupted These women entered mediation in family court thinking they would retain primary custody of their children. Mediator Janelle Burrill thought otherwise. http://www.newsreview.com/sacramento/content?oid=11355
First Edition : Private Investigative report re credentials of corrupt fraud Janelle Burrill Sacramento LCSW 16216.
Here are some findings re Burrills marketing of certain credentials. So who is Janelle Burrill that practices at 915 University Avenue; Sacramento, California 95825; (916) 646-6500; Fax (916) 646-1176. Janelle Burrill letterheads, business cards, curriculum vitae say the following
Dr JANELLE BURRILL, Ph.D., J.D., L.C.S.W.
LICENSED CLINICAL SOCIAL WORKER, LCSW 16216
Board Certified Diplomate
What do you think ? Most of us would think – Wow! We have a super educated knowledgeable doctor , expert in psychology, law and or medicine that has the blessing of all credentialing bodies in the world.
Janelle Burrill is classic example of false advertisement and fraudulent marketing.
Lets look at the all the letters stuck in front and back of Janelle Burrill – here are the facts :
1.“Board Certified Diplomate” – Sounds like Burrill took a big board exam run by a state or a federal agency, got her credentials verified and got an award of the Diplomate. Right?
Wrong : Burrill did not pass any exam, she pays $115/yr to the association to keep this title. This so called certification is issued by an association that is called American Board of Examiners in Clinical Social Work (ABE), It is a not a state or a government agency, it is an association – sort of a club of other Clinical Social Workers. http://www.abecsw. org/
They are based at the following address 27 Congress Street, Suite 501, Salem, MA 01970
414 First Street East, Suite 3, Sonoma, CA 95476
To get this so called certificate every year from this friendly club you have to do the following – practice for ~ 300 hours/yr, maintain State Licensure in good standing, Ethical practice, 20 Hours of Continuing Education, Payment of $115/yr. Like most associations rooting for their kind – ABE cares about their revenue and is blind to the fraud perpetuated by Janelle Burrill . They have no idea that the California Board of Behavioral Sciences has dozens of complaints on Burrill and she has been under active investigation by DCA DOI.
Lets educate ABE – call or send a copy of your BBS complaint and any other factual evidence of Burrills fraud to Mr Robert A. Booth, Jr. Executive Director. Center for Clinical Social Work/ABE
Shetland Park. 27 Congress St. #501. Salem, MA 01970 Tel : 978-740-5394.
Once BBS revokes Burrills LCSW license, “Board Certified Diplomate” will vaporize. It is not a diploma or a certificate that you keep when you graduate from a school , university or board.
2.J.D. – Sounds like Burrill is a lawyer and can practice law in the state of California. She knows family law and understands how to address the best interest of children and families. Right?
Wrong : Burrill failed the Multistate Professional Responsibility Examination and the California Bar Examination multiple times. She is not licensed to practice law anywhere – let alone in California. Our search did not find her at the California Bar – http://members. calbar.ca. gov/search/ member_search. aspx?ms=janelle+ burrill . Her attorney husband John Michael O’Donnell – #142906 who sends us the threats to gag shows as licensed.
3.Dr of Psychology – Burrill claims to be an expert in psychology – she has determined and diagnosed many of her victims as psychotic, suffering from bi-polar disorders and doles out DSM-V diagnosis and prescribes psychiatric medicine as candies after talking to them for a few minutes. With a Doctor title in front of her name – you are convinced she is a doctor of psychology right?
Wrong : We talked to the Board of psychology and found out that she failed the board exam multiple times. She has been trying to get licenced for the last three years and failed miserably. The only assistant licence she had was terminated in 2006. Our search found out her fraud http://www2. dca.ca.gov/ pls/wllpub/ WLLQRYNA$ LCEV2.ActionQuer y
Licensee Name: BURRILL-O’DONNELL JANELLE L ; PSYCHOLOGICAL ASSISTANT License Number: PSB30483 ; REGISTRATION TERMINATED ; Expiration Date: July 22, 2006 ; Issue Date: March 18, 2004 ; Address: 2951 FULTON AVE. ; City: SACRAMENTO ; State: CA ; Zip: 95821 ; County: SACRAMENTO ; Actions: No
4.LCSW – Burrill is licensed by the California Board of Behavioral Sciences as a Clinical social worker LCS 16216. Once the BBS investigation is complete we are confident that justice will prevail and Burrill’s LCSW will be revoked.
5.PhD and the “Dr” in Burrill – Burrill attaches a Dr title representing herself as an expert. A PhD holder of some kind. She asserted herself to us as Doctor of psychology – We must worship this fraudulent doctor Right?
Wrong : Burrill purchased a PhD from an online / correspondence university called North Central University . This is what it takes to buy a PhD from north Central University. http://www.ncu. edu/about/ about_ncu. aspx
The requirements are very easy – The PhD online / correspondence degree requires 51 graduate semester credits including 24 semester credits in dissertation preparation. No real college would award a masters degree for under 50 credits. At NCU you can do your own stuff in correspondence at $350/credit, basically buy your online degree for under $17,000.
No real or proper accredited university would dole out a doctorate with 50 credits of do your own courses over the internet. Her dissertation cannot even be used as toilet paper and she walks around as a Doctor and markets herself as a super expert in psychology.
It’s a sham of a PhD. No real university would even consider this nonsense to award any degree. The investigators are trying to correspond with Heather fenderick the dean of this correspondence school and will publish details in the second edition of this report. http://www.ncu. edu/academics/ welcome_from_ psychology. aspx . There is no substance or quality.
Make your own assessment of the genuine fraud Janelle Burrill – A fake online degree, failed California Bar exam with no license to practice law anywhere, failed Board of psychology exam and no license to practice psychology and a social worker membership document. Burrill is not just an incompetent fraud she suffers from serious inferiority complex – Further analysis of her behavioral traits in second edition.
BETTER FIND ANOTHER JOB…MAYBE DANCING…ON SECOND THOUGHT….
MAYBE NOT!
WHO WANTS TO BE A MILLIONAIRE?
APPARENTLY THIS DUDE DOES
Ernie Allen of NCMEC Makes a Milli for “Rescuing Children.” How Much Do You Make?
The National Center for Missing and Exploited Children (NCMEC) is a non-profit agency based in Northern Virginia.
NCMEC gets at least half of its money from tax payers.
NCMEC president Ernie Allen makes in excess of ONE MILLION DOLLARS per year.
NCMEC, being private entity, is NOT subject to FOIA requests.
Not all of the children listed by NCMEC are or were “missing.”
NCMEC and John Walsh are on the constant hunt for child sexual predators via computer traps, search, and seizure…but where are the children?
From Hank Asher’s blog:
NCMEC (National Center for Missing and Exploited Children) ONE (1) -conversation with the founders of NCMEC, John and Revé Walsh!!! -and NCMEC in action to reunite children with their families!!! NCMEC reunited 5,500 children with their families after Katrina. GO NCMEC! They’re on the ground, waiting for clearance to start operations with over 1,000 volunteers and people paid from private funds. I am on the board of NCMEC. It’s the only Board I’m a member of. Help them! They protect our most valuable asset in the United States every day. OUR CHILDREN… www.NCMEC.org Seriously, I’ve given them over $10 million in cash and my products for free since 1993. They do God’s work. And they’re under-funded.
I do not currently possess the appropriate word set to be able to express what needs to be said. So, I leave the following as an explanation:
and this:
TOLD YOU SO
On February 10, the American Psychiatric Association (APA) released the proposed draft diagnostic criteria for DSM-5 on its Website www.dsm5.org.
The draft criteria represent content changes under consideration. The information posted on the Website includes the proposed criteria, the rationale, the supporting research, and DSM-IV content as a comparison.
Where is PAS??
All the FReaks (fathers/mens rights) and their supporters said it was going to in there…. Sorry court whores….your money train has just left the station!!! Truly I am laughing my ass off!
WHERE IS PAS?
NOT ANYWHERE ON THERE!
NA NA NA NA BOO BOO!!
THE STARRY MESSENGER
It comes now that the problem that millions of mothers have been been talking about in the last few years is now about to go BOOM. For all this time we have been telling Judges that we do not feel are children are safe in the hands of our former abusers. Did they listen? NO. Now that how many children have died at the hands of their own father and more women are banding together they will and have been held accountable. We were chastised, scolded and more importantly revictimized all over in again at the hands of family court and their criminals. We trudged on when we thought we could no longer and found each other. Thousands of women that have been bruised, battered but not broken! We stood up to Judges, the GAL and other whores of the court. We learned and now KNOW about Responsible Fatherhood Initiatives and Access/Visitation grants! We have exposed you on our blogs about your errs in judgement, your unethical behavior and questionable morals as a human being.
WHAT IF IT WAS YOU HANGING UP ON THE WALL?
Hope you like what you see FISHERMAN…did you ever get that poor Walleye mounted that you kept alive for two weeks in your 100 gallon tank..traveled around the countryside entering your daughter into fishing tournaments??
GET A LIFE!!!
JUDGEMENT DAY
Nearly 100 people protest Judge Lemkau
VICTORVILLE • Roughly 100 people gathered outside the Victorville Courthouse early Monday morning to protest against Judge Robert Lemkau, who called a mother a liar when she told him her estranged boyfriend was threatening to kill their son.
Protesters lined up on the sidewalk starting around 8 a.m. asking Lemkau to resign as T.V. cameras and photographers crowded the area.
In January, Katie Tagle warned Lemkau that her former boyfriend, Stephen Garcia, 25, of Pinon Hills, had threatened to kill their son, Wyatt. Despite the warning, Lemkau approved Garcia’s visitation request.
Ten days later, Garcia shot and killed the baby boy and himself.
“This is awesome. I’m really surprised — there’s a lot of people here. I’m really happy about the outcome and the support,” Tagle said.
At the protest, Tagle met mothers who told her that they were having the same problems in court that she was.
“I didn’t realize there were so many people dealing with the same judge (in Victorville) or judges in Rancho Cucuamonga or in Yucaipa or in San Bernardino, but there shouldn’t be this many problems,” Tagle said. “There shouldn’t be this many people going through the same stuff that I went through.”
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DO NOT JUDGE, SO THAT YOU MAY NOT BE JUDGED. FOR WITH THE JUDGEMENT YOU MAKE YOU WILL BE JUDGED AND THE MEASURE YOU GIVE WILL BE THE MEASURE YOU GET.
MATTHEW 7:1-3
SEX NINJA STORY
Imagine if you will a story that a father tells regarding illicit contact with his daughter.
A story even MORE bizarre than a fish story.
In Fredicksburg, Virginia yesterday a Stafford man was sentenced to 22 years in prison for raping his 12 year old daughter.
Judge Charles Sharp handed down the sentence that a jury had recommended in November. The father was convicted of two counts each of rape, aggravated sexual battery, indecent liberties and incest.
The only reason this conduct came to light was after the child became pregnant.
In the fathers testimony he claimed he had passed out from drinking one night when he was awakened by someone in a white nightgown on top of him. He said he didn’t realize it was his daughter until the next morning, when he saw her wearing the nightgown.
Prosecutor Andrea McCauley argued that the father conocted the story because he feared that he had impregnated the child but DNA tests on the aborted fetus showed the actual father was the girl’s step-uncle.
According to the evidence presented by prosecutor Andrea McCauley, the girl, now 14, lived with her father in central Stafford from August 2007 until June of 2008. (I wonder who ordered that?)
The girl moved back to Georgia to be with her mother, who is divorced from the father. She was five months pregnant by the time the mother realized that something was amiss.
The girl later told Detective Chris Cameron that her father regularly molested her when she lived in Stafford. She claimed she hadn’t had sex with anyone else.
The DNA test proved otherwise. But by then, the child’s father had already made incriminating statements to police.
The father’s story to police was dubbed by Cameron as the “sex ninja story.”
The father maintained his innocence again yesterday.
ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME?!
DADDY DEAREST
KEEP THAT QUOTE IN MIND…THINK ABOUT IT…THEN READ THE BELOW INSANITY!
http://www.thelizlibrary.org/fathers/farrell2.htm
Children Have A Right to A Relationship with Their Father. I’d Like to Thank Judge Robert Benjamin on Behalf of the U.N.
UPDATED!! AGAIN
Does watching child porn match you a bad father? Maybe, maybe not. But who’d like to bet their own children on it? Any volunteers?
No, seriously.
A father was convicted of child pornography offenses a couple of years ago.
His wife left him.
Subsequently, the father has been trying to get access to his children.
The court previously found that he had behaved inappropriately in bed with one of the children.
But JUDGE ROBERT BENJAMIN ordered that the two children, who are girls aged 8 and 10, spend weekends with their father.
Eldest daughter is afraid.
To facilitate the father’s rights, JUDGE ROBERT BENJAMIN orders that:
1. the girls sleep in the same bedroom (to “support” each other), and
2. the father place a lock on the bedroom door for the girls
3. the father have an adult friend stay overnight when the girls are present
Additionally, some UNNAMED Family Court counselor has stated that the girls don’t pose a risk to the father, at their current ages, when they are awake, clothed, and together.
How considerate.
Think I’m kidding? See article here.
A summary of the rights under the Convention on the Rights of the Child
Article 3 (Best interests of the child): The best interests of children must be the primary concern in making decisions that may affect them. All adults should do what is best for children. When adults make decisions, they should think about how their decisions will affect children. This particularly applies to budget, policy and law makers.
Article 4 (Protection of rights): Governments have a responsibility to take all available measures to make sure children’s rights are respected, protected and fulfilled. When countries ratify the Convention, they agree to review their laws relating to children. This involves assessing their social services, legal, health and educational systems, as well as levels of funding for these services. Governments are then obliged to take all necessary steps to ensure that the minimum standards set by the Convention in these areas are being met. They must help families protect children’s rights and create an environment where they can grow and reach their potential. In some instances, this may involve changing existing laws or creating new ones. Such legislative changes are not imposed, but come about through the same process by which any law is created or reformed within a country. Article 41 of the Convention points out the when a country already has higher legal standards than those seen in the Convention, the higher standards always prevail.
Article 5 (Parental guidance): Governments should respect the rights and responsibilities of families to direct and guide their children so that, as they grow, they learn to use their rights properly. Helping children to understand their rights does not mean pushing them to make choices with consequences that they are too young to handle. Article 5 encourages parents to deal with rights issues “in a manner consistent with the evolving capacities of the child”. The Convention does not take responsibility for children away from their parents and give more authority to governments. It does place on governments the responsibility to protect and assist families in fulfilling their essential role as nurturers of children.
Article 6 (Survival and development): Children have the right to live. Governments should ensure that children survive and develop healthily.
Article 9 (Separation from parents): Children have the right to live with their parent(s), unless it is bad for them. Children whose parents do not live together have the right to stay in contact with both parents, unless this might hurt the child.
Article 12 (Respect for the views of the child): When adults are making decisions that affect children, children have the right to say what they think should happen and have their opinions taken into account. This does not mean that children can now tell their parents what to do. This Convention encourages adults to listen to the opinions of children and involve them in decision-making — not give children authority over adults. Article 12 does not interfere with parents’ right and responsibility to express their views on matters affecting their children. Moreover, the Convention recognizes that the level of a child’s participation in decisions must be appropriate to the child’s level of maturity. Children’s ability to form and express their opinions develops with age and most adults will naturally give the views of teenagers greater weight than those of a preschooler, whether in family, legal or administrative decisions.
Article 19 (Protection from all forms of violence): Children have the right to be protected from being hurt and mistreated, physically or mentally. Governments should ensure that children are properly cared for and protect them from violence, abuse and neglect by their parents, or anyone else who looks after them. In terms of discipline, the Convention does not specify what forms of punishment parents should use. However any form of discipline involving violence is unacceptable. There are ways to discipline children that are effective in helping children learn about family and social expectations for their behaviour – ones that are non-violent, are appropriate to the child’s level of development and take the best interests of the child into consideration. In most countries, laws already define what sorts of punishments are considered excessive or abusive. It is up to each government to review these laws in light of the Convention.
Article 34 (Sexual exploitation): Governments should protect children from all forms of sexual exploitation and abuse. This provision in the Convention is augmented by the Optional Protocol on the sale of children, child prostitution and child pornography.
Article 36 (Other forms of exploitation): Children should be protected from any activity that takes advantage of them or could harm their welfare and development.
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This case is one of many, internationally, involving fathers’ rights to their children. We can’t all be lying.
In the words of Judge Robert Lemkau (California):
And you have an ex parte request calendared for tomorrow which I am advancing today. One of you is lying, and I am very concerned…
…I am inclined to deny you ex parte request. I feel that, if you’re lying, there’s going to be adverse consequences…
…I’m denying your request, ma’am. I think— there’s insufficient evidence in my mind…
…Well, ma’am, there’s a real dispute about whether that’s even true or not…
…I’m going to deny it, ma’am. My suspicion is that you’re lying, but I’m going to keep the custody orders in full force and effect…
…I reviewed it and that’s why I’m — my supposition, ma’am, is that you’re lying, but if I’m incorrect, you can always bring another ex parte motion but don’t misrepresent the situation. If you’re lying about this, there’s going to be adverse consequences. My supposition is that you are lying…
HARD TO BELIEVE?
Is it really hard to believe? I mean really? OR IS IT?!
Too bad Judge Lemkau had his head up his ass the day that he denied a restraining order for a psycho. A father who ended killing his son and himself in order to enact revenge on his former girlfriend who moved on. The San Bernardino judge has BLOOD on his hands and people are taking a stance.
Many aren’t educated and many refused to listen to us protective mothers when we asked for similiar help in family court. But NOT any more…..there WILL be justice for all!
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/2722227/baby_wyatt_garcia_judge_lemkau_may.html?cat=9
The Three-Judges Fiasco. Judge Debra Harris, Judge J. David Mazurek, and Judge Robert Lemkau ignored in three separate instances the desperate petitions from Wyatt’s mother, Katie Tagle, for ‘Prevention of Domestic Violence’ and for an emergencyrestraining order that would have changed unsupervised visitations for Wyatt’s father (Tagle’s ex-boyfriend) Stephen Garcia into supervised visitations. But in December 2009, Harris deemed Tagle a liar and denied the petitions. In mid-January 2010, Mazurek followed suit.On January 21, Lemkau also deemed Tagle a liar and denied her petitions. In effect, there was no court hearing that day because the judge’s mind was closed. “Judge Lemkau not only ignored the fact that Mr. Garcia had made death threats against Ms. Tagle and her son by phone, e-mail, texts, suicide letters and even a short novel ['Necessary Evil'], but he also told Ms. Tagle that she was lying,” wrote James Hosking on his website.
Ten days after Lemkau summarily dismissed Tagle, baby Wyatt was dead. Garcia shot his son on a lonely road in Twin Peaks California and then shot himself. The homicide and suicide were pre-meditated. Garcia himself created and assembled all the evidence of his premeditation long before he carried out his monstrous deeds.
The grain of good in the tragic end to a beautiful thriving baby boy. SB County Deputy District Attorney James Hosking is running for Superior Court Judge against Judge Robert Lemkau. Voters will decide between them on Election Day June 8, 2010. Hosking had not yet planned to run but after reading about Wyatt’s murder, he decided he would run ‘based in part upon being outraged by his [Lemkau's] ruling that allowed this baby [Wyatt] to be murdered by his psychotic father’. “The People of San Bernardino County deserve a legal system that reviews all the evidence available and protects its citizens,” states Hosking on his website. Hosking received his Juris Doctorate from
Judge Lemkau was appointed the SB County Superior Court Judge in 2007 by Governor Arnold Schwarzenegger when a new law opened new judicial seats in California. It is an ironic fact that Lemkau, before his judge appointment, was a prosecutor for the SB County District Attorney who for thirteen years concentrated on crimes against children.
Said Hosking, “After the recent tragic news that shattered the Tagle family last month, I knew in my heart that without a doubt I needed to commit to pursuing a seat in an effort to remove Judge Lemkau from the bench. It is time for change!” Contact James Hosking at ElectHosking@sbcglobal.net
SLAP MY BITCH UP
Remember them in November
AS EXPECTED, the Maryland House Judiciary Committee wrongly killed a bill on Thursday that would have made it easier for victims of domestic violence to obtain protective orders. H.B. 700 would have brought Maryland into conformance with the practices of every other state in the country. As an election-year service to voters, here is the 15 to 6 vote:
Chairman Joseph F. Vallario Jr. (D-Prince George’s) did not vote, as is the general practice.
Against: Curtis S. Anderson (D-Baltimore), Benjamin S. Barnes (D-Prince George’s), Jill P. Carter (D-Baltimore), Frank M. Conaway Jr. (D-Baltimore), Donald H. Dwyer Jr. (R-Anne Arundel), William J. Frank (R-Baltimore County), J.B. Jennings (R-Baltimore County), Kevin Kelly (D-Allegany), Gerron S. Levi (D-Prince George’s), Tony McConkey (R-Anne Arundel), Victor R. Ramirez (D-Prince George’s), Samuel I. Rosenberg (D-Baltimore), Todd L. Schuler (D-Baltimore County), Luiz R.S. Simmons (D-Montgomery) and Michael D. Smigiel Sr. (R-Cecil).
For: Kathleen M. Dumais (D-Montgomery), Benjamin F. Kramer (D-Montgomery), Susan C. Lee (D-Montgomery), Susan McComas (R-Harford), Kriselda Valderrama (D-Prince George’s) and Jeffrey D. Waldstreicher (D-Montgomery).
The problem is…
FRANK M. CONAWAY, Jr., one of the Committee members a domestic violence perp himself? See http://citypaper.com/news/story.asp?id=12819 THAT would explain a lot!
Conaway Jr.’s longtime wife, Latesa Elaine Thomas, 44, has had a Baltimore County domestic-violence protective order against her husband for more than three years. The order, dated Aug. 25, 2003, states that Conaway Jr. “threatened to kill” Thomas, placing her “in fear of imminent serious bodily harm,” and that “one year ago [he] pushed her face through back door window.” Thomas also convinced the court that Conaway Jr., 43, was a threat to himself and others as a diagnosed sufferer of bipolar disorder who had stopped taking his prescribed medications, so the court ordered police escorts to deliver Conaway Jr. to two emergency hospital evaluations in the summer of 2003. Thomas is in the process of divorcing Conaway Jr.
ULTIMATE ACT OF ABUSE
Not even a prominent woman can escape the ULTIMATE act of abuse…
DEATH
Rest peacefully Senator Schaefer, we will take it from here.
CLARKESVILLE, Ga. – Former state Sen. Nancy Schaefer and her husband were found dead in their home in north Georgia and it is being investigating it as a possible murder-suicide, authorities said Friday.
Six GBI agents were at the home investigating at the request of the Habersham County Sheriff’s department, GBI spokesman John Bankhead said.
The preliminary investigation is looking at the case as a murder-suicide, but he did not have further details.
http://www.foxnews.com/politics/2010/03/26/deaths-ga-lawmaker-husband-probed-murder-suicide/
Schaefer, 73, exposed the corruption of CPS and their employees in 2007 and detailing the horrors she had discovered.
http://fightcps.com/pdf/TheCorruptBusinessOfChildProtectiveServices.pdf
Already the mens rights are saying that its a conspiracy. That because Nancy Schaefer likely died at the hands of POLICY. Because she went against the grain and run out by the political arena…and I quote:
by those wishing to Cannibalize, and now, she is dead. She went against the corruption,
and stood for actual human rights, costing the State BILLIONS in revenue.
Really? Is it that simple enough to blame it on others when the person that killed Nancy was right in the same room as her?
Georgia investigators concluded that Bruce Schaefer, 74, shot his wife, former state Sen. Nancy Schaefer, once in the back in the bedroom and then shot himself in the head. Women and children are dying in a murder-suicide situation by a male perpetrator. Domestic violence is not even spared for the elite nor is murder-suicide, the ultimate act of abuse.
The men rights groups should tread lightly on this story e.g. Glenn Sacks. With the amount of media that has been watching these issues of family court, child custody, CPS and the like, your castle is crumbling.
The spirits and souls of the women and children that have left this earth have clung to our cause and we are entrusted to carry on the cause of exposing the corruptions that fall upon children and women.
They have not have died in vain.
TWO OF A KIND
(KS) Dr. Dale and Pedophile Dr. Gardner: Similarities Engaged
Please see last post about the GREAT Kansas Dr. Milfred “Bud” Dale. Kansas Court Whore Dr. Milfred “Dale” Bud
Here is the force mommy Evaluation from Dr. Dale Evaluation forcing mother to not complain about sexual and physical abuse- it’s confrontational, and if mommy wants to see child again.. then mommy will do as told. Note the Similaritires to the report to that of the known Pedophile and abuser Richard Gardner father of Parental Alienation (PAS) below.
A Topeka Kansas Evaluation: Teaching the mother to NOT REPORT sexual or physical Abuse: As Ordered by the Courts;
Kansas Court Whore Dr. Milfred “Dale” Bud
CUSTODY EVALUATORS
AND PARENTING COORDINATORS
IN THEIR OWN WORDS
Topeka Kansas Evaluation: Teaching the mother to NOT REPORT sexual or physical Abuse: As Ordered by the Courts;
by Dr. Milford “Bud” Dale.
then see below same? hmm……
http://www.leadershipcouncil.org/1/pas/RAG.html
Overview of Dr. Richard Gardner’s Opinions
on
Pedophilia and Child Sexual Abuse
Richard A. Gardner, M.D., is the creator of the creator and main proponent for Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) theory. Prior to his suicide, Gardner was an unpaid part-time clinical professor of child psychiatry at the College of Physicians and Surgeons at Columbia University . He made his money mainly as a forensic expert.
PAS was developed by Dr Richard Gardner in 1985 based on his personal observations and work as an expert witness, often on behalf of fathers accused of molesting their children. Gardner asserted that PAS is very common and he saw manifestations of this syndrome in over 90% of the custody conflicts he evaluated–even when abuse allegations are not raised (Gardner, 1987, p. 67).1 Gardner (September 6, 1993) claimed that PAS is “a disorder of children, arising almost exclusively in child-custody disputes, in which one parent (usually the mother) programs the child to hate the other parent (usually the father).”2
Gardner ’s theory of PAS has had a profound effect on how the court systems in our country handle allegations of child sexual abuse, especially during divorce. Gardner has authored more than 250 books and articles with advice directed towards mental health professionals, the legal community, divorcing adults and their children. Gardner ’s private publishing company, Creative Therapeutics, published his many books, cassettes, and videotapes.3 Information available on Gardner ’s website indicates that he has been certified to testify as an expert in approximately 400 cases, both criminal and civil, in more than 25 states.4 Gardner ’s work continues to serve as a basis for decisions affecting the welfare of children in courtrooms across the nation. He is considered a leading authority in family courts and has even been described as the “guru” of child custody evaluations.4
Because Gardner ’s PAS theory is based on his clinical observations–not scientific data–it must be understood in the context of his extreme views concerning women, pedophilia and child sexual abuse.
Gardner on pedophilia
The vast majority (“probably over 95%”) of all sex abuse allegations are valid.
Gardner, R.A. (1991). Sex Abuse Hysteria: Salem Witch Trials Revisited . Cresskill, NJ: Creative Therapeutics (pp. 7, 140).
“There is a bit of pedophilia in every one of us.”
Gardner, R.A. (1991). Sex Abuse Hysteria: Salem Witch Trials Revisited . Cresskill, NJ: Creative Therapeutics. (p. 118)
“Pedophilia has been considered the norm by the vast majority of individuals in the history of the world.”
Gardner, R.A. (1992). True and False Accusations of Child Sex Abuse . Cresskill, NJ: Creative Therapeutics. (p. 592-3)
Similarly, “intrafamilial pedophilia (that is, incest) is widespread and … is probably an ancient tradition”
Gardner, R.A. (1991). Sex Abuse Hysteria: Salem Witch Trials Revisited . Cresskill, NJ: Creative Therapeutics. (p. 119)
“It is because our society overreacts to it [pedophilia] that children suffer.”
Gardner, R.A. (1992). True and False Accusations of Child Sex Abuse . Cresskill, NJ: Creative Therapeutics. (pp. 594-5)
Pedophilia may enhance the survival of the human species by serving “procreative purposes.”
Gardner, R.A. (1992). True and False Accusations of Child Sex Abuse . Cresskill, NJ: Creative Therapeutics. (pp. 24-5)
Pedophilia “is a widespread and accepted practice among literally billions of people.”
Gardner, R.A. (1986). Child Custody Litigation: A Guide for Parents and Mental Health Professionals . Cresskill, NJ: Creative Therapeutics, (p. 93)
In addition, Gardner proposes that many different types of human sexual behavior, including pedophilia, sexual sadism, necrophilia (sex with corpses), zoophilia (sex with animals), coprophilia (sex involving defecation), can be seen as having species survival value and thus do “not warrant being excluded from the list of the `so-called natural forms of human sexual behavior.’” 
See, Gardner, R.A. (1992). True and False Accusations of Child Sex Abuse . Cresskill, NJ: Creative Therapeutics. (pp. 18-32)
Gardner on the sexual aggressiveness of children
Gardner suggests that children want to have sex with adults and may seduce them.
Some children experience ” high sexual urges in early infancy. ” “There is good reason to believe that most, if not all, children have the capacity to reach orgasm at the time they are born.”
Gardner, R.A. (1992). True and False Accusations of Child Sex Abuse . Cresskill, NJ: Creative Therapeutics. (p. 15)
Children are naturally sexual and may initiate sexual encounters by “seducing” the adult .
Gardner, R.A. (1986). Child Custody Litigation: A Guide for Parents and Mental Health Professionals. Cresskill, NJ: Creative Therapeutics (p. 93).
If the sexual relationship is discovered, ” the child is likely to fabricate so that the adult will be blamed for the initiation .”
Gardner, R.A. (1986). Child Custody Litigation: A Guide for Parents and Mental Health Professionals. Cresskill, NJ: Creative Therapeutics (p. 93).
“The normal child exhibits a wide variety of sexual fantasies and behaviors, many of which would be labeled as ’sick’ or ‘perverted’ if exhibited by adults”
Gardner, R.A. (1991). Sex Abuse Hysteria: Salem Witch Trials Revisited . Cresskill, NJ: Creative Therapeutics. (p. 12)
Sex abuse is not necessarily traumatic; the determinant as to whether sexual molestation will be traumatic to the child, is the social attitude toward these encounters.
Gardner, R.A. (1992). True and False Accusations of Child Sex Abuse . Cresskill, NJ: Creative Therapeutics. (pp. 670-71) 
Gardner on therapy with children who are sexually abused by their father
• Keep the child connected to the abuser
Special care should be taken not alienate the child from the molesting parent. The removal of a pedophilic parent from the home “should only be seriously considered after all attempts at treatment of the pedophilia and rapprochement with the family have proven futile.”
Gardner, R.A. (1992). True and False Accusations of Child Sex Abuse . Cresskill, NJ: Creative Therapeutics.(p. 537)
The child should be told that there is no such thing as a perfect parent. “The sexual exploitation has to be put on the negative list, but positives as well must be appreciated”
Gardner, R.A. (1992). True and False Accusations of Child Sex Abuse . Cresskill, NJ: Creative Therapeutics.(p. 572)
• Tell the child that sexual abuse by a father is normal
Older children may be helped to appreciate that sexual encounters between an adult and a child are not universally considered to be reprehensible acts. The child might be told about other societies in which such behavior was and is considered normal. The child might be helped to appreciate the wisdom of Shakespeare’s Hamlet, who said, “Nothing’s either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.”
Gardner, R.A. (1992). True and False Accusations of Child Sex Abuse . Cresskill, NJ: Creative Therapeutics.(p. 549)
“In such discussions the child has to be helped to appreciate that we have in our society an exaggeratedly punitive and moralistic attitude about adult-child sexual encounters”
Gardner, R.A. (1992). True and False Accusations of Child Sex Abuse . Cresskill, NJ: Creative Therapeutics.(p. 572).
Gardner on mothers who discover that their husband is sexually abusing their child
Gardner blames the father’s abuse on the mother, who he faults for not fulfilling her husband sexually. He suggests that therapists should help mother’s of incest victims achieve sexual gratification.
• Discourage litigation.
• Encourage her to stay with her husband (the abuser)
• Blame her and the daughter for the sexual abuse by the father
“It may be that one of the reasons the daughter turned toward the father is the impairment of the child’s relationship with the mother” (pp. 579-80)
Gardner, R.A. (1992). True and False Accusations of Child Sex Abuse . Cresskill, NJ: Creative Therapeutics. (p. 585)
• Help her get over her anger at her husband for sexually abusing their child.
“If the mother has reacted to the abuse in a hysterical fashion, or used it as an excuse for a campaign of denigration of the father, then the therapist does well to try and “sober her up”…. Her hysterics … will contribute to the child’s feeling that a heinous crime has been committed and will thereby lessen the likelihood of any kind of rapproachment with the father. One has to do everything possible to help her put the “crime” in proper perspective. She has to be helped to appreciate that in most societies in the history of the world, such behavior was ubiquitous [i.e., everywhere], and this is still the case.”
Gardner, R.A. (1992). True and False Accusations of Child Sex Abuse . Cresskill, NJ: Creative Therapeutics. (pp. 576-7)
“Perhaps she can be helped to appreciate that in the history of the world his behavior has probably been more common than the restrained behavior of those who do not sexually abuse their children.”
Gardner, R.A. (1992). True and False Accusations of Child Sex Abuse . Cresskill, NJ: Creative Therapeutics. (pp. 585)
• Encourage her to become more sexually responsive to her husband.
“Her increased sexuality may lessen the need for her husband to return to their daughter for sexual gratification.”
“Verbal statements about the pleasures of orgastic response are not likely to prove very useful. One has to encourage experiences, under proper situations of relaxation, which will enable her to achieve the goal of orgastic response.”
“One must try to overcome any inhibition she may have with regard to [the use of vibrators].”
“Her own diminished guilt over masturbation will make it easier for her to encourage the practice in her daughter, if this is warranted. And her increased sexuality may lessen the need for her husband to return to their daughter for sexual gratification.”
Gardner, R.A. (1992). True and False Accusations of Child Sex Abuse . Cresskill, NJ: Creative Therapeutics. (p. 585)
Gardner on fathers who sexually abuse their children
• Tell him what he did his normal
“He has to be helped to appreciate that, even today, it [pedophilia] is a widespread and accepted practice among literally billions of people. He has to appreciate that in our Western society especially, we take a very punitive and moralistic attitude toward such inclinations. He has had a certain amount of back (sic) luck with regard to the place and time he was born with regard to social attitudes toward pedophilia.”
Gardner, R.A. (1992). True and False Accusations of Child Sex Abuse . Cresskill, NJ: Creative Therapeutics.
(p. 593) 
He has had bad luck with regard to the place and time he was born with regard to social attitudes toward pedophilia. However, these are not reasons to condemn himself.
Gardner, R.A. (1991). Sex Abuse Hysteria: Salem Witch Trials Revisited . Cresskill, NJ: Creative Therapeutics. (p. 119)
• Keep him in the home
The removal of a pedophilic parent from the home “should only be seriously considered after all attempts at treatment of the pedophilia and rapprochement with the family have proven futile”
Gardner, R.A. (1991). Sex Abuse Hysteria: Salem Witch Trials Revisited . Cresskill, NJ: Creative Therapeutics. (p. 119)
• Help him protect himself
“He must learn to control himself if he is to protect himself from the Draconian punishments meted out to those in our society who act out their pedophilic impulses.”
Gardner, R.A. (1992). True and False Accusations of Child Sex Abuse . Cresskill , NJ: Creative Therapeutics. (pp. 585-592)
• Help him forget about it
Therapy with the father should not be spent focusing on the primary problem (I.e., sexual molestation). Instead, therapy should be spent “talking about other things” as the goal of therapy is “to help people forget about their problems”
Gardner, R.A. (1992). True and False Accusations of Child Sex Abuse . Cresskill, NJ: Creative Therapeutics. (pp. 585-592)
Gardner on how society should respond to the widespread victimization of children
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Take a more sympathetic view toward pedophilia
“One of the steps that society must take to deal with the present hysteria is to ‘come off it’ and take a more realistic attitude toward pedophilia
PEDOPHILE AWARENESS DAY
Parent Alienation Awareness Day
If a group of pedophiles and abusers named their cause, “Abusers Awareness Day”, no one would help champion their goals.
There needs to be a little bit of propaganda to blanket their true goals.
Richard Gardner gave them that blanket by promoting ideas that society should punish those to speak against abuse as, “sick” and “requiring therapy”. He coined the term, “Parental Alienation Syndrome”. Appalled by the pro-pedophile material that was circulated on a large scale, researchers on child abuse and family violence worked even harder to debunk this content and for many years it has been frequently rejected by the American Psychology Association as a Syndrome. Regardless of the theory being discredited, it has still been used on court cases all over the world including a case where it was a defense for a brutal murder of a mother. Some backyard psychologists have even held workshops about, “Maternal Gate-keeping” and others have promoted theories such as, “Malicious Mother Syndrome”.
Whilst in most debates, we all amicably prefer to keep things gender neutral apart from where one gender is being targeted in a way no different to the apartheid in Africa, the slavery towards African Americans and of course the stolen generation of aboriginal children. Whilst the use of parental alienation syndrome appears to be one of those gender neutral terms, the literature and statistics of court cases where the reversal of custody cases involving abuse allegations suggests that the number one target is the mother. Enmeshed with child abuse cases are often intimate partner terrorism, mostly perpetrated by fathers and a deep lack of community support towards mothers who try against many odds to protect their children from further abuse and exposure to violence. The superficial surface of parent alienation suggests that their goal is to stop “false accusers” despite statistics stating over and over again that false accusers are a minority of cases and in fact most of the false allegations are use by fathers. Empirical research has defined this as part of a series of behaviors that follow the intervention of a intimate partner terrorism relationship. This is where the real problem lies, with little support thanks to the erosion of domestic violence and child protection services, mothers experiencing false accusations towards them have drifted unknowingly towards the movement that is solely there to continue these abuses against her and the children.
Supporters of this theory have even gone as far as promoting it as a form of child abuse and sadly many court cases involving child abuse and intimate partner terrorism with evidence are treated as alienation resulting with the child being transferred to the abuser. The influence of this theory has been so great that other aspects of the system where the perpetrator could be convicted are thwarted.
Whilst Parental Alienation attracts pedophile lobbyists, batterers and abusers, they also attract mistaken victims. These victims are in turn used to become the front of the organisations eliminating the promotion of any true need for children and victims of violence and appear as though they are gender inclusive. The laws, case statistics and culture of the courts are a true reflection of the backyard psych therapists and abuse excuser’s causes. Some organisations are obvious in their agenda, whilst others confuse the situation.
Given the clusters of abusers that are attracted to the cause, it is important to encourage police abuse units to investigate the members of these groups as they do with pedophile rings. This could help stop abuse occurring. Other things that can be done is reporting professionals who use the theory as a form of diagnosis to psychologist registers, law bars and social worker accreditation organisations. The use of junk science destroys the credibility of professionals who do not practice backyard therapies and such reports are welcomed to peak bodies. By alerting other parents of the dangers of these organisations, parents can then become aware of the potential risks they could expose the children to by engaging with potential abusers activities and prevent abuse from occurring.
Here are a list of confirmed pedophile organisations that promote Parent Alienation:
The Emperor’s New Clothes
The outcry about family court corruption has finally paid off and is about to go BOOM.
All this time we have been telling Judges that we feel our children are not safe in the hands of our former abusers. Nobody listened…but they’re listening now. With much too many deaths to ignore the media and the upper echelon of government are taking notice of the amount of murdering fathers. The amount of Mothers banding together has been astounding…although it is not really a sisterhood of commonality one aspires to be.
On April 14, 2010, Dr. Phil finally gave a platform for the problem of Family Courts giving custody to known abusers.
http://drphil.com/shows/show/1442A
A strong mother, Katie Tagle, told the story of abuse and then being re-victimized by Family Court. In fact, several mothers were in the audience to show their support of this cause including Amy Leichtenberg who also lost her two precious sons Duncan and Jack to their murderous father.
http://dastardlydads.blogspot.com/2010/02/76-killer-dads-fathers-who-ended-their.html
We trudged on when we thought we could no longer and found each other. Thousands of women that have been bruised, battered but not broken. We stood up to Judges, the GAL and other whores of the court. We have exposed you through blogs about your errs in judgment, your unethical behavior and questionable morals as a human being….and we have only just begun.
A story by Hans Christian Andersen. An emperor hires two tailors who promise to make him a set of remarkable new clothes that will be invisible to anyone who is either incompetent or stupid. When the emperor goes to see his new clothes, he sees nothing at all — for the tailors are swindlers and there aren’t any clothes. Afraid of being judged incompetent or stupid, the emperor pretends to be delighted with the new clothes and “wears” them in a grand parade through the town. Everyone else also pretends to see them, until a child yells out, “He hasn’t got any clothes on!”
Moral of the story…
People who point out the emptiness of the pretensions of powerful people and institutions are often compared to the child who says that the emperor has no clothes.
JUST US SYSTEM
Judge Briese of Florida continues to abuse his powers and keep a loving mother and her children apart.
Press Release
April 19, 2010
Judge Holds Mother in Contempt; Refuses to Hold Scheduled Custody Hearing
Daytona Beach – A mother who has been separated from her children for
more than three years was denied a hearing today to reunite with them and
instead was held in contempt by a Volusia County judge.
Linda Marie Sacks, an Ormond Beach mother, arrived this morning at the
City Island Courthouse in Daytona Beach for a scheduled hearing (Case
2004-30312 FMCI) asking for unsupervised visitations and total contact
with her daughters, ages 13 and 15. But Volusia County Family Court
Judge Shawn L. Briese declined to hold the hearing, which had been on
the trial court schedule for six months, and demanded instead that
Sacks submit to a deposition by the opposing counsel during the
scheduled hearing time.
Sacks filed for divorce in 2004 after her daughters began acting out
sexually. The eldest daughter, at age 8, drew a picture of the father
as an erect penis during a therapy session and made an outcry during
Sunday School that she had performed a sex act on her father. Sacks
has spent six years in the family court trying unsuccessfully to
protect her daughters.
Justice for Children, a Houston-based national child advocacy
organization, has written a letter to Volusia County law enforcement
authorities, including Department of Children and Family Administrator
Reggie Williams, expressing concern that the allegations of sexual and
physical abuse of Sacks’ daughters was never properly investigated.
In April 2007 Judge Briese (Case 2004-30312-FMCI) ruled that the child
lied, gave the father sole physical custody of the daughters and
placed the mother on supervised visitation. In the last three years,
Sacks has had only 63 hours with her daughters at the The Family Tree
House Visitation Center in Daytona Beach.
In 2008 the Florida Fifth District Court of Appeals in Daytona Beach
reversed that decision,(Case 5D07-1682) and ruled that Judge Briese
had abused his trial court discretion, violated the mother’s due
process rights and ordered the custody case be retried in the lower
court. Despite the appeals court ruling and numerous motions to have
him removed from the case, Judge Briese has continued to deny Sacks
full-contact with her children.
Instead, just a few months after the Fifth District Court of Appeals
ruling, Judge Briese quickly set another custody hearing, denied to
admit any of the mother’s evidence or witnesses and again ruled that
Sacks be allowed only supervised visits with her daughters.
Sacks, this time as a pro se litigant, has again filed an appeal with
the Fifth District Court (Case 5D09-3752). Recently, the appeals
court denied the father’s attorney’s motion to strike the mother’s
appeal brief. Within days the father’s attorneys, James L. Rose and
Leonard R. Ross of Daytona Beach, filed a subpoena in the lower court
demanding Sacks appear for a lengthy deposition and filed a motion to
end the mother’s two-hour a month supervised visit with her children.
Florida Rules of Civil Procedures Rule 1.310 (d) dictates that a deposition
being used to harass a party can be terminated. Rule 1.290 (2) also states that
a party cannot be forced into a deposition 20 days before a hearing.
Sacks was found to be in contempt of court after she refused to take
part in the deposition and only asked that she be able to have her hearing time.
During the hearing today, Judge Briese at first agreed with the
mother’s filed objection to the deposition saying the Ross has had
years to take the deposition. But when the Ross complained that the
mother is speaking to national organizations about the case, Judge
Briese changed his mind and demanded Sacks submit to the deposition.
Judge Briese said today that the mother will not be heard about being
reunited with her children until she does submit. The hearing to see
her children was scheduled for three days.
The mother will be back at the courthouse at 1:00 P.M. in hopes that hearing will be allowed to begin, but has already been told by the trial court judge, if you don’t allow the deposition, you will not get your scheduled hearing time.
Today Sacks filed an emergency motion to request a hearing before the
Seventh Judicial Circuit Chief Judge J. David Walsh to ask that Judge
Briese be disqualified from the case but was denied by Judge Briese.
Read more about Sacks’ battle to protect her children in the January
2010 MomLogic magazine article.
http://www.momlogic .com/2010/ 01/custody_crisis_ why_mothers_ are_punished_ in_family_ court. php
Kelly Wing-Schimdt
APPLETON — A former Appleton firefighter convicted of killing his wife and shooting his mother-in-law will be 80 years old before he has an opportunity for release from prison.
Scott E. Schmidt, 39, was sentenced today during an emotional hearing in Outagamie County Court on convictions for first-degree intentional homicide, first-degree reckless endangerment and bail jumping. He was convicted in March for the April 17, 2009, shooting death of wife Kelly Wing Schmidt. He also shot and injured his mother-in-law, Barbara Wing.
Barbara Wing said today Schmidt wasn’t the devoted husband who tried to save his marriage as he claimed during his March trial. He was abusive, he threatened to kill Wing Schmidt before and he finally fulfilled the threat to take her life and left five children without their mother, she said.
“I wish he had taken mine and left Kelly here for her children,” Wing said through tears.
Judge John Des Jardins’ sentence will leave Schmidt eligible to apply for parole release beginning Jan. 1, 2050. The homicide conviction carries a life sentence, though in Wisconsin judges have the authority to set dates for parole eligibility.
Kellys father stated in court that Scott Schmidt should be released from prison when his daughter is released from her grave.
TAKING IT TO THE STREETS
Battered Women Take Custody Battles to White House
http://www.womensenews.org/story/domestic-violence/100505/battered-women-take-custody-battles-white-house?page=0,1
By Mary Darcy
WeNews correspondent
Friday, May 7, 2010
Battered mothers often shy away from publicity. But this year, in a sign of their growing organization, some plan to spend Mother’s Day in Washington in a White House vigil to draw attention to a court system that often gives custody to abusers.
(WOMENSENEWS)–On Mother’s Day, busloads of battered moms and advocates for abused children will roll into Washington, D.C.
They’ll hold a vigil outside the White House in an effort to persuade President Obama to take up their cause of reforming a family court system that they say all too often puts children into the hands of abusive parents.
For some it marks a new and somewhat frightening degree of public exposure. Some of the protesters will be shrouded in scarves, hiding from their abusers or a court system they fear will punish them for speaking out.
“They’re whistleblowers,” said vigil organizer Connie Valentine, policy director for The California Protective Custody Association, based in Sacramento. “The system doesn’t look kindly on whistleblowers. It’s a difficult situation because we have seen enormous judicial retaliation against mothers who step up in front of the problem.”
Efforts to quantify the problem are just beginning but protective parents claim it is widespread. A study done by the Williamsburg, Va.-based American Judges Foundation in the early 1990s showed that in 70 percent of challenged cases, battering parents involved in custody battles persuaded authorities the victimized parent was unfit for sole custody, according to a spokesperson from the foundation.
Valentine and other advocates for protective parents call the family courts broken and corrupt and say the system not only puts children into the hands of abusive parents, it also bankrupts and punishes the protective parents who fight for them. At the same time, they say it’s hard to reform the system because the people it hurts are hiding from abusers and anxious to avoid publicity.
Shifting Ground
But Valentine feels the ground shifting. “I think we’re in the early stages of a civil rights movement for protecting children from physical and sexual abuse.”
She said the Internet is helping battered mothers come together. “E-mail has helped. It’s a good part of the reason for all of the advocacy,” Valentine said. “Women are beginning to see that it’s not their fault and that they are just pawns in the game.”
Mo Hannah, psychology professor at Siena College, near Albany, N.Y., used the Internet to organize the first annual conference for battered women seeking custody in 2004, after her own difficult custody battle.
This past January marked the seventh gathering, which meets annually in Albany and is the major organizing and networking event of the year for protective parents.
“The first conference was about getting people to talk and validate their experiences,” Hannah said. “But as the conferences continued it became very clear that we needed a national movement. Now the conference is just sort of an umbrella or structure that encourages people to share with each other.”
Over the seven years, women have met at the conference and formed smaller groups, such as the Massachusetts Protective Mothers for Custodial Justice.
“Mass Moms,” as it has come to be known, brings together women who have gone through custody battles with those currently in the throes. Volunteers accompany women to court and on lawyer visits and play a general shepherding role.
“We stand next to a woman who is fighting for her children while she pleads and receives orders,” one Mass Mom told Women’s eNews at January’s Battered Mothers Custody Conference.
These volunteers have all been through their own custody battles and declined to be named for fear of retribution from their ex-husbands or the court system. Many have gag orders associated with their own cases. It is this type of fear of retribution that has helped keep the protective parents movement under the radar.
Fear Stands in the Way
The California Protective Custody Association’s Valentine understands the fear that keeps women from protesting and fighting the bigger battles.
“I waited until my own children were grown so we weren’t affected by the family court system,” she said.
Valentine says advocates and organizers need to study and replicate the successful civil rights campaigns of the past.
“Slavery was ended with a good law but slavery wasn’t ended because a good law happened to come about. The law happened because huge masses of people put their lives on the line and fought for it,” Valentine said.
This year “Mass Moms” is preparing to add some more public activism to their advocacy with a demonstration taking place in Boston on a date to be announced soon. In what they’re planning to call “Confetti,” the moms will symbolically shred court-appointed guardian reports–which they feel are particularly unfair to protective parents–into little bits and toss them at the statehouse to call attention to the plight of protective mothers fighting for custody of their children.
In New York City, a group called V.O.W., or Voices of Women, has been working within the court system to try to provide legal counsel and one-on-one help for women. On a wider scale its mission is to “promote long-term systemic change by documenting institutional failures, testifying at hearings, creating position papers and meeting with local and state officials.”
Both Valentine and Hannah say this is the right time to take the movement to the next level.
“The new president is a fatherless man with a good wife and they will hear us,” said Valentine. “And if they don’t hear us, Vice President Joe Biden worked on the violence against women act and he will hear us. And if they don’t hear us we will keep going until they do hear us.”
Mary Darcy is a multimedia producer/host and documentary filmmaker. She’s a two time Gracie Award winner for her work with Kate Mulgrew on Herstory and The Sounds of Progress, public radio series about great women in science. Darcy is a co-owner in Uptown/Downtown Media, producers of Alloveralbany.com.
CALLING ALL ANGELS
We are coming President and Mrs. Obama…..will you listen?
Two rallies in one month regarding children being placed into the hands of their abusers and/or their Mothers abusers. What does this say to our President as he was presented last week with a silent vigil on Mothers Day. We are coming Mr. President…..will you listen?????
http://mothersoflostchildren.wordpress.com/2010/03/23/silent-vigil-to-be-held-at-the-white-house-on-mothers-day/
There have been many dodgy campaigns in the so called “rights for children”, but are in reality only there for the sole purpose of securing the child as though they were a piece of property. Statistics can be skewed all they like, but at the end of the day most children are better off with their mothers after divorce. Nature knows it, criminologists know it and deep down we all knew it, but because the shared parenting campaign sold as well as the renown pyramid scheme – we all fell for it. Religious commentators might say that it was like scientists “playing god”, but in this case it was male supremacists, robbing motherhood. In their own sense of paranoid delusions, they thought that single motherhood was an “invasion of feminism”, but its not. Its mothers working extremely hard through all of the hate set against them to raise their children to become strong and good human beings. That is all, no matter how one tries to paint it, there is no more. Now, because children’s rights have never been so appalling along with women’s rights, mothers have embraced feminism like never before. The support every year for the white ribbon campaign grows every year and more people, whether men’s groups like it or not are beginning to see through the FRs hatred and propaganda. I can be very thankful to learn that Australians are certainly not a dumb country as much as these vial groups represent. The more violent incidents against women and children, the more people begin to know who is the real problem. The continued support by dads in distress, dads on air members and even fathers4equality of a known perpetrator is a statement in itself that reveals what this group is truly about: Its not about and never was about men’s rights – it was abusers rights. The right to conceal, the right to punish victims, the right to continue their terror unchallenged and most of all: The right to have judicial authority to continue to do this.
Know that there is indeed a war on children and motherhood.
Know that a critical mass can stop this
Know that the courts are accomplices in some of the most disgusting crimes of the century beyond 9/11 If we put all of the victims of this child and mother massacre: it would be classified as the greatest act of terror and genocide by the state and its actors.
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ABUSE IS ABUSE
UPDATE!
Yes…they are back! I know you just can’t stay away can you? A county so worried about being sued than protecting a child is abhorrent! They do not know the meaning of “erring on the side of caution” only how they can cover their asses…guess what…you can’t. The longer that this child goes unprotected by those agencies the more evidence is racking up against them. How many reports are we up to now? TOO damn many! DO YOUR JOBS AND PROTECT CHILDREN!
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“Drinking and driving with his daughter doesn’t make him a bad father…he made a bad choice“
Really? Seriously a child protection worker from Oconto County Wisconsin told this to a Mother regarding one of her daughters fear to be around her father. That is right dear readers and the following story is not only going to sicken you it will make you angry.
In 2006 the Oconto County CPS was investigating child sex abuse allegations by a then 8 year old little girl. The worker went to the child’s school to interview her and when the other followed up with her she was told, among many other disturbing statements, that the father simply made a bad choice when he was arrested and charged with his third DUI with his minor child in the car.
The mother was outraged and rightly so. Child Protection Services (CPS) has nothing to do with child protection and here is one of many nightmares across the nation.
Two years later with the same little girl forced to visit her irresponsible father she told how her grandmother, her fathers mother, forced fed her soup. Not just yelling at a child to eat but forcefully shoving a wooden spoon into her mouth. When the child vomited the loving grandma made her eat that too. What any mother would have done with that information, short of violence, she called Oconto County CPS once again. When she was informed that the illustrious inept CPS worker was on the job again she knew that NOTHING would come from the latest abuse, and nothing did. I will post the recording from the hearing of the administrative appeal where you will hear for yourself this worker lie under oath, slander the mother and cover her own ass.
Perhaps the letter from her deputy director would help shed some light at lack of empathy and CPS just wanting to watch their own backs. It can be found here: http://rights4mothers.org/uselessletters.aspx
Fast forward to 2010, this same child continues to be abused by her father. Now that Oconto County KNOWS they screwed up they have passed the buck on to Brown County CPS. This child is now being physically abused by father and Brown County has screened out the abuse.
Screening out, as the supervisor explained so professionally, is they have determined that there is NO ongoing abuse and does not fit the criteria. Really? No ongoing abuse? No of course not. It probably has nothing to do with the bias against this mother and child. It probably does not have anything to do with them searching this blog and others for the inept social workers name either.
So in the mean time, this mother will try to protect her child, this child will try to survive and this blogger will continue to expose these criminals and the CPS in both counties now better save their pennies for a rainy day. As the supervisor said that they have a certain liability…you bet your ass they do….and boy do they!
http://fightcorruptedfamilycourtsandcps.wordpress.com/2012/02/15/another-oklahoma-lawsuit-pays-300000-to-settle-federal-lawsuit-against-dhs-for-negligence/
Fight Corrupted Family Courts and CPS
Fight back and get your kids back NOW!
Another Oklahoma lawsuit pays $300,000 to settle federal lawsuit against DHS for negligence
with one commentOklahoma pays $300,000 to settle federal lawsuit against DHS
Misty Lynn Williams spent almost 14 months in Sequoyah County jail in Sallisaw to keep secret her daughter’s location. She said she was protecting daughter from being molested.
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Published: February 13, 2012The state of Oklahoma has paid $300,000 to settle a lawsuit filed by a mother who hid her young girl after DHS workers rejected her concerns the girl had been molested.
Misty Lynn Williams Shown in jail clothes in July 2005.
Article Gallery: Oklahoma pays $300,000 to settle federal lawsuit against DHSSettling DHS lawsuits
In the past three months, the state has paid almost $1 million to settle lawsuits involving the Oklahoma Department of Human Services, records show.
In November, the state paid $600,000 of the $1.1 million settlement that went to a young man who was sexually molested at a foster home. In 2006, the victim — then 15 — was molested by his foster father and the foster father’s live-in lover in Oklahoma City. He sued DHS and Shadow Mountain Behavioral Health System, which was hired by DHS to find foster parents.
In December, the state paid $92,500 to settle a lawsuit that blamed DHS for a boy’s death. Eli Kevin Johnson, 3, was murdered in 2009 by his mother’s boyfriend in Oklahoma City. The boy’s father alleged DHS did not do enough to protect Eli after he reported the boy had been abused in 2008.
In January, the state paid $300,000 to settle Misty Lynn Williams’ lawsuit against DHS workers and a former judge.
Misty Lynn Williams spent almost 14 months in the Sequoyah County jail in Sallisaw to keep secret her daughter’s location.
The unusual case attracted national attention — at first while the mother and girl were missing and then after the mother went to jail for refusing to reveal the girl’s whereabouts.
The mother, who grew up in Muldrow, said in a jail interview in 2005 that she was protecting her girl from further sexual abuse. “I would sit here until I die if I have to,” she told The Oklahoman in 2005.
“It was a long time but it was worth it,” Williams, now 33, said in December of her jail stay.
Attorneys of foster child sue Oregon for $1.6 million, say DHS …
AND…..
http://blogs.app.com/politicspatrol/2010/05/13/dyfs-settles-for-4-5-million/
DYFS has agreed to pay $4.5 million to settle a lawsuit filed by a boy who was sexually abused by foster parents, his attorney says. The Star-Ledger reports the boy was abused when he was 6 and is 17 now. The boy was placed by DYFS in the custody of a Hudson County couple in 1995, and was sexually assaulted between 1996-98, according to a lawsuit. The foster parents were convicted in Hudson county. He was transferred to a new foster family in Passaic County which has become his adoptive family. It is they who filed the lawsuit on his behalf. The boy has undergone counseling and mental health treatment. Long-term effect was one of the factors considered in the judgment.
But what they dont know is that I know they have been searching for the worker. What they also dont know is that I now have proof of their bias against the mother. Well…I guess they know now.
They spent more time on this blog investigating their OWN asses and never even spoke to the child. I wonder how many taxpayers will think that they did the right thing? Over THREE hours?!? Hope you enjoyed your time here….COME AGAIN REAL SOON!
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http://www.sacbee.com/2011/07/03/3744495/sacramento-child-abuse-survivor.html
A CPS worker told her “there’s nothing we can do,” Lilly said, and then referred her to Diogenes Youth Services, a counseling and crisis intervention center for teens.
Read more here: http://www.sacbee.com/2011/07/03/3744495/sacramento-child-abuse-survivor.html#storylink=cpy
SOMEWHERE OVER THE RAINBOW
When I started this blog, over a year ago, I promised that I would expose every last criminal in family court. I will continue to keep that promise and Mama Liberty will be expanding to other various outlets to give Mothers a voice even more. We are United States Citizens with the same rights as any other.
If you do not like what is being exposed about you and your corrupt system then
do the right thing and stop abusing your power and feeding your ego!
We have the right to expose any government entity for fraud, abuse or neglect.
You all cannot shut us all up, we have power in numbers
The wind always blows mightily over Kansas as it has for so long, just ask Dorothy.
Now the winds of change are upon the dirty family court system in Shawnee County. Well over a decade a Mother in Kansas has fought the court system and its criminals to have visitation with her daughter.
Claudine Dombrowski continues to ask the court to follow the custody guidelines for her visitation time. In February 2010 a miracle happened when the Judge actually adhered and allowed the now teenage daughter to have unsupervised visitation with her Mother with no interference from the father.
But the continued problems this Mother and Child face is the Guardian Ad Litem for the child, Jill M. Dykes, who wishes nothing more than to keep Claudine from her child. Instead of trying to assist with fostering a relationship with the Mother, Dykes wants to stay on this case, she wants more taxpayers money to keep her job. Within the transcript of a hearing held in 2009 Ms. Dykes ineptness and bias against Claudine Dombrowski is evident. In the below transcript Dykes continues to interrupt the judge and fervently tries to prevent the judge from allowing unsupervised visitation. Dykes other favorite thing is to submit overtime to the county for keeping a parent and child separated.
http://www.scribd.com/doc/24383015/2009-January-14-GAL-M-Jill-Dykes-Court-Appointed-Abuser-submits-for-OVERTIME-pay
http://ks-fcrc.com/Documents/Richardson%20v.%20Dombrowski%2096D417%204-6-09%20hearing.pdf
Much to the dismay of the court system and specifically Jill M. Dykes this Mother is demanding that the statutes be upheld…otherwise they should terminate her parental rights. It is not something that would be easy for any Mother but perhaps it is the right thing to do, in the best interest of the child and this mother.
They have once again started their campaign to end the unsupervised visits. In fact what has been learned by this blogger is that is that if there is any extended visitation time it would evaporate any progress that the mother and child have made. That is right, you read that right, the court whores are going to make it very difficult for any mother and child relationship. Therefore until justice is given to Claudine and her child, this blog and others will continue to expose the injustices by Shawnee County and those that profit from it. The winds of change are coming Shawnee…and its a BIG one…watch out for falling houses Jill
VICTORY IN VICTORVILLE
Hosking WINS over Lemkau
June 08, 2010 9:08 PM
SAN BERNARDINO • Spurred by public outcry against a controversial decision by Judge Robert Lemkau, challenger James Hosking took a commanding lead in the race for the 11th judicial seat.
Hosking won 66 percent of the vote, while Lemkau received 34 percent, with 100 percent of precincts reporting.
“I’ve run my whole campaign as though I was the underdog because he was the sitting judge,” Hosking said Tuesday night. “But I was confident all along.”
Judicial elections usually don’t get much attention, but this one’s different.
Lemkau upheld a preexisting custody agreement between Katie Tagle and Stephen Garcia in a January hearing even though Tagle warned him that Garcia was threatening to kill their 9-month-old son, Wyatt. Lemkau told Tagle, “My suspicion is that you’re lying.”
Just 10 days later Garcia, of Pinon Hills, drove to Twin Peaks, shot and killed Wyatt, then himself.
Hosking said the case fueled his decision to run for Lemkau’s seat. Hosking has been a prosecutor at the San Bernardino County District Attorney’s office for the past decade.
“It shows that the people in this county don’t want people like Lemkau as a judge,” Hosking said. “It really showed that I was trying to do something worthwhile and people supported me.”
Lemkau was appointed to the bench by Gov. Arnold Schwarzenegger in 2007 after spending 34 years with the San Bernardino County District Attorney’s office.
Lemkau couldn’t be reached for comment Tuesday night.
In the race for the 29th judicial seat, prosecutor Victor Stull took the lead with 57 percent of the vote, with family law attorney Ed Montgomery’s 43 percent.
“I’m not coming to any conclusions until the election is certified in two days,” Stull said. “But I’d rather be where I am at than where Mr. Montgomery is at right now. I hope it stays there.”
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This blog and others hope that all counties in the US will take notice that we are not going to EVER shut up, give up or go away when it comes to our children. You WILL be held accountable as you see how we shouted that we would NOT allow a baby killer to be sitting on a Superior Court bench!
Side note: we have taken up a collection for Lemkau to get him some hair dye and start practicing his act as a old, fat Elvis impersonator in Vegas….Thank you….Thank you VERY much!
Judge “Baby Killer” Lemkau
WHO IS COVERING UP MURDER ATTEMPTS IN WILLIAMSBURG, VA
Who Is Covering Up Murder Attempts In Williamsburg, VA
This story was passed to me with a note asking me to post it in its entirety.
Who Is Covering Up Murder Attempts In Williamsburg, VA
By: Gail Lakritz
I have been told that Joseph Lakritz is being protected by someone higher up. Three policemen have confirmed that this is what is happening, and that is why a convinced felon can get away with so much. The Virginia Gazette published an article stating that an officer of the law informed them that the local family court judge, Judge George (Jeff) C. Fairbanks dictates who can and cannot be arrested in October, 2007. He is the former Commonwealth’s Attorney, and as such, had control over prosecutions. I have spoken to one woman who was raped while he was the CA. He never brought the case to trial and waited until he was appointed judge (1 and 1/2 years) to inform her that there would be no prosecution.
Judge Fairbanks set up the Victims and Advocates Office within the CA’s office. When a battered woman goes there with evidence of the battering, it is never seen again. Judge Fairbanks works with the parole department[i] and with Ann Tramer, the “counselor” who did family therapy which my ex and son went to but I was never informed of and who, at the time my son was seeing her, only had a masters, not her doctorate, yet she was allowed to practice. In addition, she was seeing him at the same time as Loren Council, who saw Joseph for Anger Management at Colonial Services (ordered by Judge Fairbanks) after he threatened to kill me. Mt. Council saw Joe in September, 2005 for 6 weeks in a group. He began seeing Max in March, 2006 or there about as supposedly ordered by Fairbanks, but I never heard the judge order this in the court. I tried to get the transcript of the hearing where it was supposedly ordered, but DuBois who supposedly did them, told me that they did not. Of course, I have the proof they did.
I bought a home in the summer of 2006. Just prior to moving, while living in an apartment on Merrimac Trail in Williamsburg, I began having break ins. There were 4 in total while I lived there. The Williamsburg police refuse to give me the reports that I filed. They say that they are still open investigations and will not release them to me. I reported 3 of the 4. My attorney, Tracy Spencer of Batzali Woods in Richmond told me to stop calling them, and I, thinking that she knew something I didn’t, I took her advice. Each time my home was broken into, there was something left behind to let me know someone was there. The first time, I found a stick of incense which I have never used due to the fact that I cannot stand the odor. That time, my file cabinet where I kept the evidence against Joe was broken into and papers were taken, but nothing else of value was missing.
On May 12, 2006, we had an appointment for Barbara Levine of Prudential to view the house and sign the listing agreements. She was leaving town for a holiday, and this was the only time she could do this. Joe had allowed the sale listing of the house expire and made no attempt to relist it. I arrived at the house a few minutes before Barbara. There was a severe thunderstorm. The garage door was open, and I knocked on it. Joe answered and at first let me into the laundry room. From that room, you can only see a small portion of the kitchen, not the rest of the house. His mother, Dorothy L. Lakritz of Boynton Beach, Fl. came from around the corner that is the family room yelling “This is our house. Get out you whore.” I had no idea that she was there. Joe ordered Max to “grab her, I can’t or I will go back to jail.” Max took me by the arms and slammed me up against the door. Dorothy grabbed my throat and began to choke me. When the gurgling began from my air being cut off, for some reason, she let go. I tried to get to the phone on the kitchen counter, but Joe ripped it out of the wall. I fled to my car for my phone. I first called my lawyer, Tracy. I remember that I called her office twice. I was confused and in pain after the attack and did not know what to do. It took me a few minutes to think and call the police. As it turns out, Dorothy, after the lapse of a few minutes, also called the police, but not before placing a call to someone else. ( See photo #1 & #2)
Photo 1 Photo 2
On the tape of her call, the dispatcher can be heard prompting her to say I broke in through the front door. Max’s written statement of the incident clearly said that I was let in through the laundry room. In the tape, Dorothy states that I was there for an appointment. If I had an appointment, why would I have to break in? When the police came, one of the responding officers was the same one who always showed up to the domestic violence calls except one. His name never appeared on any report that involved Joe. He refused to take pictures of me saying he did not have a camera. I let him talk me out of taking the ambulance to the ER. He wasn’t even going to call for one until I insisted that I should at least be checked. He said they were needed for car accidents on the highway. I had to drive myself to a doctor’s office several miles down Richmond Road. I was later to find out that Dorothy Lakritz testified that she brushed against my neck while defending herself from attack. How do you get a perfect thumb print on one side of the neck and the imprint of 4 fingers on the other side if she only brushed up against me? The police report contained a copy of the doctors report that stated I had injuries consistent with choking. (See photos 4 & 5)
Photo 4 Photo 5
There is a full account of everything that I had to go through that night in “A Case Of Attempted Murder”, I, II and III.[ii] The rest of what I know was gotten from the police reports and 911 tapes that my lawyer never got. I had to subpoena them 2 years later. While I was forced by Judge pro tempore Ford to give a useless deposition On March 24, 2009, my neighbor saw a car in my driveway that matched the description of an unmarked car belonging to the James City County Police Department. When I arrived home that night, the police reports and 911 recordings were missing. Who do you call when it is most likely a police officer who broke in and stole evidence?
After I moved into my home in August, 2006, there were several break ins here. I called the police on several of them as there were eye witnesses placing Joe on my property at the time of the break ins. After much foot dragging for a year, I finally got the police to come out and do an “investigation”. Inspector Bauman was the lead. It turns out that Insp. Bauman is Officer Bauman, not an inspector. They took my computer, along with the hard drive of the marital computer and blitzed evidence that was contained on both of them. They could not find any of my fingerprints in my own home. All fingerprints found were dismissed as having been on the furniture, doors, etc for the last few years. Some of the furniture in my home was never jointly owned with Joe, and he was never in my home with my permission. He refused to take a lie detector test. Insp. Bauman sent me a report, but that report was not included in the reports that were officially given me through the subpoena.
I can produce evidence that shows police reports were falsified. I have witnesses that I was forbidden to have a court reporter in front of Judge Samuel T. Powell. I have witnesses that were present for the lies of Nate Greene, the Commonwealth’s Attorney. He said he never said something in court, yet it was reported that he did in the newspaper. This occurred at a meeting with Mr. Greene in reference to the falsified police reports. It was only a few days later that the police reports and 911 tapes were taken.
Yesterday, I found that the back glass door to my home had been blown out with a gun. (See photo #6) Officer Morris said there would be no investigation. I am a sitting duck in my own home, and the police will not even bother going to Walmart to speak to the clerk that said he helped Joe with the purchase of the gun that matches the type used. The police department will not even bother to ask for the records of the sales. Walmart enters the driver’s license number for every gun purchaser. I also found, when I tried to call the police, that the phone line had been tampered with. Was someone giving themselves enough time to get away before police could be called?
Photo 6
When a person calls for investigation of James City County and Williamsburg VA., they are ignored. If you read the early accounts of what happened to me alone on Gather.com, and speak to ordinary citizens of what has happened to other women here, you would know this is not a safe place for women. I, though they have tried, still retain evidence against them. And a search of the court records of my case and others would show tampering. A search of the sealed juvenile court records would show that the court pays for lawyers for wealthy men and one of Colonial Services Board will disclose that the taxpayers are paying for services that can well be afforded by these men.
Since when is it legal for a “high placed person” to instruct law enforcement to ignore death threats and attempts at killing? I think that constitutes being an accessory. How many murders is this person an accessory to?
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Photo 1 Full size taken on May 12, 2006 in the front yard of 3908 Bournemouth Bend, Williamsburg, VA
Photo 2 Crop of photo 1 showing close up of neck of Gail Lakritz showing reddening of neck beginning.
Photo 3 Crop and brightened showing the officer (name unknown) in the background of photo 1
Photo 4 Taken on May 14, 2006 Showing thumb print
Photo 5 Taken on May 14, 2006 Showing imprint of 4 fingers
Photo 6 Taken on June 12, 2010 at the residence of Gail Lakritz.
[i] Strategy 2.A: Maintain continuous communication with other key serviceproviders involved in the juvenile justice system, Criminal Justice Plan
Prepared by Shakira D. Munden, Criminal Justice Planner, http://www.jccegov.com/pdf/ccjb/CCCJB%20Strtegic%20PlanFY07.pdf
[ii]A Case Of Attempted Murder I. http://www.gather.com/viewArticle.action?articleId=281474977162000
A Case Of Attempted Murder, II http://www.gather.com/viewArticle.action?articleId=281474977162129
A Case Of Attempted Murder, III http://www.gather.com/viewArticle.action?articleId=281474977162191
SECOND CHANCE FOR JOSHUA
Wisconsin sure knows how to NOT protect children…..
June 17, 2010, 8:00 PM
Linda Greenhouse on the Supreme Court and the law.
A Second Chance for Joshua
By LINDA GREENHOUSELinda Greenhouse on the Supreme Court and the law.Two Republican senators find the memos that Elena Kagan wrote as a Supreme Court law clerk to be mysteriously “troubling.” Truth be told, reporters on the Kagan beat have found the memos troubling as well, due to an almost complete absence of news value that has left journalists scrambling to construct articles from the thousands of pages of Kagan-related documents pouring forth in the run-up to the Senate confirmation hearing that begins a week from Monday.
I can’t claim to have looked at more than a small fraction of this output and, when I think of my former colleagues back in the newsroom, my main reaction has been, “There but for the grace of God go I in search of a lead.” But there was one little memo — only three pages — from September 1987 that struck me as worthy of note, not so much for what it says about either the law clerk or the Supreme Court nominee, but for how it recalls a moment when the court faced a particularly interesting fork in the constitutional road. The consequences of the path it chose are with us still.
The subject of the memo was whether the court should agree to hear a case called DeShaney v. Winnebago County Social Services Department. The issue was whether the government has a constitutional duty to protect a person from private harm, from a danger not of the government’s own creation. That is a question to which the classic and easy answer is no. In the lower court decision that was the subject of the appeal, Judge Richard A. Posner of the United States Court of Appeals for the Seventh Circuit wrote, “The Constitution is a charter of negative rather than positive liberties.”
It is a profound and troubling question nonetheless, because people’s lives today are intertwined with government more intricately and extensively than the Constitution’s framers could have anticipated. The line between public and private is far from distinct. The little boy at the center of the case, Joshua DeShaney, not quite 5 years old and living with his father in Neenah, Wis., was beaten to a pulp and rendered permanently brain-damaged not by the government but by that same father, his custodial parent.
Not the doing of the Winnebago County Social Services Department, surely. But was the department without responsibility or fault? Its caseworkers had been in contact with the family for more than two years, making regular home visits and keeping records of Joshua’s suspicious injuries, some severe enough to put him in the hospital. But none of these government employees intervened to save him, and then it was too late.
His mother, acting on behalf of herself and her son, sued the county on a claim that its negligence amounted to depriving the boy of liberty without due process, in violation of the 14th Amendment. Both the federal district court and the Seventh Circuit rejected this argument.
The mother’s petition to the Supreme Court was ready for review in the summer of 1987, just as a new crop of law clerks was settling in. In the chambers of Justice Thurgood Marshall, the task of making a recommendation on whether the court should hear the DeShaney case fell to Elena Kagan.
Because the line between public and private is far from distinct, the question of whether the government has a constitutional duty to protect people from private harm is a profound and troubling one.
In her memo, she described the facts of the case as “horrific.” She noted that two other appeals courts had confronted similar cases and, unlike the Seventh Circuit, had concluded that the “special relationship” between welfare departments and the children under their supervision creates “an affirmative constitutional duty” to protect the children. “It seems clear to me,” she wrote, that the outcome of the DeShaney case would have been different had the Seventh Circuit applied the other circuits’ analysis.
Even more so in the 1980’s than today — before the retirement in 1993 of Justice Byron R. White, who voted to grant review in every such case — a petition representing a “conflict in the circuits” was a prime candidate for review. “This issue is important and there is a circuit split,” Ms. Kagan wrote in her memo to Justice Marshall. But she was reluctant to recommend a vote to grant review. She was worried, she told the justice, that a majority of the Supreme Court would agree with Judge Posner’s take on the case, thus converting a minority view among the circuits into the law of the land.
She therefore advised Justice Marshall to wait and see what the other justices did. She recommended what she called a “join 4” — a misnomer by a new law clerk for a practice that the justices actually call “join 3.” Since it takes four votes to grant a case, justices who are on the fence but who want to be collegial sometimes indicate that they will vote to grant if three others have already done so. Justice Marshall scrawled “Join 3” at the top of his law clerk’s typed memo.
Justice Harry A. Blackmun’s file on the case offers additional perspective on what happened next. Justice Blackmun also voted to “join 3,” and on the first round, the petition was denied, with only Justice White and Justice William J. Brennan Jr. voting outright to grant it. Justice White then circulated an opinion dissenting from the denial, emphasizing the significance of the circuit conflict. At this point, Justices Marshall and Blackmun voted to grant, and the case was accepted.
Nearly six months had passed by this time; it was March 1988, too late to schedule the argument during the months that remained both of the term and of Elena Kagan’s clerkship. She had nothing more to do with the case, which was argued the following November and decided in February 1989.
Her fears proved well founded. The vote was 6 to 3 to affirm the decision of the Seventh Circuit. Chief Justice William H. Rehnquist wrote for the majority that the due process clause “is phrased as a limitation on the state’s power to act, not as a guarantee of certain minimal levels of safety and security.” The chief justice said that “the most that can be said of the state functionaries in this case is that they stood by and did nothing when suspicious circumstances dictated a more active role for them.” The people of Wisconsin were free to impose liability in such circumstances under state law, he added, “but they should not have it thrust upon them by this court’s expansion of the due process clause of the 14th Amendment.”
Justices Brennan, Marshall and Blackmun dissented. Justice Blackmun’s lament of “Poor Joshua!” became a well-known epitaph for the case. Justice Brennan, in an opinion that all three dissenters signed, criticized the majority’s “failure to see that inaction can be every bit as abusive of power as action, that oppression can result when a state undertakes a vital duty and then ignores it.”
Two decades later, the DeShaney decision remains a subject of contention. It has prompted a large literature, including at least one book (“The DeShaney Case: Child Abuse, Family Rights and the Dilemma of State Intervention,” by Lynne Curry) and many law review articles. Lower courts have cited it hundreds of times. The Supreme Court is regularly asked to revisit the issue and regularly declines, without comment, to do so. Most of the federal circuits have endorsed an exception to the DeShaney no-liability rule for instances when the government itself has played a role in creating a dangerous situation, but the justices have refused to elaborate further.
Three years ago, for example, the court turned down an appeal brought by the family of a man who was stopped by the police in the small town of La Marque, Tex. for driving while apparently intoxicated. Rather than arrest the man, Abner Cravens, who had a brother on the police force, the police sent him on his way. Moments later, back behind the wheel, he crossed the center line into oncoming traffic and died. The suit argued that by releasing Mr. Cravens, the police placed him in danger when, in fact they should have protected him from himself. This was a “state-created danger,” the family argued, that should lead to liability.
A sociologist, John R. Howard, wrote in a 2001 law review article titled “Rearguing DeShaney” that “ultimately, DeShaney is about different visions of society and the uses to which the law is put.” Professor Howard predicted that a future Supreme Court would revisit the question and perhaps make a different “social choice,” one more concerned with “achieving justice” than using “a set of arbitrary and simplistic constructs” to obscure a “complex reality.”
Once confirmed, Elena Kagan will be the youngest justice, with a long prospective tenure. She saw around one corner in her initial encounter with the DeShaney case. She will inevitably have other chances in the coming decades and maybe, with her help, sometime far down the road, the court will get it right.
THE VALUE OF CHILDREN AND WOMEN
Parental Alienation Disorder proposer/Court Whore Dr. William Bernet recently testified in a horrific murder trial in Tennessee.
When the police arrived at Bradley Waldroup’s trailer home in the mountains of Tennessee, they found a war zone. There was blood on the walls, blood on the carpet, blood on the truck outside, even blood on the Bible that Waldroup had been reading before all hell broke loose.
Assistant District Attorney Drew Robinson says that on Oct. 16, 2006, Waldroup was waiting for his estranged wife to arrive with their four kids for the weekend. He had been drinking, and when his wife said she was leaving with her friend, Leslie Bradshaw, they began to fight. Soon, Waldroup had shot Bradshaw eight times and sliced her head open with a sharp object. When Waldroup was finished with her, he chased after his wife, Penny, with a machete, chopping off her finger and cutting her over and over.
“There are murders and then there are … hacking to death, trails of blood,” says prosecutor Cynthia Lecroy-Schemel. “I have not seen one like this. And I have done a lot.”
Prosecutors charged Waldroup with the felony murder of Bradshaw, which carries the death penalty, and attempted first-degree murder of his wife. It seemed clear to them that Waldroup’s actions were intentional and premeditated.
“There were numerous things he did around the crime scene that were conscious choices,” Lecroy-Schemel says. “One of them was [that] he told his children to ‘come tell your mama goodbye,’ because he was going to kill her. And he had the gun, and he had the machete.”
There was no question that Waldroup was guilty, he admitted it. The question was why…so the defense team reached out to Bernet for excuses answers:
Since 2004, Dr. William Bernet of Vanderbilt University and laboratory director Cindy Vnencak-Jones have been analyzing the DNA of people like Waldroup. They’ve tested some 30 criminal defendants, most of whom were charged with murder. They were looking for a particular variant of the MAO-A gene — also known as the warrior gene because it has been associated with violence. Bernet says they found that Waldroup has the high-risk version of the gene.
“His genetic makeup, combined with his history of child abuse, together created a vulnerability that he would be a violent adult,” Bernet explains.
Over the fierce opposition of prosecutors, the judge allowed Bernet to testify in court that these two factors help explain why Waldroup snapped that murderous night.
“We didn’t say these things made him become violent, but they certainly constituted a risk factor or a vulnerability,” Bernet says.
Bernet cited scientific studies over the past decade that found that the combination of the high-risk gene and child abuse increases one’s chances of being convicted of a violent offense by more than 400 percent. He notes that other studies have not found a connection between the MAO-A gene and violence — but he told the jury that he felt the genes and childhood abuse were a dangerous cocktail.
“A person doesn’t choose to have this particular gene or this particular genetic makeup,” Bernet says. “A person doesn’t choose to be abused as a child. So I think that should be taken into consideration when we’re talking about criminal responsibility.”
Prosecutor Drew Robinson brought in his own expert:
To rebut Bernet’s testimony, Robinson called in his own expert: psychiatrist Terry Holmes, the clinical director of Moccasin Bend Mental Health Institute in Chattanooga, Tenn. Holmes urged the jury to ignore it.
“This was somebody who was intoxicated and mad and was gonna hurt somebody,” Holmes says. “And it had little to nothing to do with his genetic makeup.”
Holmes says it’s way too early to use this research in a court of law. And he believes Bernet is spinning the data.
In the end, the jury bought Bernet’s testimony. Waldroup walked away with a conviction for voluntary manslaughter instead of first degree murder, with 32 years in prison instead of a potential death penalty.
Family members wait for the verdict.
So again, what Bernet seems so good at, is coming up with reasons to excuse what abusers do. Something to cover their asses, while a few bucks are made for “expert testimony” services.
What would really be noble is if Bernet would promote this “warrior gene” test for a prerequisite to get married. Identify the murderous, abusive assholes before we commit to them. This may save countless women and children’s lives….oh wait, that would cut into their “parental alienation disorder” business. Well, it was a good idea at least…
To listen to the National Public Radio story on this (WARNING: Graphic descriptions of violence) and read original story, please click here.
Declaration of Independence
Let Freedom Ring!
We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness. That to secure these rights, Governments are instituted among Men, deriving their just powers from the consent of governed, That whenever any Form of Government becomes destructive of these ends, it is the Right of the People to alter or abolish it, and to institute new Government, laying its foundation on such principles and organizing its powers in such form, as to them shall seem most likely to effect their Safety and Happiness. Prudence, indeed, will dictate that Governments long established should not be changed for light and transient causes; and accordingly all experience hath shewn, that mankind are more disposed to suffer, while evils are sufferable, than to right themselves by abolishing the forms to which they are accustomed. But when a long train of abuses and usurpations, pursuing invariably the same Object evinces a design to reduce them under absolute Despotism, it is their right, it is their duty, to throw off such Government, and to provide new Guards for their future security.
Report: Houston CPS missed abuse clues in 50 percent of cases | khou.com | khou.com Local News
Report: Houston CPS missed abuse clues in 50 percent of cases | khou.com | khou.com Local News.
by Dave Fehling / 11 News
khou.com
Posted on July 15, 2010 at 8:55 PM
Updated Thursday, Jul 15 at 11:02 PM
HOUSTON — The horrific fatal abuse case of Emma Thompson resulted in the conviction of her mother this week in Harris County Criminal Court. But the case raises serious questions about the competency of the state agency that had previously investigated allegations of abuse of Emma but had taken no action.
An internal review of Texas Child Protective Services’ (CPS) regional office in Houston highlighted startling deficiencies in how investigations are performed.
Last summer, Emma Thompson arrived already dead at an emergency room in The Woodlands. Her skull was fractured, as were her ribs. There were signs of rape.
In court this week, a jury convicted her mother, Abigail Young, and sentenced her to 20 years in prison for not protecting Emma from Young’s boyfriend, Lucas Coe. He faces trial later this year on charges of super aggravated assault.
At the time of Emma’s death, CPS was also involved in two other Houston-area cases where it had investigated families for alleged abuse, but where – nonetheless — two children later died.
The tragic and heartbreaking cases led to a new round of criticism of CPS. In response, CPS investigated its Houston regional office and last December, issued a report. The report leaves little doubt as to why those cases could have fallen through the cracks.
Among the findings, the internal review said Houston caseworkers:
-Failed to assess the risk to children in half the abuse cases they investigated, leaving children “potentially unsafe”
-Failed to check CPS’s own records to see if a family had a prior history of abuse.
-Failed to do follow-up to make sure families were attending the counseling they were supposed to
At the Texas Department of Protective Services, the buck stops with Commissioner Anne Heilgenstein.
In Austin, she told 11News:”Yes, we will improve. However, I’m not going to mislead you into thinking we can prevent every child death. We can’t.”
A major problem, which was cited by Heilgenstein and found in the review of the Houston office, was the overwhelming caseload faced by investigators — a caseload that Heilgenstein said has now shot up over 50 percent in just the past year.
That has meant each of the approximately 287 Houston-based investigators have just hours to do each case.
“They’re getting about 25 new investigations a month,” said Estella Ogluin, spokesperson for the Houston CPS office. She said that means less than a day to investigate each new case.
In the case of Emma Thompson, CPS investigators did manage to interview the mother. But CPS said she never told them a thing about her boyfriend. CPS had previously investigated him in an unrelated child abuse case.
“And that certainly would have changed our response had we had that information,” said Heilgenstein.
But shouldn’t the investigators have done more than take the mother at her word?
“Could we have knocked on neighbors’ doors perhaps, and said do you know of anyone coming and going in this house other than the mother and her children,” asked Heilgenstein. The answer is, apparently investigators did not.
An overwhelming caseload may have been a factor last year when the investigation took place. Heilgenstein said it is certainly factor now.
“Can we sustain the current caseloads? No, we can’t,” Heilgenstein said.
“It’s going to mean they’re spending less time on each case, we don’t want that to happen,” said State Representative Ana Hernandez, a Democrat from Houston.
Last session, the state Legislature funded more CPS investigators. Hernandez said lawmakers will have no choice but to do it again when they meet next January.
“We want to reduce the caseload for all the caseworkers,” said Hernandez, who serves on the House committee overseeing CPS.
Her counterpart on a state Senate committee, Republican Joan Huffman of Southside Place, did not call for more funding in a statement to 11News:
“There is no excuse for these tragedies and our focus should always be on a child’s safety. Clearly, the report shows breakdowns within CPS policy and that communication needs to be streamlined to ensure that children are removed from a dangerous environment. We will continue to monitor CPS’ actions in response to the recommendations set forth in this review.”
With the state facing a huge budgetary shortfall, more funding is far from certain. The need for thorough investigations, however, is clear. Children like Emma Thompson are the tragic proof of that.
Wisconsin Child Abuse Investigator Fired For Filing False Reports – Lez Get Real
Wisconsin Child Abuse Investigator Fired For Filing False Reports – Lez Get Real.
Here is a guy who appears to have been looking for a job with the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith in Rome…
A Racine County Wisconsin Human Services child protective service investigator has been fired and is under criminal investigation for allegedly filing false reports on child abuse cases he never actually took the time to investigate.
According to the Racine Times Journal,Todd O’Brien, who has been employed with the Racine HSD since 1998, has been busted after he filed detailed reports that labeling allegations of abuse as unsubstantiated when in fact he never really spoke to anyone or went to any of the abused children’s homes.
Racine County Human Services Director Debra Jossart said, O’Brien, a child protective services initial assessment worker tasked with investigating complaints of child abuse and neglect, was terminated Tuesday after co-workers following up on one of his previous cases discovered O’Brien had never spoken with anyone in the family.
Ms. Jossart said Racine County HSD workers were in the process of investigating a case and were speaking with family members to determine where the children involved in that case could be placed. O’Brien had once investigated one of the relatives on the list, according to the HSD report he filed.However, when HSD workers contacted the family and asked them about the previous investigation, the family said there never was one.
Jossart said, “That’s when he was suspended.”
Needless to say, Jossart and the Racine HSD also say they are furious over the black eye the situation gives the department.
“I have never been so angry,” Jossart said. “It is not common practice. I’ve never had a case like this. We have hard-working, dedicated staff who care about children. They are angry about this.”
Racine County officials say charges could be forthcoming against O’Brien for misconduct in public office and fraud, and Racine County Sheriff Bob Carlson said Wednesday that his department is investigating the case but added his department isn’t getting much information.
“The investigation is still open,” Carlson said. “At this point, (O’Brien) is refusing to talk to investigators. He lawyered up.”
There has also been no word if Mr. O’Brien is planning to rent the spare room at Cardinal Bernard Francis Law’s House in Rome.
COULD OCONTO COUNTY BE NEXT?
Dad accused of leaving 3-year-old son in truck while Daddy got drunk (Madison, Wisconsin)
Dad accused of leaving 3-year-old son in truck while Daddy got drunk (Madison, Wisconsin)
So, it seems UNNAMED DAD was out past midnight with his 3-year-old child when he popped by the neighborhood tavern for a few, ah, adult beverages. So Daddy left the poor sleeping child in his truck and proceeded to get loaded. Some other patrons apparently took offense that Daddy was going to drive home (with a child) in a compromised state, so Daddy got into a fight with them. Nothing like drunk and negligent AND violent, huh?
INVISIBLE MOTHER ALERT: Why wasn’t this child home with his mother, instead of carousing with Daddy?
http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/chi-ap-wi-trucktoddler-negl,0,1282227.story
Father accused of leaving toddler in truck
11:26 a.m. CDT, July 19, 2010
MADISON, Wis. — A Cambridge man is accused of leaving his 3-year-old son in a pickup truck while he drank at a tavern in Dane County.
The 33-year-old man is being held in the Dane County Jail on possible charges, including child neglect. Sheriff’s deputies were called to Heather’s Bar in the village of Rockdale about 12:30 a.m. Saturday on a report of an intoxicated patron who had left a small child in a truck in the parking lot.
When deputies arrived, two men were holding the father after fighting with him. Sheriff’s officials say one of the men discovered the child sleeping in the truck, took the keys out of the ignition and located the father inside the bar. Authorities say the father tried to leave the property with his son, but was detained by the men.
Dad charged with abusing his 9-year-old son after “swimming scare” (Cameron, Wisconsin)
Dad charged with abusing his 9-year-old son after “swimming scare” (Cameron, Wisconsin)
Dad EDWARD G. SONNENBERG has been charged with physical abuse of his 9-year-old son AND bail jumping. Seems Daddy hit this child in the face and threatened to beat him (in front of witnesses no less) because the child was tired of swimming. He also punched him in the gut a few times. No wonder this child was yelling that he wanted to kill himself. Who wants to live if you’re the prisoner of an idiotic, violent father like this guy?
http://www.zwire.com/site/news.cfm?BRD=1132&dept_id=157671&newsid=20440813&PAG=461&rfi=9
Child abuse alleged after swimming scare
By: Eric Quade 07/17/2010
A family swim July 2 at Silver Lake allegedly turned violent, and a Cameron man has been charged with abusing his 9-year-old son.
Edward G. Sonnenberg, 31, made his initial court appearance last week before Judge James Babler, who set cash bond at $250. A preliminary hearing has been scheduled for Friday morning regarding the two felony charges Sonnenberg faces-physical abuse of a child and bail jumping. The child abuse charge alone carries a maximum possible penalty of 6 years imprisonment and $10,000 in fines.
According to the complaint:
Two individuals identified as Nora Bates and Karen Lane spoke with law enforcement regarding an incident they witnessed about 1 hour prior. They said that they saw a man wading out into deep water on Silver Lake with a child who appeared to be 8 or 9 years old. The child appeared very scared and began clinging onto his father’s shirt. The adult male began pushing his child and swearing at the boy, who eventually yelled that he wanted to kill himself. The child’s loud proclamation drew attention from several people in the area, and the father allegedly became more upset before dragging the boy out of the lake, striking the child in the face with the backside of his hand and threatening to beat him when they got home.
The defendant allegedly admitted to authorities that he struck the child, but he said he only hit the boy with a couple fingers in the mouth. Sonnenberg said he was disciplining the child for saying things he should not say. The adult also allegedly said that he had taken the child down the road to a more private area to spank him.
Deputy Jason Hickok then spoke with the alleged 9-year-old victim. The boy said that he and his sister had been playing in the water when his dad showed up and took him out into deep water where the boy couldn’t touch the bottom. The child said he began to swim but soon tired because he had already been swimming too long.
The defendant then apparently became upset and told the boy to let go of his father’s shirt. When the boy didn’t let go, he alleged that his father punched him in the stomach three times and hit him in the face before the child yelled that he was going to kill himself.
The 9-year-old said that his father then pulled him out of the water, brought him up to where his mother was and slapped his face vary hard two times. The boy said he was then driven to the end of a dead end road and spanked.
Non-custodial mother of boy slain by custodial father sues state (Stanton, Michigan)
Dastardly Dads: Non-custodial mother of boy slain by custodial father sues state (Stanton, Michigan).
Non-custodial mother of boy slain by custodial father sues state (Stanton, Michigan)
The surviving non-custodial mother of a 9-year-old boy killed by his abusive custodial father in 2007 is suing the state of Michigan. Dad OLIVER BRAMAN killed himself, his (third) wife, and his son in a murder-suicide through carbon monoxide poisoning. At the time of the murders, Daddy had already been found guilty of child abuse (using a cattle prod on two older sons) and had failed to appear in court for sentencing. The county prosecutor had urged the state to get the boy out of his father’s home, but as usually happens, the HHS idiots sat on their hands. HHS NOW ADMITS that they should have removed the boy and placed him with his mother. A little late now, guys.
Note that in an article from 2007, the mother says she hadn’t even seen her son in the two years prior to his death as she had been REFUSED visitation. And that she had tried to get custody back and was denied justice, even as she got custody back of the older boys. SO WHO GAVE ABUSER DADDY CUSTODY TO BEGIN WITH? Anybody want to own up to that?
http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/chi-ap-mi-boysdeath-lawsui,0,7027514.story
Mother of Mich. boy slain by father sues state
12:19 p.m. CDT, July 20, 2010
STANTON, Mich. — The mother of a 9-year-old boy killed by his abusive father in a 2007 murder-suicide is suing, claiming child welfare workers failed to remove him from his father’s home despite a prosecutor’s warnings.
Rebecca Jasinski, of Saginaw County, contends that her son, Nicholas Braman, could have been saved if the state had removed him from his father’s home in Montcalm County, according to a lawsuit filed earlier this month in federal court in Grand Rapids.
Oliver Braman killed himself, his wife and Nicholas by filling a room with carbon monoxide nearly three years ago. Their deaths came days after Oliver Braman failed to appear in court for sentencing in a child abuse case in which he was convicted of using a cattle prod to discipline two other sons.
A month before the deaths, the Montcalm County prosecutor’s office urged the state to get Nicholas out of the home but nothing happened, according to the lawsuit.
“The death of Nicholas Daniel Braman would have been avoided if defendants had simply done what they were obligated to do by law to protect (Nicholas) from further abuse and neglect,” attorney Gregory Wix said in the lawsuit.
A watchdog inside the department, the Office of Children’s Ombudsman, investigated and found that child welfare workers should have stepped in to help Nicholas as soon as they became aware of the abuse of siblings, the lawsuit contends.
The state Department of Human Services has acknowledged the boy should have been removed and placed with Jasinski, who lived 80 miles away. The agency declined to comment on the lawsuit.
“We’re very concerned about the safety of children,” spokesman Edward Woods III told The Grand Rapids Press.
The boy’s death led to a new law that established rules for how child welfare workers in different counties must communicate, among other things.
The lawsuit claims gross negligence and names seven people who are current or former employees of the department and its Child Protective Services arm. It seeks an unspecified amount of money exceeding $75,000, the threshold for a civil case in federal court.
http://www.wzzm13.com/news/news_article.aspx?storyid=82379
Mother of 9 year old murder victim says she tried to save her son
Chris Fleszar
Updated:10/17/2007 11:32:46 PM – Posted: 10/17/2007 1:47:04 PM
DOUGLASS TOWNSHIP – The Montcalm County prosecutor says she was trying to remove a 9 year old boy from the home where he died earlier this week during a murder-suicide.
The body of 46 year old Oliver Braman, his 43 year old wife Nancy, and 9 year old Nicholas Braman were found yesterday afternoon at a home in Douglass Township in Montcalm County.
Montcalm County Prosecutor, Andrea Krause, tells WZZM 13 her office was attempting to convince the Department of Human Services to remove the 9-year-old Nicholas.
Krause says DHS believed there was not a threat to his life.? DHS is now referring all calls to Lansing offices.
Local authorities were not aware of abuse regarding the 9-year-old but because of abuse to the older children officials say the younger boy should have been removed.
The biological mother, Andrea Jasinski who lives in Saginaw spoke with our newspaper partner the Greenville Daily News. “I haven’t seen Nicholas in more than two years,” Becki Jasinski of Saginaw said today. “Friend of the Court refused me visitation.”
She was in Stanton last Friday and did try to get custody of the boy but was denied. She did receive custody of her 14 and 15 year old sons.
She also told the Greenville Daily News, “I’ve been trying to get Nicholas out of the house ever since,” Jasinski said. “The (Montcalm County) prosecutor’s office was trying as well.”
The Montcalm County Medical Examiner will perform autopsies Wednesday on a family of three found dead in their home. Sheriff’s deputies believe 46-year-old Oliver Braman and his 43-year-old wife Nancy committed suicide Sunday along with his 9-year-old biological son Nicholas.
Neighbors say they are shocked and heartbroken to learn of the news. Duane and Ellen Bushada describe Oliver Braman as loving and generous.
“We were just glad to live next door to a guy that worked hard. We work hard and saw that he did too,” said Ellen Bushada.
Deputies with the Montcalm County Sheriff’s Department arrived at a Douglass Township home early Tuesday looking for Braman, who failed to appear for a pre-sentencing hearing in the 8th Circuit Court of Stanton on Monday. Braman was initially arrested on September 4th in connection with an August 3rd child abuse investigation on his two older sons. Authorities say Braman was accused of using a cattle prod to discipline the teens, something he admitted to doing.
Bushada says a deputy asked her if she had seen Braman, but she did not.
“I didn’t have any idea what was going on or what was going to come down. I left to do some errands and when I came home there everybody was, I saw an ambulance and I thought well they found him– oh my gosh what happened?”
Deputies then called the man’s oldest son to check inside the home. When he arrived with a friend they found a pick-up truck parked behind the house running with a makeshift hose connected to the outside dryer vent.
Inside they found three bodies. They were lying on a mattress in one of the bedrooms. Sheriff Deputies also found what appears to be a detailed hand written account of the events leading up to their deaths. It appears from the notes that all three took large amount of Tylenol PM prior to lying down on the bed and being overcome by the exhaust fumes.
“She loved him, and she was devoted to helping him raise his kids,” said Ellen Bushada of about wife Nancy Braman.
The Bushadas say the Bramans were a broken family with some trouble. Older sons had moved out, and the couple struggled to make ends meet. They never sensed danger or abuse.
“I don’t buy it.” said Duane Bushada of the alleged abuse charges. “He was a gentle spirit.”
According to the note it appears the deaths took place late Sunday.
The Bushadas say they no matter what information comes to light about Oliver Braman. They felt he was a good person.
“He will be missed and just because I prayed today I believe I will see him in heaven. All three,” said Ellen Bushada.
Stay with WZZM 13 News for continuing coverage of this developing story.
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THE WINDS OF CHANGE
American Mothers Political Party
Blogtalk Radio Show
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Mothers across the world are uniting to expose the criminals of family court. We demand justice and equality within the system. We will discuss the impact that Responsible Fatherhood Initiatives have done to Motherhood. We will share what we have uncovered and who has been paid off. Please join us and share your story of family court nightmares!
Hosted by: Lorraine Tipton, Blogger, Activist/Advocate for Mothers Rights and co-founder of AMPP. Expert in domestic violence, family court corruption and custody disputes.
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AMPP is a social movement seeking justice and accountability within the family court system which includes DHHS/CPS, psychologists and other so called experts.
We as mothers demand CITIZENSHIP and our Rights to our Children. We demand that our children not be used as pawns by our abuser in a custody dispute. We demand that Mothers and Children be equally protected against court ordered visitation with an abuser. We demand that Mothers and Children be given the same rights, privileges and voice that the abuser gets in family courts!
We demand that our President take action now as can no longer afford to be silent and we won’t. We demand the same “rights and freedoms” to which all humans are entitled.
Behind the closed doors of the dirty little secret of the family court system, thousands of women each year lose child custody to violent men who beat and abuse Mothers and Children. Family courts are not family-friendly and betray the best interests of the child. Until Mothers and Childrens voices are heard we will never shut up, give up or go away!
HOLY S***!
OCONTO COUNTY FINALLY DOES THEIR JOB!
UPDATE!!
http://www.wbay.com/story/15730815/2011/10/19/judge-sentences-randall-staeven-to-life-in-prison
Updated: Oct 19, 2011 5:21 PM CDT
By Marcie Kobriger
An Oconto County man is sentenced to life behind bars with no chance for parole for murdering his estranged wife then setting their home on fire while three children slept inside.
Randall Staeven, 52, of Pulaski was found guilty in August of first-degree intentional homicide and other felonies for the 2009 murder of his wife Christine after she asked for a divorce.
Staeven sat stone-faced in Oconto County court as the judge handed out the stiff sentence. He did not speak a word, even when the judge asked him directly if he had anything to say.
According to his attorney, Staeven maintains his innocence.
“Because he maintains his innocence, he’s not going to sit here and try to accept responsibility or provide some explanation of what did occur, because that would be contrary to the belief of his innocence,” defense attorney Jeff Jazgar said.
A jury convicted Staeven of six felonies: First-degree intentional homicide, arson, mutilating a corpse, and three counts of recklessly endangering safety.
Prosecutors say when Staeven set fire to the home, three of the couple’s children, ages 11, seven, and three, were sleeping in the home. They escaped with minor burns.
“To put your own three children in harm’s way to cover up what you did to your wife is just evil,” Judge Michael T. Judge said.
“Your conduct, Mr. Staeven, in this entire matter was vicious, heinous, and horrific, and the public needs protection from you forever.”
“The door is shut for Christine Staeven forever,” the judge said, “and for that reason, Mr. Staeven, I close the door for you also.”
Christine’s brother-in-law, Jeff Muehlbauer, broke up as he talked told us, “We’re all relieved that he got what he got, nevertheless, it’s not going to bring Christine… excuse me a minute… It won’t bring back our sister, sister-in-law, but he’s not coming back.”
Emotional family members of the victim say today the three children are well cared for, in loving homes, but that they’ll forever feel the effects of their father’s crime.
“They do miss they’re mom, and we can’t take that place. We try the best we can,” Muehlbauer said.
Staeven’s attorney tells us an appeal has already been filed, and prosecutors say they’re already prepared.
“It’s sometimes a slow process, but he has his right to appeal and we will defend,” special prosecutor Vince Biskupic said.
NOW THEY NEED TO FIND ONE MORE MURDERER IN GILLETT, WI
Im not going to rip on how inept the Oconto County sheriffs dept. OR how stupid Officer Laskowski is…oh who am I fooling? Fuck yeah I am!
Officer Darren Laskowski the SAME bumbling idiot who said he would not interview the child that was alleging sexual abuse because the ex has told him that it was only for REVENGE. Really? But now the tables are turned Laskowski and your continuing bush-leagued, shoddy investigating skills is shining down on you! Thank god the state agents from Division of Criminal Investigation came and helped!
Why are people questioning what took so long? It is NO surprise to me. You now officially have BLOOD on your hands and I am grateful it was not me or my child whom you failed to believe. I prayed for some justice for ALL Mothers and Children in Oconto County…it is coming slowly…but Karma really is a bitch aint it?
YEAH HE LOOKS TOTALLY SANE AND NOT GUILTY....dumbasses!
Randall Staeven of Pulaski arrested in death of wife Christine Staeven
The estranged husband of a woman found dead in a burning home a year ago has been arrested for her murder, the Oconto County Sheriff’s Department said today.
Authorities said they have arrested Randall Staeven, 50, of Pulaski, and are recommending charges of first-degree intentional homicide, arson, mutilating a corpse and three counts of first-degree reckless endangerment.
The charges relate to the May 14, 2009, death of Christine Staeven, 40, and a fire at her home at 740 Jaworski Road, in the town of Chase.
The sheriff’s department identified the Staevens as being married but going through a divorce at the time of her death.
Randall Staeven was angry that he could lose the family home as a result of the couple’s pending divorce, according to the criminal complaint filed Wednesday.
Randall and Christine’s relationship had a history of domestic abuse and Randall Staeven had been ordered to undergo anger management counseling, the complaint said.
In January 2009, Christine received a restraining order against her husband and had him removed from the Jaworski Road home, the complaint said.
Randall Staeven is scheduled to be in court for an initial appearance at 10 a.m. Friday before Oconto County Circuit Judge Michael Judge.
Investigators suspected murder early on, because an autopsy showed no carbon monoxide in her system, indicating that she had died before the fire.
Christine Staeven’s body — found in one of the home’s bedrooms — was significantly damaged during the fire, which had been set in three different places in the home, according to a criminal complaint filed Wednesday
Three of her children, then aged 11, 7 and 3, escaped the fire. Another child wasn’t home at that time.
Christine Staeven’s 11-year-old daughter told authorities she woke up the night of the fire to the smell of smoke as well as the fire alarm sounding and her brother screaming, the criminal complaint said. She found her two brothers in the house at the time and then helped them get out, it said.
Relatives had set up fundraising efforts to help care for the children.
The sheriff’s department had no comment on what led to the arrest other than to say it was as a result of a joint investigation by the sheriff’s department and agents from the state Division of Criminal Investigation.
http://www.greenbaypressgazette.com/article/20100729/GPG0101/100729074/Randall-Staeven-of-Pulaski-arrested-in-death-of-wife-Christine-Staeven
ANOTHER KANSAS VICTIM
http://www.theolathenews.com/2010/08/05/806579/olathe-police-seeking-suspect.html
Thursday, Aug. 05, 2010
Olathe police arrest suspect after woman shot dead
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Police in Olathe arrested a suspect Thursday afternoon after a woman was shot to death.
About noon, police found the woman shot in the head in the 400 block of East Spruce Street.
Police arrested Terry R. Hayes, 39, after a hunt that lasted about three hours. He surrendered without incident after police stopped him driving an SUV at 125th and Walnut streets, police said.
Mary Larkin, who lives across the street from where she said police found a body in a driveway, said Hayes had been at that house in recent weeks with his former wife. The two had divorced at one point but she did not know if they remarried, she said. It appeared Hayes was helping make improvements to the home, she said.
| Joe Lambe, jlambe@theolathenews.com
REVOLUTION
Once again this last Thursday, American Mothers Political Party Blogtalk Radio Show knocked one out of the park!
The hour long show provided information on important information about family court that included the meaning of ex-parte hearings and the inner workings of the judiciary office. Co-hosts, Claudine Dombrowski and Lorraine Tipton, who each still live the nightmare of family court, explain to listeners what to expect when walking into family court for the first time. These co-hosts are phenomenal as they tell it like it is, no holding back!
The guest for the show was Dr. Danielle Duperret who is another protective mother who is speaking out against the judicial abuse and bias against mothers, specifically, domestic abuse victims. Dr. Duperret also gave information on a conference to be held in October 21-23 regarding Child Abuse and Court Ordered Child Abuse. Details can be found on the website: http://www.iqhbts.org/
The show gives insight to what kind of nightmare that she and her children have had to contend with especially with Dr. Duperret being arrested and charged with a felony.
Dr. Duperrets heart wrenching story of her abusers constant retaliation in family court, including accusing her of the pseudo scientific theory of Parental Alienation Syndrome, is not what she expected from the U.S. judicial system. The several judges that have managed this case have acted out against this protective mother of seven, including her oldest daughter also being arrested for protecting her siblings. She tells the harrowing tale of U.S. Marshal’s surrounding their home, as well her incarceration of six months in a maximum security facility alongside murderers, rapists and REAL criminals. AMPP stands with this mother in bringing the truth about family court to light!
American Mothers Political Party is not only a social movement, it is a long overdue revolution of domestic abuse victims taking a stand.
Tune in every Thursday to American Mothers Political Party Blogtalk Radio Show at 6pm EST, 5pm CST and 3pm PST
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JUST US
Rights for Mothers | Resources and Support for Noncustodial and Custodially-Challenged Mothers.
Tonight a letter will be coming your way, detailing the miscarriage of justice that this Topeka mother and daughter has endured in Kansas courts. Please consider carefully how best you can help. Claudine has been a strong voice for battered and abused mothers, having testified before State Rep Mike Kiegerl‘s (R-Olathe) Joint Committee on Children’s Issues in December 2009.
Claudine has been gagged, denied documents to her case, denied parenting time (AGAIN), and even had her phone confiscated from her. She came to court with 67 violations of the last court order of daddy Hal Richardson keeping Rikki from seeing her mother. I was in court with Claudine in January when the order was issued to finally allow visitation, and Judge David Debenham (Shawnee County Court, phone number (785) 233-8200 begin_of_the_skype_highlighting (785) 233-8200 end_of_the_skype_highlighting ext. 4203 ) looked Richardson in the eyes and pointed to him and told him he WILL follow the court’s order. He didn’t, and the motion to find him in contempt was dismissed as soon as Claudine didn’t have all her supporters there.
Your constituents, the voters of Kansas, the mothers of Kansas must have your support. Another is waiting in the wings to be stomped on in Wichita on Tuesday (Jones vs. Youngquist Case no. 06-DM 3626). A father, Shawn Jones, who allegedly sexually abused his young daughter, has kept the children from their mother, Tammy Youngquist. She has not seen them in months. This is the abuser’s way of punishing mothers, and courts gladly help. Scientific studies show that children rarely lie about sexual abuse, yet child protection workers constantly disregard allegations if they come from children of a broken home. WAKE UP AND REALIZE CHILDREN ARE IN PAIN HERE. CHILDREN ARE BEING ABUSED AND CHILDREN ARE BEING RAPED AND KANSAS COURTS ARE HELPING THE PERPETRATORS.
This is from Earl Glynn, the Kansas Watchdog:
Claudine Dombrowski
Claudine Dombrowski: An abused mom victimized again by the Kansas Courts
Read details in written statement.
This is an truly incredible story that should never have happened in America.
Parts of the Kansas Judicial system should be disciplined for how it has victimized Ms. Dombrowski, who was an abused mom.
Instead of quotes from the audio, please consult these pages that document Dombrowski’s long and difficult battle to protect her daughter:
As you view these photos keep in mind that the court awarded FULL CUSTODY of their daughter to the “man” who did this to Claudine.
- Courts Have Continued Abuse of Manhattan Women, Manhattan Free Press, July 12, 2001.
- Manhattan resident fights custody battle for daughter, Kansas State Collegian, July 26, 2001.
State Rep Bill Otto: “No crime? You haven’t been guilty of anything? This is a court order that says you can’t go to any school functions?”
“I was under court order till 2004 to not even call the police after I was being beaten because … I was not ‘co-parenting’”
Dombrowski: “These friends of the court make recommendations to the judge. The parents … don’t have a right to see these documents. They do this behind closed doors.”
Otto: (To Secretary Jordan): “You have no rights as a parent …?”
Secretary Don Jordan: “This would be something extreme … I’m not familiar with the situation.”
Otto: “Can a judge do that? … Is that legal… ?”
Jordan: “Under the right circumstances … I hesitate to speculate.”
Sen. Roger Reitz: “This is something that only … the judicial system can really answer … It would be helpful … to have someone … representing the judicial system … to give us some ideas how this could happen.”
Dombrowski: “When you are a victim of domestic violence, and suddenly there’s a child involved, the typical …. power of control is that ‘I’ll take your children from you’. They will and they can the way the laws are setup.” …
“I was told that I’m not to talk to my daughter about the violence. That’s why I don’t see her. That’s why I see her supervised. He was criminally convicted. “
“When women try to get away from people who hurt them … I heard somebody say it’s really hard to believe you won’t call the police … I tell people not to contact the police, because as soon as you walk into court with a DV (domestic violence) and children, you’re already cutting your throat. You will lose your children. That’s the way it is right now.”
“… on the 16th of this month I’ll probably go to jail for breaking the gag order and talking about [being the victim of] violence as it relates to my case.”
Reitz: “… someone ought to be able to deal with this in a way that would address her problem. It doesn’t seem like we’ve done the right thing with regards to this little niche of the law.”
Dombrowski: “The criminal convictions are completely tossed aside and they don’t have any bearing on the family court … The eight criminal convictions that my ex had before getting custody of my daughter were completely dropped [in family court]“
Chair Kiegerl: “I cannot believe that abuse is totally ignored. I cannot believe you can prohibit a person from speaking about their own case.”
“The one thing [where] … I disagree with you is abuse should always be reported.”
State Rep Peggy Mast (R-Emporia): “Domestic violence is a control issue. Sexual abuse is a control issue. Is there any correlation between domestic violence and sexual abuse? Why is that not something that is considered when we take someone to [family] court that has a history of domestic violence?”
Dombrowski: “Yes. That is something I’ve asked myself for 16 years. … It comes back to the family court that has a veil of immunity. … They don’t fully understand the impact of the violence. What battered women have … if they report the abuse, then they’re failing to protect their child … if they don’t report the abuse, they’re still failing to protect their child. So, both ways, they’re going to lose their children …”
For anybody who abuses their wife … [from] a 1996 presidential task force … there is a 70% increase that those children will be abused and/or sexually abused after there’s been battery with the mother.
Sen. Oletha Faust-Goudea: “In 2004 …. I talked with the homicide department in Sedgwick County…. During that time there had been 21 homicides in Sedgwick County and 18 were due to domestic violence …”
“A lot of women do make those phone calls and unfortunately, sometimes it ends in their death.” …
“I want to apologize to you for being treated like a pedophile … not being able to go to a music concert.”
“I commend you for what you’re doing.”
Dombrowski: “I have not talked to my daughter in 10 years [except] for the confines of supervised visits. I’m not allowed to talk to her about anything. All she knows is what her dad has told her.”
See this video: Abused Mom Wants Unsupervised Visits with Daughter
Others have indicated a desire to help. I have uploaded the email addresses for the Kansas House here and the Kansas Senate here. This is just the beginning.
SET IN STONE
Kansas is poised to replace its statue of politician John James Ingalls in the U.S. Capitol’s National Statuary Hall with Amelia Earhart as soon as funding is secured, making her the 10th woman to be honored there (out of 100). The aviator and bestselling author was the first woman to fly solo across the Atlantic Ocean.
If you look into the eyes of Ms. Earhart you cannot help but to notice her confidence and determination. She was a woman who broke barriers and gender stereotypes. What is it about Kansas women that feed the fire that make them determined to stand up for what is right?
The same steel reserve that has forced another woman in Kansas to regain her rights as parent has once again fallen on deaf ears. Judge David Debenham was manipulated into believing that Claudine Dombrowski should not have parenting time and order so. As one blogger stated:
People are outraged everywhere. The last time the 15 year old daughter called to cancel her two hour Sunday visit she is allowed each week with her mother, she was crying on the phone and said she couldn’t come. Abuser Hal Richardson was yelling in the background, and the daughter cried more. Dear Claudine told her daughter it was okay, that everything would be okay. That was it. After that, not even a phone call to cancel, Hal Richardson failed to produce the daughter at the Topeka Police Station as he was ordered to do. Nothing. And the court let him get away with all 67 violations of this court order on August 20th.
With Kansas having a reputation as a progressive state with many firsts in legislative initiatives—it was the first state to institute a system of workers compensation (1910) and to regulate the securities industry (1911). Kansas also permitted women’s suffrage in 1912, almost a decade before the federal constitution was amended to require it. It would now appear that Judge Debenham does not subscribe to the same progressive thoughts as other Kansans. An American citizen can normally appear to have the same rights as the forefathers fought for us, especially Freedom of Speech, but not in Debenham’s court. Now Debenham’s gavel has punished a Mother for trying to be a Mother, for exposing the criminals of family court and especially for the interests of her abuser.
It should be an embarrassment for any Kansan that this is how Debenham treats, Mothers/United States Citizens, doing what they have every right to do. This progressive state with a long list of famous, innovative and ground breaking citizens from Earheart to Eishenhower you would expect better…then again Kansas does have the world’s biggest ball of twine.
With all of her struggles within the court system and she hasn’t given up on her daughter and she never will. Claudine is a modern Amelia Earhart, also on a perilous journey, navigating the unpredictable family court system, where you never know which basic human right they will take from you, especially Motherhood.
MANCAVES ™
Some doofus this week made a stink about a Mommy & Me program that refused him and/or his gender membership. Since this revelation I have seen the light and realize how many disenfranchised, abused and neglected males there really are out there.
A solution for these males that live daily with inequality… ManCaves ™
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Stop complaining that males are getting screwed out of membership to groups of women and children. If you do not embrace the exclusion then make your own group!! Did you not learn anything from Kevin Costner?
….BUILD IT THEY WILL COME!
Coming next week! Man denied membership with La Leche League due to lack of mammary glands! OUTRAGE!
DUH A
Just when you think that you can rely on a district attorney to uphold the integrity of the justice system…some idiot comes along acting like early man….pathetic.
WE DONT NEED THIS KIND OF ADVOCATE
The Wisconsin District Attorneys Association called Friday for Calumet County District Attorney Kenneth R. Kratz to resign over sexually suggestive text messages he sent to a crime victim last year.
In a public letter to Kratz, the association said his actions were “repugnant” and were “neither unintentional nor innocent.”
“Your behavior has cast aspersions on our entire profession,” says the letter, which was approved by a unanimous resolution of the group’s executive committee.
The letter goes on to say that the association’s members would fire any of their subordinates who communicated with a crime victim in a similar manner. They also wrote that they would ask Gov. Jim Doyle to determine whether Kratz could be removed from office if he doesn’t resign.
Doyle spokesman Adam Collins said Friday that the governor is “very surprised and shocked by these deeply troubling accounts.” Doyle will be in contact with Attorney General J.B. Van Hollen “to discuss all options,” Collins said.
Short of a resignation, Kratz could be removed from office through a recall election or by the governor.
Ken Kratz text messages:
Kratz: It was nice talking with you! Feel free to text me (between 8 and 4) if you are bored. You have such potential. See ya. KEN (your favorite DA).
Kratz: I’m not worried…well maybe just a little. I’m more curious what made me text you?
Kratz: Ok. We’ll go with that answer. Thanks for putting up with me so far. I wish you weren’t one of this office’s clients. You’d be a cool person to know!
Kratz: No text yet today? I’m feeling ignored. Are you even up yet?
Kratz: Oh no. I hope you feel better. Do you need me to bring some chicken soup.
Kratz: I can do, but you are awfully sweet. Just don’t tell anyone, ok?
Kratz: Seriously I hope you feel better soon. Please keep in touch. Its maybe not the wisest thing
Kratz: How about a margarita? That has some fruit juice in it!
Kratz: I know this is wrong. I am such a honest guy, and straight shooter…but I have to know more about you. Does that make sense to you? I bet u get this a lot!
Kratz: Are u the kind of girl that likes secret contact with an older married elected DA…the riskier the better? Or do you want to stop right now before any issues?
Kratz: I need direction from you. Yes you are a risk taker and can keep your mouth shut and you think this is fun. or you think a man twice your age is creepy so stop
Kratz: Ok. No problem. Either way I think you are very nice. I am very smart, but know this is ALL up to you and really does depend how close to the edge you live!
Kratz: Still wondering if I’m worth it?
Kratz: Can I help you answer any questions?
Kratz: You don’t say much, do you?
Kratz: When you are that pretty, I guess you don’t have to! (now the compliments start).
Kratz: Its true. Why would such a successful, respected attorney be actling like he’s in 7th grade? Are you worried about me?
Kratz: You should never lie to me! Obviously we have talents and things to offer that the other is intrigued by, or you would have called me creepy! You wanna accept
Kratz: Me either. Its supid. Have u ever been spoiled by someone? I mean like being taken care of and spoil him with attention in return? Without ever saying no?
Kratz: If you are not worth that kind of passion, we’ll know it right away. For now I’m just suggesting we find out. Its either perfect or I’m not going to do it!
Kratz: Hey..Miss Communication, what’s with the sticking point? Your low self-esteem and you fear you can’t successfully play in my big sandbox? Or???
Kratz: I’m leaving for the day. Let me know after 8 tomorrow. You will be either excited or grossed out about the opportunity you have. But it will only come once!
Kratz: What do you hope your life looks like in 5 yrs? What kind of residence? A job, making how much in the household? A relationship with what kind of guy? $$$?
Kratz: How are you feeling today. You stopped talking yesterday.
Kratz: Are you serious? Ok? That’s it? Are you busy? Are you in a board meeting? You are beautiful and would make a great young partner someday. But I won’t beg!
Kratz: I’m serious! Im the atty. I have the $350,000 house. I have the 6-figure career. You may have the tall, young, hot nymph, but I am the prize! Start convincing
Kratz: Finally an opinion. I would not expect you to be the other woman. I would want you to be so hot and treat me so well that you’d be THE woman! R U that good?
Kratz: You forgot to write me for the last time saying you could never give me enough attention to steal me away, and you are so modest that you wouldn’t know how to!
Kratz: And that you may look good at first glance, but women that are blonde, 6ft tall, long legs and great bodies don’t like to be shown off or to please their men!
A Blogger notes:
Texting a victim about her low self-esteem and suggesting she fears she’s can’t successfully “play in [his] big sandbox” is not professional.
Kratz obviously wanted to keep the messages out of the media because they are so inappropriate and could damage his career. Moreover, he lied about the messages not being sexual in nature.
The fact that Kratz was harassing a victim in this manner is very troubling.
It’s also troubling that the “state Office of Lawyer Regulation determined that no professional misconduct had occurred.”
What?
Kratz did not conduct himself professionally. I don’t think this is a gray area.
Kratz texted, “Why would such a successful, respected attorney be actling like he’s in 7th grade?”
That’s a good question!
Citizens of Calumet County deserve a district attorney that can be trusted to behave better than a junior high kid. Kratz should be committed to serving the community in a professional manner rather than serving his own desires.
I think Kratz’s texts go beyond embarrassing. They’re not befitting an individual holding the office of district attorney.
KrAZY KrATZ
Repulsive District Attorney, Ken Kratz, is holding onto his job…literally. Kratz is District Attorney for Calumet County in Wisconsin. Last week it was revealed that Kratz sent a domestic violence victim 30 inappropriate messages in a matter of days. He encouraged a relationship as according to Kratz he was the one with the $350,000 house after all. Coincidentally, the meeting that Kratz had with domestic violence victim, Stephanie Van Groll, was last October….ironic since October is Domestic Violence Awareness month. Here we are almost one year later, October lurking around the corner, domestic violence advocates are not going way on this one.
Many will remember Kratz in other high profile cases such as Steven Avery who was released from prison after 18 years from a wrongly accused rape case only to go on and murder photographer, Teresa Halbach. Most recently was another high profile case of the three women who were being prosecuted by Kratz for Super Gluing the cheating husband/boyfriends penis to himself. The case drew national attention and became fodder for late night monologues and Kratz himself appeared on CNN to talk about the Super Glue case. Kratz told CNN that he had some guesses to why people were so fascinated, “It could be the super glue thing. It doesn’t let go,” he said.
Neither does Kratz. After several different domestic violence agencies, advocates and even the Wisconsin District Attorneys Association called for his resignation. But Kratz refuses, he has since taken a medical leave and is doing the go to rehab dance that all men that get caught abusing their power and privilege do. The WCADV stated that, “Sexually harassing a vulnerable victim is the result of a serious lack of integrity, not a medical condition.”
You still holding on Ken??
Wisconsin Gov. Jim Doyle held a press conference stating he was appalled by Calumet County District Attorney Ken Kratz’s behavior. He says he first needs to get a “verified complaint” from a taxpayer in Calumet County. The abuse victim does not live in that county. Once that complaint is in then Kratz will have an opportunity to be heard. Another option is for a Calumet County resident to start a petition to recall Kratz. Why play the games Kratz? You admitted to it, you gave your lousy 4 minute apology a year too late and more victims are coming forward.
You still want to hold on Ken?
Another twist to the already sick story of gross misconduct is that there is another woman that has come forward. Doyle’s office released a letter from a second woman who says Kratz discussed confidential details of an active investigation with her and even invited her to watch a crime victim’s autopsy. Hmm…do we see a trend here?
The woman who wrote the letter released by Doyle’s office Monday said Kratz contacted her on Match.com in December. She said they had dinner at a Green Bay restaurant in January, and that during the meal Kratz took several phone calls from detectives investigating the disappearance of a person who investigators believed had been killed.
The woman, whose name was redacted from the letter, wrote that Kratz discussed several aspects of the case with her that had not been revealed to the public. The woman wrote that she and Kratz communicated by text for a couple of days after their dinner.
The woman wrote in the letter that Kratz eventually sent a text “inviting me to go with him to the autopsy (provided I would be his girlfriend and would wear high heels and a skirt).”
Keep holding on Ken….we are
On that note I think it is vital to part with some previous quotes from Kratz’s view of the Super Glue love triangle and more of insight into the psyche of this predator. “It’s important to treat women violent defenders like you would a guy,” Kratz said. This man had power and privilege, abuses his power for personal gain, diminishes the integrity of the justice system for victims and holds everyone accountable to higher standard than what applies to his own actions.
Lastly, Kratz commented on why he thought there was such a media frenzy with the Super Glue case saying he isn’t fooled into believing he’s talking to media across the world because people are interested in examining the issues of gender equity in the criminal justice system. We are now.
LET GO KEN!
MOB MENTALITY
I am not saying Wisconsin sucks or that they are worse than any other state in the union but they REALLY do suck!
This blog has been brutally honest of the inner workings of our government and those that run it. Recently the depravity of one of those, Ken Kratz, District Attorney of Calumet County Wisconsin, has gained national attention. Not the kind that Wisconsin needs but at least for once this national story didn’t involve a serial killer who eats people.
Instead, the public united against the behaviors of Kratz and other various Wisconsin officials as Attorney General J.B. Van Hollen and the Wisconsin Officer of Lawyer Regulation. It is no secret that the public are simply disgusted and outraged at the arrogance of Kratz and others that have protected him. We applaud the many domestic violence agencies and advocates that heard the call of the public outcry. It is heartening and refreshing especially with a system hellbent on silencing victims. Then the ugly head of one of those on the inside of the Wisconsin organized crime family opened his mouth.
Capo, member of the Board of Administrative Oversight, which monitors the fairness of OLR and considers related policies, said the agency should not review the case.
Kenosha Wisconsin lawyer underboss, Terry Rose said the messages reflected “poor judgment” but not sexual harassment. Rose said the behavior did not violate professional conduct rules in part because Van Groll was a witness, not Kratz’s client. Oh really?
“I don’t want to see a situation where we have a lynch mob mentality where, because the general public is howling for the scalp of a particular attorney, we respond,” Rose said, adding that voters could vote Kratz out of office in 2012. “I view this as more of a political issue.”
What an asshole!
Wisconsin taxpayers don’t want to see a situation where the district attorney preys on victims of domestic violence either!
Enlighten us about what would be the political motive? Doyle is not even running for office again (he has probably sick of the way things are handled down in Madison too!) Give me a break Mr. Rose, your poor judgment for sticking up for an obvious predator of women is the type of mob mentality all you and your colleagues crime family exude upon the great citizens of Wisconsin.
I have run across more than enough citizens that have experienced the gauntlet of filing a complaint with the OLR and at least they got a letter saying no action was going to be taken against the criminal lawyer which is more than Stephanie Van Groll got. According to Van Groll’s attorney, Michael Fox, said Thursday his client does not remember ever speaking with the OLR investigator or receiving a letter telling her the case had been closed. NO SURPRISE THERE!
Eighteen minutes into the status hearing yesterday the attorney for Kratz informed that he will resign now. This brings little comfort to the victims and to the public in general who have EVERY right to question their government and elected officials, especially when you claim that those that disagree with OLR are howling for a scalp!. If you mafiosos lawyers don’t want to adhere to your own Rules of Professional Conduct, rename them Suggestions of Professional Conduct or does not apply to us, that will save us lowly, illiterate taxpayers serfs a lot of time making sure you follow your own guidelines.
Many have been insulted by the comments made by DOJ and OLR and their goons, most importantly it has been their intelligence. The cover up and lies told by those in power has diminished the integrity of the Wisconsin Justice System, which for those of us that already know what a bunch of idiots that run it has helped solidify the fact.
Attorney General Godfather Van Hollen learned of the concerns about Kratz more than 11 months ago yet he did not refer the case to Governor who has the authority to remove district attorneys from office in cases of malfeasance, misconduct or neglect of duty. In fact, Van Hollen took no initiative to discuss the serious issues raised by the Kratz case, issues that go to the integrity of law enforcement in Wisconsin. no shocker there either!
The Democratic Party of Wisconsin has called for an independent investigation of Van Hollen’s handling of the case of Kratz, one of the attorney general’s earliest and most ardent supporters. Spokesman Graeme Zielinski says: “J.B. Van Hollen looks to have tried to sweep this case under the rug. Only an independent probe can uncover the full scope of Van Hollen’s misconduct involved here.”
We agree
An independent investigation of EVERY Wisconsin government office organize crime family that handled this little problem with Kratz is exactly what is needed. It’s about time Wisconsin got an enema to rid its bowels that are full of shit.
sidenote:
court records show that Kratz current wife filed for divorce in December 2009 — and this divorce will be his third. Kratz was also divorced in 1994 and 1997. It appears that Judge Donald Poppy, the judge from the glue case, actually presided over the 1997 divorce–how is that for a tangled web that they weave?
EUGENE BOWMAN a Murderer walking Free – BEWARE!!! Mother and daughter, Tina and Bethany Sinclair Vanished w/o a Trace « Battered Mothers-A Human Rights Issue
February 4, 2010 marked the 9th Anniversary of the Disappearance of Tina and Bethany Sinclair.
Mother and daughter, Tina and Bethany Sinclair have been missing from Mountain Road in West Chesterfield, NH since Feb. 4th, 2001.
Please ring the phones off the hook this OUTRAGE!!!!
Please join us, and repost!
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has been established for discussions about our case. Please join us:
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Last update: December 2009 - the NH Cold Case Unit, recently granted and established, has now been handed our case to consider……
If you have any information about my missing sister, Tina Sinclair, and my missing niece, Bethany Sinclair, please contact me at: mypurplestar@aol.com, webmaster@missingtinaandbeth.org, or the newly formed NH Cold Case Unit: http://doj.nh.gov/coldcaseunit/listing/bethany-sinclair.htm
Maura Murray is also missing from NH.
Sincerely, Sharon Garry family and friends
Registration of Criminal Offenders
http://www4.egov.nh.gov/nsor/Display.aspx?offenderID=2798
Date of Photo
1/3/2010
BOWMAN, EUGENE V. JR
Alias(es): Bowman, Van
Last Reported Address:
P – 34 Pond Brook Rd West Chesterfield, NEW HAMPSHIRE 03466 Cheshire County
Date of Birth: 12/27/1958
Age: 51
Race: White
Sex: Male
Height: 6’4″
Hair: Brown
Eyes: Brown
Weight: 225 lbs.
Other Relevant Physical Descriptions:
Scars, Marks, Tattoos, Piercings:
SCARS: Leg, left
Court: Cheshire
Adjudication Date: 5/23/2001
Qualifying Offense(s):
NH RSA 632-A:2, II Aggravated Felonious Sexual Assault (Victim under 13 y.o.)
NH RSA 632-A:2, II Aggravated Felonious Sexual Assault (Victim under 13 y.o.)
NH RSA 632-A:2, II Aggravated Felonious Sexual Assault (Victim under 13 y.o.)
Status of Parole, Probation or Supervised Release: Parole Date: 4/10/2016
Criminal History:
Agg. Fel. Sex. Assault 632-A:2 Conviction Date: 2/6/2001
Agg. Fel. Sex. Assault 632-A:2 Conviction Date: 2/6/2001
Agg. Fel. Sex. Assault 632-A:2 Conviction Date: 2/6/2001
BOWMAN is required to register under New Hampshire law. Positive identification cannot be established unless a fingerprint comparison is made.
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Corruption and Coverups Exposed in Garvin County, Oklahoma
Corruption and Coverups Exposed in Garvin County, Oklahoma
Many speak for justice, but few have the courage to face down the devil in its name.
October 15, 2010 National USA……With the arrival in Oklahoma of nationally-known author, media personality and activist, Susan Murphy Milano, there begins the process of shedding more light on some of Oklahoma’s darkest secrets. For years, families have struggled in this State with a “good ole boy” system that delivered not justice, but cold justice.
The families affected by this system of justice in Garvin County, Oklahoma have called on Murphy Milano to help them bring national attention to the alleged corruption surrounding several cases of possible murder that have been covered up or improperly investigated by those sworn into positions of authority.
The climate is quite hostile and the safety of those speaking out has been threatened.
According to Attorney Jaye Mendros, “When a murder is covered up, or inadequately investigated, and an erroneous cause or manner of death determination is made by a good ole’ boy who is NOT a physician, the Medical Examiner’s Office should NOT turn a blind eye and rubber stamp that determination.”
With the help of Oklahoma City attorney, Jaye Mendros, and Justice for the Dead, along with grass roots organization, The Eleventh Commandment, and the families of Chanda Turner, Sheila Deviney, Tom Horton, and others, they hope to illuminate the overwhelming evidence and bring justice to those who have gone without it for too long.
This corruption begs for national attention from major news networks. In an upcoming election is a Sheriff who was present at each of these death scenes.
Does Garvin County, Oklahoma want more of the same?
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AMPP Stands Behind Christian Coffey HIS Mother and All Their Supporters!
AMPP Stands Behind Christian Coffey HIS Mother and All Their Supporters!
Please visit the following links for the incredible in-justice being done and the ILLEGAL actions of the Court and Child Welfare Services in Kentucky.
Face Book Page “Stop The Abuse of Christian Coffey”
http://www.facebook.com/pages/Stop-the-Abuse-of-Christian-Coffey/146216185389326?ref=search
VIDEO HERE: Corrupt Judge Catherine Rice Holderfild “Stop the Abuse of Christian Coffey” Bowling Green, Kentucky http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IGutckf-HSc
Kentucky Judge Rice-Holderfield Court Whore Exposing the dirty little secrets of family court.
JUST SOME GOOD OL BOYS
http://judgecatherinericeholderfield.blogspot.com/2010/10/just-some-good-ol-boys.html
Two hours of questioning of a minor child regarding the ownership of this blogs and many more is really showing how desperate this Judge court whore has become.
Rice-Holderfield sent out her goons today to many persons homes, including Miss Kentucky International Elaine Bateman. What has become of the justice system that they are hell bent on jailing a mother for others taking the stance on this injustice?!
We hope you are proud of yourself by intimidating a child into submission, falsely accusing her of blogging the TRUTH…CPS worker Sheila and Police Officer Blevins. There is a special little place in hell for those who fail to protect and serve….not sure which level…I will have to get back to you on that. In the meantime I suggest you do some reading…. http://whoresofthecourt.com
In this provocative and well-researched book, Margaret Hagen, Ph.D, reveals how expert psychological testimony is a total fraud, showing how the courts have increasingly embraced not a cutting-edge science but, instead, a discipline that represents a terrifying retreat into fantasy and hearsay; a discipline propelled by powerful propaganda, arrogance, and greed.
You want to know who runs this blog…get a warrant…think you can haul anyone to Kensucky for an alleged felony class D….TRY ME…..we are waiting…and we still are not shutting up.
What kind of country are we living in where the authorities protect a person who beats a child and non-abusers and victims are threatened and harassed. We cannot let this go on.
BTW
Freedom of speech is protected in the First Amendment of the Bill of Rights and is guaranteed to all Americans.
CHAMBER OF SECRETS
http://judgecatherinericeholderfield.blogspot.com/2010/10/chamber-of-secrets.html
Just when you think you have left an abusive relationship enter the family court judge. In Kentucky there is one such judge (court whore) that loves to hand out punishment to all but especially mothers and children.
As I researched the Honorable Judge Catherine Rice-Holderfield it gave me more insight to how this court whore ticks and how she got into the position she was appointed not voted into.
According to http://kyjudges2006.wikispaces.com/file/view/bgdailynews.oct31.pdf is where I found the interesting comments that Rice-Holderfield made in regards to her experience with family court matters.
Rice-Holderfield states, My parents divorced when I was a teenager. Being a child of divorce gives me a special perspective on how deeply this family tragedy affects children. I also could see how my parents struggled with custody, division of their property and debts, and with providing financial support. When my children were very young, their father and I divorced, very amicably, and I faced balancing management of my sole law practice with being a single parent, while always making sure my children were the focus of my attention. These are priorities I also keep now, and which I stress to persons in family court
First of all, just because your parents divorced and you divorced amicably does NOT mean you have all knowing experience in family court. Her special perspective is askew to the point that hypocrisy doesn’t even apply to her method of madness. Especially now when Kimberly Harris is facing judicial retaliation on October 19th for absolutely nothing. In what can only be described as judicial abuse and retaliation Rice-Holderfield has threatened jail for Kimberly Harris and her supporters for speaking about her judicial abuse online.
So to make this all clear, Rice-Holderfield is upset because American citizens have exposed her dirty little secrets? With the information I have gleaned from the www there is much more to expose about this Kentucky court whore.
First thing I did was check with the Constitution and it still says:
Amendment 1 – Freedom of Religion, Press, Expression. Ratified 12/16/1791
Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the Government for a redress of grievances.
Redress
redress v. 1. To set right, remedy or rectify. 2. To make amends for. n. 1. Satisfaction for wrong done; reparation. 2. Correction. [redresser.]
This is a redress and you should duly note it.
The absurdity and contradictions continue at http://kyjudges2006.wikispaces.com/file/view/bgdailynews.oct31.pdf They pose the question to Rice-Holderfield,
What issues, if any, are important to improve family court?
I believe I’m serving the community very well in family court. I treat every participant equally, fairly, with dignity and respect. I’m always striving toward greater efficiency in managing my large caseload, and to save money and time for the people in my court. I put the focus on the children whose entire lives will be affected by the decisions we make and the agreements we reach in family court. I try to put myself in the shoes of every person that comes into my courtroom, while applying the law to the facts presented to me.
Thankfully after I read this quote I didnt spew too hard onto my keyboard. After we heard about Kimberly Harris and her son we knew that this was insanity, we just didn’t anticipate the extent of it. Rice-Holderfield by her own admission is a product of divorce, she has been through divorce, she is a mother…but yet she is hellbent on jailing a mother who did nothing more than any mother would do to protect their child from abuse, it is blatantly apparent Rice-Holderfield doesn’t grasp that concept.
Sadly it doesn’t end there..the rest of the article here: http://judgecatherinericeholderfield.blogspot.com/2010/10/chamber-of-secrets.html
Family Court — Unconstitutional Judicial Gag Orders
Over the past decade, family court judges routinely have uttered broader and broader gag orders, forbidding parents in custody battles from talking or writing about their cases. The pretext for these orders is that they are needed for the protection of the child. Nevertheless, it’s suspected that more often they are prompted by embarrassed officials who dislike scrutiny and criticism by internet bloggers in the wake of burgeoning out-of-control shoot-from-the-hip “therapeutic jurisprudence” in the family courts. The stated child protection rationale is specious because defamation, obscenity, violations of privacy, harassment, and other unprotected speech appropriately are addressed by the law after the fact when actual or potentially harmful speech can be specifically identified.
These orders are illegal under the First Amendment as violations of the constitutional prohibition against prior restraint. Now one mother, Faith Torres, has contacted the American Civil Liberties Union because of a gag order entered in her case by Judge Debra DeSegna in Providence, Rhode Island, July 29, at the request of the Rhode Island Department of Children, Youth and Families. Steven Brown, executive director of the ACLU’s Rhode Island affiliate, called the order a “blatant violation of the First Amendment.” Let’s see some federal lawsuits. http://newsblog.projo.com/2010/08/judge-bars-ri-mother-from-talk.html
FASTER THAN A FLYING MONKEY!
Faster than a flying monkey the witch flew off the broom handle yesterday in a Kansas courtroom…yes we are talking about Jill M. Dykes!
After a hearing was adjourned in regards to the DIS-honorabel Judge David Debenham personally took off the docket of Judge Schimdt. The same Judge who originally started the death of Claudine Dombrowksis relationship and being a MOTHER to HER child!
The beat went on at the hearing of course and in usual Debenham fashion he refused to enter any evidence of collusion and conflict by this Mother. Today Debenham is set to determine soley based on his interview with the daughter IF he will followed the applied laws and statutes of the land of OZ. That still remains to be seen….
But if the usual corruption, cronyism and collusion doesnt confound people by now this will. After the hearing was adjourned GAL Jill M. Dykes Court Whore couldnt help herself to see what evidence Claudine had. She viewed and cranked her neck over the shoulder to gain sight of the facebook screen shots of Dykes facebook. She shrieked and squealed as if someone had murdered her. She saw that her child was in one of the screenshots of Dykes public facebook profile. Pictures SHE put on the internet for ALL to see…not just Claudine. She ran to cry to the judge that OH MY GOD someone had found her public facebook account and took proof of the corruption. Just as THEY have been doing to Claudine since she started exposing these whores of the court of Kansucks!
Last night at 5:06pm Claudine received a phone call from the GALs husband, Christopher Dykes. Thats right, a professional that is paid with tax dollars put her husband up to phone Ms. Dombrowskis PRIVATE UNLISTED cell phone number. He wanted to know if he had anything to worry about because, someone called me from the courthouse and told me my wife is upset,. Hmmm…first off lets take this slow…since when is this EVER appropriate and secondly Claudines number is private for a reason, because she has been abused and stalked. She is under protection with a program for abuse victims to make sure their abusers/colluders dont have access to their address or phone number. Specifically unwanted contact like the call from the GALs hubby! Claiming he knew nothing of Claudines case, but yet knew enough that his wife was upset regarding the facebook pictures. Just as upset as ANY mother could be when they view their child is in danger. Which the whole big beef that started this shit was the pictures and tribute video that a MOTHER made with HER childs pictures.
The next item of unbelievable corruption Debenham refused to return posters and other items for a DV Rally in Kansas worth over $500! These items were in the galley…along with everyone’s coats and purses that he didn’t take…he said they were HIS. Even after contacting police regarding this theft the judge refuses to return personal property! Is he trying to avoid Claudine from protesting?
That IS a FIRST Amendment Violation! This is not over we are not going to stop blogging!
NOT EVERY BLOG IS OWNED BY CLAUDINE….WE THERE ARE MANY OF US THAT HAVE FOLLOWED THIS OUTRAGE!
We know you are trying to shut her up, make her give up, go away….shes not…and NEITHER ARE WE!
WHERE IN THE WORLD IS CLAUDINE DOMBROWSKI?
SHES EVERYWHERE!
- Take my child away, abuse me, take away my freedom of speech…NOT ON MY WATCH!
Lets catch everyone up here….here we are in 2010 and Shawnee County and Judge Debenham continue their obstruction of life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. When our forefathers came up with the idea of truth…WE ALSO hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men/women are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights.
When entering family court they do not hold these truths but base their business on lies, corruption, collusion and cronyism. They do not treat anyone equal, especially if you are a domestic abuse survivor. We have seen these crimes, we have proof by way of transcripts, we have witnesses to the actions and we are making sure that no survivors nightmare with family court is silenced by those who meant to conceal their injustices, lies and bias.
This week we saw DIS-honarable Judge David Debenham spin his twisted head into a knot…not to mention GAL for this case psycho Jill M. Dykes and Attorney/Bitch Jason Hoffman. This judge court whore Debenham took posters for a DV rally at the capital. Anyone could see he was punishing Claudine for allegedly speaking out, another First Amendement violation by the way.
But more interesting enough Debenham placine blame on her for placing a report from Roedheffer the PSYCHO-ologist in the case, online. He states in court that he believes there is no other conclusion than it was Ms. Dombrowski who put it on the world wide web. But no consideration that she was possibly set up by those that mean to do her harm? No! Especially since Claudine was not even allowed access to report…. but the others did! Given the fact that Claudine was previously posting on the corruption of the court he based his conclusion on that alone… without proof or concrete evidence that SHE was the one that posted that report. What about the expert Kimberly Ridgeway who stated incorrectly about posting on facebook. Where is the proof?
No other conclusion???? Not even with a unprofessional GAL who told Claudine after she lunged for her and Dykes said she would make sure she NEVER sees her daughter again. Screaming and shrieking through the halls of Shawnee Courthouse! Not EVEN when the GAL has her husband contact Claudine on a PRIVATE number that cannot be googled?? Making threatening remarks about him taking care of the issue of his wife’s licentious and laughable behavior. Unconscionable! Amoral! Barbarous! Criminal! Dishonest! Unethical! Sneaky! Wicked!
So they claim that Claudine Dombrowski is everywhere…posting this….posting that….posting on her facebook page…CYBERSTALKING HER or was it HER??? But not only is it a crime in Debenhams court to criticize him on a blog or website but also for others….the WWW its a tool to use against her to not allow her to be a Mother to HER child. I assure all of the idiots from Shawnee County right now that WE are everywhere…Claudine is our HERO…we love and cherish everyday that she has been in our lives…because we have had our own DIS-honarable Judge Debenhams in our life too….we have had our own court whore like Jill M. Dykes….WE ARE CLAUDINE! WE ARE EVERYWHERE!! Even in countries far far away! Every one of those that blog about family court corruption has a simliar case to hers….sometimes even worse!…. where children have been murdered by their father by being placed by corrupt judges as you…sometimes children are sent to live with substantiated sexual abusers….but ALL the time we have a common thread….we have been abused not only by our abuser….but also abused by the injustices done by family court! But most importantly we have survived. We have beat the odds that we would be killed by an intimate partner who commits acts of violence. We are the worst and best when it comes to being a true survivor….we are adamant we will not allow anyone to abuse us anymore in any shape or form.
We are not going to give up, shut up or go away….sorry. Gag the internet…..but the internet is here to stay and so are we. Ten years ago you would never find the social networking we have today. Thank you facebook….thank you MySpace…thank you Al Gore! You might be able to threaten a protective mother to not post anything and violate her first amendment rights….but you cannot GAG us all. You say that she is her own worst enemy….no sir you are…you have failed to uphold the laws of the land…you have colluded with those that mean to do more harm to a victim of abuse….but mainly you are to blame for killing MOTHERHOOD. Your askew view has made you the target….YOU DID THIS to yourself.
It began in February 1995 with a Domestic Violence Conviction against Halleck Richardson two months after her dear daughter was born. What did you think she was going to do when Richardson came after custody? NO MOTHER WOULD STOP….but you chose to stop her….we chose to continue to expose the evil and wicked ways of your court. So RIP Shawnee County…from 1995-2010 you have tormented an abuse victim…but those days are over….its our turn.
So where in the world is Claudine Dombrowski?? Well..I will tell you…she is doing what every mother/survivor does that has lost a child to family court….living her life….walking in the truth….and waiting patiently for the day when she can look into the eyes of her child….and tell her I never gave up and I will love you forever.
So fuck off Shawnee County COURT WHORES….this is a free country and as long as I have the most potent and consequential words in American history….LIFE, LIBERTY and the pursuit of HAPPINESS…and boy am I pursuing it!
NO APOLOGIES
What the hell is wrong with people? Give me a break!
Rough Sketch – Rand Paul supporter asks for apology from woman he stomped? An apology guide.
Doesn’t anyone understand how apologies are supposed to work?
First, Virginia Thomas calls Anita Hill to demand an apology for whatever it was that happened 20 years ago.
Now Tim Profitt, the Rand Paul supporter who subdued a woman by stepping on her is saying she should apologize to him.
I know our culture is full of confusing cues about apologizing. There’s that old saying that love means never having to say you’re sorry. This led to a lot of confusion in my past relationships. “If I say I love you, then apologize, which one didn’t I mean?”
Then there’s that Elton John song (this week’s theme!) about how sorry seems to be the hardest word.
In fact, apologies are simple. An apology, from the Greek apo + logia, which roughly translates to “I am fairly certain that wasn’t my fault, but I want to rehabilitate my public image,” is something that Person A says to Person B when Person A has wronged Person B in some way, or Person B has complained about Person A to someone else, for instance, the news media.
The following are a few scenarios in which apologies are called for.
- You inadvertently award the Nobel Peace prize to the wrong political dissident crusader for human rights, because of a Google Translator error.
- While out hunting with a friend, you shoot him with buckshot. You are vice president of the United States.
- You attempt (unsuccessfully) to assassinate someone, then find yourself sitting next to him at a dinner party.
For all other scenarios, I’ve prepared a handy chart. Next time, consult this before you demand or offer an apology!
WILL THE REAL CLAUDINE DOMBROWSKI PLEASE STAND UP!
There seems to be some confusion in Shawnee County Kansas and most recently Warren County Kentucky the owners/authors/journalists of blogs that have exposed the dirty little secret of the family court system. It would seem that these counties are hellbent on accusing and/or jailing Mothers of exposing their corruption, collusion and cronyism. Mothers that have navigated the gauntlet of family court and then subsequently having their children kidnapped these courts have accused them of ….GASP….talking about their case online! The HORROR!! How dare a American citizen question the authority of the court system and their judges, Court Whore….GALs, Court Whore…psychologists..etc…..you get the picture. These family court whores in Shawnee County have brought in so called experts that stated in court that various screen shots of posts on blogs, facebook etc. was placed their by Claudine Dombrowski. Now let me educate the cyber-stalking court whores like Don and Jason Hoffman, Jill M. Dykes who troll here regularly.
Let me make this clear….
YOU WILL NOT SHUT US ALL UP…..YOU CANNOT HARNESS THE WIND
We have a right as a US citizen to speak….FYI
The point of all of this is not just the blatant First Amendment Violations but the FACTS are that there is NO way that court whore Debenham can obviously conclude that Claudine Dombrowski posted anything subsequently from her hearing in January. In fact to me it sounds more and more like someone deep within the corrupted Shawnee County courthouse with access to certain records set her up.
Dumbass Debenham has NO evidence whatsoever except for a bunch of egotistical, insignificant humans trolls that google themselves and other various terms to find out if any information is posted. But here is the thick of it….ANYONE can say they are ANYONE online….its done on a daily basis. People imitate celebrities or other characters….or even Claudine Dombrowski. No you are going to pin ALL these posts on the internet by ONE woman? You really don’t have a clue nor do you want to have a clue how the INTERNET actually works. But the real point is the human rights violations of keeping a mother from her child and forcing her into silence and submission. Every last criminal that kept this mother and child separated know that you will answer to your demons when they drag you to hell for your actions, that is one thing you can be sure of.
So I ask now…will the REAL Claudine Dombrowksi please stand up…..she already has.
FAREWELL UNGRATEFUL TRAITOR
Dear Amazon,
Your customers have spoken…why haven’t you? We were faithful, we had our Christmas shopping all planned out…no standing in line…just sitting online….finding everything we wanted…we loved you! We didn’t do anything to deserve your silent treatment. All we wanted to know was why you were peddling and profiting from a pedophile guide ? Everyone said we were threatening to boycott….this is no threat. We know you couldn’t let go either. We tried to close our accounts but you kept us hanging on..waiting for some word…nothing.
We wanted to know if was true, we couldn’t believe it, we had to find out the hard way. You took the stance that it was censorship and that if we didn’t like it we could make our own purchasing decisions and we have. Your silence is deafening…and telling….so I guess this is goodbye…. thanks for good times…I can find better places to shop…you’re not the ONLY online shopping available.
Your Former Loyal Shoppers
Farewell ungrateful traitor,
Farewell my perjured swain,
Let never injured creature
Believe a man again.
The pleasure of possessing
Surpasses all expressing,
But ’tis too short a blessing,
And love too long a pain.
‘Tis easy to deceive us
In pity of your pain,
But when we love you leave us
To rail at you in vain.
Before we have descried it,
There is no bliss beside it,
But she that once has tried it
Will never love again.
The passion you pretended
Was only to obtain,
But when the charm is ended
The charmer you disdain.
Your love by ours we measure
Till we have lost our treasure,
But dying is a pleasure,
When living is a pain.
John Henry Dryden
HAWAII
FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE November 20, 2010
Wailuku, MAUI – At 8:00am on Monday, November 22, 2010, domestic violence survivor, Maria Styke-Marquez, will be walking into Judge Keith Tanaka’s Second Circuit courtroom where, according to documents filed by the perpetrator’s attorney, Mimi DeJardins, the judge will grant her abuser’s request to permanently relocate to Minnesota with the former couple’s 2 1/2 year-old daughter, removing her not only from the island of her birth, but from access to her mother.
Wailuku, MAUI – At 8:00am on Monday, November 22, 2010, domestic violence survivor, Maria Styke-Marquez, will be walking into Judge Keith Tanaka’s Second Circuit courtroom where, according to documents filed by the perpetrator’s attorney, Mimi DeJardins, the judge will grant her abuser’s request to permanently relocate to Minnesota with the former couple’s 2 1/2 year-old daughter, removing her not only from the island of her birth, but from access to her mother.
The child’s father, Bruce Anthony Sotelo Jr., was convicted and held in jail for beating a pregnant Ms. Styke-Marquez so severely in 2007 that the 4 month-old baby she was carrying died as a result of the attack that left Ms. Styke-Marquez with a concussion, broken ribs, cracked teeth, a split lip and contusions all over her body.
According to Hawaii State Statute 571-46(9) perpetrators of family violence are not candidates for either joint or sole custody of their children, yet in September 2010, Judge Tanaka inexplicably reversed his initial ruling that granted Ms. Styke-Marquez full physical/legal custody of their daughter and in contradiction of the statute, gave full physical/legal custody of the little girl to the man who put her mother in the hospital.
The case has caught the attention of several state lawmakers such as House Human Services Chair, Representative John Mizuno (Kalihi) and Domestic Violence Survivor Advocate, Dara Carlin, who said she is absolutely outraged by the situation. “Domestic violence victims flee their abusers in full faith that the system will protect them and their children from further abuse and trauma once they’ve fled and laws have been put firmly in-place to ensure this. That a family court judge can choose to disregard and override a state statute that protects those at-risk is simply unconscionable” Ms. Carlin states.
Research shows that 70% of batterers who request custody receive it, leading to 58,000 children per year who are forced to live with their identified abusers.[1] Batterers are over 6 times more likely to sexually abuse their children.[2]
[2] Bancroft, Lundy and Silverman, Jay, The Batterer as Parent, Sage Publications, 2002
Financially devastated from the litigation her abuser has put her through, Ms. Styke-Marquez, unable to afford an attorney, will walk into the courtroom alone to face her abuser (who as recently as November 19th has a criminal contempt charge lodged against him), his attorney (who is also a Per Diem judge) and a judge who has already ruled against her and state statute. “My last and only hope to save my daughter is to call public attention to what’s going on and I’m not the only one this is happening to – I know so many other domestic violence survivors who have lost custody of their children to their perpetrators as well which only tells me that this is no small problem. I’m a protective parent, not a perfect one, and never tried to keep our daughter from her father so I can’t understand how this is being allowed to happen” says Ms. Styke-Marquez.
Contact: Dara Carlin at breaking-the-silence@hotmail.com or on Oahu at 218-3457.
DUNG
WHATS BROWN AND SOUNDS LIKE A BELL?
I think the appropriate word for this dude is ninny….
UK based mail online MR. Justice Coleridge states that:
Mothers who refuse to let separated fathers see their children should have them taken away, a senior family court judge said yesterday.
The children should be handed over to the full time care of the father if the mother persistently defies court orders, Mr Justice Coleridge said.
He called for a ‘three strikes and you’re out rule’ by which children would be taken away if mothers ignored three court orders.
The judge said that family courts are losing their authority because so many people take no notice of their judgments.
Around 5,000 new cases a year come before the family courts in which parents – almost always mothers – defy orders to let the other parent have contact.
Judges are extremely reluctant to jail such mothers because of the damaging effects on the children, so many continue to get away with it.
Mr Justice Coleridge, 61, said: ‘If I were to call it three strikes and you’re out it sounds insensitive but something like it perhaps should be the norm.’
He added that occasionally it might be necessary to send a mother to jail.
First things first….how you could even take this Marie Antoinette cross dressing wannabe serious is beyond me! If the laws were applied the same for fathers abusers to be to held to the same standards in family court we would have no issue.
BUT….this is NOT the case in family court. Mothers and children are dying at the hands of their former abuser thanks to family court ordered visitation abuse. Maternal deprivation is NOT acceptable any longer.
So as the old Monty Pythons Flying Circus recurring joke goes….Whats brown and sounds like a bell?
The idiot above.
CRY BABY
Nobody Likes Me
First he pouted….
Whiney, Whiney Dr. Richard Warshak—HE alone responsible for Censorship of Comments on Huffington Post
WHY IS DR. RICHARD WARSHAK WHINING WHEN HE WAS RESPONSIBLE FOR CENSORING COMMENTS ON THE HUFFINGTON POST?
Poor Richard Warshak. He asked for commenters to come to his Huffington Post article and comment. A few of us did, and he refused to post the comments. He censored out everything that didn’t show adoration for him. That is what he wanted. Afterall, he has a book and “expert testimony” services to sell. Now he is whining about those who he censored…there are many that are upset about this.
Several comments were made about the American Bar Association, the American Judges Association, the National District Attorney’s Association and the National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges debunking the use of “parental alienation” in child custody cases because of it’s well known use by abusers to take custody of children. Of course, anyone who makes the kind of money that Warshak makes ($20,000 per patient per four days in “treatment”) doesn’t care who claimed what for what purpose, they just know they will make money. He doesn’t care that children may be in the custody of someone who beat the other parent, probably in front of the children, or may have even been sexually abusing the children. No, he doesn’t care, but the professional organizations know what the deal is. They know that victims of abuse have lost their children to abusers, and corrupt individuals that support the use of this legal tactic should be shut down:
2009: A Judicial Guide to Child Safety in Custody Cases
National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges Family Violence Department
Page 12:
C. [§3.3] A Word of Caution about Parental Alienation34Under relevant evidentiary standards, the court should not accept testimony regarding parental alienation syndrome, or “PAS.” The theory positing the existence of PAS has been discredited by the scientific community.35 In Kumho Tire v. Carmichael, 526 U.S. 137 (1999), the Supreme Court ruled that even expert testimony based in the “soft sciences” must meet the standard set in the Daubert case.36 Daubert, in which the court re-examined the standard it had earlier articulated in the Frye37 case, requires application of a multi-factor test, including peer review, publication, testability, rate of error, and general acceptance. PAS does not pass this test. Any testimony that a party to a custody case suffers from the syndrome or “parental alienation” should therefore be ruled inadmissible and stricken from the evaluation report under both the standard established in Daubert and the earlier Frye standard.38
The discredited “diagnosis” of PAS (or an allegation of “parental alienation”), quite apart from its scientific invalidity, inappropriately asks the court to assume that the child’s behaviors and attitudes toward the parent who claims to be “alienated” have no grounding in reality. It also diverts attention away from the behaviors of the abusive parent, who may have directly influenced the child’s responses by acting in violent, disrespectful, intimidating, humiliating, or discrediting ways toward the child or the other parent. The task for the court is to distinguish between situations in which the child is critical of one parent because they have been inappropriately manipulated by the other (taking care not to rely solely on subtle indications) , and situations in which the child has his or her own legitimate grounds for criticism or fear of a parent, which will likely be the case when that parent has perpetrated domestic violence. Those grounds do not become less legitimate because the abused parent shares them, and seeks to advocate for the child by voicing his or her concerns.
Then he got spanked….
Richard Warshak Responds To Critics – And The Countess Responds To Him
So look at this. After all the attention Richard Warshak’s critics have received – including dominating Google searches – he finally addresses them – and completely misses the boat. His comments are indented and in italics. My responses are in between.
Parental Alienation: Impracticality & Impressions. Dr. Richard Warshak Answers Critics
Answering Critics by Dr. Richard Warshak
The many parents I have helped, women and men, express astonishment that some people demonize me, attempt to tarnish my reputation, and spread misleading and false information about my work and me. Although my supporters far outweigh my detractors, the people seeking to quiet my voice yell loudly and work hard to circulate their misinformation.
Your critics and critics of parental alienation have been out there for a very long time. What the most recent critics have been saying is nothing new. However, this is the first time they’ve found a real voice on the internet, and we can’t have that, can we?
Until now I have allowed the personal attacks and gross misrepresentations to go without answer.
Good. So you’re finally going to address the facts that parental alienation is not going to be in the DSM-V, that it has never been peer reviewed, that it is not accepted as a valid disorder in the general scientific, medical, psychological, and legal communities, that it has become a huge cottage industry that makes lots of money for the people who make a living using it in divorce and child custody cases, that the man who coined it (original term “parental alienation syndrome”) made statements supportive of incest and pedophilia (and he’s your mentor), that parental alienation does not meet Frye and Daubert standards for admissibility in court, and that it is the most common weapon used in court by abusive fathers to get custody of their children away from the mothers they’ve been threatening and abusing.
By the way, you did answer. You and the Huffington Post deleted most comments, most very well-thought out, reasonable, and backed up by research, that criticized you and parental alienation in your “Stop Divorce Poison” HuffPost article.
I understand the mentality of a true believer and realize that clarification of reality and objective evidence will hit the brick wall of a closed mind. For various reasons, these people want to hold on to their beliefs. They cling to misguided ideas rather than acknowledge the widespread mistreatment of children described in Divorce Poison and my other works. In some respects, they resemble people from earlier generations who refused to acknowledge the evidence of their senses that children were being physically and sexually abused with alarming frequency. Just as the professionals who first pointed an accusing finger at a society that tolerated such abuse were attacked, I suppose it is my fate to be the target of similar attacks.
Interesting statement there, since your mentor Dr. Richard Gardner, who created Parental Alienation Syndrome, was one of those people who refused to acknowledge that children were being physically and sexually abused with alarming frequency. He believed most allegations moms and children made of sexual abuse were false. He also claimed that 90% of his PAS caseload was mothers. People who fought for children’s welfare in the face of abuse were ridiculed as being “child savers” who were delusional. Fanatics. On a witch hunt. Demonizers. True believers. The same terms you are using to demean professionals and lay people who speak out against parental alienation and work to help abused mothers and children. Ironically, that’s the same language used by the false-acc witchhunt sex abuser defense crowd.
More below the fold.
And I continue with my response to Richard Warshak’s weak response to his critics. Warshak’s statements are indented and in italics. Mine are in between.
Defending myself against such attacks feels a bit undignified. It seems an unnecessary waste of time, and gives currency to a few fanatics who attempt to alienate my audience from me using the same tactics that some parents use to alienate their children from the other parent. Some of these extremists have lost custody of their children in a ruling that seeks to protect the children from severe doses of divorce poison. Rather than recognize the rationale for the court’s decision, these people believe that the judge either was biased or was foolishly taken in by the other parent’s allegations.
Smooth move, there. You just bashed and minimized abused women who criticized you. And you call yourself a friend of abused women!
Some of these people would have you believe that there is an epidemic of judges who take joy in placing children with parents who beat or sexually molest them. In fact, one website claims a conspiracy of Masonic judges who, in every family court across North America (I am not exaggerating), automatically give custody to pedophiliac fathers who in turn pimp their children to pedophiliac members of the Illuminati (the group profiled in Dan Brown’s novel Angels & Demons). I am not kidding. . . . Nor are they.
Now that’s a sleight-of-hand move! When I first read this paragraph I wondered what the hell was he talking about. I had to read it a couple of times to make sure I was reading it correctly. I’d never heard of any such thing. So I did a Google search. You found one – one – article by a woman and you try to paint all your critics as crazy fanatics. That article is not on a custody site. There is only one person I know of who believes all that, and she wasn’t one of the people commenting on your HuffPost article. I know of only one other person who believes something similar to what you say, minus all the Masonic and Illuminati stuff. The domestic violence community at large doesn’t believe any of that. But don’t let those facts get in your way of painting all domestic violence critics of you and parental alienation with a broad brush.
As I say in the Afterword to the revised edition of my book, when my wife reads these vicious and absurd accounts, she shakes her head in disbelief at the raw animosity that greets the work I do on behalf of suffering families. She asks, “Don’t they know that you’ve devoted your career to the welfare of children?” The many women I have helped through my writing, consultations, and courtroom testimony cannot understand what motivates the detractors, who claim to be advocates for women.
It’s nice your wife supports you. That’s what wives are supposed to do. It’s also nice your have women who support you. However, your wife’s support and the support of some women isn’t what matters here. What experts have written about you and parental alienation does matter. See below:
The National Association Of Juvenile And Family Court Judges
A Judicial Guide To Safety In Child Custody Cases – see page 12.
National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges. (2006).
Navigating Custody & Visitation Evaluations in Cases with Domestic Violence: A Judge’s Guide (2nd edition)
[excerpt]
“The discredited “diagnosis” of “PAS” (or allegation of “parental alienation”), quite apart from its scientific invalidity, inappropriately asks the court to assume that the children’s behaviors and attitudes toward the parent who claims to be “alienated” have no grounding in reality. It also diverts attention away from the behaviors of the abusive parent, who may have directly influenced the children’s responses by acting in violent, disrespectful, intimidating, humiliating and/or discrediting ways toward the children themselves, or the children’s other parent. The task for the court is to distinguish between situations in which children are critical of one parent because they have been inappropriately manipulated by the other (taking care not to rely solely on subtle indications), and situations in which children have their own legitimate grounds for criticism or fear of a parent, which will likely be the case when that parent has perpetrated domestic violence. Those grounds do not become less legitimate because the abused parent shares them, and seeks to advocate for the children by voicing their concerns.” – page 24
American Psychological Association. (1996).
Report of the APA Presidential Task Force on Violence and the Family
Washington, D.C
[excerpt]
Noting that custody and visitation disputes appear to occur more frequently when there is a history of domestic violence. Family courts often do not consider the history of violence between the parents in making custody and visitation decisions. In this context, the nonviolent parent may be at a disadvantage, and behavior that would seem reasonable as a protection from abuse may be misinterpreted as a sign of instability. Psychological evaluators not trained in domestic violence may contribute to this process by ignoring or minimizing the violence and by giving inappropriate pathological labels to women’s responses to chronic victimization. Terms such as `parental alienation’ may be used to blame the women for the children’s reasonable fear or anger toward their violent father.” (p. 100).
The American Psychological Association
Statement On Parental Alienation Syndrome
“The American Psychological Association (APA) believes that all mental health practitioners as well as law enforcement officials and the courts must take any reports of domestic violence in divorce and child custody cases seriously. An APA 1996 Presidential Task Force on Violence and the Family noted the lack of data to support so-called “parental alienation syndrome”, and raised concern about the term’s use. However, we have no official position on the purported syndrome.”
Bruch, Carol S. Parental (2001).
Parental Alienation Syndrome and Parental Alienation: Getting It Wrong in Child Custody Cases.
Family Law Quarterly, 35, 527
Meier, Joan S. (January 2009).
Parental Alienation Syndrome & Parental Alienation: Research Reviews.
VAWnet: The National Online Resource Center on Violence Against Women.
Jennifer Hoult. (Spring 2006).
The Evidentiary Admissibility of Parental Alienation Syndrome: Science, Law, and Policy
Children’s Legal Rights Journal
Court-Appointed Parenting Evaluators And Guardians Ad Litem:
Practical Realities And An Argument For Abolition
Margaret K. Dore, Esq.
2006
Domestic Violence (DV) By Proxy: Why Terrorist Tactics Employed By Batterers Are Not “PAS”
Joyanna Silberg
The Leadership Council
2009
Divorce Poison
A Critique of Richard Warshak’s book “Divorce Poison”
Cheryl Melletus
National District Attorneys Association
Parental Alienation Syndrome: What Professionals Need To Know – Part 1 of 2
Parental Alienation Syndrome: What Professionals Need To Know – Part 2 of 2
Justice For Children
Parental Alienation “Syndrome”
“It is the position of Justice For Children that PAS is junk science.”
In 1998, Jon Conte [Professor of Law University of the Pacific McGeorge School] wrote that Gardner’s Sex Abuse Legitimacy Scale is “probably the most unscientific piece of garbage I’ve seen in the field in all my time. To base social policy on something as flimsy as this is exceedingly dangerous.” (Moss, 1988)
There are many more legitimate organizations that have come down over the years against Parental Alienation Syndrome and it’s watered-down cousin Parental Alienation (and Parental Alienation Disorder… how many times are you guys going to reinvent yourselves?). I’ve listed more than enough here to prove my point.
So why am I writing this article? It occurred to me that those who find value in my work might be confused by the drumbeat of misinformation. The downside of responding to critics is that it fuels their zeal and brings more attention to their smears. They live for the battle and are gratified when anyone takes them seriously. I would rather spend my time providing guidance on how to understand, prevent, and repair damaged parent-child relationships. But, for the sake of those who really want to know, here is some clarification.
So… when are you going to address parental alienation not being in the DSM-V, not being considered valid in the general scientific community, etc. … I’m waiting…
Are you really afraid your supporters will drop you like a hot potato because of the alleged “drumbeat of misinformation” and “smears”? Or are you really afraid that those who matter most – people in the legal, psychological, and medical communities – will read what has really been published lately about you and parental alienation, such as the statements above, and realize that parental alienation is junk science that is harmful for children and that it’s used as a weapon by abusive fathers? And therefore no longer recommend your Bridges program?
One smear that has been making the rounds involves a case where I helped a mother whose children were irrationally alienated. Some important details I cannot divulge because they are not a matter of public record and I wish to protect the family’s privacy. Were these details known, domestic violence activists who criticize my involvement in this case would surely regret their words. They would think twice about circulating the innuendos and arguments raised by the father’s lawyer in his attempt to defeat the mother.
Parental alienation isn’t going to be in the DSM-V. It doesn’t meet accepted standards for allowing expert testimony in court. It has no known error rate. Abusive fathers have successfully used parental alienation to wrest child custody away from the abused mothers trying to protect their children. … Still waiting for you to address all this. I have a feeling I’m going to wait a very long time…
And why focus so much attention on this case when your critics have focused so much more on what I list in my previous paragraph? Is it because this case came out in your favor? One case doesn’t prove your program works. It only proves you have one happy customer.
Several mental health professionals concluded that the children’s estrangement from their mother was unreasonable. Even the father’s own expert witness recommended that the one child under the age of 18 be removed from the father’s home (but, for reasons unclear, not placed with his mother).
That’s not what the critics have been talking about with that case. They mention the cost – $40,000. For four days. I’ve seen a report of another case where the program cost $20,000. For four days. Also, critics have pointed out that the program is unproven and untested. We have only your word that it works and you’re biased in your own favor, of course.
The case was heard before an arbitrator. The arbitrator found that “the mother was the intentional victim of irrational alienation by her sons, designed and orchestrated by the father.” The decision awarded sole custody to the mother and gave her the authority to make decisions on behalf of her son including, at her discretion, enrolling him in my educational workshop. The Arbitrator’s decision was appealed to the Family Court. The Court did not dispute the findings of irrational alienation. But the judge did rule that the Arbitrator should have ordered another evaluation. In the decision the judge pointed out that I gave no recommendations because, as I made clear to the Arbitrator, I had not conducted a custody evaluation. The judge set aside the Arbitrator’s award and allowed the case to go to a new trial.
You never interviewed the two boys in question before recommending your Bridges Family workshop – at $40,000 for four days. How can you recommend your program when you don’t even know if it’s appropriate for the family in question? You haven’t mentioned the cost here at all.
Here is where the smears begin. The purpose of my testimony was to educate the court about general issues and the state of knowledge regarding parent-child conflicts and children’s rejection of a parent, and to describe various interventions for families in which the court finds that the children’s rejection of a parent is unjustified, irrational, disproportionate to the child’s experience of the parent, and not in the children’s best interests. An expert witness who testifies in this capacity is obliged to explain the limitations of his work in the case. As is my duty, I clarified the purpose of my testimony and volunteered the information that I had not conducted an evaluation and was not there to make a specific recommendation for this family.
You still haven’t addressed my concerns from the top of this article. Parental alienation isn’t accepted by the scientific community at large. It’s vague and untested. It won’t be in the DSM-V. You have a product to sell and you go to court to do that. Now you’re on the Huffington Post Divorce section doing just that – with a dangerous and unproven disorder that has been used by abusive dads in court against the moms they abuse.
Rather than point out that I had testified in a professionally ethical and objective manner and properly apprised the court of the scope of my work in the case, including limitations, some bloggers imply that the Family Court Judge “discovered” the limitations and that I then had to “admit” that I had not seen the children. This is not what happened. I never testified before the Family Court Judge. The Judge simply noted what I had volunteered in my testimony in the Arbitration. My professional colleagues understand that what I did was precisely in accord with professional ethics.
Now it gets interesting, and this is the part critics conceal from their blogs. This was not the conclusion of the case. A new custody assessment was conducted. The assessment results strongly supported the mother’s position, recommended giving her the authority to enroll her son in Family Bridges, and concluded that the workshop was the best option for this family.
So you win after all. Another $40,000 goes into your pocket. All for an unproven program.
The case did go to trial. But, on the eve of the trial, the father’s lawyer, in what appeared to me to be a desperate last-ditch attempt to try his case in the media when it was clear that the evidence favored the mother, submitted an article to Canada’s Law Times that attacked my workshop as unscientific. Fortunately, the editor recognized distortions in the lawyer’s submission and asked me to submit commentary to set the record straight. My article was published. It effectively refutes the lawyer’s arguments. You do not learn about my article by reading the advocate’s blog posts. (See The Slanted Truth for the use of such tactics by alienating parents.) It is as if it did not exist. You can read my article by clicking here.
I read that article. We have only your word that your program (which is similar to the same used by the debunked and abusive Rachel Foundation) has been subjected to peer review and passes Daubert standards. Richard Gardner said the same about Parental Alienation Syndrome, too, when nothing could be further from the truth. Don’t forget that Gardner had his own deprogramming program he called “threat therapy”, which was very similar to the Rachel Foundation program and Bridges. One child who refused to go committed suicide. That case made the news and tarnished Gardner’s reputation even further. He also claimed PAS had been peer reviewed, enjoyed general acceptance in the scientific community, and passed acceptance standards. None of this was true.
And here are statements by other custody evaluators who didn’t think very highly of your “The Warshak Parenting Questionnaire 2nd Edition” or “WPQ”:
“…We custody evaluators are appointed to do our own work, at least in interviewing and evaluating… I would think that part of my job would be to generate my OWN follow-up questions… don’t know how any computerized questionnaire can do that… also a little troubled by the intent that evaluators “cut and paste”… interpretive language of any kind… into their reports… what “follow up” questions will pop up based on the parent’s responses?… how would the evaluator-user justify, on the witness stand, why they chose to ask alienation questions… if neither parent has raised that as an allegation? …” (California Ph.D., September 10, 2006).
“…the section on “Differential Treatment of Parents” (about two-thirds through the sample report (at w w w. wpqonline.com), under “Symptoms of Possible Mental Health Problems”) seems to invite alienation claims if parent was not thinking of such claims, and seems to suggest strongly how to support such a claim if parent is thinking of it. It seems to me to be way too suggestive/leading. In effect: Now, parent, would you like to consider making a claim of PAS? If so, have you considered claiming that your child does X? How about claiming that your child does Y? And don’t forget Z, have you considered that as possibly supporting a PAS claim? (This is assuming that the questions posed to the parent closely parallel the topics covered in this section of the report, and I suppose I could be wrong in making that assumption.)” (Ohio Ph.D., February 22, 2007).
What you also never learn from reading the blogger’s accounts of this case is the ultimate outcome. Notwithstanding the father’s lawyer’s maneuvers, again, the mother prevailed on all counts. After hearing all the evidence, the judge concluded that “Mother should have sole legal and residential custody of [the child]. Mother shall have complete authority to make decisions regarding [the child's] welfare. She is not required to consult with anyone before doing so; Mother is specifically authorized to obtain any treatment and/or intervention for [the child] as she, in her sole discretion, deems necessary and appropriate for [the child's] best interests; Mother’s authority described above includes, but is not limited to `Family Bridges: A Workshop for Troubled and Alienated Parent-Child Relationships,’ to enable and assist [the child] in adjusting to living with her.”
The program remains unproven. You claim a high success rate. And it’s very expensive. Parents of lesser means who are having problems with alleged “alienation” are not able to afford you.
By selectively citing the earlier Family Court decision, and concealing the trial outcome, the bloggers leave the impression that the court was critical of Family Bridges and blocked the family from participating in the workshop. In the end, the truth is the exact opposite. (Selective attention is another tactic of alienating parents that critics adopt to try to alienate audiences from my work.)
Still waiting… parental alienation is not in the DSM… doesn’t meet scientific standards for admission into a courtroom … unknown error rate … untested … you aren’t going to address those criticisms, are you? You’re only going to claim your detractors are as alienated as your clients.
Here is what the judge wrote in her opinion: “This leaves the Workshop, coupled with a change in custody, as the only potential remedy with any chance of success in this difficult case. . . . The court is faced with compelling evidence that a change in custody, coupled with the Workshop is best for [the child]. . . . The Workshop is a last resort. Obviously it would have been better had these problems been identified and corrected early on. . . . Unfortunately, they were not. This leaves the Workshop as [the child's] best last hope.” [Emphasis added.]
That’s not exactly a ringing endorsement. Your program is the “last best hope”? The “only potential remedy”? Were other remedies even looked at?
I fully expect detractors to post other information attempting to cast doubt on the wisdom of the judge’s decision in this case (which was essentially identical to the arbitrator’s decision; that is, two different triers of fact, after hearing all the evidence, concluded that the mother should have custody and have the right to enroll her child in Family Bridges). I do not intend to respond to such posts.
The issue isn’t whether or not the mother should have custody. It’s that your program is a huge money-maker for you, it’s unproven, and it’s never been tested. All those questions of mine and others that you never answered have gone unanswered. Parental alienation is not regarded as a valid disorder in the general scientific community. It doesn’t meet Frye and Daubert standards. It has an unknown rate of error. It’s never been peer reviewed. It’s never been tested. It’s defined in layman’s terms you gleaned from the dictionary.
As rebuttal to any future innuendoes and misrepresentations, I can state the following. The mother has authorized me to state that she is very pleased with the ultimate outcome of her case. Her formerly alienated son, estranged for six years, participated in, and greatly benefitted from, the four day Family Bridges workshop. He rapidly restored his loving relationship with his mother and they now live happily together.
One case doesn’t make parental alienation valid, and we have only your word that your program works. It’s never been tested and its error rate is unknown. It’s very expensive. What about parents who can’t afford your services?
There are other cases involving reunification programs and parental alienation:
Son’s birthday pact with parents leads to ceasefire in bitter eight-year dispute
Quotes:
Yesterday, in a revealing conversation, P.F. criticized therapists and child welfare authorities in the case for clutching to pet theories about parental alienation syndrome. Under the controversial PAS diagnosis, children who are seen to have been systematically poisoned toward one parent by the other cannot evaluate their emotions accurately.
“I think they have done a lot more harm than good for our family,” P.F. said. “I think they were tilting the whole case in a direction that was more favourable to them, which was a more costly and stressful and damaging alternative for us. We don’t need all these people getting into our lives and directing the way things go.”
He also criticized the justice system for too easily sidelining children who are caught up in their parents’ warfare.
“Where people are making decisions, the kids should at least be heard and their opinions thoroughly considered; not interpreted or cast aside, as they were here,” he said. “When it is possible to simply walk up and say, ‘This kid is parentally alienated,’ that instantly takes away all their credibility. Our family made their minds up for themselves. In a way, we emancipated ourselves from these professionals that have been breathing down our necks the whole time.”
IN RE BIANCA H., On Appeal from the 254th Judicial District Court, Dallas County, Texas
Richard Warshak testified he is a clinical research psychologist. Alfano hired Warshak to evaluate Alfano’s case. Warshak has never met with Bianca, but has evaluated reports from other professionals and viewed a videotape of Bianca with Alfano. According to Warshak, Alfano is Bianca’s “psychological father,” and ceasing contact with him could be devastating to Bianca. Warshak admitted that the law does not recognize the concept of a “psychological parent.” He further acknowledged that another psychologist said Bianca’s attachment to Alfano was more like an attachment to an uncle or a grandfather.
Warshak testified that when conflict between “parents” causes a child distress, a court should order counseling and sanction the parent that instigated the conflict. Warshak believed any harm Bianca suffered because of the conflict would be less than the harm she would suffer if she lost Alfano. Indeed, Warshak testified the best way to remedy the conflict would be to increase Alfano’s access to the child.
After the testimony, the trial court stated that Alfano had been put in the position of an uncle since the child was twenty months old. The trial court noted that it had attempted to resolve the situation for four years with no progress. The trial court considered limited visitation, but determined that it would only put off the inevitable. Accordingly, the trial court terminated Alfano’s visitation rights.
In its findings of fact, the trial court found that (1) Alfano is not legally or biologically related to the child, (2) a great deal of conflict exists between Mother and Alfano, (3) the conflict was unlikely to abate in the future, (4) the conflict was injurious to the child’s best interest, (5) the circumstances of the child have materially and substantially changed since the date of the order sought to be modified, (6) the order has become unworkable and inappropriate under existing circumstances, and (7) modification would produce a positive improvement for and be in the best interest of the child. The trial court modified its prior order eliminating Alfano’s right to possession of and access to the child. This appeal followed.
Appellant raises six points of error. In the first five points of error, appellant asserts the trial court abused its discretion in modifying its prior order because the evidence is factually insufficient to support the trial court’s findings. In the sixth point of error, appellant asserts the trial court incorrectly applied the law in determining modification would be in the child’s best interest.
You never address the primary criticisms made by your critics. Parental alienation is an untested theory that has never been up for peer review. It’s not accepted by the legal, medical, scientific, and psychological community at large as valid. Parental alienation has been used by abusive fathers and their hired lawyers, evaluators, and psychs to wrest child custody away from mothers. Rather than point fingers at the Illuminati and one case supporting your Bridges program, and demonize your critics, you need to address your critic’s primary criticisms … which you haven’t done. And I’m not surprised.
TO THE WORLD
Mildred D. Muhammad Special Guest on American Mothers Political Party Show 12/9/2010 5:00 PM CST
In domestic law on December 7, 2010 at 2:58 pm
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/americanmotherspoliticalparty/2010/12/09/still-standing
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Thursday — 12/9/2010 5:00 PM CST, 6 PM EST
Special Guest! Mildred D. Muhammad, Mother, Domestic Violence Advocate, Consultant, Author, International/National Spokesperson on Domestic Violence. Keynote Speaker at Conferences. domestic violence survivor with a story to tell the world.
Many know her first and foremost by her former husband, John Allen Muhammad – the convicted and now executed DC sniper who terrorized the Washington DC metro region in late 2002.
However, many are not aware that the reasons for the horrific attacks on innocent women, children and men in the DC Metro area, originated from John Allen Muhammad’s stalking and the control tactics he used on Mildred, his former wife, whom he sought to find and kill before, during and after the divorce.
After several years of silence, Mildred speaks openly about her day-to-day experiences as a survivor of domestic violence and how it affected her three children.
Mildred with Shannon Wilson from Mothers of Lost Children on Mothers Day 2010. Mothers from all over gathered in front of the Whitehouse to bring awarness to abusers getting custody of children.
2010 in review
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PHOENIX December 2009
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BLOGGERS AGAINST DEPRIVATION ALIENATION SYNDROMES and junk SCIENCE HAS AX TO GRIND WITH BAD AXE MI CHIEF JUDGE M. RICHARD KNOBLOCK
31.1.11
American Mothers Political Party stands Behind Kim Damrow– (MI) Judge M. Richard Knoblock being investigated for jailing mom without ‘cause’ now, AMPP believes JUDGE ‘faked’ his own death threat to FBI. AMPP is calling him out this Thursday on BTR
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American Mothers Political Party stands Behind Kim Damrow of Michigan
American Mothers Political Party BTR Show: This Thursday February 2, 2011 at 5 PM CST- 6 PM EST Call-in Number: (347) 205-9977
American Mothers Political Party will have special guest Kim Damrow the mother recently sentenced to 12 hours in jail for custodial interference in Michigan. She is also the current wife of a state representative 84th District State Rep. Kurt E. Damrow for Michigan . Apparently now M. Richard Knoblock allowed her now to wait until Monday to serve the time as her child was hospitalized (so nice of him!)
- Chief Judge M. Richard Knoblock Forum for 52nd Circuit Court …
- Huron County Michigan: Contact Us
- More from Google here
The FBI received a complaint that “someone” (AMPP believes the Judge himself) that went to courthouse for the protest on Thurs or Friday in her support —-that the judge’s life was threatened. So now all her supporters are jumping ship…scared that the feds are coming in.
Anyone will to help out with blogging story and/or promoting Thurs show is much appreciated.
“I think that the feds should investigate and I also think that the judge reported it himself. fishy…”
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- She files complaint:
- Judge then says he was threatened- after a large protest at courthouse and the complaint filed.(what a crock)
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See articles below:
Breaking news: Attorney reports violation of code of conduct
Published: Saturday, January 29, 2011 2:41 PM EST
BAD AXE – On Saturday, the attorney for Kim Damrow told the Tribune there has been information released that violates the code of conduct of professional responsibility imposed upon all judicial officials, attorneys and courthouse personnel.
“It’s not the press that violated the code,” said Nicole Saady, of Grosse Pointe.
Of the information that has been released, Saady said, she has not verified all of it.
At this time, in the interest of protecting the safety, privacy and personal feelings of the Damrow family, all press inquiries are to go through Saady, she said.
Look to the Huron Daily Tribune as more details become available.
Editor’s note: Due to the high number of libelous comments posted under related articles, comments have been disabled on this article.
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Hanson: Threat made against judge
By Kate Hessling
Tribune Staff Writer
Published: Saturday, January 29, 2011 2:40 PM EST
BAD AXE — Police are investigating an alleged threat made earlier this week against Huron County Circuit Court Judge M. Richard Knoblock.
“We’ve received information of a threat against the judge and we’re looking into it, along with contacting the FBI,” Huron County Sheriff Kelly J. Hanson told the Tribune after being asked about the situation Friday.
Hanson stressed the investigation still is in the early stages.
“We don’t know how far along we’ll go with it, and I can’t comment about it other than it involves the formation of this rally,” Hanson said, referring to a rally supporters held for Kim Damrow.
Damrow was sentenced Monday to 12 hours in jail for violating a court order allowing the father of her 4-year-old son visitation. She said she did so in an effort to protect her son, as she said her ex-husband has a violent past and she does not believe he has reformed.
Damrow’s sentencing on Monday was followed by a number of events, specifically a large swelling of support organized on Facebook.
State Rep. Kurt E. Damrow, Kim Damrow’s husband, said he was appalled when learning of the threat.
“I’m appalled at a public figure being threatened — just as appalled as I am at a child being threatened,” he said.
Kurt Damrow said there should be no type of physical threats.
“This is a matter of compassion and love for children,” he said. “It just goes against everything that we’re presenting. … Any threat of violence of any type like this has no business on either side — either for or against.”
Hanson said given the recent shootings in Arizona, the threat has to be taken seriously.
“We don’t have any choice but to look at it,” he said. “ … We’re going to take it serious and look into it.”
Editor’s note: Due to the high number of libelous comments posted, comments have been disabled on this article.
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Damrow released early
Allowed to be with sick son, but has to report back to jail next week
BAD AXE — Within hours after being booked in the Huron County Jail to serve a 12-hour sentence for contempt of court for not allowing the father of her youngest son visitation, Kim Damrow walked out of the courthouse a free woman —for the time being.
While picketers outside the Huron County Building were glad to see her free, the freedom didn’t come as a result of the court changing its mind: It was because her 4-year-old son was in the hospital.
Damrow, who is married to 84th District State Rep. Kurt E. Damrow, said her son, Boden, was running a very high temperature and Kurt Damrow took him to the hospital about 4 – 4:30 a.m. Friday. Kim Damrow said she could not go to the hospital because she had to be in Bad Axe to check in at the jail at 7 a.m. that morning.
The Damrows said Boden had a 103 degree temperature, was diagnosed with having influenza A, and the child was being held at Scheurer Hospital for observation.
Following a conference with attorneys involved in the case, Huron County Circuit Court Judge M. Richard Knoblock ordered Kim Damrow could leave the jail Saturday to be with her son, though she would have to return to the jail at 9 a.m. Saturday, Feb. 5 to complete the remainder of her sentence.
Kim Damrow was sentenced to spend 12 hours in jail and pay $1,000 in fines/costs during a contempt hearing Monday. The hearing was one of many that have been held in a custody battle for 4-year-old Boden Noworyta, the son of Kim Damrow and Dustin J. Noworyta.
The parents
Noworyta married Kimberly S. (Dufty) Langley Sept. 23, 2005 by a Justice of Peace in Monroe County, according to the complaint of divorce.
Kimberly S. Noworyta filed the complaint for divorce in the family division of the Huron County Circuit Court May 22, 2008. The couple had lived together as husband and wife until on or about May 19, 2008, records state.
Kimberly and Dustin Noworyta had one child during their marriage, Boden J. Noworyta. Kimberly Noworyta had a second son from a previous marriage, and Dustin Noworyta had two daughters from two different relationships.
Since the divorce, Dustin Noworyta has reconciled with the mother of one of the two prior relationships, and he currently lives with her and her daughter. The other mother has full custody of Noworyta’s other daughter.
Following the divorce, Kimberly Noworyta’s prior name, Kimberly S. Dufty, was restored. The divorce order awarded Dufty full custody of Boden, and Dustin Noworyta was allowed supervised parenting time with the child, and that time was to be arranged by Dufty, the plaintiff. Noworyta, the defendant, also was ordered to pay $241 a month in child support.
Dufty lived in the Upper Thumb area with her two sons since the judgment of divorce was order and filed Jan. 1, 2009.
Court records indicate Noworyta had three visits with Boden prior to May 2010, and there was a 15-month period when there were no father-son visits.
May 2010
On May 5, 2010, Noworyta filed a motion in Huron County Circuit Court, alleging Dufty denied him parenting time and it is in the best interest of the child to establish parenting time.
“During the past year, every attempt to spend time with my son has been met with last minute cancellations, refusing to show and not providing an address for me to visit my son,” he states in that motion regarding parenting time. “The last time I have been allowed to see my son was over one year ago.”
Noworyta stated he had been refused phone calls with his son.
“I am trying to stay connected with my son to the best of my abilities being over three hours away, and would at least love to hear his voice between visits,” his motion states.
In her response to Noworyta’s motion, Damrow disputes the claims in his motion, stating she has not disobeyed the parenting order. It also outlined the circumstances of the three visits that took place since the divorce and her willingness to allow Noworyta to see Boden, so long as it’s in a safe place.
“I explained to him that if he wants to see Boden, he would have to come to Huron County and give me ample time to find a safe place to meet,” she said in her response, filed May 13, 2010. “I would not feel comfortable, nor would I feel safe, taking my son out of the county to an area that I am not knowledgeable of and meeting him with my son.”
She asked the court to not issue or establish parenting time because it would not be in the best interest of her son.
“I greatly fear that there is a likelihood of abuse during even supervised visitation, both mentally and physically,” Dufty stated.
Dufty said she tried to discuss adoption with Dustin because he begged one of the mothers of his other daughter’s to put that child up for adoption in the past, and had gone as long as four years without seeing that child, even though the daughter lived just 5 miles away from him.
Secondly, she said Kurt Damrow is the only father figure that Boden has known.
“At some point, I admit, it is my hope that Kurt will be allowed to adopt Boden, as he is a loving and constant man in Boden’s life,” Dufty stated.
Kimberly S. Dufty and Kurt Damrow were married May 22, 2010. Her legal name then changed to Kimberly (Kim) S. Damrow.
June/July 2010
On June 18, 2010, Noworyta filed a motion regarding parenting time and other relief, asking the court to require Kim Damrow to comply with the parenting time provisions in the judgment of divorce and to provide make-up time for her denial of parenting time.
On July 1, Knoblock ruled Noworyta could have supervised parenting for four hours on a select number of Sundays, through and including Aug. 22, 2010. The order stated the parties were to meet at the McDonald’s restaurant in Frankenmuth, and Noworyta then would have parenting time with Boden in the Frankenmuth area. Each party was allowed to bring an observer with them.
The order also required both parents, along with Boden, had to have psychologicals done by a psychologist as agreed to between the parties, at the expense of the plaintiff, Kim Damrow (because she asked the court to order the evaluations).
August 2010
On Aug. 17, 2010, Noworyta filed a motion for contempt and expanded parenting time, alleging Kim Damrow denied him parenting time July 25, 2010. The motion also states Kim Damrow was refusing to tell Boden Noworyta is his father; threatened to cut short or deny visits if Noworyta were to tell Boden he is his son.”
The motion states Kim Damrow repeatedly frustrated Noworyta’s efforts to call Boden, and Noworyta rarely had a normal conversation with Boden without interruption from Kim Damrow.
“ … It appears (Kim Damrow) is uncontrollable by anyone and will do what she pleases, even if it is in direct violation of the court’s order; (and) that she continues to obstruct any attempt of (Noworyta) to establish a personal relationship with his soon, going even so far as objecting to Boden being told (Noworyta) is his father.”
Noworyta’s motion states unless Kim Damrow’s held in contempt by the court for failing to abide by a stipulated court order, it will continue to be a struggle for Noworyta to have a normal relationship with his son.
The motion also states while appointments for the psychologicals had been scheduled to the satisfaction of both parties, Kim Damrow canceled them without notice to Noworyta or her attorney.
In her Aug. 19, 2010 response to the motion, Kim Damrow explained she had a change in attorneys since the previous hearing, and she was in contact with the individual who was to do the evaluation, and she asked the judge to postpone her evaluation. Also, her response states, the clinic was the one to cancel Noworyta’s appointment because they were unable to reach him by telephone.
As for the claims she denied him parenting time, Kim Damrow explained she was very ill on July 25, 2010 and tried numerous times to reach Noworyta, however, he did not have a phone so she could called the numerous phone numbers he makes calls from. She said she also sent e-mails to his partner and sister-in-law hours before he had to leave Dundee to go to Frankenmuth that day.
“I did tell Dustin that we should bring him back into Boden’s life slowly and that as sensitive as Boden is, let’s try to feel him out the best we can before we explain who (Noworyta) is,” she stated in her response. Her response claims when Noworyta first brought up the subject with Boden, Noworyta grabbed Boden and sat him on his lap very hard, shouting “Do you know who I am? I am your father.” And he broke out in tears, she said.
Regarding the difficulty of having phone conversations, Kim Damrow’s statement notes Boden rarely talks on the phone to anyone because he was 3 years old.
First contempt hearing
During the contempt hearing on Aug. 30, 2010, the accounts of the previous visitations and Noworyta’s mental stability were as different as black and white.
Noworyta’s Bad Axe attorney, Duane Cubitt, said the visitations went fine, and Boden and Noworyta got along fine, according to transcripts from the hearing.
“My time with Boden went great,” Noworyta said. “Kim spent a lot of time in the background trying to make it miserable, but that was about it …”
Cubitt painted Kim Damrow as being uncooperative, and said his client believes Kim Damrow intentionally did not show up for the July 25 parenting time.
He said she was being difficult as to the visitation’s venue, not allowing Noworyta to take Boden outside of the McDonald’s restaurant to go to a museum or park.
During her testimony, Kim Damrow said Boden was a different child before she divorced Noworyta.
“When Dustin was with us … all my family, they thought something was wrong with us. He was 21 months (old), he quit smiling, he was sullen, he was sad … you could tell he was fearful,” she said in the hearing transcripts. “It took a long time to bring him back to where he is today.”
That’s why Kim Damrow said she asked the court that if he wants visitation, it’s his obligation to prove his circumstances have changed. She testified he should be responsible for paying for his own evaluation, then following the psychologist’s orders and get treatment and take parenting classes
During cross examination, Kim Damrow told the court she was going to wait to tell Boden that Noworyta is his father.
“We were going to counseling as soon as possible to deal with it …,” she said. “I don’t want to mess him up any more than he’s been messed up. I don’t know the answers completely, I’m not claiming to be the best mother, I do my best.”
When asked if she doesn’t think Boden’s entitled to know who his dad is, Kim Damrow said yes — if Noworyta sticks around and gets mentally healthy.
Cubitt argued Noworyta is not unstable and he’s very capable of parenting children.
“So I don’t know where Kim comes up with this idea that somehow or other he’s a violent person and that her child is somehow endangered if he is around Boden without her being present,” Cubitt said.
With regard to her testimony about the child negatively reacting to the previous visitations, Cubitt said, “I mean, what 3-year-old wouldn’t be based on what the mother is putting this kid through. She won’t even acknowledge that Dustin, my client, is the child’s father. And that kind of gives you an insight into what kind of person she really is.”
But Kim Damrow’s stance has been that the safety of her child comes first, and she is doing what she can to protect — not harm — him.
Knoblock ordered the visitations take place for six hours in Huron County on alternate weekends, and the parties meet at the McDonald’s restaurant in Bad Axe. The judge ordered Noworyta’s mother or grandmother be present during all parenting times. He also ordered the psychological evaluations be scheduled and done.
He did not hold Kim Damrow in contempt.
“But if there’s further problems, I won’t hesitate to do that,” Knoblock warned. “But I’m not going to at this time.
November 2010
On Nov. 12, 2010, Kim Damrow entered an emergency motion asking the court to modify it’s Aug. 30, 2010 decision. Among the reasons, was an Oct. 31, 2010 incident where she says Noworyta acted in a violent manner. Also, she said it is not in the best interest of the child to participate in overnight visitation with Noworyta until his psychological records are produced by Huron Behavioral Health for evaluation and the psychological evaluations of are performed.
In Noworyta’s response, which Cubitt filed Nov. 19, 2010, Noworyta denies it is not in the child’s best interest to delay overnight visitation; claims Kim Damrow has had several months to complete the psychologicals; the parenting time has gone well; and the father and son enjoy each other’s company.
“Boden is a normal child when with (Noworyta),” the response reads. “He laughs, plays and is very interactive; Boden is full of life.”
Also on Nov. 19, 2010, Cubitt filed a motion for clarification, asking the court to, among other things, to expand the amount of parenting time to include all time provided for in the Huron County Friend of the Court parenting time guidelines, including extended summer parenting time.
In her answer to that motion, Kim Damrow asked the court deny the request.
December 2010
On Dec. 3, 2010, Knoblock ordered the psychological testing of all the parties be done in Bad Axe, as requested by Kim Damrow, and that there had to be make-up time scheduled because Kim Damrow failed to deliver Boden to the parenting time exchange location in Frankenmuth on Nov. 26.
On Dec. 4, 2010, Noworyta filed a motion asking the court to hold Kim Damrow in contempt because, among other complaints, she did not allow him visitation on Dec. 10, 2010.
Second contempt hearing
During a Dec. 16, 2010 public hearing, the court heard arguments and reviewed a doctor’s note stating Boden had been sick. The note didn’t specifically state he was too sick for visitation, and Kim Damrow was told future doctor notes would have to include that in order to suffice in court.
Knoblock did order to hold Kim Damrow in contempt of court for failing to providing parenting time the court previously ordered. However, he held the punishment in abeyance, pending her further compliance with the court’s parenting time orders.
The court also ordered arrangements be made for psychologicals and set Christmas parenting times.
The assessments
Tammy L. McPherson, licensed professional counselor of Bad Axe, conducted the psychological assessments on Kim Damrow and Noworyta pursuant to the Dec. 16, 2010 order.
According to the assessment, Kim Damrow reported no medical or mental health history.
“She is not prescribed any medications, however, does report high levels of stress, no appetite, difficulty sleeping and chest pains. She believes these symptoms are due to her fear about her son Boden’s safety while in care of (Noworyta),” McPherson’s letter states. “(Kim Damrow) believes her marriage to (Noworyta) to be one of physical and emotional abuse.”
McPherson reported that after further discussion regarding Kim Damrow’s fears, it is apparent (Kim Damrow) is concerned Boden could be emotionally abused by his father.
McPherson’s letter states Noworyta has no medical or legal history.
“He reports receiving mental health services for a short period of time in 2008, through Huron Behavioral Health,” she said, noting he signed a release to give her his records, and also released records from the Department of Human Services in order for the therapist to confirm he does not have an open case with any DHS agency, and no open case in any county was confirmed.
“After reviewing his records from HBH, it is apparent (Noworyta) was struggling with depression and utilizing alcohol as a coping mechanism,” McPherson’s letter reads. “He reports to not continuing the prescribed medication for depression, as he felt it wasn’t needed after he moved back to his hometown and was divorced. He reports being sober for the last three years. He denies any mood swings or depression currently.”
In her recommendations, McPherson said both parties would benefit from counseling (together) to resolve the conflicts that are preventing them from working as a parental team. She said it would be helpful for both parties to learn healthy communication skills and conflict resolution techniques.
January 2011
The defense filed a motion Jan. 18 asking the court to hold Kim Damrow in contempt for failing to allow parenting time previously ordered by the court for Jan. 14.
The motion states Boden enjoyed his Christmas parenting time with his father and step siblings, but did go home a half day early because Boden indicated he missed his mother and wanted to be returned to her. When it was time for the next visitation on Jan. 14, Kim Damrow failed to deliver Boden, the motion states.
Kim Damrow told the Tribune when she picked Boden up from the last visitation Noworyta was acting very suspicious, repeatedly stating she couldn’t call the cops. When she met him to pick up Boden, she said the child was screaming and crying, clinging to her and he would not look at Noworyta. She said Noworyta “just kept apologizing.”
She said she was concerned and took Boden to his pediatrician, Dr. Kala Reddy, to get a physical Jan. 3. According to a report submitted to the court from that doctor’s visit, it was stated that Boden was complaining of neck pain, had not eaten very well and had a temperature of 101. It also was noted Boden was fearful in the car, refusing to go to even a friend’s/relative’s house.
Reddy recommended the mother continue counseling, and she reassured Kim Damrow that she did not see any evidence of trauma to Boden’s neck.
Kim Damrow was able to take Boden back to the pediatrician Jan. 6. The reason for the visit was because the child had not been sleeping, and was in pain in his mouth because he was chewing the insides of his cheeks.
In her observation, Reddy reported Boden “is rather too quiet for his age and looks worried and pretty anxious. … He does not appear to be acutely physically ill, though.”
After a detailed physical, Reddy diagnosed the child’s condition as acute separation anxiety. In a Jan. 14 letter, she states she does not recommend he be removed from his mother at this time without the advice of a psychiatrist or child psychologist.
Both the defense and the court were unaware of the doctor’s note.
In the defense’s Jan. 18 motion, Noworyta asks the court to hold Kim Damrow in contempt and punish her accordingly, and require the plaintiff reimburse Noworyta for attorney fees and other costs.
Third contempt hearing
During a four and a half hour contempt hearing Monday, of which the complete transcripts are not yet available, Reddy testified about her dealings with Boden and her letter and written observations were admitted into evidence.
Despite the explanations given, Knoblock held Kim Damrow in contempt, noting “it’s clear to me from all the hearings I’ve had, the testimony that I’ve heard, and including hers and that of other people presented during these hearings, that she does not want (this) father (to) be in the life of the child, she wants to cut him out, that’s what she wants to do,” according to partial transcripts that were available Friday.
Knoblock said he believes Kim Damrow’s actions border on child abuse.
However, in regard to Reddy’s testimony, he said an evaluation needs to be done. He ordered an appointment be made, and that order was fulfilled later that afternoon.
Until the evaluation is complete, the judge ordered the defense hold off on the two phone calls the court awarded him for each week, and ordered future visitation be supervised.
Emergency hearing
Kim Damrow’s attorney argued submitted an emergency motion for stay and appeal Thursday, noting the plaintiff did not have enough time to prepare for a criminal contempt charge, it was believed the charge was civil. The attorney, Nicole Saady, of Grosse Pointe, noted she was hired to represent Damrow on Saturday.
Thus, the court was denying Kim Damrow’s due process rights by not giving her enough time to represent herself.
She also argued that Kim Damrow should be able to purge herself, i.e. correct the offense by providing make-up parenting time.
Knoblock disagreed, stating the motion specifically asked she be punished, which adequately put her on notice that she was being charged with criminal contempt for willfully disobeying a court order.
While he sentenced her to 12 hours in jail, Knoblock said the law provides that for a criminal contempt charge, the defendant could be sentenced up to 93 days in jail and fined up to $7,500.
Both sides respond
Cubitt said in no way is his client a threat to his son. He explained Noworyta left his job to move to Huron County and had problems finding employment, which lead to depression. Matters worsened as the divorce was not amicable, and it wasn’t until Noworyta moved out of the area that he was able to get back on his feet financially and turn his life around. Once he had, he filed a motion for parenting time to spend time with his child, Cubitt said.
But Kim Damrow said he hasn’t changed, and if anything, he’s gotten worse. She voiced frustrations that she is trying to protect her child, but the system is not allowing her to do so.
“I can’t protect my child, and it is the most horrifying feeling for a mother,” Kim Damrow told the Tribune.
On Friday, Kim Damrow vehemently disagreed that she is the cause of Boden’s anguish.
“Some have questioned whether Kurt and I are the ones causing the mental anguish. What a gross injustice of the system to accuse the mother, when the mother has no mental health issues,” Kim Damrow told the Tribune. “But the father’s records from Huron Behavioral Health clearly show that he had depression, that he abused alcohol and he was abusive. Why would she not be concerned for child?” Especially when Dr. Kayla Reddy, Boden’s pediatrician and the only professional to have ever seen Boden throughout this entire thing, Dr. Reddy says after a visit with his father, there was a drastic change in his behavior which she witnessed. And Dr. Reddy had cause to be alarm, and Dr. Reddy asked the court to not remove him from his mother at this time, and that by further removing him from his mother could cause permanent damage — that’s huge.”
Editor’s note: Due to the high number of libelous comments posted, comments have been disabled on this article.
UN MOTHERS
Written by Melanie Smith, UN Mothers
Tuesday, 08 February 2011 08:42
Please go to link below or click the image to sign in and SAY NO-UNiTE to End Violence Against MOTHERS AND THEIR CHILDREN.
American Mothers Political Party, and Australian Mothers Political Party have Partnered with UN MOTHERS and SAY NO – UNiTE to
END VIOLENCE AGAINST MOTHERS AND THEIR CHILDREN CAMPAIGN
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As many are aware, there is a silent genocide occurring against women. This is part of a major reason why women all over the world are united to end violence against women. What many do not know or connect is that a lot of women experiencing violence perpetrated against them are also mothers. Many ads on stopping violence against women portray women without children as a means to get the message across clearly; but they fail to represent the large proportion of mothers in this situation.
Experts in intimate partner violence have noted that there is a high correlation between abuse and pregnancy. Some scholars state that this is because they are envious of the relationship between the mother and the child. Using violence, coercion and control is often part of the effort to destroy these bonds. The problem then exacerbates when a mother tries to leave–often not to save herself but to save the child. Leaving is one of the most dangerous times for all women enduring intimate partner violence, and, accompanied with an inadequate system, the odds are stacked against her. With a community plagued by stereotypes on child custody cases, closed courtrooms and loopholes in laws compounded by pop-psychology, we have a situation where most mothers in this predicament are torn away from the children they tried to protect. In the 1980s, Dr Richard Gardner coined the term, “Parent Alienation Syndrome”.
This term remained a term only, because most of the scientific community rejected it. His literature promoted ideas that victims of abuse were mentally ill and deliberately raised concerns about the abuse as an act of hate. Dr Richard Gardner also testified in a homicide case where a mother was shot 13 times. Gardner claimed that her “alienating behavior” drove him to kill her. Although the scientific community rejected Parent Alienation Syndrome, the legal community embraced it. Carefully removing the word “syndrome”, the belief set remained. Whilst his work began in US, he traveled around the world promoting these ideas to court professionals and others who had a direct influence on child custody case outcomes. Some organizations that offer training for judges even held workshops on “maternal gate-keeping”, which trivialized the experiences of women and children leaving intimate partner violence. Whilst Dr. Gardner passed away several years ago, his doctrine lives on and others have polished up his work to continue its grave influence upon the legal community.
Mothers are often subjected to degrading treatment within the courtrooms where they are forced to deny their experiences and their need to survive and protect–or they will face jail. All legal avenues within this culture are blocked. This is why we have a battered mothers custody conference where mothers, professionals and young people unite to end violence against women and children through the system. It is why I traveled all the way from Australia to be there this year amongst others who have also traveled from other parts of the globe to attend. It is a global issue that affects many.
This year, Holly Ann Collins, the first American to receive asylum in Netherlands, spoke about her ordeal. Revered by many as a brave mother who, against all odds, was able to save herself and her children. She was listed and hunted by US as an abductor even though they knew why she ran. She arrived at the airport with a suitcase of evidence which led to her being granted asylum. She was hard on herself because she did not do it sooner. Whilst leaving with the children under these circumstances should be seen as the best thing to do, there is no legal avenue to do so. Some laws and treaties appear from the surface to have some consideration of women and children experiencing violence, but the processes, culture, economics and ambiguity of the situation stifle opportunities to do so. Holly Ann Collins’ outcome is a rare one. We need better laws that protect mothers and children from violence without punishment or further victimization
As many are aware, there is a silent genocide occurring against women. This is part of a major reason why women all over the world are united to end violence against women. What many do not know or connect is that a lot of women experiencing violence perpetrated against them are also mothers. Many ads on stopping violence against women portray women without children as a means to get the message across clearly; but they fail to represent the large proportion of mothers in this situation.
Experts in intimate partner violence have noted that there is a high correlation between abuse and pregnancy. Some scholars state that this is because they are envious of the relationship between the mother and the child. Using violence, coercion and control is often part of the effort to destroy these bonds. The problem then exacerbates when a mother tries to leave–often not to save herself but to save the child. Leaving is one of the most dangerous times for all women enduring intimate partner violence, and, accompanied with an inadequate system, the odds are stacked against her. With a community plagued by stereotypes on child custody cases, closed courtrooms and loopholes in laws compounded by pop-psychology, we have a situation where most mothers in this predicament are torn away from the children they tried to protect. In the 1980s, Dr Richard Gardner coined the term, “Parent Alienation Syndrome”.
This term remained a term only, because most of the scientific community rejected it. His literature promoted ideas that victims of abuse were mentally ill and deliberately raised concerns about the abuse as an act of hate. Dr Richard Gardner also testified in a homicide case where a mother was shot 13 times. Gardner claimed that her “alienating behavior” drove him to kill her. Although the scientific community rejected Parent Alienation Syndrome, the legal community embraced it. Carefully removing the word “syndrome”, the belief set remained. Whilst his work began in US, he traveled around the world promoting these ideas to court professionals and others who had a direct influence on child custody case outcomes. Some organizations that offer training for judges even held workshops on “maternal gate-keeping”, which trivialized the experiences of women and children leaving intimate partner violence. Whilst Dr. Gardner passed away several years ago, his doctrine lives on and others have polished up his work to continue its grave influence upon the legal community.
Mothers are often subjected to degrading treatment within the courtrooms where they are forced to deny their experiences and their need to survive and protect–or they will face jail. All legal avenues within this culture are blocked. This is why we have a battered mothers custody conference where mothers, professionals and young people unite to end violence against women and children through the system. It is why I traveled all the way from Australia to be there this year amongst others who have also traveled from other parts of the globe to attend. It is a global issue that affects many.
This year, Holly Ann Collins, the first American to receive asylum in Netherlands, spoke about her ordeal. Revered by many as a brave mother who, against all odds, was able to save herself and her children. She was listed and hunted by US as an abductor even though they knew why she ran. She arrived at the airport with a suitcase of evidence which led to her being granted asylum. She was hard on herself because she did not do it sooner. Whilst leaving with the children under these circumstances should be seen as the best thing to do, there is no legal avenue to do so. Some laws and treaties appear from the surface to have some consideration of women and children experiencing violence, but the processes, culture, economics and ambiguity of the situation stifle opportunities to do so. Holly Ann Collins’ outcome is a rare one. We need better laws that protect mothers and children from violence without punishment or further victimization.
JUSTICE DENIED
Press Release 02/08/11
World’s Most Famous Beach….World’s Most Scandalous Case
Florida Mother DENIED justice when Presiding Judge Torphy, Judge Evander and Judge Cohen REFUSED to Review Ruling En banc, Write Written Opinion, and Certify Questions to the Florida Supreme Court on 02/07/11
Constitutional and Human Rights Violations in Family Court Cases Rampant in the U.S.
In the “World’s Most Famous Beach”…Daytona Beach, Florida…………they also have the most scandalous case involving a wealthy millionaire, his power, money, and connections to the community that has most experts involved in the national crisis in the family courts regarding “custody visitation scandal cases” asking when will justice prevail for these Florida children and their Mother.
National advocates and organization’s are asking for federal investigations into the crisis in the family courts and have documented violations of litigants constitutional rights and are advocating for America’s children. The Leadership Counsel and Interpersonal Violence (www.leadershipcounsel.org) research shows that US family courts order about 58,000 children a year into unsupervised contact with physically or sexually abusive parents following divorce in the US.
Dr. Phil in April 2010 had the very 1st show regarding the family courts failure to protect abused children, and family court judges dismissing documented evidence of abuse, and taking away loving, caring Mothers.
Linda Marie Sacks, a “Squeaky Clean Mom”, is headed to the Florida Supreme Court and the U.S. Supreme Court in Washington D.C. in her continued efforts to be re-united with her children, and is speaking out about this injustice to her children, and the national crisis in the family courts. Her daughter’s teacher said..if you can lose custody, America better wake up, because if you can, anyone can. Her case is a Justice for Children case,(www.justiceforchildren.org)
and they are a national organization who advocate for children in abusive situations when “official avenues” judges, police, Dept of Children and Family, have failed to protect them.
On 12/21/10 she filed 3 pro se Motions asking the Fifth District Court of Appeals reconsider their 12/7/10 (Case 5D09-3752) ruling that has violated her constitutional rights to be a parent to her children. On 02/07/11, the Fifth District Court of Appeals, with Presiding Judge Torphy, Judge Evander and Judge Cohen, DENIED all of her Motions, and affirmed the erroneous ruling by the trial court of Judge Shawn L. Briese.
This is her second appeal before the court of appeals. In her first appeal, (Case 5D07-1682) the ruling on custody of her children was REVERSED AND REMANDED due to violations of this Mothers constitutional rights to due process and the opportunity to be heard. In their ruling they stated that Mothers hand written Motion for Continuance was legally sufficient, and should not have been denied by Judge Briese, and the hearing to decide custody of the minor children should NEVER have taken place. This rare reversal by an appeals court provided NO relief to Mother and her children as the trial court of Judge Shawn L. Briese refused to be disqualified from her case, or VACATE the unjust supervised visitation ruling.
Mother appealed to the Fifth District Court of Appeals in a Writ of Prohibition, (Case 5D08-3668) and provided documented evidence of judicial misconduct by Judge Briese, and the attorneys of record for the Father, James L. Rose of Rice and Rose, and Leonard R. Ross of Ross and Burden. The documented evidence of judicial misconduct included violations of Judges Canon #3, Fl. Ad Code 2.330, ex parte communication with the attorneys of record and violations of her constitutional rights. The Fifth District Court of Appeals DENIED her Writ and Judge Briese was allowed to hear the “Rehearing of the Custody of Minor Children” in April 2009.
In this hearing, (Case 2004-30312 FMCI) Judge Briese refused to allow Mothers witnesses to testify and refused to allow her exhibits. In his oral ruling he stated that mother did not buy greeting cards for children to give to the father, and mother did a Channel 9 news interview in New York and this was a concern to the court, and so she MUST continue to stay on Supervised Visitation. It WAS NOT a concern that Father admitted to an altercation with his daughter at 8 years old and this resulted in her getting a split lip and blood. This matched Mothers Domestic Violence Injunction of Protection, Police Reports and DCF reports. Father also admitted to “wiping down the vaginas” of his school age children, which also matched the Domestic Violence Injunction of Protection, Police and DCF reports. This credible evidence was DISMISSED, IGNORED and SUPRESSED by the trial court of Judge Shawn L. Breise, and now, DISMISSED, IGNORED and SUPRRESSED by the Fifth District Court of Appeals, as they have just AFFIRMED the trial court’s ruling.
With only 79 hours of contact in 3 years and 10 months…under Supervised Visitation at the local Family visitation center, for two hours a month……..this “squeaky clean” class Mom, soccer Mom, community volunteer, with no drugs, no alcohol, no abuse, nothing……just a loving, caring Mother lost custody of her children… will have to continue on with the Supervised Visitation, with NO case plan or reunification plan provided by the trial court. This Mother is the LONGEST family law referral in the history of the Daytona Beach supervised visitation center….now at 3 years and 10 months.
National Advocates, experts, and Mothers were in Albany, New York on Jan.7, 8,and 9th, 2011 for the Annual Battered Mothers Custody Conference,( www.batteredmotherscustodyconference.org) to address this national crisis of Mothers losing custody with documented evidence of abuse to their children, and safe, protective parents having all of their contact with their children either terminated by the family courts or are being place on supervised visitation for years without a case plan or reunification plan.
The trend documented by the latest research is that judges routinely dismiss, ignore and suppress documented evidence of abuse to the children in the “custody-visitation scandal cases”, and batterers are asking for Sole Physical Custody and are successful 70% of the time. www.apa.org/pi/viol&fam.hmtl and www.aja.ncsc.dni.us/domviol/pages5.html
The Florida NOW, National Organization for Women Ad Hoc Family Law Committee has published a brochure a “Crisis for Women in Family Court: What to Expect and How to Fight Back”. (www.nowfoundation.org/issues/family)
Numerous national organizations are demanding federal investigations into the crisis in the family courts and asking for congressional hearings to address these human rights violations to America’s children and their Mothers.
The latest research on this issue is in the book Domestic Violence, Abuse, and Child Custody Legal Strategies and Policy Issues Edited by Barry Goldstein, J.D. and Dr. Mo Therese Hannah. And can be found at www.civicresearchinstitute.com/dvac.html
Linda Marie’s daughters said “Mommy fight for us and do something every day to get us back and don’t ever stop. So after 3 years and 9 months, this Florida Mother is now more determined than ever, and is headed to the Florida Supreme Court and then on to the U.S. Supreme Court. She has kept her promise to her daughter’s and now she is speaking up for her children and all of America’s children.
For more information on this crisis in the family courts please contact:
Center for Judicial Excellence www.centerforjudicailexcellence.com
California Protective Parent Association www.protectiveparent.com
Domestic Violence Legal Empowerment and Appeals Project www.dvleap.org
Stop Family Violence www.stopfamilyviolence.org
Randi James www.randijames.com
Court Whores www.courtwhores.com
American Mothers Political Party www.AmericanMothersPoliticalParty.org
Family Court in America www.juliafletcher.wordpress.com
Talia Carner www.taliacarner.com
Protective Parents for Children’s Rights www.protectiveparent.ning.com
Liz Notes www.lizlibrary.org
Many thanks to all who are part of the solution to the crisis in the family courts. You are all true American heroes.
For contact information re: this press release please contact:
Linda Marie Sacks
386-453-3017
CALA NY Participates in Million Mom March Mother’s Day 2011 in Washington DC
CALA NY Participates in Million Mom March Mother’s Day 2011 in Washington DC.
Sunday, May 8, Mothers Day 2011, the Million Mom March has gathered participants and supporters for mothers who lost custody of their children in Family Courts across America. Mothers of Lost Children included Linda Marie Sacks representing the American Mothers Political Party.
Representative, and other valuable organizers have been present in this historic march, including NOW Foundation Family Law Ad Hoc Committee, Leadership Council, Justice For Children, Domestic Violence Legal Empowerment & Appeals Project, Stop Family Violence, Battered Mothers Custody Conference, Randi James, Protective Parents for Children’s Rights, California Protective Parent Association, Center for Judicial Excellence, Family Court in America, Talia Carner, and The Coalition Against Legal Abuse.
Tourists and visitors on Capital Hill read the banners with great interest, and displayed absolute shock at the horrors that they were exposed to. People still cannot believe that courts will rip babies away from their mothers, and court order them to live with their abusive or pedophile fathers.
One mother had a poster exclaiming, “792 since I have seen my son”, while other posters had political messages to the President and First Lady, Michelle Obama.
This year saw the participation of Linda Marie Sacks, a mother who has filed a landmark case in the US Supreme Court on the eve of mother’s day. Our prayers are directed to Linda Marie in her pursuit of a favorable decision. This case will pave the road for mothers across America who have the strength and resolve to fight. “Mommy, please do not ever stop fighting for us”. We won’t. We love you too much!
STARVING FOR JUSTICE
For decades now, mothers that have survived domestic violence and family court have continued to scream for justice, now they’re starving for it, literally. This week in Arizona a mother has made the ultimate sacrifice not only her body but for all mothers that are used and abused by the family court system, she has begun a hunger strike.
In Arizona a judge ordered that a mother be placed in jail for arrears in child support. Now mind you this mother does not get to see her children in a normal setting to begin with. This mother, like the thousands of others, is a “non-custodial” mother. She’s not just a “non-custodial” she is also a domestic abuse survivor, for whatever that’s worth these days anyways. A domestic violence survivor or victim will receive the worst treatment from the family court system than any other judicial “branch” (besides a rape victim). But it’s the same if you were raped it was YOUR fault, if you were abused it was YOUR fault. After 100 years of women in the early 19th century fighting for the right to vote we are still at a place where women are oppressed. We make less than men, work more and get our children taken away. Now if all that’s not bad enough at insult to injury when you are thrown into the family court arena. Now you are “forced” to “co-parent” with your abuser. That’s right, not only does he have access still to your life he then does everything in his powers (by way of his attorney who is the judges golfing buddy, oh and didn’t I tell ya…the judge knows the abusers dad…they go waaaay back, and the GAL oh yeah he’s golfing buddies with them all too). Once the abuser becomes the master manipulator that he is and gets by with a lot of help from his dads friends, soon gets custody. Then after that it continues with supervised visits (because you are a bad mother in whatever fictitious label they can pin on you) and soon after comes the child support because even though he makes more than you do with working two or three jobs… he can’t do it ALL BY HIMSELF. My mother did.
Family Court Judges, lawyers, psychologists and other supporters of female victims to interpret the effects and impacts of abuse as equivalent to passivity, incompetence, and poor mental health. So what can women and their supporters do to combat this social problem? http://www.speakoutloud.net/helping-women/language-of-resistance-in-family-court/
Mothers that have been abused should AVOID family court at all costs. They should run as fast as they can away, far far away from the abuser, because IF there isn’t “placement order” in place at the time of escape your chances are better than him tracking you down and THEN trying to get the children. ALWAYS have your children in YOUR care and custody. Even IF the abuser just wants to take the kids for “one night”. Do not fall for the trickery. Many mothers have lost their children this way. Either by the abuser claiming HE had custody (just as mine did) or running off with them or even worse, murder.
So with all this in mind you should also be “aware” that these travesties are not something “new” the courts are doing. This has been going on for decades. This started in the 1980′s when more mothers returned to work and became more independent and decided they didn’t need a “Mr. Mom”. When they began the child support system that spurned the phrase “dead beat dad” for the era that’s when the men folk starting fighting back and then abusers caught on that this system could work to their advantage since we wanted equality after all…didn’t we?
We did and we still do, but even in the year 2011 it is far off. The right to vote, 19 th amendment was the last and only rights that women have in the constitution. But if you want to count the 14th amendment which states,
No State shall make or enforce any law which shall abridge the privileges or immunities of citizens of the United States; nor shall any State deprive any person of life, liberty, or property, without due process of law; nor deny to any person within its jurisdiction the equal protection of the laws.
Then again that would mean WE (as in women) have equality in this nation right? Not really. With the recent political atmosphere with state governments and their power grabs and war on women’s reproductive rights, we are losing “rights” every day. The women of the 1970′s that started a revolution of women yearning for the Equal Rights Amendment, here we are in the new millennium with only 38 states out of 50 that have “ratified” the ERA. How much longer?
Now, at this very moment an Arizona mother has taken all she can. Not unlike the women’s suffragists who went on hunger strikes for the right to place a ballot, she is too. This mother works two jobs and has limited contact, if any, to her children. Her abuser has hidden assets and comes from a very “well off” family. He’s not doing it because he’s starving, he’s doing it because he can. Years of family court conflicts, collusion and cronyism have taken its toll on this mothers soul. This woman has decided that she would rather starve and be hospitalized because it matters not what the courts can do to her, THIS is a politicized statement that the family court system is corrupt and we’re not taking it anymore. We’ve signed petitions, played the niceties with government officials who’ve gave us lip service, we’ve sacrificed our children and our savings accounts, we’ve marched the streets of Washington DC on Mother’s Day, we are done trying to get your attention, we DEMAND it now.
Yesterday was “Day One” of the hunger strike, we are now on “Day Two”. This mother says she must come up with $2,000 in 60 days or she will be put in jail, per judges orders. This mother is more deteremined than ever to get out of the circle jerk of family court. She’s lost everything but her free will. Perhaps this will be the one thing that she can conrol in her life since her abuser and his colluders continue their rage against her.
So Day Two is sliding into Day Three and I know with all my heart that the tenacity of this mother she is not giving up and we need to stand by her. I cannot with any good conscience not sound the trumpets for the triumphant return of the suffragists spirits to rise again with us and guide us to freedom of enlslavement of the patriarchy My prayer and mantra is that we begin our first voyage into the unknown world non-violent protest. I beg all victims of the family court system and their allies align their voices and let the world know we will not ignored. In the same vane as our Foremothers did and their daughters of the 70′s ERA movement. But this time we really DO get equal rights.
Stay tuned as this blog is about to expose EVERY one of the corrupt family court officials from Arizona
Top 5 HHS Programs Endangering Women and Children
No surprise that the #1 government funded program from HHS is”Child Support Enforcement (Access and Visitation Programs and Responsible Fatherhood Initiatives”
The Southern Poverty Law Center has called a spade a spade with the FR/MR (Father/Men Rights) that they are terrorists.
http://americanmotherspoliticalparty.org/ampp-article-library-family-court-custody-abuse-dv/5-family-criminal-law-and-research-abuse-dv-child-custody/79-southern-poverty-law-center-on-the-fathers-rights-movement
God help the future generation of children
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William Balfour Trial: Jennifer Hudson Family Murder Case Will Be Complicated By Star Power
Until violence against women is finally treated as a REAL crime THEN we will see justice…until then, there is JUST US
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