A quick cursory search of the key words: “BOY SCOUTS + PEDOPHILES” brings forth a plethora of information, a more in depth search seems to be even more frightening. Go ahead, try it, but prepare yourself for vomiting.

What brought me to search these keywords has to do with a statement that a chapter of the Boy Scouts in New Jersey made in regards to a man, Vincent R. Cestone, who was recently indicted for seven counts of felony sexual and child abuse

According to the Boy Scouts they will allow Cestone to remain an active part of meetings–“it’s only an indictment”.  ONLY?! Did they allow Sandusky to continue to coach after his indictment? This is not only an outrage to the victims of Cestone but is a outrage to possible new victims. As a mother and grandmother I would not want any man indicted on these serious charges near my loved ones or any child. Apparently the Boy Scouts think differently but is no surprise since a simple google search proves they protect pedophiles.

Just to name a few.

We will continue to monitor this case of corruption, collusion and cronyism as it seems Cestone seems to think he has the money to keep his deep, dark secrets hidden from the public eye. You don’t.

To the parents of any Boy Scouts that have children associated with Vincent R. Cestone BEWARE, he no longer has access to his previous victims, he’ll be trolling for new blood and your child may be next.



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They say that there is a special place in hell for women that do not help other women.  The same holds true for children.  Today, one such “woman” and a judge, Maureen Sogluizzo, of Hudson County is one of those women.

A child victim of incest told her deepest, darkest secret to a grand jury a few short weeks ago.  She told of the sexual abuse, she told of gasoline being poured over her. She told and now her abuser/father is trying to get custody/visitation of her two younger siblings. Currently there is a no contact order for this strong child but her younger siblings are still in the grips of a man who is hell bent on destroying their mother.  But this abuser cannot do this alone, he’s had help, a lot of help.  His money has paid many members of the legal community in New Jersey in order for him to have access to his victims all these years.  Judge Maureen Sogluizzo and others in the Hudson County courtroom are well aware they are being watched.

This ‘father’ was indicted on March 5, 2014 of 7 charges, 3 counts of 2nd degree sex assault against child and 4 counts of physical endangerment of a child, and this judge is considering allowing kids back there! Another Judge from Hudson removed the children on March 5th after grand jury indictment.  He was arrested March 12th and this case going to trial.  Head spinning yet? 

For those that know the family court system and the continuous failures inside the dirty little secret of family court we know how badly these failures can end for battered mothers and their children.  Several cases comes to mind, Jessica Gonzales, Dr. Amy Castillo and many more.

The below videos are just some examples and only the very worst case scenarios that happen when judges fail children.  If this man is not a danger to children, his own. then he should NOT have any custody/visitation until the criminal matter is settled.  The judge should err on the side of caution and should use due diligence when considering any move towards placing a child with a known violent man.  WE ARE WATCHING AND THIS BLOG AND OTHERS WILL CONTINUE TO SHINE THE LIGHT ON THE CORRUPTION, COLLUSION AND CRONYISM IN HUDSON COUNTY, NEW JERSEY JUDGE MAUREEN SOGLIUZZO.


Corrupt courts;Pandemic for Moms: 6 year old Child Imprisoned for Telling the Truth.

6 year old Child Imprisoned for Telling the Truth

Child tells the social worker and everyone else “Daddy made me lick his penis“.

Days later child is removed and put into complete isolation from mom, siblings, family, church, school and extracurricular activities. She can not speak to mom or rest of the family via phone or skype. She is not allowed to give her homework to her mom. She is not allowed even the smallest courtesy of her own clothes. Instead the state buys them and bills the mom while returning a bag of perfect even fashionable clothes. Next they may as well slide food under her cell door. Better not give them ideas. It seems harsher than even prison. Since in prison your allowed money for vending on your card. Your allowed visitors and phone calls. Your allowed to speak without sanction as long as respectable.

So conclusion Foster Care in some places in Michigan is worse than prison for murderers.

The child has been given some agreement, that is in question. Child stated “I didn’t break our deal” when social worker enters room because child whispered something private about needing to go to bathroom. Child also says ” I can’t hug you mommy or I have to hug him”(pedo dad who made 6 yo child lick his penis). Why would anyone force a child to hug someone like that? What kind of deal? Why is it not known by all parties? Seems like blackmail if they told child she cant see mommy if she says daddy made her do oral sex. Maybe that’s what they said because child is even more fearful now.

Child has begged and begged to come home. They wouldn’t even think about Christmas letting her go. Funny thing is the only evidence they had for removing child was that mom had a bad psych evaluation 3 years ago.She had good one too but for some reason that doesn’t count.Who decides what counts? In my eyes a bad and good balance each other out.

The state law on removing child into foster care says you must have exhausted all efforts for reunification~ Odd since the week before they asked mom’s attorney to extend supervised order to keep child safe from dad. When did they even tell mom looking at her as suspect ? When did they tell her there was  a problem? When did they ask her about psych eval? In fact they never did and they never did reunification!! So they broke the law?  Judges are allowed to break laws? I never saw that in the constitution!

Due process is in constitution though!

Social worker blatantly lied! She perjured herself and even proves it in her very own report! So all it would take is for the  judge to read her report and he would see the lies. Do judges read? Hmm, law school requires reading.  Therefore judge either can’t read or can’t hear or doesn’t care as he is as corrupt as sugar is sweet.

Child has drawn explicit sexual drawings for therapist alone with no parent in room.Therapist was licensed by social services to interview children to evaluate if abused. Somehow his opinion about said child was not good enough and he was let go.Why is his evaluation good when its other children but not this child? Maybe they don’t want child to tell truth about sexual abuse. Why, Is dad powerful? Is he scary? Has he blackmailed them or paid them off? So a child suffers because CPS is corrupted!

Sexually explicit drawings are not done by 6 year old children who are not abused in some form.

Child sees yellow lip gloss and freezes. Child says “that looks like daddy’s penis looks like this but its brown not yellow.”  Wow, in my whole life I have never heard how lip gloss looks like a penis. It does though now that I think of it. Why would a child who has allegedly never been abused think that when they see a simple thing like lip gloss.

Dad raped one woman in car with child present!

Dad has two members who are sex offenders already. In my mind I see a puzzle that fits clearly Do you see what I see?

Dad was caught naked in bed with 10 month old ! Why? What kind of man crawls in bed naked with a baby?

Child says Daddy slaps me there! Hmm toddler points to vagina and says this. Why is he touching or slapping there?

Children do not lie about abuse because they do not want to talk about it let alone give details!

Children can not keep lies straight.

Children do not know sexual words and descriptions unless they have seen them.

This mom has raised 4 perfectly healthy children with her ex.They have all graduated college and married healthy spouses. It was not a perfect divorce but they shared children and looked out for them above all!

Why would this child lie? She wouldn’t! 

I'm a 13 year girl and I'm still forced to see my abuser and molester. My father.

“What you looking for Maria?”

Boonton, New Jersey, United States IP Address: Law Offices Of Maria A. Cestone ( [Label IP Address] Referring URL: (No referring link) Visit Page:

“I’m a 13 year girl and I’m still forced to see my abuser and molester. My father.”

I’m a 13 year girl and I’m still forced to see my abuser and molester. My father. After 8 years of court, its still going on. As a child, I was always told to “shut up”, “don’t you dare tell anyone that”, and “he’s only playing”. I went to speak to a judge at the age of 7 and again 9. There was 3 judge between the almost 8 nine years. I spoke to only one judge and he listened. He took me out for 4 years. I was put back in after the new judge came around with an observer. She left and I was taken out again. New Supervisor again.

The history of abuse includes smashing me into wall saying “I will kill you”, having firecrackers thrown at me, molestation in the shower, dragging me by my next with a jump rope, pushing me on the ground and into near by objects, etc. (Many I’ll detail in private.)

At one point when I said “I’m telling the therapist at the age 7, he told me “Don’t you dare. You’ll never see your family again if you do.” To be honest, I was scared of him. Still am. But, my brother and sister still have to very often. Sometimes I only see them 2 times a week. Then they come back. Then back to him. It worries me that my they go there. They haven’t spoke to anyone. He hurts them. My sister tells me stories how she’ll wake up with him on top of her. Or when he slapped and punched each of them.

Next judge comes around I’m put back in. I spoke to a “lawyer” for me. But she hasn’t done anything. She was one of the only people who didn’t shut me up. Instead she said “Oh we have go now”. Right after I told you details about how he molested me. Observer doesn’t say anything while I sit there and he mentally abuses me.

I recently confronted him at a SUPERVISED visit and it didn’t turn out well. I was yelled at by him, and two other parties. The observer sat there and said nothing as I sobbed and cried. I was told “Oh, That’s Bullshit!”, “tell me when I molested you”, “Your lying”, “you mother said that”, “You mother brainwashed you”. I was also yelled at about how I wouldn’t talk to the other “guests”.

Might I add I have tapes I would like to send you if you reply.

I was puking and trapped at that point. In a bathroom with didn’t help considering I was molested by him in one. I couldn’t take it. He isn’t normal at the slighted point.

There are many other details I’ll direct message you if you read this.

Thank you.

Beth Pensa
Twitter: @bethpensa

Psalm 71:4
Deliver me, my God, from the hand of the wicked, from the grasp of those who are evil and cruel.


“I swore never to be silent whenever and wherever human beings endure suffering and humiliation. We must always take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented.” Elie Weisel from her 1986 Nobel acceptance speech.

I want to share an experience with you. I am and have been a volunteer mentor for women who are victims of domestic violence and are involved in custody issues. I am also a non-custodial mother. I talk to and offer support to women on a daily basis and have for some time, that is the backdrop for this event.

My best friend has a special needs daughter. When I lost custody of my child, she was there for me. She told me she needed help raising hers and would welcome my input. Her husband did not help much in that department. A few years back she asked for my input when Trinity wanted to play a game on line. Mom said it would help her with the math reinforcement she needed for school. I said it could get her started on gambling, because addictive behaviors go with her diagnosis, and because the game gave you bonus “money” for doing certain things. Mom said that was silly, because they have free offers with credit cards now and enticements for lower interest rates. Neither of us suspected the real problem.

There was a chat room in that game and she could make friends all over the world. She was having fun texting her friends from different countries and making pen pals. She met a guy in the chat room too.  The guy took up a lot of her time, and encouraged her to use phone minutes she did not have. He helped her create a facebook, and helped her sign up for Skype.  Trinity told her parents about the boy, and they thought it was cute. Trinity did not say he was a man, and all are unsure as to when she figured that out.

He encouraged her to take nude pictures of herself. Trinity has always had boundary issues, that symptom goes along with her diagnosis. Trinity wanted to please him, and asked if there were certain poses or what parts of her he wanted pictures of.  Even though they were Skyping, they have an older computer that does not have a web cam.

When she asked for help setting up a web cam, her parents were eager to help her, and it was in that process they discovered some of the messages that were exchanged.

So…I asked what the police had to say. Mom said she never called them. I could not believe my ears! I said you HAVE to call them! Heaven only knows how many other children he has done this to or worse! Mom says he is in Europe, and they fear bringing it out in public will damage their child more than staying silent. I told her not saying anything sends a message to Trinity that the abuse is ok and she should just be silent, which is wrong.

Then my bestie stood up, and she is taller than me! It was an intimidating move on her part too! She said to me, “I was there when they took your child, I was in every court hearing by your side and I have read all your court papers. Do you know what I learned from that? I learned that you should have kept your mouth shut! Since that time through your talk and all your “advocacy” work I have learned that if I report this to the police, I can lose my child! I love you like a sister but I am not taking the same path you took! We will work this out as a family and some other family can expose him for what he is. Let them air out their families dirty little secrets for the world to see! I understand that we all need to take a stand against this crap to make it stop, but look at the girl in the military who reported her rape and all she has gone through!”

Some days I just wonder. My Bestie and I, as I look at our arguments past and present, I see we are both correct, just from different perspectives.

This is hip wader material. Are we as advocates actually encouraging women to stay silent when we share our experiences? Is this a cycle of it’s own? How can we encourage women to speak out when they see what happened to us when we spoke out? We know things are not going to change until all domestic violence is reported and addressed and the perpetrators actually get charged, yet when it gets reported we lose custody of our children and are often punished in other ways as well.

I am very tired of chasing my tail in this circle, and I am ready for the next generation of advocates to develop better strategies than we have.

© Mia Tyler Kailin

Murder suspect in court – | news, sports, business, jobs – The Daily News.


Staff Writer

MARINETTE, Wis. – A Crivitz, Wis. man accused of murdering his ex-girlfriend at a Wausaukee, Wis. gas station last summer appeared in Marinette County Court this week for a motion hearing.

Judge David G. Miron heard arguments for and against a motion to suppress a statement made by the defendant, 55-year-old Richard B. Heyer.

Judge Miron will issue his decision on the motion during an oral ruling on April 9.

Heyer is still scheduled for a pre-trial on April 29 and a four-day jury trial from May 7 through 10.

He faces felony counts of first degree intentional homicide and felon in possession of a firearm.

The charges stem from an Aug. 26 incident in Wausaukee.

Marinette County Sheriff Jerry Sauve reported that deputies responded to a report of a shooting at the Citgo gas station.

They discovered the body of 51-year-old Ann M. Schueller of Wausaukee behind the counter. Heyer was located outside the building with an apparent self-inflicted gunshot wound to the chest.

Sauve said that initial investigation indicated that Heyer and Schueller previously lived together and had a history of domestic violence.

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Can’t wait to see how MORON Miron rules on this since he NEVER took into the account the dangers of a DRUNKARD, sexually abusive father and saving a little girl. 


Oconto County man, 49, facing sex charges found dead | Green Bay Press Gazette |

The charges, filed in 2011, allege he had sexual contact multiple times with two girls younger than 16 between Jan. 1, 1997, and Dec. 31, 2003, in Pensaukee.

OH, so they DO know how to charge sexual predators, I’m sure ONLY if he’s not dear old dad


OCONTO – An Oconto Falls man will spend the rest of his life behind bars for a murder 16 years ago.

Peter Hanson was convicted of shooting and killing 19-year-old Chad McLean after a night of drinking in February of 1998.

Prosecutors claimed Hanson dumped McLean’s body in the Pensaukee River.

Hanson walked into Oconto County Court Thursday afternoon, almost a year after the family of McLean was finally able to end its search for the teen’s killer.

“His last 15 years of freedom for us have been 15 years of injustice for Chad,” said Lori Neilson-Grigg, McLean’s cousin.

Early last year, witnesses came forward with new information, enough to charge Hanson.

The long wait for that charge is why McLean’s cousin told the courtroom her family wanted no chance of parole.

“Knowing my cousin, I will never wrap my head around what this scrawny, soft-spoken kid could have done to cause someone to want to end his life, not only end his life, but throw him away like garbage,” said Neilson-Grigg.

Hanson chose not to speak on his own behalf. However, his attorney asked the judge for a chance at parole after 20 years, when Hanson would be 73 years old.

“I think what is important to understand is that a parole eligibility date is not an automatic,” said Jeffrey Jazgar, Hanson’s attorney.

Judge Michael Judge sided with the prosecution and McLean’s family.

“The agony that Mr. Hanson caused to this family for 16 years, there’s no other word for it, it’s despicable,” said Judge.

“It’s just what we’ve been waiting for, for 16 years,” said Bob Neilson, McLean’s uncle. “It’s just too bad it couldn’t happen sooner. People could have come forward, but it means a lot and it’s the resolution we wanted.”

The years of waiting are why McLean’s family is encouraging people to come forward in any cold case, no matter how minor the information might seem.

“It is important and this case proved it because just somebody hearing a gunshot brought forward other people and this is the result,” said Neilson.

Charles Mlados, who also faces charges of killing McLean, is scheduled to go to trial in August.



Oconto County Strikes OUT again

Arrest Made in 15 Year Old Murder Case –

Once again, Oconto County Sheriffs Dept. and Detective Darren Laskowski, needed outside help to solve a fifteen year “cold case” murder. Fifteen years to the day that Chad McLean’s body was found in the Pensaukee River.

According to the criminal complaint, Peter Hanson and Charles Mlados were investigated since 1998 when Chad McLean went missing on the night of February 22, 1998.  Hanson and Mlados were last seen with the victim, Chad McLean.

When you look at the evidence that they had fifteen years ago it would astound even a non criminal investigator could figure out that something was not right.  Both Hanson and his friend Mlados were the last ones seen with the victim, McLean’s body was found less than a mile from Hanson’s home in Abrams Wisconsin.  But it wasn’t law enforcement that brought this cold case to light in my opinion.  It was the voice of Hanson’s ex-wife, Kathy Hanson, who was interviewed by Laskowski on September 24, 2009.  Kathy had reported that her husband came home at 9:30pm on the evening of February 22, 1998 and noticed that her husband, Hanson, was “panicking and freaking out”.  She saw blood on Hanson’s hands and provided him with “bleach” to help clean up the blood.  Kathy Hanson will never see justice served as she is now also deceased.  A few months after she gave her interview with Laskowski she ” allegedly” committed suicide in 2009.  Not to mention that Hanson also “accidentally” shot and killed his brother long ago.  People seem to die haphazardly around Peter Hanson it would seem.   On May 12, 2008 Kathy Ann Hanson filed a temporary restraining order on then husband Peter Hanson in Oconto County.  On June 9, 2008 the restraining order was dismissed by Judge Michael Judge of  Oconto County.  By the winter of 2009 Kathy Hanson would be dead by an alleged “suicide”.

Oconto County would have you believe they worked tirelessly on this murder when that is exactly the opposite of what they do.  Not only did they place Kathy Hanson’s life in danger by re-interviewing her in 2009 they failed to protect her.  But that’s what Oconto County does, they give criminals a higher regard than victims.  There are several law enforcement agencies that finally brought this cold case to life and I immensely respect those that did.  The two agencies that I do not is Oconto County Sheriffs Department, Officer Laskoswski and Oconto Falls Police Department.  They couldn’t solve a solid colored Rubik’s Cube.  Even with surveillance video of a burglar in a persons home Oconto Falls PD couldnn’t figure out and refuse to.

The lesson here is once again that Oconto County is inept in any investigation they start or refuse to start.  Criminals and murderers run free for years.  It’s only and only when the Wisconsin Department of Justice gets involved that anything is solved.  Another lesson to learn is that Oconto County is dangerous to your health, safety and sanity.

My heart goes out to Chad McLean’s family and especially his mother, she deserved better than the fifteen years of shoddy police work.  My heart also goes out to the children of these alleged murderers who now are fatherless and Hanson’s who have lost both parents.  God bless the real investigators and do gooders in this case that had to come from outside of Oconto County’s little bubble of nepotism, corruption, collusion and cronyism to bring  justice to crime victims everywhere. May God have mercy on the souls of Oconto County and the bungling idiots that run amok there for my child and I will never have such mercy.



ANOTHER  piece of poetry by my daughter, enjoy CPS—



Tonight I’m coming home

I would be all alone

Tonight I don’t want to put up with it

I don’t want to get hit

I know where he’s going, I know where he’s at

Tonight he’s at the bar drinking away

All his secret sorrows

He knows what’s going to happened tomorrow

Another hangover in the morning

and more yearning

And when he drinks

He’s really abusive

Tonight he’s lonely, another drink

for another mistake

After he comes home he takes it

all out on me, he won’t stop until

he’s satisfied I won’t get any sleep.

I’m scared and terrified

Tonight I won’t be home

I won’t answer the phone

I won’t be alone

Tonight I’m NOT putting up with it

So I won’t get hit.

By M.M.H.

While I appreciate that Oconto County et al is still watching this blog it never ceases to amaze me that CPS worker is so concerened about her name and posts about CPS workers LYING on their reports. . . right Carrie?




Yes my child has a voice and it’s very strong for being almost 15 years old. Since you don’t know how to do your jobs and hang around googling your names and searching this blog for info; here’s a little ditty for ya.  The following is a piece of poetry my daughter wrote.  She continually tells “mandated reporters” at her school about her home life with her father.  Don’t you think it’s high time you did your job?  I know my child thinks so and so do I.

Dedicated to CPS worker, Carrie Silbernagel-Burke and Oconto and Brown County Child Protection Agency




I go to school pretending

everything is fine

I say “I’m okay”
I can’t believe I still stick with that line.

I pretend I didn’t go through

a “father abusing me phase; life had a lot to face.

I don’t want anyones sorrows or

their pity.

Yeah, I know it’s not all that shitty

That’s what you’ll say.

I want him to pay, pay for

everytime he would hit me.

All I would say is that

I miss my mom.

Is that so wrong?

I just want him to go away.

He  causes me so much pain, physical pain.

Am I the one to blame?

Don’t feel sorry for me

And don’t forget my NAME

by M.M.H. (you know who I am)



I never talk much about my abuse or the specifics simply because it is too painful to re-live.  Although that doesn’t really matter much when you are re-victimized on a daily basis for standing alongside other battered mothers that are in my position.  The countless mothers that I have spoken to over the years and listening to their heartaches was bad enough for my mental health but now being attacked by others who allegedly have the same goals is simply too much.  I think thought it’s high time to shift gears and allow those that think they may know me and show them what I am and what depths of hell that I have been through.  I’ll start with the event that took place in late 1997 at the hands of my second abuser.  I will no longer be silent and I have risen above my pain.  For this is why I am who I am and why I tirelessly help others that share this heartache and nightmare.

It was after my divorce and during a lengthy custody battle where I met the second abusive man in my life.  During this time I found myself pregnant with this man’s child.  He didn’t treat me bad in the beginning but then again if he would have punched me in the face during our first date I can venture to say there would not have been a second one.  Abusers don’t operate that way, there is a process a “grooming” process of wearing you down and making sure that your defenses are low.

I was homeless, my children were being ripped from my life and I found myself living with a man that I should have listened to all the red flags, I didn’t.  The year was 1997 and the month must have been between November and December as I was five months pregnant.  I was twenty-nine years old and the pregnancy, my fourth child, was very wearing on me.  I am sure the ongoing verbal abuse from my abuser wasn’t helpful.  Not to mention the ongoing divorce/custody battle for my three older daughters.  I remember being exhausted and went to bed early that night.  I knew that my abuser was angry about it but I was just too tired to listen anymore and went to bed.  Sleep came easily and I remember that my sleep was the type that was deep and restful.

I am sure it was a divine intervention to which I received my deep slumber as the following events would change my life forever. My eyes slit open as I could feel the sun peeking through the bedroom window.  But something was strange; I couldn’t stretch or move my arms.  I opened my eyes to find my abuser and the father of my child standing at the foot of the bed. He was laughing.  I finally could open my eyes fully and forced myself to be wake up.  I looked at him and his face seemed different, his laugh was not the same, I knew I was in trouble as my heart began beating out of my chest.  I looked up and found that my wrists were tied with a yellow nylon rope to the headboard.  Strangely my legs were free, for now.  His laughter became louder as I tried to wiggle my wrists free but the more I tried the more pain came on my wrist from the nylon rope intertwining with other fibers of nylon making it tighter.  I asked him what the hell he was doing.  He couldn’t stop laughing.  I became angry and yelled that he needed to untie me now!  That’s when the laughter stopped.  I knew that when he was in the mood to fight this was the way he started it.  He came near my head and whispered in my ear as evil as you can imagine that he was coming for what he was “denied” last night.  My heart jumped as I knew something bad was going to happen to me and there was nothing I was going to be able to do about it.  He lifted me under my ribs and flipped me from my side and over onto my stomach.  I told him that he was hurting me and the baby.  He said nothing.  I begged him to allow me to lie on my back but he ignored every plea.  Nothing.  He grabbed the back top of my pajama pants and ripped them straight down the back.  I began to cry and tried to plead with him to stop.  Again, no response.  He was now naked and on top of my back as he pushed my face deep in the pillow to muffle my sobbing and screaming.  Finally, he spoke as he told me that if I was quiet he would untie me.  I quickly acquiesced and became silent and to be as still as I could be lying on my pregnant stomach.  Then he started laughing again.  He loved this torture; he was in control of my physical body and now my brain.  I couldn’t see him but only hear and feel the weight on my pregnant body.  I will skip some of the dirty little details of what transpired next.  But I will tell you that it was almost immediately after I obeyed his directives that I saw white and felt searing pain, my baby was moving as I could feel her moving slightly under the pressure.  I screamed in pain but it only made it worse as he loved to hear my screams of pain.  I couldn’t believe that I was being sodomized by a man who allegedly loved me with his baby inside of me.  After what seemed like forever he finally stopped and walked out of the room.  My body was in so much pain I feared that my baby would die from the pressure and trauma to my insides.  I knew I was bleeding as felt it run down my thighs.  I began to weep silently so he couldn’t hear me.  I was still tied with the rope and my wrists were on fire from the friction.  I hoped that he was done and that he would leave me alone, I was wrong.  It was almost immediately after I thought that when he returned.  I glanced at him through my tears and noticed he had a video camera.  My torture was far from over.  For hours I was raped and sodomized by the father of the child in my womb and now it was being captured on video.  My heart sank as my humanity was taken with every abuse.  I was scared for my baby.  I didn’t know if we were going to make it.  He finally left me alone as the afternoon began to wane. Alone and still tied up.  I laid there in my blood clutching the headboard to ease the pain on my wrists.  This was the beginning of the end of who I was and forever more I would be changed.  He came back and I winced when I saw him.  He had a small smile on his face of success.  Success in breaking me but not my spirit.  That’s when the yelling began, the name calling, the total degradation.  He got even angrier when he was finally trying to un-tie me as it was “my” fault that he couldn’t get the rope un-tangled due to my constant movement.  Once free, he ordered me out of bed and to clean up “my” mess.  I could barely move.  My hands were numb and my legs were weak.  I didn’t look him in the eye I could only just focus on getting feeling back into my extremities.  I complied with his orders and tried to get dressed but he ripped my clothes from my hands and demanded that I clean his bed up first.  I had to listen to him, what more could I do?  I was scared he would rape me again.  I took the sheets off the bed as I was sobbing silently as I walked past him to the laundry room.  He followed me and continued on watching me and criticizing the amount of detergent I used to the way I put the sheets in the washer.  He warned me that they had better not be ruined.  I hurriedly put the water on cold and set the washer on maximum as I hoped that the blood would be removed.  He was finally he was bored with me and left me alone.  I found some clean clothes and tried to head for the shower.  He was back spitting in my face as he told me that a “whore like me” wasn’t allowed to use his bathroom.  He told me that I had to go bathe in the lake across from his house.  My head was bent low.  My whole body was just waiting for him to strike again and I knew he could sense my fear and he loved every minute of it.

With him in control he ordered me to get dressed and to get dinner started.  I complied and said nothing in fear for any retaliation that he may perceive as defiance.  My heart was broken but if I had only known this was only the beginning of my torture I would have ran out that door as fast as I could.  But I was trapped.  Trapped by the fear of being homeless, penniless and pregnant.  I had no family or friends that would help, the other abuser made sure of that.  It was one of the lowest points of my life.  I tried to make this abuser stop abusing me.  I loved him and wanted him to be happy for the baby.  Nothing worked as everything I did was wrong and everything bad that happened to him was my fault (actually still is after all these years).

I can look back now and obviously write about this trauma with strength and courage as I know he can never hurt me again.  There was no reason to do the things he had done to me through the years and then to our child.  He is sadistic man with a severe, untreated mental illness.  I would hope that others out there reading this and are in a relationship with someone like this.   Run, don’t walk.  Leave while you can.  You cannot change an abuser and you will get hurt or even kiled.

I am happy to report that in this year, 2013, I am very happily married to the man of my dreams.  A real man that doesn’t hit screams, call me names or rape me.  My husband knew full well how much baggage I had when I met him. But rather than pushing aside this baggage he helped me to unpack it and I did.  I can say that I have been abuse free since 2005.  I took away the one thing that my abuser wanted so badly and that was power and control.  I took it back, my life, my body, my sanity, forevermore.

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I’ve seen a number of boisterous and inaniloquent things over the years, but Bill Windsor’s smear tactics really take the cake. Please note that many of the conclusions I’m about to draw are based on cogent and virtually incontrovertible evidence provided by a set of people who have suffered immensely on account of Windsor. Whatever he claims to the contrary, Windsor criticizes AMPP for giving our mothers an instrument that is very much needed at this time,  A VOICE.

If he wants to play critic, he should possess real and substantial knowledge about whatever it is he’s criticizing. He shouldn’t simply assume that it’s okay to wage a clandestine guerilla war against many basic human rights. While I trust that this audience shares my indignation at him, the ultimate aim of his theories is to restructure society as a pyramid with Windsor at the top, Windsor’s patsies directly underneath, sullen recidivists (especially the intellectually challenged type) beneath them, and the rest of at the bottom. This new societal structure will enable Windsor to rescue animalism from the rubbish heap of history, dust it off, slap on a coat of cheap sophistry, and market it as new and improved, which makes me realize that he keeps saying that he can galvanize a savage hysteria, a large-scale version of the malevolent mentality that can rifle, pillage, plunder, and loot, and get away with it. Isn’t that claim getting a little shopworn? I mean, I must part company with many of my peers when it comes to understanding why your support of my announcements is an ideal way to tell fatuous fomenters of revolution just what you think of their nonsense. My peers claim that truth, for him, is whatever he happens to be saying at the time. While this is indeed true, I warrant we must add that his belief is that we should cease to talk about  objectives such as human rights, and democratization. Instead, we should be devising increasingly misinformed ways to hold annual private conferences in which querulous swindlers are invited to present their “research”. That’s Windsor’s opinion. My opinion is that a day without Windsor would be like a day without hectoring hedonism. For proof of this fact I must point out that Windsor possesses no significant intellectual skills whatsoever and has no interest in erudition. Heck, he can’t even spell or define “erudition”, much less achieve it.

Considering the corruption and foolishness that characterize hotheaded, closed-minded champions of deceit, lies, theft, plunder, and rapine, Windsor’s groupies all look like Windsor, think like Windsor, act like Windsor, and jawbone aimlessly, just like Windsor does. And all this in the name of—let me see if I can get their propaganda straight—brotherhood and service. Ha! We need to keep our eyes on him. Otherwise, he’ll keep us everlastingly ill at ease by next weekend. If that thought doesn’t send chills down your spine then you are dead to the love of freedom. The rest of us are concerned that Windsor does not tolerate any view that differs from his own. Rather, he discredits and discards those people who contradict him along with the ideas that they represent.

I can’t follow Windsor’s pretzel logic. I do, however, know that he can get away with lies because the average person cannot imagine anyone lying so brazenly. Not one person in a hundred will actually check out the facts for himself and discover that Windsor is lying. He would have us believe that the peak of fashion is to promote a culture of dependency and failure. Such flummery can be quickly dissipated merely by skimming a few random pages from anygoogle search of him.

This is not the first time I’ve wanted to shelter initially unpopular truths from suppression, enabling them to ultimately win out through rumors and innuedoes. But it is the first time I realized that it’s easy for armchair philosophers to theorize about him and about hypothetical solutions to our Windsor problem. It’s an entirely more difficult matter, however, when one considers that if you think that he knows 100% of everything 100% of the time, then think again. Windsor is trying to cause people to betray one another and hate one another. His mission? To put disloyal thoughts in everyones minds. I am not going to go into too great a detail about refractory bigamists, but be assured that he always cavils at my attempts to address the continued social injustice shown by anti-democratic, sappy smatchets. That’s probably because I can reword my point as follows. Windsor’s stooges seem to be caught up in their need for enemies.

I don’t care what others say about Windsor. He’s still lascivious, besotted, and he intends to poke and pry into every facet of our lives. His squadristi are too indolent to help people break free of his cycle of oppression, at least insofar as this essay is concerned. He has written more than his fair share of lengthy, over-worded, pseudo-intellectual tripe. In all such instances Windsor conveniently overlooks the fact that you should be able to live your life the way you want to live it. You shouldn’t have to live in fear of Windsor forcing me to die in oppression, chaos, and despair.

I find that I am embarrassed. I am embarrassed that some people don’t realize that we ought to champion battered mothers against the evil of Bill Windsor. That’ll make Windsor think once—I would have said “twice”, but I don’t see any indication that he has previously given any thought to the matter—before muting the voice of anyone who dares to speak out against him. The few simple-minded sciolists who deny this are not only wrong, they are willfully conniving. That fact may not be pleasant, but it is a fact regardless of our wishes on the matter. Wherever laughable pissants are seen coordinating a revolution, Windsor is there. Wherever goofy, spineless pests are found tossing sops to the egos of the haughty, Windsor is lurking nearby. Wherever hubristic crumbums are observed using both overt and covert deceptions to sacrifice our essential liberties on the altar of political horse-trading, Windsor will no doubt be in the vicinity. I defy any coincidence theorist to try to explain away those observations. Clearly, Windsor avers that our elected officials should be available for purchase by special-interest groups. As you can no doubt determine from comments like that, facts and Bill Windsor are like oil and water.

Quite simply, Windsor promotes a victimization hierarchy. He and his famuli appear at the top of the hierarchy, naturally, and therefore suspect that they deserve to be given more money, support, power, etc. than anyone else. Other groups, depending on Windsor’s view of them, are further down the list. At the bottom are those of us who realize that we and Windsor indisputably need to call a truce on our arguments over priggism. Unfortunately, Windsor will refuse to accept any such truce, as his whole raison d’être is to promote priggism in all its biggety forms.

Everything I’ve said so far is by way of introduction to the key point I want to make in this post. My key point is that there’s only one true drama queen around here, and Windsor is the one wearing the crown. It may seem obvious, but Windsor’s hypocrisy is transparent. Even the least discerning among us can see right through it. Windsor is not only immoral but amoral.

If Windsor manages to nurture the seeds of our eventual destruction so that they grow like a rapidly malignant mutant form of kudzu. He knows how to lie. It’s too bad he doesn’t yet understand the ramifications of lying. As Windsor matures emotionally he’ll eventually grow out of his present way of thinking and come to realize that the time is always right to do what is right. That’s why we must decidedly anneal discourse with honesty, clear thinking, and a sense of moral good. The first step in that process is to realize that every time he gets caught trying to prepare the ground for an ever-more vicious and brutal campaign of terror, he promises he’ll never do so again. Subsequently, his winged monkeys always jump in and explain that he really shouldn’t be blamed even if he does because, as they think, a knowledge of correct diction, even if unused, evinces a superiority that covers cowardice or stupidity.

Whenever I ponder over the meanings and implications of Windsor’s self-absorbed “cause”, I feel little peace. But there is a further-reaching implication: I’d advise him to stop being so demented. Please re-read and memorize that sentence if you still believe that censorship could benefit us. According to some data Windsor claims to have, just about everyone wants him to obliterate our sense of identity. Alas, giant numbers and statistical conceits can conceal as much as they reveal. The reality is that Windsor has never been a big fan of freedom of speech.  I propose that the knowledgeable and well-trained leaders and/or experts on batterd women, equip them with syllabi filled with challenging texts and materials, and have them support the fact that Windsor constantly insists that coercion in the name of liberty is a valid use of state power.

But he contradicts himself when he says that his phalanx of psychotic fruitcakes is looking out for our best interests. As a closing statement, let me emphasize that we have no choice but to make Bill Windsor answer for his wrongdoings. The time to act is now. Do not underestimate the power of a bunch of women who have been through hell and know the route.


RE-VICTIMIZING OVER AND OVER AGAIN. All together now…”The wheels of ABUSE go round and round”

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If you want to show someone what sort of website A Voice for Men is, have them look at the following screenshot, which I’m putting below the jump because it may well trigger some readers in its depiction of the effects of domestic violence on women:

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Eight Senate Republicans vote against the Violence Against Women Act (via Raw Story )

Eight Republican senators voted Monday against proceeding to the Violence Against Women Reauthorization Act (VAWA), a bipartisan bill to aid victims of domestic and sexual violence. Sens. Ted Cruz (R-TX), Mike Lee (R-UT), Tim Scott (R-SC), Marco Rubio (R-FL), Mike Johanns (R-NE), Rand Paul (R-KY),…

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If you abuse your intimate partner and then get mad when she leaves you and then use the family court system as an extension of your abuse


If  your kids are afraid of you and don’t want to spend time with you becaus of your anger issues


If you blame your ex for everything that’s bad that happened in their life since they left your abuse


If you tell your kids that their “other parent” is a bitch, whore, slut, tramp, drug abuser, alcoholic, hooker, stripper


If you tell the judge that your ex has made the kids not want to be around you


If you are constantly trying to figure out ways of getting your kids to “hate” their own MOTHER for your own selfish gain and revenge. . . . YOU MIGHT BE A PAS-HOLE

WHEN all of your tactics from the above true stories backfires on you when your children are adults and no longer have to be influenced or forced into any relationship with their mother’s abuser, their father, don’t blame anyone else but yourself ASSHOLE.




PAS (Parental Alianation Syndrome) is a psuedo-scientific theory invented by the late, pro-pedophile, Dr. Richard Gardner in the late 1990’s.  It is not recognized by any mental health provider worth their salt and is often labeled as JUNK SCIENCE.  PAS was originally invented to use as the “abuse excuse” for pedophiles and pedophilia.  Through much unsuccessful attempts by the father’s right’s lobby to have PAS put this “mental health disorder” into the DSM-5 (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual-5).


I have recently come across a brilliant article written by Shelbi York- a student and activist.  I am so happy someone has finally come out with research showing that a mom can in fact raise children without a man in the house.  For years- every time a young adult gets into trouble of any kind- single moms are blamed-

“The broken home” theory has always annoyed me.  Fathers do not determine if a kid will turn out good, or troubled.  It is true that a child benefits financially from a second income in a home- but the actual relationship with a father does not contribute to how a child turns out.

Below is the article written by Shelbi– and I think it is a brilliant- truthful- research article.  Thank you Shelbi– for shedding light on the truth that nobody will admit- Please read the below article and feel free to post comments on the comments thread-

Impact of Father Figures on Boy’s Future
Shelbi York
Eastern Kentucky University
SOC 313 – Social Deviance
October 26, 2012
         Determining whether or not father figures have an influence on a boy’s future is a question that is crucial in understanding the roots of juvenile delinquency.  In a society where we always look for reasons and labels for others and their behaviors, the blame is often placed on the father and the role that he played in the child’s life.  Determining the correlation between a father figure and the actions of the child when they are grown can help in determining whether delinquency occurs when there is a lack of fathering.  Based on what society tells us, I would assume that there was a negative correlation between the two factors.  By examining Shears, Robinson, and Emde’s “Fathering relationships and their associations with juvenile delinquency,” we can start to analyze this connection.
         Jeffrey Shears is a researcher, Associate Professor, and BSW Coordinator at the University of North Carolina at Charlotte in the Department of Social Work.  He has a PhDfrom the University of Denver.  With his focus being primarily on family health, Shears does a lotof work concerning the family structure and delinquency in minors (UNC Charlotte).  JoAnn Robinson is a professor and the director of Early Childhood Education Training in the Department of Human Development and Family Studies at the University of Connecticut.  She has a PhD in Human Development and Family Studies from Cornell University.  She has a long history of researching families and young children in relation to the early impacts of intervention(Naropa University).  Robert Emde is a retired Professor of Psychiatry at the University of Colorado Health Sciences Center and Adjunct Professor of Psychology at the University of Denver.  Emde has an impressively long list of affiliations as well as honors, awards, recognitions, and books that have been published.  He has focused most of his work on early socio-emotional development and early preventive interventions (ZERO TO THREE).
         Shears, Robinson, and Emde started out questioning whether a man’s relationship with his father affects the relationship that he, in turn, has with his child.  This research team looked at “87 men who were identified as fathers or father figures by women involved in two Early Head Start sites in Denver, Colorado (2002:79).”  Based on the interviews “about their experiences when their child was between 2 and 3 years of age (2002:79),” Shears, Robinson, and Emde discovered that a relationship did exist between the way a man was raised and how that affects how he raises his children.  This is an important thing for people who work with children to understand when assessing the problems that a child is experiencing currently as well as the problems they will experience when they are in their adolescent years.  The study could predict domestic violence as well as an antisocial attitude that would be projected to the child’s peers throughout life.
         The researchers found that there was a “significant correlation (2002:84)” between how a man rated himself as a father and how attached he was to his child. That did not find an attachment between his self-rating and the involvement that he had in the child’s life.  Based on this data, they determined that men with positive experiences with father figures generally felt as if they were good fathers with high attachments levels to their children.  They also discovered that there was not a direct correlation between negative experiences with father figures and engagement in delinquent acts (2002: 84).  The study also showed that the men who said that they had experienced high levels of antisocial behaviors indicated that they had low involvement with their child and rated themselves low as fathers.  However, the men who did report high levels of antisocial behaviors did not indicated that they had any lower levels of emotional attachment to their children than those with lower levels of antisocial behaviors (2002:84).
         As a society that is so concerned with labeling people, we often times want to blame someone else for the delinquent acts that occur.  Often times when juvenile delinquency occurs,the blame is placed on the father figure (or the lack thereof) in the juveniles’ life.  As we learned in class, Cesare Combroso was a firm believer that people are not born with free will and that they are instead subject to intrinsic biological propensities.  He believed that some people are simply born with genetics that are predisposed to certain deviant behaviors (Matthews 2011).  Shears, Robinson, and Emde’s research would certainly support Combroso’s claim.  Based on the lack of evidence to show that negative experiences with a father figure affect a juvenile’s engagement in delinquent acts (2002:84), it seems to support the argument that the juveniles that commit these acts are genetically predisposed to do so.  One can look at this in comparison to the data that shows the rates of juvenile delinquency occurring in children that come from single parent homes.  It might be beneficial to analyze what other factors that were present in the home could have led to the delinquency of the minor since this study shows that the lack of a father figure does not necessarily present a link to delinquent behaviors.
         This study agrees with Cooley’s theory of the looking-glass self.  Cooley suggests that we define ourselves as individuals based on how we look at society.  He believed that you never see yourself for who you really are but instead you judge yourself based on how you feel that society views you and how you measure up to what is expected by our society (Matthews 2011).  By concluding that most men who reported having lots of instances of antisocial behaviors rate themselves poorly as fathers (2002:84) shows that society’s pressures on these men are often negative.  It can be assumed that these men have low self-confidence based on the anti-social behaviors they admitted to having.  This low self-confidence could have led them into believing that they are less of a father than someone with a better feeling about themselves.  The standards for what makes a good father from society suggests that one needs confidence in order to be successful.  These conflicting sides of what society sees and what the responder sees are a perfect example of Cooley’s theory.
         The findings from this survey also can be easily compared to the Symbolic Interactionism Perspective.  Symbolic Interactists view society as an ongoing process of social interactions in which people are constantly learning and evolving.  They also believe that everything we learn, know, and believe is our own creation (Matthews 2011).  SI’s would suggest that men would have negative experiences with their children if they had negative experiences with their fathers because that is all that they have been taught and all that they have learned.  This experiment discounts this theory’s hypothesis by providing evidence to suggest that a man that has had negative experiences with father figures does not always have negative experiences with his children (2002:84).
         In conclusion, based on the findings from this survey study, one can see that the role of a man’s father does not necessarily determine how he acts as a juvenile or an adult.  This can be very crucial in debunking the age-old myth that single mothers are not as effective in raising their children as a child that has a mother and a father.  While it is often a plus economically to have a male (or another income-earner) in the home, this study suggests that the lack of a male figure does not have a direct correlation to positive behaviors in the future.  Based on this information, more research can be done to determine if this stands true for the general population or if it was only true for these low-income males.
Matthews, Austin. 2011. Lecture on Social Deviance. Eastern Kentucky University.
Naropa University. JoAnn Robinson. Boulder, CO: Naropa University. Retrieved October 22, 2012 (
Shears, J., Robinson, J., & Emde, R. N. (2002). Fathering relationships and their associations with juvenile delinquency. Infant Mental Health Journal23(1/2), 79-87.
UNC Charlotte. 2012. Jeffrey Shears. Charlotte, NC: The University of North Carolina at Charlotte. Retrieved October 22, 2012 (
ZERO TO THREE: National Center for Infants, Toddlers and Families. 2012. Washington, DC:ZERO TO THREE: National Center for Infants, Toddlers and Families. Retrieved October 22, 2012 (

Holding My Hand Through Hell: Susan Murphy Milano,First: 9781888160673: Books.

Susan Murphy-Milano


“No legacy is so rich as honesty.” -William Shakespeare

Earth lost a warrior this week and heaven has gained an angel.  Our hearts are heavy with the news of the passing of our friend and sister in arms, Susan Murphy-Milano.

I remember the first time I spoke to Susan on the phone when I was in the midst of my family court nightmare.  Here was a very busy woman who had taken time out of her day to speak to me about her experiences with losing her son to an abuser.  She never minced words, she told it how it is, I loved that about her.  It was a long hard road for me during that time for my family and I but they will all tell you that her phone call to me was and is the most important for me.  I will tell you that there is no better inspiration than to listen to Susan talk of her childhood filled with violence and then ultimately finding her mother killed by her police officer father in a murder-suicide.  There is little to feel sorry about yourself or to think that you cannot change the world, she did.

I know I have thanked her for being my soul sister many times, but I want to say again and on behalf of all children and mothers that live the nightmare Susan has had to.  Thank Susan, you inspired, empowered and never cease to amaze many of us who will continue to fight and carry on your legacy.  Susan was the most humble of creatures and right now I can hear her say in her commanding voice that she is no hero.  But she is and I hope that she can let them know up there we could use a little help down here, then again, I’m sure  she has already.


“No legacy is so rich as honesty.” -William Shakespeare 

Earth lost a warrior this week and heaven has gained an angel.  Our hearts are heavy with the news of the passing of our friend and sister in arms, Susan Murphy-Milano.

I remember the first time I spoke to Susan on the phone when I was in the midst of my family court nightmare.  Here was a very busy woman who had taken time out of her day to speak to me about her experiences with losing her son to an abuser.  She never minced words, she told it how it is, I loved that about her.  It was a long hard road for me during that time for my family and I but they will all tell you that her phone call to me was and is the most important for me.  I will tell you that there is no better inspiration than to listen to Susan talk of her childhood filled with violence and then ultimately finding her mother killed by her police officer father in a murder-suicide.  There is little to feel sorry about yourself or to think that you cannot change the world, she did.

I know I have thanked her for being my soul sister many times, but I want to say again and on behalf of all children and mothers that live the nightmare Susan has had to.  Thank Susan, you inspired, empowered and never cease to amaze many of us who will continue to fight and carry on your legacy.  Susan was the most humble of creatures and right now I can hear her say in her commanding voice that she is no hero.  But she is and I hope that she can let them know up there we could use a little help down here, then again, I’m sure  she has already.


Originally posted on My letter to Michelle Obama:

Dear Mrs. Obama:

I am writing to you today because I respect you very much, and I know how important both the issues of Domestic Violence and the right of everyone to have Affordable Health Care are to you.

I want to introduce you to an amazing woman and advocate Susan Murphy- Milano. Susan is currently dying of Cancer due to the lack of Health Insurance. Everywhere she applied for help turned her down and she was informed that she did not qualify for their services. I know you agree that there is something terribly wrong when a country as great as ours can let this happen to anyone, yet alone someone who has devoted her entire life to saving the  lives of others and without once thinking about what it could mean to her own.

Susan grew up in Chicago, the daughter of a 30-year veteran Chicago Police Detective…

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Battered mothers across sea to shining sea will all agree that they (abusers) are the same.  We’ve been told to take our “passion” out of speaking to the judges,  dress conservatively, don’t wear red (even though we’ve had a few rebels) act like a “lady” and then MAYBE just maybe the judge and other court personnel will treat you like a “human”.  In the perfect world we mothers like to believe that possibly one time we will be listened to, the evidence weighed carefully but most of all we hope that they will treat us like any one of them would want  their  mother, aunt, sister, cousin or daughter treated in family court as victim of domestic violence.  Battered mothers in family courts are special creatures.  You see we are the ones who, so far, have beaten the odds of being killed by an intimate partner.

The statistics show we are the “lucky” ones.  But when we enter the arena of family court we don’t often feel so lucky after all.   It’s bad when you may think to yourself that death would have been a better fate than continual litigation by your former abuser, the actual legal term is “vexatious litigation”, but don’t bother trying to use it in family court, doesn’t work that way for mothers.  Like the other favorite legal tactic by abusers the infamous PAS a.k.a. parental alienation syndrome, don’t get me started.  Point is that it can be  extremely hard for a victim to walk into the lair of family court and know who her enemy is.  I myself when I walked through the hallowed halls of Oconto County Wisconsin mistakenly thinking that people of power will protect my children and I.  Not only is advocacy needed for domestic violence victims to leave the abuser or “awareness” for those who apparently live in a delusional world where mommies don’t get hit by daddies.  They do.

The new “survivor” will need the ammunition for when she is summoned to family court by her abuser, because he’s not done with her yet.  It goes back to the abusers own “ego” where they too believed we would never leave them and when we do it’s earth shaking for a controlling asshole.  But now he has “friends” in the shape of legal personnel that will look upon you with disdain. Through the many battered mothers that have formed relationships with other battered mothers from all parts of the world we have learned that even though our stories may be different their is always the common denominator  the abuser.  If I had a dime for every battered mother that has heard other battered mothers plights of family court hell, say “sounds exactly like MY abuser”, I would have enough money in a legal fund to help millions of mothers.

During these final weeks of “Domestic Violence Awareness” month we hope to that the general public also is “aware” that after daddy loses control over mommy he goes after the children, it’s the abusers way, he’s not done with you until he says so.

The aim and dedication of this blog, and many others that have flooded the internet since 2008, are made for battered mothers who have been to hell and back, to show the world what they are doing to us.  The wheels of abuse most certainly go “”round and ’round” and only some survive.   Now that the other women are awakening with the “War on Women” we can only hope still that one day a mother can leave her abuser safely with her children.  Unlike the “cookie cutter” shape of the abuser, we are individuals but our commonality is that we are loving mothers who will stop at nothing to save our children and future generations of females and to put an end to these human rights violations.

Claudine Dombrowski: The Hero’s, The Warrior’s: The ‘Survivors’ – October Domestic Violence ACTION Month.


‘Women and Children are top Priorities’ everyone ‘talks the talk.’  Still—no one holds these most evil of society’s criminals accountable – it’s just domestic violence, as they turn away from the realities of it every other day of the year. No one ‘walks the walk’ except those survivors turned advocate/activist. They are the true hero’s and warriors, shakers and World changers. They do it so that no one else will have to endure needlessly or die needlessly as so many already have.

Reddit Ugly: MRAs and others argue that a man allegedly wronged in divorce court should turn to murder « man boobz.


So there was a bit of ugliness over on the Men’s Rights subreddit the other day. No, scratch that; there was a giant explosion of ugliness.

A couple of days ago, you see, a Redditor with a nine-day-old account posted a story to r/menrights detailing the alleged ill-treatment he’d gotten at the hands of a vengeful ex-wife and an unsympathetic family court system. The story was filled with literally unbelievable details – among other things, he claimed to have been rendered homeless by the demands of the court, forced to pay $1000 a month in spousal support to his ex though she had a $60,000 a year job. Some commenters challenged the veracity of the tale – while the OP gave a case number in his post, no one has been able to find evidence that a case with that number actually exists. (The OP has not responded to the skeptics.)

Oconto agents honored for investigative work | Green Bay Press Gazette |

How can one get an award for such GREAT investigative work when Darren Laskowski REFUSED to interview a sexual abuse victim.

From a previous post: Officer Darren Laskowski the SAME bumbling idiot who said he would not interview the child that was alleging sexual abuse because the ex has told him that it was only for REVENGE.  Really?  But now the tables are turned Laskowski and your continuing bush-leagued, shoddy investigating skills is shining down on you!  Thank god the state agents from Division of Criminal Investigation came and helped!

Why are people questioning what took so long?  It is NO surprise to me.  You now officially have BLOOD on your hands and I am grateful it was not me or my child whom you failed to believe. I prayed for some justice for ALL Mothers and Children in Oconto County…it is coming slowly…but  Karma really is a bitch aint it?

SEE ya in the funny papers, IDIOTS of OCONTO COUNTY

Social worker convicted of faking child-abuse records |


Southern Poverty Law Center Names Men’s Rights Activists (MRAs) as Hate Group.

What we’ve known for years, we now have confirmation.

All Smiles



RIP Mindy </3

In the past few years, McCready waged a public battle for custody of her elder son, Zander. She took the boy from her mother, who had custody, and fled with him to her home in Arkansas, saying she had concerns over his safety.

McCready fights for custody of her son





Mindy McCready sang about Ten Thousand Angels in 1996 and now they sing for her.  Protective mothers who also know all too well about family courts, DCF and abusers what Mindy has been through with custody of her son.  This is a victory that will not go unnoticed with the large community of protective mothers.  We applaud Judge Harrod for what we can only assume is reason and logic that a mother should be with their child, we couldn’t agree more.

By  (@luchina) and YUNJI DE NIES Dec. 6, 2011

Country singer Mindy McCready left an Arkansas courthouse a “happy girl” Monday without divulging details about a juvenile court judge’s ruling on what will happen to her and her five-year-old son Zander.

“I can’t talk about it, but I can tell you all I’m a happy girl. I’m a happy girl right now,” she said to reporters gathered outside the Izard County courtroom of Judge Lee Harrod.

“I love Judge Harrod, I’ll tell you that. I love that man. He’s a good man,” she said before being driven away from the courthouse.

Later Monday evening, McCready sent a text message to HLN’s Jane Valez Mitchell that the host read on air.

“WE WON!!! ZAN STAYS,” McCready wrote. “Court details sealed but we love Judge Lee W Harrod.”

Details on when the singer may be able to take Zander back home to Nashville, and whether McCready will get permanent custody of her son remain unclear.

“The next step would be for the judge to decide,” Amy Webb, director of communications for the Arkansas Department of Human Services, told ABC News.

Florida Department of Children and Families officials had been expected to request in the hearing that Zander be sent back to Cape Coral, Fla., where McCready’s mother, Gayle Inge, is his legal guardian.

“We will not discuss details of this case per the judge’s order. Of course we continue to work with all involved parties to ensure this child’s safety and well-being,” a Florida DCF spokeswoman told

McCready’s rep offered no information either. “All proceedings and documentation surrounding the hearing are sealed,” Kat Atwood said in a statement to “No further information is available at this time.”

This woman saved my life. When I was in a violent relationship I saw the particular story on Oprah. I recognized myself in these videos, trying had to be quiet to prevent his hands on me.  The judge who sentenced this abuser was emotional when describing what he saw in that video of Susan.  I wonder what did he see?  Did he realize that domestic violence is far more damaging of a crime than originally thought?  Do we really have the equal protection under law?  We as survivors of intimate partner violence have come a long way.  Just like Susan, I am a far cry from the subservient battered slave I once was.

If it were not for Susan and the countless other of survivors that have found their voice and share their story to the world to let us know, we are not alone, we are not crazy and you too can survive!  My work on this blog and elsewhere has led me down a path filled with love and empowerment.  My hope for the future is that all women will be protected as every human deserves.  Since we cannot eradicate “abuse” it is up to law enforcement and the judiciary to be well-informed and educated on the subject of domestic violence.  We have not only shattered that proverbial glass ceiling we are coming through it in masses.

You are not alone, your sisters are all around you, come find us!

In honor of Domestic Violence Awareness Month we want the world to know that we are here… we always have been.  It was only up until recently with the slap in the face against domestic violence survivors and victims in Topeka Kansas that our voices have only gotten louder.  We honor our fallen sisters who were not as lucky as we are to have survived a relationship.  We have faith in knowing they are guiding us as we preserve their memory.  Many are now gone but not forgotten, this is for you.

In the Month of October, the 24th National Domestic Violence Awareness Month– Topeka Legalizes Domestic Violence.  All Survivors and Victims every where have been thrown back into the dark ages.  Shame on Topeka for their ‘slap in the face’ to every victim nationwide.  Topeka Kansas is now– the abuser.
This will set a bad precedence through the nation.  One that will have deadly ripple effects.  Myself and other advocates and the three Councilpersons who voted against repealing and legalizing Domestic Violence engaged in a tense hour and half with dialogue with the rest of the Council and especially Dan Stanley Interim City Manger. 
 I tip my hat to these three Council members who were ‘bullied’ by the rest of the council’s self serving needs on the ‘backs of Domestic Violence Victims
Those who opposed in the final vote were: (please lend to them your support and thanks)

  • Denise Everhart
  • Richard Harmon
  • Larry Wolgast 
    The City Council members who sold out Victims of Violence: (and need to be voted out)
    Dan Stanley- Interim City Manager
    Mayor Bill Bunton

    • Karen Hiller
    • John Alcala,Deputy Mayor
    • Sylvia Ortiz 
    • Chad Manspeaker
    • Bob Archer
    • Andrew Gray
    The Councils email address and contact numbers are here:
    And to those I say:

     The seven Topeka City Council and District Attorney, Chad Taylor’s, off-the-cuff comments have a distinctly shrewish tone.  If you disagree with my claim that it can plausibly be surmised that these stooges compress their traducements into brief, highly reductive, definitive-sounding phrases, easily memorized and easily expressed, then read no further.  The Topeka City Council doesn’t simply want people to believe that “metanarratives” are the root of tyranny, lawlessness, overpopulation, racial hatred, world hunger, disease, and rank stupidity.  It wants this belief drummed into people’s heads from birth.  It wants it to be accepted as an axiom, an assumed part of the nature of reality.  Only then will the Topeka City Council truly be able to get away with twisting the truth.  In a Topeka City Council-led society, people who educate the public on a range of issues will be suppressed, vilified, hated, imprisoned, exiled, and killed.  From this anecdotal evidence I would argue that if a cogent, logical argument entered their brains, no doubt a concussion would result.  Once you begin to see the light you’ll realize that Topeka sees the world as somewhat anarchic, a game of catch-as-catch-can in which the sneakiest skivers nab the biggest prizes.You might not care that my message has always been that by supporting stupid, incontinent mountebanks with inferior moral standards, we devalue ourselves, the lives of our children, and the heroes who died for our freedoms, but you’d better start caring if you don’t want the Topeka City Council or District attorney to regiment the public mind as much as an army regiments the bodies of its soldiers.  Emotionalism is a plague upon us all, a pox that will likely not be erased in the lifetime of any reader of this blog.  To Topeka City Council, however, it’s merely a convenient mechanism for crushing any semblance of opposition to its filthy, combative apothegms.  The baneful nature of Topeka’s fulminations is not just a rumor.  It is a fact to which I can testify.It would seem the seven Topeka City Councilpersons have been working for years to create a faux moral and ideological climate in which cranky leeches can provide cover for a contumelious, anti-humanist agenda.And that’s all I have to say.  For now…

Tonight at 6pm CST the City of Topeka Kansas [] will decide whether or not they will make domestic violence “legal”.  Troubling comes to the mind mostly fear.   The fear that victims not only will be denied equal protection under law as outlined in the Fourteenth Amendment specifically,  Equal Protection Clause requires each state to provide equal protection under the law  to all people within its jurisdiction.  The district attorney of Shawnee County, Chadwick Taylor, Topeka City Council and Shawnee County Commissioners are playing a dangerous game of chicken with victims of domestic violence.  Tonight these white males with privilege will decide the fate of many victims by repealing a ban on domestic violence within the city of Topeka in other words, ‘Sharia Law’ has come to the Midwest.  That’s right,  it could be “legal” to beat your spouse with no repercussions, legal ones anyways.  I doubt the city fathers have thought about what this legacy will bring to Topeka, then again maybe they have.   But there is already a heavy cost on society when domestic violence and abuse are overlooked.  Health costs and lost work costs, but a diminution of values.  When prosecutions of violence and abuse against a family member become nothing more than a political pissing contest, victims burrow deeper into themselves, shamed, ashamed, and alone.  No one can save them.  At least, that’s how they feel.  But that doesn’t stop their abusers, because there is not anything to stop them.  With the possibility they’ll face no legal consequences, they will simply continue their abuse and victims will submit, believing  there’s no way out, because there isn’t anymore.



Topeka’s governing body voted 7-3 Tuesday evening to repeal the city ordinance banning domestic battery, in a move interim city manager Dan Stanley said would force District Attorney Chad Taylor to resume reviewing and evaluating domestic batteries committed in Topeka for possible prosecution.

Mayor Bill Bunten and council members Karen Hiller, John Alcala, Sylvia Ortiz, Chad Manspeaker, Bob Archer and Andrew Gray voted in favor of the move while council members Denise Everhart, Larry Wolgast and Richard Harmon voted against it.

Shawnee County District Attorney Chad Taylor said Sept. 8 he would no longer prosecute misdemeanors committed in Topeka, including domestic batteries. Taylor said he could no longer afford to prosecute those crimes after county commissioners approved a 2012 budget for his office that cut its funding by 10 percent from the 2011 amount. Taylor indicated his move would require the Topeka city attorney’s office to begin prosecuting those misdemeanors.

When Shawnee County, KS District Attorney Chad Taylor decided to hand over misdemeanor cases, like Claudine Dombrowski’s, to the city, she knew the consequences would be the hardest on victims of domestic violence.  Dombrowski, a victim of violence for 16 years, who ultimately lost the right to custody or visitation with her daughter through years of wrangling in court, speaks from a position of experience and first hand knowledge.

A result of the new ruling, facing the consequences a victim could encounter when the abuser is arrested, then released, she advises victims not to call the police. She says, “You, as a survivor, know how to survive. You just keep surviving. If you call the police right now, and God forbid you end up with the city, you might die.”

Knowing how victims of violence are already treated in an over burdened system, Dombrowski knows it will be even worse if offenders are not properly prosecuted.

According to Kansas First News, ”We know of three cases where judges have released the people accused of domestic violence back out because it’s their understanding that the district attorney will not prosecute and so there may be more of these.”

“Topeka Police Officers are forwarding misdemeanor cases involving domestic violence to the District Attorney’s Office. Stanley says the D.A.’s office has already turned away 30 cases. He believes the  victims and their families are most affected.”

National Intimate Partner Violence Strategist, Susan Murphy Milano says, “This could be a violation of Federal Laws set forth and signed, not with ink, but with the blood of those who have been killed as a result of intimate partner violence. Domestic violence is a criminal act, against the law.  The city officials and the prosecutors need to go into the cemetary business because that’s what’s going to be the most profitable if they allow this to stand.”

Hoping that the city receiving the domestic violence cases is only temporary until the District Attorney’s Office can restore their funding,Dombrowski says, “We’ve just jumped back 30 years into the dark ages, and it’s very dark. The lights just went out in Topeka.”



















For decades now, mothers that have survived domestic violence and family court have continued to scream for justice, now they’re starving for it, literally.  This week in Arizona a mother has made the ultimate sacrifice not only her body but for all mothers that are used and abused by the family court system, she has begun a hunger strike.

In Arizona a judge ordered that a mother be placed in jail for arrears in child support.  Now mind you this mother does not get to see her children in a normal setting to begin with.  This mother, like the thousands of others, is a “non-custodial” mother.  She’s not just a “non-custodial” she is also a domestic abuse survivor, for whatever that’s worth these days anyways.  A domestic violence survivor or victim will receive the worst treatment from the family court system than any other judicial “branch” (besides a rape victim).  But it’s the same if you were raped it was YOUR fault, if you were abused it was YOUR fault.  After 100 years of women in the early 19th century fighting for the right to vote we are still at a place where women are oppressed.  We make less than men, work more and get our children taken away.   Now if all that’s not bad enough at insult to injury when you are thrown into the family court arena.  Now you are “forced” to “co-parent” with your abuser.  That’s right, not only does he have access still to your life he then does everything in his powers (by way of his attorney who is the judges golfing buddy, oh and didn’t I tell ya…the judge knows the abusers dad…they go waaaay back, and the GAL oh yeah he’s golfing buddies with them all too).  Once the abuser becomes the master manipulator that he is and gets by with a  lot of help from his dads friends, soon gets custody.  Then after that it continues with supervised visits (because you are a bad mother in whatever fictitious label they can pin on you) and soon after comes the child support because even though he makes more than you do with working two or three jobs… he can’t do it ALL BY HIMSELF.  My mother did.

Family Court Judges, lawyers, psychologists and other supporters of female victims to interpret the effects and impacts of abuse as equivalent to passivity, incompetence, and poor mental health. So what can women and their supporters do to combat this social problem?

Mothers that have been abused should AVOID family court at all costs.  They should run as fast as they can away, far far away from the abuser, because IF there isn’t “placement order” in place at the time of escape your chances are better than him tracking you down and THEN trying to get the children. ALWAYS have your children in YOUR care and custody. Even IF the abuser just wants to take the kids for “one night”.  Do not fall for the trickery. Many mothers have lost their children this way. Either by the abuser claiming HE had custody (just as mine did) or running off with them or even worse, murder.

So with all this in mind you should also be “aware” that these travesties are not something “new” the courts are doing.  This has been going on for decades.  This started in the 1980’s when more mothers returned to work and became more independent and decided they didn’t need a “Mr. Mom”.  When they began the child support system that spurned the phrase “dead beat dad” for the era that’s when the men folk starting fighting back and then abusers caught on that this system could work to their advantage since we wanted equality after all…didn’t we?

We did and we still do, but even in the year 2011 it is far off.  The right to vote, 19 th amendment was the last and only rights that women have in the constitution.  But if you want to count the 14th amendment which states,

No State shall make or enforce any law which shall abridge the privileges or immunities of citizens of the United States; nor shall any State deprive any person of life, liberty, or property, without due process of law; nor deny to any person within its jurisdiction the equal protection of the laws.

Then again that would mean WE (as in women) have equality in this nation right?  Not really.  With the recent political atmosphere with state governments and their power grabs and war on women’s reproductive rights, we are losing “rights” every day. The women of the 1970’s that started a revolution of women yearning for the Equal Rights Amendment, here we are in the new millennium with only 38 states out of 50 that have “ratified” the ERA.  How much longer?

Now, at this very moment an Arizona mother has taken all she can.  Not unlike the women’s suffragists who went on hunger strikes for the right to place a ballot, she is too.  This mother works two jobs and has limited contact, if any, to her children.  Her abuser has hidden assets and comes from a very “well off” family.  He’s not doing it because he’s starving, he’s doing it because he can.  Years of family court conflicts, collusion and cronyism have taken its toll on this mothers soul.  This woman has decided that she would rather starve and be hospitalized because it matters not what the courts can do to her, THIS is a politicized statement that the family court system is corrupt and we’re not taking it anymore.  We’ve signed petitions, played the niceties with government officials who’ve gave us lip service, we’ve sacrificed our children and our savings accounts, we’ve marched the streets of Washington DC on Mother’s Day, we are done trying to get your attention, we DEMAND it now.

Yesterday was “Day One” of the hunger strike, we are now on “Day Two”.  This mother says she must come up with $2,000 in 60 days or she will be put in jail, per judges orders.  This mother is more deteremined than ever to get out of the circle jerk of family court.  She’s lost everything but her free will.  Perhaps this will be the one thing that she can conrol in her life since her abuser and his colluders continue their rage against her.

So Day Two is sliding into Day Three and I know with all my heart that the tenacity of this mother she is not giving up and we need to stand by her.  I cannot with any good conscience not sound the trumpets for the triumphant return of the suffragists spirits to rise again with us and guide us to freedom of enlslavement of the patriarchy  My prayer and mantra is that we begin our first voyage into the unknown world  non-violent protest.  I beg all victims of the family court system  and their allies align their voices and let the world know we will not ignored.  In the same vane as our Foremothers did and their daughters of the 70’s ERA movement. But this time we really DO get equal rights.

Stay tuned as this blog is about to expose EVERY one of the corrupt family court officials from Arizona

CALA NY Participates in Million Mom March Mother’s Day 2011 in Washington DC.

Sunday, May 8, Mothers Day 2011, the Million Mom March has gathered participants and supporters for mothers who lost custody of their children in Family Courts across America.  Mothers of Lost Children included Linda Marie Sacks representing the American Mothers Political Party.

Representative, and other valuable organizers have been present in this historic march, including NOW Foundation Family Law Ad Hoc Committee, Leadership Council, Justice For Children, Domestic Violence Legal Empowerment & Appeals Project, Stop Family Violence, Battered Mothers Custody Conference, Randi James, Protective Parents for Children’s Rights, California Protective Parent Association, Center for Judicial Excellence, Family Court in America, Talia Carner, and The Coalition Against Legal Abuse.

Tourists and visitors on Capital Hill read the banners with great interest, and displayed absolute shock at the horrors that they were exposed to. People still cannot believe that courts will rip babies away from their mothers, and court order them to live with their abusive or pedophile fathers.

One mother had a poster exclaiming, “792 since I have seen my son”, while other posters had political messages to the President and First Lady, Michelle Obama.

This year saw the participation of Linda Marie Sacks, a mother who has filed a landmark case in the US Supreme Court on the eve of mother’s day. Our prayers are directed to Linda Marie in her pursuit of a favorable decision. This case will pave the road for mothers across America who have the strength and resolve to fight. “Mommy, please do not ever stop fighting for us”. We won’t. We love you too much!

Press Release 02/08/11

World’s Most Famous Beach….World’s Most Scandalous Case

Florida Mother DENIED justice when Presiding Judge Torphy, Judge Evander and Judge Cohen REFUSED  to Review Ruling En banc, Write Written Opinion, and Certify Questions to the Florida Supreme Court on  02/07/11

Constitutional and Human Rights Violations in Family Court Cases Rampant in the U.S.

In the “World’s Most Famous Beach”…Daytona Beach, Florida…………they also have the most scandalous case involving a wealthy millionaire, his power, money, and connections to the community that has most experts involved in the national crisis in the family courts regarding “custody visitation scandal cases” asking when will justice prevail for these Florida  children and their Mother.

National advocates and organization’s  are asking for federal investigations into the crisis in the family courts and have documented  violations of litigants constitutional rights and are advocating for America’s children. The Leadership Counsel and Interpersonal Violence ( research shows that US family courts order about 58,000 children a year into unsupervised contact with physically or sexually abusive parents following divorce in the US.

Dr. Phil in April 2010 had the very 1st show regarding the family courts failure to protect abused children, and family court judges dismissing documented evidence of abuse, and taking away loving, caring Mothers.

Linda Marie Sacks, a “Squeaky Clean Mom”, is headed to the Florida Supreme Court and the U.S. Supreme Court in Washington D.C. in her continued efforts to be re-united with her children, and is speaking  out about this injustice to her children, and the national crisis in the family courts. Her daughter’s teacher said..if you can lose custody, America better wake up, because if you can, anyone can. Her case is a Justice for Children case,(

and they are a national organization who advocate for children in abusive situations when “official avenues” judges, police, Dept of Children and Family,  have failed to protect them.

On 12/21/10 she  filed 3 pro se Motions asking the Fifth District Court of Appeals reconsider their 12/7/10 (Case 5D09-3752) ruling that has violated  her constitutional rights to be a parent to her children. On 02/07/11, the Fifth District Court of Appeals, with Presiding Judge Torphy, Judge Evander and Judge Cohen, DENIED all of her Motions, and affirmed the erroneous ruling by the trial court of Judge Shawn L. Briese.

This is her second appeal before the court of appeals. In her first appeal, (Case 5D07-1682) the ruling on custody of her children was REVERSED AND REMANDED due to violations of this Mothers constitutional rights to due process and the opportunity to be heard. In their ruling they stated that Mothers hand written Motion for Continuance was legally sufficient, and should not  have been denied by Judge Briese, and the hearing to decide custody of the minor children should NEVER have taken place. This rare reversal by an appeals court provided NO relief to Mother and her children as the trial court of Judge Shawn L. Briese refused to be disqualified from her case, or VACATE the unjust supervised visitation ruling.

Mother appealed to the Fifth District Court of Appeals in a Writ of Prohibition, (Case 5D08-3668) and provided documented evidence of judicial misconduct by Judge Briese, and the attorneys of record for the Father, James L. Rose of Rice and Rose, and Leonard R. Ross of Ross and Burden. The documented evidence of judicial misconduct included violations of Judges Canon #3, Fl. Ad Code 2.330, ex parte communication with the attorneys of record and violations of her constitutional rights. The Fifth District Court of Appeals DENIED her Writ and Judge Briese was allowed to hear the “Rehearing of the Custody of Minor Children” in April 2009.

In this hearing, (Case 2004-30312 FMCI) Judge Briese refused to allow Mothers witnesses to testify and refused to allow her exhibits. In his oral ruling he stated that mother did not buy greeting cards for children to give to the father, and mother did a Channel 9 news interview in New York and this was a concern to the court, and so she MUST continue to stay on Supervised Visitation. It WAS NOT a concern that Father admitted to an altercation with his daughter at 8 years old and this resulted in her getting a split lip and blood. This matched Mothers Domestic Violence Injunction of Protection, Police Reports and DCF reports. Father also admitted to “wiping down the vaginas” of his school age children, which also matched the Domestic Violence Injunction of Protection, Police and DCF reports. This credible evidence was DISMISSED, IGNORED and SUPRESSED by the trial court of Judge Shawn L. Breise, and now, DISMISSED, IGNORED and SUPRRESSED by the Fifth District Court of Appeals, as they have just AFFIRMED the trial court’s ruling.

With only 79 hours of contact in 3 years and 10 months…under Supervised Visitation at the local Family visitation center, for two hours a month……..this “squeaky clean” class Mom, soccer Mom, community volunteer, with no drugs, no alcohol, no abuse, nothing……just a loving, caring Mother lost custody of her children… will have to continue on with the Supervised Visitation, with NO case plan or reunification plan provided by the trial court. This Mother is the LONGEST family law referral in the history of the Daytona Beach supervised visitation center….now at 3 years and 10 months.

National Advocates, experts, and Mothers were in Albany, New York on  Jan.7, 8,and 9th, 2011  for the Annual Battered Mothers Custody Conference,( to address this national crisis of  Mothers losing custody with documented evidence of abuse to their children, and safe, protective parents  having all of their contact with their children either terminated  by the family courts or are being place on supervised visitation for years without a case plan or reunification plan.

The trend documented by the latest research is that judges routinely dismiss, ignore and suppress documented evidence of abuse to the children in the “custody-visitation scandal cases”, and batterers are asking for Sole Physical Custody and are successful 70% of the time. and

The Florida NOW, National Organization for Women Ad Hoc Family Law Committee has published a brochure a “Crisis for Women in Family Court: What to Expect and How to Fight Back”. (

Numerous national organizations are demanding  federal investigations into the crisis in the family courts and asking for congressional hearings to address these human rights violations to America’s children and their Mothers.

The latest research on this issue is in the book Domestic Violence, Abuse, and Child Custody Legal Strategies and Policy Issues Edited by Barry Goldstein, J.D. and Dr. Mo Therese Hannah. And can be found at

Linda Marie’s daughters said “Mommy fight for us and do something every day to get us back and don’t ever stop. So after 3 years and 9 months, this Florida Mother is now more determined than ever, and is headed to the Florida Supreme Court and then on to the U.S. Supreme Court. She has kept her promise to her daughter’s and now she is speaking up for her children and all of America’s children.

For more information  on this crisis in the family courts please contact:

Center for Judicial Excellence

California Protective Parent Association

Domestic Violence Legal Empowerment and Appeals Project

Stop Family Violence

Randi James

Court Whores

American Mothers Political Party

Family Court in America

Talia Carner

Protective Parents for Children’s Rights

Liz Notes

Many thanks to all who are part of the solution to the crisis in the family courts. You are all true American heroes.

For contact information re: this press release please contact:

Linda Marie Sacks


Written by Melanie Smith, UN Mothers

Tuesday, 08 February 2011 08:42
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As many are aware, there is a silent genocide occurring against women. This is part of a major reason why women all over the world are united to end violence against women.  What many do not know or connect is that a lot of women experiencing violence perpetrated against them are also mothers.  Many ads on stopping violence against women portray women without children as a means to get the message across clearly; but they fail to represent the large proportion of mothers in this situation.
Experts in intimate partner violence have noted that there is a high correlation between abuse and pregnancy.  Some scholars state that this is because they are envious of the relationship between the mother and the child.  Using violence, coercion and control is often part of the effort to destroy these bonds.  The problem then exacerbates when a mother tries to leave–often not to save herself but to save the child.  Leaving is one of the most dangerous times for all women enduring intimate partner violence, and, accompanied with an inadequate system, the odds are stacked against her.  With a community plagued by stereotypes on child custody cases, closed courtrooms and loopholes in laws compounded by pop-psychology, we have a situation where most mothers in this predicament are torn away from the children they tried to protect.  In the 1980s, Dr Richard Gardner coined the term, “Parent Alienation Syndrome”.
This term remained a term only, because most of the scientific community rejected it.  His literature promoted ideas that victims of abuse were mentally ill and deliberately raised concerns about the abuse as an act of hate.  Dr Richard Gardner also testified in a homicide case where a mother was shot 13 times.  Gardner claimed that her “alienating behavior” drove him to kill her.  Although the scientific community rejected Parent Alienation Syndrome, the legal community embraced it.  Carefully removing the word “syndrome”, the belief set remained.  Whilst his work began in US, he traveled around the world promoting these ideas to court professionals and others who had a direct influence on child custody case outcomes.  Some organizations that offer training for judges even held workshops on “maternal gate-keeping”, which trivialized the experiences of women and children leaving intimate partner violence.   Whilst Dr. Gardner passed away several years ago, his doctrine lives on and others have polished up his work to continue its grave influence upon the legal community.
Mothers are often subjected to degrading treatment within the courtrooms where they are forced to deny their experiences and their need to survive and protect–or they will face jail.  All legal avenues within this culture are blocked.  This is why we have a battered mothers custody conference where mothers, professionals and young people unite to end violence against women and children through the system.  It is why I traveled all the way from Australia to be there this year amongst others who have also traveled from other parts of the globe to attend.  It is a global issue that affects many.
This year, Holly Ann Collins, the first American to receive asylum in Netherlands, spoke about her ordeal.  Revered by many as a brave mother who, against all odds, was able to save herself and her children.  She was listed and hunted by US as an abductor even though they knew why she ran.  She arrived at the airport with a suitcase of evidence which led to her being granted asylum.  She was hard on herself because she did not do it sooner.  Whilst leaving with the children under these circumstances should be seen as the best thing to do, there is no legal avenue to do so.  Some laws and treaties appear from the surface to have some consideration of women and children experiencing violence, but the processes, culture, economics and ambiguity of the situation stifle opportunities to do so.  Holly Ann Collins’ outcome is a rare one.  We need better laws that protect mothers and children from violence without punishment or further victimization

As many are aware, there is a silent genocide occurring against women. This is part of a major reason why women all over the world are united to end violence against women.  What many do not know or connect is that a lot of women experiencing violence perpetrated against them are also mothers.  Many ads on stopping violence against women portray women without children as a means to get the message across clearly; but they fail to represent the large proportion of mothers in this situation.

Experts in intimate partner violence have noted that there is a high correlation between abuse and pregnancy.  Some scholars state that this is because they are envious of the relationship between the mother and the child.  Using violence, coercion and control is often part of the effort to destroy these bonds.  The problem then exacerbates when a mother tries to leave–often not to save herself but to save the child.  Leaving is one of the most dangerous times for all women enduring intimate partner violence, and, accompanied with an inadequate system, the odds are stacked against her.  With a community plagued by stereotypes on child custody cases, closed courtrooms and loopholes in laws compounded by pop-psychology, we have a situation where most mothers in this predicament are torn away from the children they tried to protect.  In the 1980s, Dr Richard Gardner coined the term, “Parent Alienation Syndrome”.

This term remained a term only, because most of the scientific community rejected it.  His literature promoted ideas that victims of abuse were mentally ill and deliberately raised concerns about the abuse as an act of hate.  Dr Richard Gardner also testified in a homicide case where a mother was shot 13 times.  Gardner claimed that her “alienating behavior” drove him to kill her.  Although the scientific community rejected Parent Alienation Syndrome, the legal community embraced it.  Carefully removing the word “syndrome”, the belief set remained.  Whilst his work began in US, he traveled around the world promoting these ideas to court professionals and others who had a direct influence on child custody case outcomes.  Some organizations that offer training for judges even held workshops on “maternal gate-keeping”, which trivialized the experiences of women and children leaving intimate partner violence.   Whilst Dr. Gardner passed away several years ago, his doctrine lives on and others have polished up his work to continue its grave influence upon the legal community.

Mothers are often subjected to degrading treatment within the courtrooms where they are forced to deny their experiences and their need to survive and protect–or they will face jail.  All legal avenues within this culture are blocked.  This is why we have a battered mothers custody conference where mothers, professionals and young people unite to end violence against women and children through the system.  It is why I traveled all the way from Australia to be there this year amongst others who have also traveled from other parts of the globe to attend.  It is a global issue that affects many.

This year, Holly Ann Collins, the first American to receive asylum in Netherlands, spoke about her ordeal.  Revered by many as a brave mother who, against all odds, was able to save herself and her children.  She was listed and hunted by US as an abductor even though they knew why she ran.  She arrived at the airport with a suitcase of evidence which led to her being granted asylum.  She was hard on herself because she did not do it sooner.  Whilst leaving with the children under these circumstances should be seen as the best thing to do, there is no legal avenue to do so.  Some laws and treaties appear from the surface to have some consideration of women and children experiencing violence, but the processes, culture, economics and ambiguity of the situation stifle opportunities to do so.  Holly Ann Collins’ outcome is a rare one.  We need better laws that protect mothers and children from violence without punishment or further victimization.


American Mothers Political Party stands Behind Kim Damrow– (MI) Judge M. Richard Knoblock being investigated for jailing mom without ‘cause’ now, AMPP believes JUDGE ‘faked’ his own death threat to FBI. AMPP is calling him out this Thursday on BTR


American Mothers Political Party stands Behind Kim Damrow of Michigan

American Mothers Political Party BTR Show: This Thursday February 2, 2011 at 5 PM CST- 6 PM EST Call-in Number: (347) 205-9977

American Mothers Political Party will have special guest Kim Damrow the mother recently sentenced to 12 hours in jail for custodial interference in Michigan. She is also the current wife of a state representative 84th District State Rep. Kurt E. Damrow  for Michigan .  Apparently now M. Richard Knoblock allowed her now to wait until Monday to serve the time as her child was hospitalized (so nice of him!)

The FBI received a complaint that “someone” (AMPP believes the Judge himself) that went to courthouse for the protest on Thurs or Friday in her support —-that the judge’s life was threatened. So now all her supporters are jumping ship…scared that the feds are coming in.

Anyone will to help out with blogging story and/or promoting Thurs show is much appreciated.

“I think that the feds should investigate and I also think that the judge reported it himself. fishy…”

    • She files complaint:
    • Judge then says he was threatened- after a large protest at courthouse and the complaint filed.(what a crock)


See articles below:

Breaking news: Attorney reports violation of code of conduct

Published: Saturday, January 29, 2011 2:41 PM EST

BAD AXE – On Saturday, the attorney for Kim Damrow told the Tribune there has been information released that violates the code of conduct of professional responsibility imposed upon all judicial officials, attorneys and courthouse personnel.

“It’s not the press that violated the code,” said Nicole Saady, of Grosse Pointe.

Of the information that has been released, Saady said,  she has not verified all of it.

At this time, in the interest of protecting the safety, privacy and personal feelings of the Damrow family, all press inquiries are to go through Saady, she said.

Look to the Huron Daily Tribune as more details become available.

Editor’s note: Due to the high number of libelous comments posted under related articles, comments have been disabled on this article.


Hanson: Threat made against judge

By Kate Hessling

Tribune Staff Writer

Published: Saturday, January 29, 2011 2:40 PM EST

BAD AXE — Police are investigating an alleged threat made earlier this week against Huron County Circuit Court Judge M. Richard Knoblock.

“We’ve received information of a threat against the judge and we’re looking into it, along with contacting the FBI,” Huron County Sheriff Kelly J. Hanson told the Tribune after being asked about the situation Friday.

Hanson stressed the investigation still is in the early stages.

“We don’t know how far along we’ll go with it, and I can’t comment about it other than it involves the formation of this rally,” Hanson said, referring to a rally supporters held for Kim Damrow.

Damrow was sentenced Monday to 12 hours in jail for violating a court order allowing the father of her 4-year-old son visitation. She said she did so in an effort to protect her son, as she said her ex-husband has a violent past and she does not believe he has reformed.

Damrow’s sentencing on Monday was followed by a number of events, specifically a large swelling of support organized on Facebook.

State Rep. Kurt E. Damrow, Kim Damrow’s husband, said he was appalled when learning of the threat.

“I’m appalled at a public figure being threatened — just as appalled as I am at a child being threatened,” he said.

Kurt Damrow said there should be no type of physical threats.

“This is a matter of compassion and love for children,” he said. “It just goes against everything that we’re presenting. … Any threat of violence of any type like this has no business on either side — either for or against.”

Hanson said given the recent shootings in Arizona, the threat has to be taken seriously.

“We don’t have any choice but to look at it,” he said. “ … We’re going to take it serious and look into it.”

Editor’s note: Due to the high number of libelous comments posted, comments have been disabled on this article.


Damrow released early

Allowed to be with sick son, but has to report back to jail next week

BAD AXE — Within hours after being booked in the Huron County Jail to serve a 12-hour sentence for contempt of court for not allowing the father of her youngest son visitation, Kim Damrow walked out of the courthouse a free woman —for the time being.

While picketers outside the Huron County Building were glad to see her free, the freedom didn’t come as a result of the court changing its mind: It was because her 4-year-old son was in the hospital.

Damrow, who is married to 84th District State Rep. Kurt E. Damrow, said her son, Boden, was running a very high temperature and Kurt Damrow took him to the hospital about 4 – 4:30 a.m. Friday. Kim Damrow said she could not go to the hospital because she had to be in Bad Axe to check in at the jail at 7 a.m. that morning.

The Damrows said Boden had a 103 degree temperature, was diagnosed with having influenza A, and the child was being held at Scheurer Hospital for observation.

Following a conference with attorneys involved in the case, Huron County Circuit Court Judge M. Richard Knoblock ordered Kim Damrow could leave the jail Saturday to be with her son, though she would have to return to the jail at 9 a.m. Saturday, Feb. 5 to complete the remainder of her sentence.

Kim Damrow was sentenced to spend 12 hours in jail and pay $1,000 in fines/costs during a contempt hearing Monday. The hearing was one of many that have been held in a custody battle for 4-year-old Boden Noworyta, the son of Kim Damrow and Dustin J. Noworyta.

The parents

Noworyta married Kimberly S. (Dufty) Langley Sept. 23, 2005 by a Justice of Peace in Monroe County, according to the complaint of divorce.

Kimberly S. Noworyta filed the complaint for divorce in the family division of the Huron County Circuit Court May 22, 2008. The couple had lived together as husband and wife until on or about May 19, 2008, records state.

Kimberly and Dustin Noworyta had one child during their marriage, Boden J. Noworyta. Kimberly Noworyta had a second son from a previous marriage, and Dustin Noworyta had two daughters from two different relationships.

Since the divorce, Dustin Noworyta has reconciled with the mother of one of the two prior relationships, and he currently lives with her and her daughter. The other mother has full custody of Noworyta’s other daughter.

Following the divorce, Kimberly Noworyta’s prior name, Kimberly S. Dufty, was restored. The divorce order awarded Dufty full custody of Boden, and Dustin Noworyta was allowed supervised parenting time with the child, and that time was to be arranged by Dufty, the plaintiff. Noworyta, the defendant, also was ordered to pay $241 a month in child support.

Dufty lived in the Upper Thumb area with her two sons since the judgment of divorce was order and filed Jan. 1, 2009.

Court records indicate Noworyta had three visits with Boden prior to May 2010, and there was a 15-month period when there were no father-son visits.

May 2010

On May 5, 2010, Noworyta filed a motion in Huron County Circuit Court, alleging Dufty denied him parenting time and it is in the best interest of the child to establish parenting time.

“During the past year, every attempt to spend time with my son has been met with last minute cancellations, refusing to show and not providing an address for me to visit my son,” he states in that motion regarding parenting time. “The last time I have been allowed to see my son was over one year ago.”

Noworyta stated he had been refused phone calls with his son.

“I am trying to stay connected with my son to the best of my abilities being over three hours away, and would at least love to hear his voice between visits,” his motion states.

In her response to Noworyta’s motion, Damrow disputes the claims in his motion, stating she has not disobeyed the parenting order. It also outlined the circumstances of the three visits that took place since the divorce and her willingness to allow Noworyta to see Boden, so long as it’s in a safe place.

“I explained to him that if he wants to see Boden, he would have to come to Huron County and give me ample time to find a safe place to meet,” she said in her response, filed May 13, 2010. “I would not feel comfortable, nor would I feel safe, taking my son out of the county to an area that I am not knowledgeable of and meeting him with my son.”

She asked the court to not issue or establish parenting time because it would not be in the best interest of her son.

“I greatly fear that there is a likelihood of abuse during even supervised visitation, both mentally and physically,” Dufty stated.

Dufty said she tried to discuss adoption with Dustin because he begged one of the mothers of his other daughter’s to put that child up for adoption in the past, and had gone as long as four years without seeing that child, even though the daughter lived just 5 miles away from him.

Secondly, she said Kurt Damrow is the only father figure that Boden has known.

“At some point, I admit, it is my hope that Kurt will be allowed to adopt Boden, as he is a loving and constant man in Boden’s life,” Dufty stated.

Kimberly S. Dufty and Kurt Damrow were married May 22, 2010. Her legal name then changed to Kimberly (Kim) S. Damrow.

June/July 2010

On June 18, 2010, Noworyta filed a motion regarding parenting time and other relief, asking the court to require Kim Damrow to comply with the parenting time provisions in the judgment of divorce and to provide make-up time for her denial of parenting time.

On July 1, Knoblock ruled Noworyta could have supervised parenting for four hours on a select number of Sundays, through and including Aug. 22, 2010. The order stated the parties were to meet at the McDonald’s restaurant in Frankenmuth, and Noworyta then would have parenting time with Boden in the Frankenmuth area. Each party was allowed to bring an observer with them.

The order also required both parents, along with Boden, had to have psychologicals done by a psychologist as agreed to between the parties, at the expense of the plaintiff, Kim Damrow (because she asked the court to order the evaluations).

August 2010

On Aug. 17, 2010, Noworyta filed a motion for contempt and expanded parenting time, alleging Kim Damrow denied him parenting time July 25, 2010. The motion also states Kim Damrow was refusing to tell Boden Noworyta is his father; threatened to cut short or deny visits if Noworyta were to tell Boden he is his son.”

The motion states Kim Damrow repeatedly frustrated Noworyta’s efforts to call Boden, and Noworyta rarely had a normal conversation with Boden without interruption from Kim Damrow.

“ … It appears (Kim Damrow) is uncontrollable by anyone and will do what she pleases, even if it is in direct violation of the court’s order; (and) that she continues to obstruct any attempt of (Noworyta) to establish a personal relationship with his soon, going even so far as objecting to Boden being told (Noworyta) is his father.”

Noworyta’s motion states unless Kim Damrow’s held in contempt by the court for failing to abide by a stipulated court order, it will continue to be a struggle for Noworyta to have a normal relationship with his son.

The motion also states while appointments for the psychologicals had been scheduled to the satisfaction of both parties, Kim Damrow canceled them without notice to Noworyta or her attorney.

In her Aug. 19, 2010 response to the motion, Kim Damrow explained she had a change in attorneys since the previous hearing, and she was in contact with the individual who was to do the evaluation, and she asked the judge to postpone her evaluation. Also, her response states, the clinic was the one to cancel Noworyta’s appointment because they were unable to reach him by telephone.

As for the claims she denied him parenting time, Kim Damrow explained she was very ill on July 25, 2010 and tried numerous times to reach Noworyta, however, he did not have a phone so she could called the numerous phone numbers he makes calls from. She said she also sent e-mails to his partner and sister-in-law hours before he had to leave Dundee to go to Frankenmuth that day.

“I did tell Dustin that we should bring him back into Boden’s life slowly and that as sensitive as Boden is, let’s try to feel him out the best we can before we explain who (Noworyta) is,” she stated in her response. Her response claims when Noworyta first brought up the subject with Boden, Noworyta grabbed Boden and sat him on his lap very hard, shouting “Do you know who I am? I am your father.” And he broke out in tears, she said.

Regarding the difficulty of having phone conversations, Kim Damrow’s statement notes Boden rarely talks on the phone to anyone because he was 3 years old.

First contempt hearing

During the contempt hearing on Aug. 30, 2010, the accounts of the previous visitations and Noworyta’s mental stability were as different as black and white.

Noworyta’s Bad Axe attorney, Duane Cubitt, said the visitations went fine, and Boden and Noworyta got along fine, according to transcripts from the hearing.

“My time with Boden went great,” Noworyta said. “Kim spent a lot of time in the background trying to make it miserable, but that was about it …”

Cubitt painted Kim Damrow as being uncooperative, and said his client believes Kim Damrow intentionally did not show up for the July 25 parenting time.

He said she was being difficult as to the visitation’s venue, not allowing Noworyta to take Boden outside of the McDonald’s restaurant to go to a museum or park.

During her testimony, Kim Damrow said Boden was a different child before she divorced Noworyta.

“When Dustin was with us … all my family, they thought something was wrong with us. He was 21 months (old), he quit smiling, he was sullen, he was sad … you could tell he was fearful,” she said in the hearing transcripts. “It took a long time to bring him back to where he is today.”

That’s why Kim Damrow said she asked the court that if he wants visitation, it’s his obligation to prove his circumstances have changed. She testified he should be responsible for paying for his own evaluation, then following the psychologist’s orders and get treatment and take parenting classes

During cross examination, Kim Damrow told the court she was going to wait to tell Boden that Noworyta is his father.

“We were going to counseling as soon as possible to deal with it …,” she said. “I don’t want to mess him up any more than he’s been messed up. I don’t know the answers completely, I’m not claiming to be the best mother, I do my best.”

When asked if she doesn’t think Boden’s entitled to know who his dad is, Kim Damrow said yes — if Noworyta sticks around and gets mentally healthy.

Cubitt argued Noworyta is not unstable and he’s very capable of parenting children.

“So I don’t know where Kim comes up with this idea that somehow or other he’s a violent person and that her child is somehow endangered if he is around Boden without her being present,” Cubitt said.

With regard to her testimony about the child negatively reacting to the previous visitations, Cubitt said, “I mean, what 3-year-old wouldn’t be based on what the mother is putting this kid through. She won’t even acknowledge that Dustin, my client, is the child’s father. And that kind of gives you an insight into what kind of person she really is.”

But Kim Damrow’s stance has been that the safety of her child comes first, and she is doing what she can to protect — not harm — him.

Knoblock ordered the visitations take place for six hours in Huron County on alternate weekends, and the parties meet at the McDonald’s restaurant in Bad Axe. The judge ordered Noworyta’s mother or grandmother be present during all parenting times. He also ordered the psychological evaluations be scheduled and done.

He did not hold Kim Damrow in contempt.

“But if there’s further problems, I won’t hesitate to do that,” Knoblock warned. “But I’m not going to at this time.

November 2010

On Nov. 12, 2010, Kim Damrow entered an emergency motion asking the court to modify it’s Aug. 30, 2010 decision. Among the reasons, was an Oct. 31, 2010 incident where she says Noworyta acted in a violent manner. Also, she said it is not in the best interest of the child to participate in overnight visitation with Noworyta until his psychological records are produced by Huron Behavioral Health for evaluation and the psychological evaluations of are performed.

In Noworyta’s response, which Cubitt filed Nov. 19, 2010, Noworyta denies it is not in the child’s best interest to delay overnight visitation; claims Kim Damrow has had several months to complete the psychologicals; the parenting time has gone well; and the father and son enjoy each other’s company.

“Boden is a normal child when with (Noworyta),” the response reads. “He laughs, plays and is very interactive; Boden is full of life.”

Also on Nov. 19, 2010, Cubitt filed a motion for clarification, asking the court to, among other things, to expand the amount of parenting time to include all time provided for in the Huron County Friend of the Court parenting time guidelines, including extended summer parenting time.

In her answer to that motion, Kim Damrow asked the court deny the request.

December 2010

On Dec. 3, 2010, Knoblock ordered the psychological testing of all the parties be done in Bad Axe, as requested by Kim Damrow, and that there had to be make-up time scheduled because Kim Damrow failed to deliver Boden to the parenting time exchange location in Frankenmuth on Nov. 26.

On Dec. 4, 2010, Noworyta filed a motion asking the court to hold Kim Damrow in contempt because, among other complaints, she did not allow him visitation on Dec. 10, 2010.

Second contempt hearing

During a Dec. 16, 2010 public hearing, the court heard arguments and reviewed a doctor’s note stating Boden had been sick. The note didn’t specifically state he was too sick for visitation, and Kim Damrow was told future doctor notes would have to include that in order to suffice in court.

Knoblock did order to hold Kim Damrow in contempt of court for failing to providing parenting time the court previously ordered. However, he held the punishment in abeyance, pending her further compliance with the court’s parenting time orders.

The court also ordered arrangements be made for psychologicals and set Christmas parenting times.

The assessments

Tammy L. McPherson, licensed professional counselor of Bad Axe, conducted the psychological assessments on Kim Damrow and Noworyta pursuant to the Dec. 16, 2010 order.

According to the assessment, Kim Damrow reported no medical or mental health history.

“She is not prescribed any medications, however, does report high levels of stress, no appetite, difficulty sleeping and chest pains. She believes these symptoms are due to her fear about her son Boden’s safety while in care of (Noworyta),” McPherson’s letter states. “(Kim Damrow) believes her marriage to (Noworyta) to be one of physical and emotional abuse.”

McPherson reported that after further discussion regarding Kim Damrow’s fears, it is apparent (Kim Damrow) is concerned Boden could be emotionally abused by his father.

McPherson’s letter states Noworyta has no medical or legal history.

“He reports receiving mental health services for a short period of time in 2008, through Huron Behavioral Health,” she said, noting he signed a release to give her his records, and also released records from the Department of Human Services in order for the therapist to confirm he does not have an open case with any DHS agency, and no open case in any county was confirmed.

“After reviewing his records from HBH, it is apparent (Noworyta) was struggling with depression and utilizing alcohol as a coping mechanism,” McPherson’s letter reads. “He reports to not continuing the prescribed medication for depression, as he felt it wasn’t needed after he moved back to his hometown and was divorced. He reports being sober for the last three years. He denies any mood swings or depression currently.”

In her recommendations, McPherson said both parties would benefit from counseling (together) to resolve the conflicts that are preventing them from working as a parental team. She said it would be helpful for both parties to learn healthy communication skills and conflict resolution techniques.

January 2011

The defense filed a motion Jan. 18 asking the court to hold Kim Damrow in contempt for failing to allow parenting time previously ordered by the court for Jan. 14.

The motion states Boden enjoyed his Christmas parenting time with his father and step siblings, but did go home a half day early because Boden indicated he missed his mother and wanted to be returned to her. When it was time for the next visitation on Jan. 14, Kim Damrow failed to deliver Boden, the motion states.

Kim Damrow told the Tribune when she picked Boden up from the last visitation Noworyta was acting very suspicious, repeatedly stating she couldn’t call the cops. When she met him to pick up Boden, she said the child was screaming and crying, clinging to her and he would not look at Noworyta. She said Noworyta “just kept apologizing.”

She said she was concerned and took Boden to his pediatrician, Dr. Kala Reddy, to get a physical Jan. 3. According to a report submitted to the court from that doctor’s visit, it was stated that Boden was complaining of neck pain, had not eaten very well and had a temperature of 101. It also was noted Boden was fearful in the car, refusing to go to even a friend’s/relative’s house.

Reddy recommended the mother continue counseling, and she reassured Kim Damrow that she did not see any evidence of trauma to Boden’s neck.

Kim Damrow was able to take Boden back to the pediatrician Jan. 6. The reason for the visit was because the child had not been sleeping, and was in pain in his mouth because he was chewing the insides of his cheeks.

In her observation, Reddy reported Boden “is rather too quiet for his age and looks worried and pretty anxious. … He does not appear to be acutely physically ill, though.”

After a detailed physical, Reddy diagnosed the child’s condition as acute separation anxiety. In a Jan. 14 letter, she states she does not recommend he be removed from his mother at this time without the advice of a psychiatrist or child psychologist.

Both the defense and the court were unaware of the doctor’s note.

In the defense’s Jan. 18 motion, Noworyta asks the court to hold Kim Damrow in contempt and punish her accordingly, and require the plaintiff reimburse Noworyta for attorney fees and other costs.

Third contempt hearing

During a four and a half hour contempt hearing Monday, of which the complete transcripts are not yet available, Reddy testified about her dealings with Boden and her letter and written observations were admitted into evidence.

Despite the explanations given, Knoblock held Kim Damrow in contempt, noting “it’s clear to me from all the hearings I’ve had, the testimony that I’ve heard, and including hers and that of other people presented during these hearings, that she does not want (this) father (to) be in the life of the child, she wants to cut him out, that’s what she wants to do,” according to partial transcripts that were available Friday.

Knoblock said he believes Kim Damrow’s actions border on child abuse.

However, in regard to Reddy’s testimony, he said an evaluation needs to be done. He ordered an appointment be made, and that order was fulfilled later that afternoon.

Until the evaluation is complete, the judge ordered the defense hold off on the two phone calls the court awarded him for each week, and ordered future visitation be supervised.

Emergency hearing

Kim Damrow’s attorney argued submitted an emergency motion for stay and appeal Thursday, noting the plaintiff did not have enough time to prepare for a criminal contempt charge, it was believed the charge was civil. The attorney, Nicole Saady, of Grosse Pointe, noted she was hired to represent Damrow on Saturday.

Thus, the court was denying Kim Damrow’s due process rights by not giving her enough time to represent herself.

She also argued that Kim Damrow should be able to purge herself, i.e. correct the offense by providing make-up parenting time.

Knoblock disagreed, stating the motion specifically asked she be punished, which adequately put her on notice that she was being charged with criminal contempt for willfully disobeying a court order.

While he sentenced her to 12 hours in jail, Knoblock said the law provides that for a criminal contempt charge, the defendant could be sentenced up to 93 days in jail and fined up to $7,500.

Both sides respond

Cubitt said in no way is his client a threat to his son. He explained Noworyta left his job to move to Huron County and had problems finding employment, which lead to depression. Matters worsened as the divorce was not amicable, and it wasn’t until Noworyta moved out of the area that he was able to get back on his feet financially and turn his life around. Once he had, he filed a motion for parenting time to spend time with his child, Cubitt said.

But Kim Damrow said he hasn’t changed, and if anything, he’s gotten worse. She voiced frustrations that she is trying to protect her child, but the system is not allowing her to do so.

“I can’t protect my child, and it is the most horrifying feeling for a mother,” Kim Damrow told the Tribune.

On Friday, Kim Damrow vehemently disagreed that she is the cause of Boden’s anguish.

“Some have questioned whether Kurt and I are the ones causing the mental anguish. What a gross injustice of the system to accuse the mother, when the mother has no mental health issues,” Kim Damrow told the Tribune. “But the father’s records from Huron Behavioral Health clearly show that he had depression, that he abused alcohol and he was abusive. Why would she not be concerned for child?” Especially when Dr. Kayla Reddy, Boden’s pediatrician and the only professional to have ever seen Boden throughout this entire thing, Dr. Reddy says after a visit with his father, there was a drastic change in his behavior which she witnessed. And Dr. Reddy had cause to be alarm, and Dr. Reddy asked the court to not remove him from his mother at this time, and that by further removing him from his mother could cause permanent damage — that’s huge.”

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2010 in review

Posted: January 2, 2011 in activism

The stats helper monkeys at mulled over how this blog did in 2010, and here’s a high level summary of its overall blog health:

Healthy blog!

The Blog-Health-o-Meter™ reads Wow.

Crunchy numbers

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About 3 million people visit the Taj Mahal every year. This blog was viewed about 42,000 times in 2010. If it were the Taj Mahal, it would take about 5 days for that many people to see it.

In 2010, there were 65 new posts, growing the total archive of this blog to 268 posts. There were 78 pictures uploaded, taking up a total of 5mb. That’s about 2 pictures per week.

The busiest day of the year was November 22nd with 396 views. The most popular post that day was PHOENIX.

Where did they come from?

The top referring sites in 2010 were,,, and

Some visitors came searching, mostly for phoenix, angel, domestic violence, joan of arc, and pig man.

Attractions in 2010

These are the posts and pages that got the most views in 2010.


PHOENIX December 2009


Fallen Angel—-How many more have to die? January 2009






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Mildred D. Muhammad Special Guest on American Mothers Political Party Show 12/9/2010 5:00 PM CST

In domestic law on December 7, 2010 at 2:58 pm

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Thursday — 12/9/2010 5:00 PM CST, 6 PM EST

Special Guest! Mildred D. Muhammad, Mother, Domestic Violence Advocate, Consultant, Author, International/National Spokesperson on Domestic Violence. Keynote Speaker at Conferences. domestic violence survivor with a story to tell the world.

Many know her first and foremost by her former husband, John Allen Muhammad – the convicted and now executed DC sniper who terrorized the Washington DC metro region in late 2002.

However, many are not aware that the reasons for the horrific attacks on innocent women, children and men in the DC Metro area, originated from John Allen Muhammad’s stalking and the control tactics he used on Mildred, his former wife, whom he sought to find and kill before, during and after the divorce.

After several years of silence, Mildred speaks openly about her day-to-day experiences as a survivor of domestic violence and how it affected her three children.

Mildred with Shannon Wilson from Mothers of Lost Children on Mothers Day 2010. Mothers from all over gathered in front of the Whitehouse to bring awarness to abusers getting custody of children.


Nobody Likes Me :(

First he pouted….

Whiney, Whiney Dr. Richard Warshak—HE alone responsible for Censorship of Comments on Huffington Post


Poor Richard Warshak.  He asked for commenters to come to his Huffington Post article and comment.  A few of us did, and he refused to post the comments.  He censored out everything that didn’t show adoration for him.  That is what he wanted.  Afterall, he has a book and “expert testimony” services to sell.  Now he is whining about those who he censored…there are many that are upset about this.

Several comments were made about the American Bar Association, the American Judges Association, the National District Attorney’s Association and the National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges debunking the use of “parental alienation” in child custody cases because of it’s well known use by abusers to take custody of children.  Of course, anyone who makes the kind of money that Warshak makes ($20,000 per patient per four days in “treatment”) doesn’t care who claimed what for what purpose, they just know they will make money.  He doesn’t care that children may be in the custody of someone who beat the other parent, probably in front of the children, or may have even been sexually abusing the children.  No, he doesn’t care, but the professional organizations know what the deal is.  They know that victims of abuse have lost their children to abusers, and corrupt individuals that support the use of this legal tactic should be shut down:

2009: A Judicial Guide to Child Safety in Custody Cases
National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges Family Violence Department

Page 12:
C. [§3.3] A Word of Caution about Parental Alienation34

Under relevant evidentiary standards, the court should not accept testimony regarding parental alienation syndrome, or “PAS.” The theory positing the existence of PAS has been discredited by the scientific community.35 In Kumho Tire v. Carmichael, 526 U.S. 137 (1999), the Supreme Court ruled that even expert testimony based in the “soft sciences” must meet the standard set in the Daubert case.36 Daubert, in which the court re-examined the standard it had earlier articulated in the Frye37 case, requires application of a multi-factor test, including peer review, publication, testability, rate of error, and general acceptance. PAS does not pass this test. Any testimony that a party to a custody case suffers from the syndrome or “parental alienation” should therefore be ruled inadmissible and stricken from the evaluation report under both the standard established in Daubert and the earlier Frye standard.38

The discredited “diagnosis” of PAS (or an allegation of “parental alienation”), quite apart from its scientific invalidity, inappropriately asks the court to assume that the child’s behaviors and attitudes toward the parent who claims to be “alienated” have no grounding in reality. It also diverts attention away from the behaviors of the abusive parent, who may have directly influenced the child’s responses by acting in violent, disrespectful, intimidating, humiliating, or discrediting ways toward the child or the other parent. The task for the court is to distinguish between situations in which the child is critical of one parent because they have been inappropriately manipulated by the other (taking care not to rely solely on subtle indications) , and situations in which the child has his or her own legitimate grounds for criticism or fear of a parent, which will likely be the case when that parent has perpetrated domestic violence. Those grounds do not become less legitimate because the abused parent shares them, and seeks to advocate for the child by voicing his or her concerns.

Then he got spanked….

Richard Warshak Responds To Critics – And The Countess Responds To Him

So look at this. After all the attention Richard Warshak’s critics have received – including dominating Google searches – he finally addresses them – and completely misses the boat. His comments are indented and in italics. My responses are in between.

Parental Alienation: Impracticality & Impressions. Dr. Richard Warshak Answers Critics

Answering Critics by Dr. Richard Warshak

The many parents I have helped, women and men, express astonishment that some people demonize me, attempt to tarnish my reputation, and spread misleading and false information about my work and me. Although my supporters far outweigh my detractors, the people seeking to quiet my voice yell loudly and work hard to circulate their misinformation.

Your critics and critics of parental alienation have been out there for a very long time. What the most recent critics have been saying is nothing new. However, this is the first time they’ve found a real voice on the internet, and we can’t have that, can we?

Until now I have allowed the personal attacks and gross misrepresentations to go without answer.

Good. So you’re finally going to address the facts that parental alienation is not going to be in the DSM-V, that it has never been peer reviewed, that it is not accepted as a valid disorder in the general scientific, medical, psychological, and legal communities, that it has become a huge cottage industry that makes lots of money for the people who make a living using it in divorce and child custody cases, that the man who coined it (original term “parental alienation syndrome”) made statements supportive of incest and pedophilia (and he’s your mentor), that parental alienation does not meet Frye and Daubert standards for admissibility in court, and that it is the most common weapon used in court by abusive fathers to get custody of their children away from the mothers they’ve been threatening and abusing.

By the way, you did answer. You and the Huffington Post deleted most comments, most very well-thought out, reasonable, and backed up by research, that criticized you and parental alienation in your “Stop Divorce Poison” HuffPost article.

I understand the mentality of a true believer and realize that clarification of reality and objective evidence will hit the brick wall of a closed mind. For various reasons, these people want to hold on to their beliefs. They cling to misguided ideas rather than acknowledge the widespread mistreatment of children described in Divorce Poison and my other works. In some respects, they resemble people from earlier generations who refused to acknowledge the evidence of their senses that children were being physically and sexually abused with alarming frequency. Just as the professionals who first pointed an accusing finger at a society that tolerated such abuse were attacked, I suppose it is my fate to be the target of similar attacks.

Interesting statement there, since your mentor Dr. Richard Gardner, who created Parental Alienation Syndrome, was one of those people who refused to acknowledge that children were being physically and sexually abused with alarming frequency. He believed most allegations moms and children made of sexual abuse were false. He also claimed that 90% of his PAS caseload was mothers. People who fought for children’s welfare in the face of abuse were ridiculed as being “child savers” who were delusional. Fanatics. On a witch hunt. Demonizers. True believers. The same terms you are using to demean professionals and lay people who speak out against parental alienation and work to help abused mothers and children. Ironically, that’s the same language used by the false-acc witchhunt sex abuser defense crowd.

More below the fold.

And I continue with my response to Richard Warshak’s weak response to his critics. Warshak’s statements are indented and in italics. Mine are in between.

Defending myself against such attacks feels a bit undignified. It seems an unnecessary waste of time, and gives currency to a few fanatics who attempt to alienate my audience from me using the same tactics that some parents use to alienate their children from the other parent. Some of these extremists have lost custody of their children in a ruling that seeks to protect the children from severe doses of divorce poison. Rather than recognize the rationale for the court’s decision, these people believe that the judge either was biased or was foolishly taken in by the other parent’s allegations.

Smooth move, there. You just bashed and minimized abused women who criticized you. And you call yourself a friend of abused women!

Some of these people would have you believe that there is an epidemic of judges who take joy in placing children with parents who beat or sexually molest them. In fact, one website claims a conspiracy of Masonic judges who, in every family court across North America (I am not exaggerating), automatically give custody to pedophiliac fathers who in turn pimp their children to pedophiliac members of the Illuminati (the group profiled in Dan Brown’s novel Angels & Demons). I am not kidding. . . . Nor are they.

Now that’s a sleight-of-hand move! When I first read this paragraph I wondered what the hell was he talking about. I had to read it a couple of times to make sure I was reading it correctly. I’d never heard of any such thing. So I did a Google search. You found one – one – article by a woman and you try to paint all your critics as crazy fanatics. That article is not on a custody site. There is only one person I know of who believes all that, and she wasn’t one of the people commenting on your HuffPost article. I know of only one other person who believes something similar to what you say, minus all the Masonic and Illuminati stuff. The domestic violence community at large doesn’t believe any of that. But don’t let those facts get in your way of painting all domestic violence critics of you and parental alienation with a broad brush.

As I say in the Afterword to the revised edition of my book, when my wife reads these vicious and absurd accounts, she shakes her head in disbelief at the raw animosity that greets the work I do on behalf of suffering families. She asks, “Don’t they know that you’ve devoted your career to the welfare of children?” The many women I have helped through my writing, consultations, and courtroom testimony cannot understand what motivates the detractors, who claim to be advocates for women.

It’s nice your wife supports you. That’s what wives are supposed to do. It’s also nice your have women who support you. However, your wife’s support and the support of some women isn’t what matters here. What experts have written about you and parental alienation does matter. See below:

The National Association Of Juvenile And Family Court Judges
A Judicial Guide To Safety In Child Custody Cases – see page 12.

National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges. (2006).
Navigating Custody & Visitation Evaluations in Cases with Domestic Violence: A Judge’s Guide (2nd edition)


“The discredited “diagnosis” of “PAS” (or allegation of “parental alienation”), quite apart from its scientific invalidity, inappropriately asks the court to assume that the children’s behaviors and attitudes toward the parent who claims to be “alienated” have no grounding in reality. It also diverts attention away from the behaviors of the abusive parent, who may have directly influenced the children’s responses by acting in violent, disrespectful, intimidating, humiliating and/or discrediting ways toward the children themselves, or the children’s other parent. The task for the court is to distinguish between situations in which children are critical of one parent because they have been inappropriately manipulated by the other (taking care not to rely solely on subtle indications), and situations in which children have their own legitimate grounds for criticism or fear of a parent, which will likely be the case when that parent has perpetrated domestic violence. Those grounds do not become less legitimate because the abused parent shares them, and seeks to advocate for the children by voicing their concerns.” – page 24

American Psychological Association. (1996).
Report of the APA Presidential Task Force on Violence and the Family
Washington, D.C


Noting that custody and visitation disputes appear to occur more frequently when there is a history of domestic violence. Family courts often do not consider the history of violence between the parents in making custody and visitation decisions. In this context, the nonviolent parent may be at a disadvantage, and behavior that would seem reasonable as a protection from abuse may be misinterpreted as a sign of instability. Psychological evaluators not trained in domestic violence may contribute to this process by ignoring or minimizing the violence and by giving inappropriate pathological labels to women’s responses to chronic victimization. Terms such as `parental alienation’ may be used to blame the women for the children’s reasonable fear or anger toward their violent father.” (p. 100).

The American Psychological Association
Statement On Parental Alienation Syndrome

“The American Psychological Association (APA) believes that all mental health practitioners as well as law enforcement officials and the courts must take any reports of domestic violence in divorce and child custody cases seriously. An APA 1996 Presidential Task Force on Violence and the Family noted the lack of data to support so-called “parental alienation syndrome”, and raised concern about the term’s use. However, we have no official position on the purported syndrome.”

Bruch, Carol S. Parental (2001).
Parental Alienation Syndrome and Parental Alienation: Getting It Wrong in Child Custody Cases.
Family Law Quarterly, 35, 527

Meier, Joan S. (January 2009).
Parental Alienation Syndrome & Parental Alienation: Research Reviews.
VAWnet: The National Online Resource Center on Violence Against Women.

Jennifer Hoult. (Spring 2006).
The Evidentiary Admissibility of Parental Alienation Syndrome: Science, Law, and Policy
Children’s Legal Rights Journal

Court-Appointed Parenting Evaluators And Guardians Ad Litem:
Practical Realities And An Argument For Abolition
Margaret K. Dore, Esq.

Domestic Violence (DV) By Proxy: Why Terrorist Tactics Employed By Batterers Are Not “PAS”
Joyanna Silberg
The Leadership Council

Divorce Poison
A Critique of Richard Warshak’s book “Divorce Poison”
Cheryl Melletus

National District Attorneys Association
Parental Alienation Syndrome: What Professionals Need To Know – Part 1 of 2
Parental Alienation Syndrome: What Professionals Need To Know – Part 2 of 2

Justice For Children
Parental Alienation “Syndrome”
“It is the position of Justice For Children that PAS is junk science.”

In 1998, Jon Conte [Professor of Law University of the Pacific McGeorge School] wrote that Gardner’s Sex Abuse Legitimacy Scale is “probably the most unscientific piece of garbage I’ve seen in the field in all my time. To base social policy on something as flimsy as this is exceedingly dangerous.” (Moss, 1988)

There are many more legitimate organizations that have come down over the years against Parental Alienation Syndrome and it’s watered-down cousin Parental Alienation (and Parental Alienation Disorder… how many times are you guys going to reinvent yourselves?). I’ve listed more than enough here to prove my point.

So why am I writing this article? It occurred to me that those who find value in my work might be confused by the drumbeat of misinformation. The downside of responding to critics is that it fuels their zeal and brings more attention to their smears. They live for the battle and are gratified when anyone takes them seriously. I would rather spend my time providing guidance on how to understand, prevent, and repair damaged parent-child relationships. But, for the sake of those who really want to know, here is some clarification.

So… when are you going to address parental alienation not being in the DSM-V, not being considered valid in the general scientific community, etc. … I’m waiting…

Are you really afraid your supporters will drop you like a hot potato because of the alleged “drumbeat of misinformation” and “smears”? Or are you really afraid that those who matter most – people in the legal, psychological, and medical communities – will read what has really been published lately about you and parental alienation, such as the statements above, and realize that parental alienation is junk science that is harmful for children and that it’s used as a weapon by abusive fathers? And therefore no longer recommend your Bridges program?

One smear that has been making the rounds involves a case where I helped a mother whose children were irrationally alienated. Some important details I cannot divulge because they are not a matter of public record and I wish to protect the family’s privacy. Were these details known, domestic violence activists who criticize my involvement in this case would surely regret their words. They would think twice about circulating the innuendos and arguments raised by the father’s lawyer in his attempt to defeat the mother.

Parental alienation isn’t going to be in the DSM-V. It doesn’t meet accepted standards for allowing expert testimony in court. It has no known error rate. Abusive fathers have successfully used parental alienation to wrest child custody away from the abused mothers trying to protect their children. … Still waiting for you to address all this. I have a feeling I’m going to wait a very long time…

And why focus so much attention on this case when your critics have focused so much more on what I list in my previous paragraph? Is it because this case came out in your favor? One case doesn’t prove your program works. It only proves you have one happy customer.

Several mental health professionals concluded that the children’s estrangement from their mother was unreasonable. Even the father’s own expert witness recommended that the one child under the age of 18 be removed from the father’s home (but, for reasons unclear, not placed with his mother).

That’s not what the critics have been talking about with that case. They mention the cost – $40,000. For four days. I’ve seen a report of another case where the program cost $20,000. For four days. Also, critics have pointed out that the program is unproven and untested. We have only your word that it works and you’re biased in your own favor, of course.

The case was heard before an arbitrator. The arbitrator found that “the mother was the intentional victim of irrational alienation by her sons, designed and orchestrated by the father.” The decision awarded sole custody to the mother and gave her the authority to make decisions on behalf of her son including, at her discretion, enrolling him in my educational workshop. The Arbitrator’s decision was appealed to the Family Court. The Court did not dispute the findings of irrational alienation. But the judge did rule that the Arbitrator should have ordered another evaluation. In the decision the judge pointed out that I gave no recommendations because, as I made clear to the Arbitrator, I had not conducted a custody evaluation. The judge set aside the Arbitrator’s award and allowed the case to go to a new trial.

You never interviewed the two boys in question before recommending your Bridges Family workshop – at $40,000 for four days. How can you recommend your program when you don’t even know if it’s appropriate for the family in question? You haven’t mentioned the cost here at all.

Here is where the smears begin. The purpose of my testimony was to educate the court about general issues and the state of knowledge regarding parent-child conflicts and children’s rejection of a parent, and to describe various interventions for families in which the court finds that the children’s rejection of a parent is unjustified, irrational, disproportionate to the child’s experience of the parent, and not in the children’s best interests. An expert witness who testifies in this capacity is obliged to explain the limitations of his work in the case. As is my duty, I clarified the purpose of my testimony and volunteered the information that I had not conducted an evaluation and was not there to make a specific recommendation for this family.

You still haven’t addressed my concerns from the top of this article. Parental alienation isn’t accepted by the scientific community at large. It’s vague and untested. It won’t be in the DSM-V. You have a product to sell and you go to court to do that. Now you’re on the Huffington Post Divorce section doing just that – with a dangerous and unproven disorder that has been used by abusive dads in court against the moms they abuse.

Rather than point out that I had testified in a professionally ethical and objective manner and properly apprised the court of the scope of my work in the case, including limitations, some bloggers imply that the Family Court Judge “discovered” the limitations and that I then had to “admit” that I had not seen the children. This is not what happened. I never testified before the Family Court Judge. The Judge simply noted what I had volunteered in my testimony in the Arbitration. My professional colleagues understand that what I did was precisely in accord with professional ethics.

Now it gets interesting, and this is the part critics conceal from their blogs. This was not the conclusion of the case. A new custody assessment was conducted. The assessment results strongly supported the mother’s position, recommended giving her the authority to enroll her son in Family Bridges, and concluded that the workshop was the best option for this family.

So you win after all. Another $40,000 goes into your pocket. All for an unproven program.

The case did go to trial. But, on the eve of the trial, the father’s lawyer, in what appeared to me to be a desperate last-ditch attempt to try his case in the media when it was clear that the evidence favored the mother, submitted an article to Canada’s Law Times that attacked my workshop as unscientific. Fortunately, the editor recognized distortions in the lawyer’s submission and asked me to submit commentary to set the record straight. My article was published. It effectively refutes the lawyer’s arguments. You do not learn about my article by reading the advocate’s blog posts. (See The Slanted Truth for the use of such tactics by alienating parents.) It is as if it did not exist. You can read my article by clicking here.

I read that article. We have only your word that your program (which is similar to the same used by the debunked and abusive Rachel Foundation) has been subjected to peer review and passes Daubert standards. Richard Gardner said the same about Parental Alienation Syndrome, too, when nothing could be further from the truth. Don’t forget that Gardner had his own deprogramming program he called “threat therapy”, which was very similar to the Rachel Foundation program and Bridges. One child who refused to go committed suicide. That case made the news and tarnished Gardner’s reputation even further. He also claimed PAS had been peer reviewed, enjoyed general acceptance in the scientific community, and passed acceptance standards. None of this was true.

And here are statements by other custody evaluators who didn’t think very highly of your “The Warshak Parenting Questionnaire 2nd Edition” or “WPQ”:

“…We custody evaluators are appointed to do our own work, at least in interviewing and evaluating… I would think that part of my job would be to generate my OWN follow-up questions… don’t know how any computerized questionnaire can do that… also a little troubled by the intent that evaluators “cut and paste”… interpretive language of any kind… into their reports… what “follow up” questions will pop up based on the parent’s responses?… how would the evaluator-user justify, on the witness stand, why they chose to ask alienation questions… if neither parent has raised that as an allegation? …” (California Ph.D., September 10, 2006).

“…the section on “Differential Treatment of Parents” (about two-thirds through the sample report (at w w w., under “Symptoms of Possible Mental Health Problems”) seems to invite alienation claims if parent was not thinking of such claims, and seems to suggest strongly how to support such a claim if parent is thinking of it. It seems to me to be way too suggestive/leading. In effect: Now, parent, would you like to consider making a claim of PAS? If so, have you considered claiming that your child does X? How about claiming that your child does Y? And don’t forget Z, have you considered that as possibly supporting a PAS claim? (This is assuming that the questions posed to the parent closely parallel the topics covered in this section of the report, and I suppose I could be wrong in making that assumption.)” (Ohio Ph.D., February 22, 2007).

What you also never learn from reading the blogger’s accounts of this case is the ultimate outcome. Notwithstanding the father’s lawyer’s maneuvers, again, the mother prevailed on all counts. After hearing all the evidence, the judge concluded that “Mother should have sole legal and residential custody of [the child]. Mother shall have complete authority to make decisions regarding [the child’s] welfare. She is not required to consult with anyone before doing so; Mother is specifically authorized to obtain any treatment and/or intervention for [the child] as she, in her sole discretion, deems necessary and appropriate for [the child’s] best interests; Mother’s authority described above includes, but is not limited to `Family Bridges: A Workshop for Troubled and Alienated Parent-Child Relationships,’ to enable and assist [the child] in adjusting to living with her.”

The program remains unproven. You claim a high success rate. And it’s very expensive. Parents of lesser means who are having problems with alleged “alienation” are not able to afford you.

By selectively citing the earlier Family Court decision, and concealing the trial outcome, the bloggers leave the impression that the court was critical of Family Bridges and blocked the family from participating in the workshop. In the end, the truth is the exact opposite. (Selective attention is another tactic of alienating parents that critics adopt to try to alienate audiences from my work.)

Still waiting… parental alienation is not in the DSM… doesn’t meet scientific standards for admission into a courtroom … unknown error rate … untested … you aren’t going to address those criticisms, are you? You’re only going to claim your detractors are as alienated as your clients.

Here is what the judge wrote in her opinion: “This leaves the Workshop, coupled with a change in custody, as the only potential remedy with any chance of success in this difficult case. . . . The court is faced with compelling evidence that a change in custody, coupled with the Workshop is best for [the child]. . . . The Workshop is a last resort. Obviously it would have been better had these problems been identified and corrected early on. . . . Unfortunately, they were not. This leaves the Workshop as [the child’s] best last hope.” [Emphasis added.]

That’s not exactly a ringing endorsement. Your program is the “last best hope”? The “only potential remedy”? Were other remedies even looked at?

I fully expect detractors to post other information attempting to cast doubt on the wisdom of the judge’s decision in this case (which was essentially identical to the arbitrator’s decision; that is, two different triers of fact, after hearing all the evidence, concluded that the mother should have custody and have the right to enroll her child in Family Bridges). I do not intend to respond to such posts.

The issue isn’t whether or not the mother should have custody. It’s that your program is a huge money-maker for you, it’s unproven, and it’s never been tested. All those questions of mine and others that you never answered have gone unanswered. Parental alienation is not regarded as a valid disorder in the general scientific community. It doesn’t meet Frye and Daubert standards. It has an unknown rate of error. It’s never been peer reviewed. It’s never been tested. It’s defined in layman’s terms you gleaned from the dictionary.

As rebuttal to any future innuendoes and misrepresentations, I can state the following. The mother has authorized me to state that she is very pleased with the ultimate outcome of her case. Her formerly alienated son, estranged for six years, participated in, and greatly benefitted from, the four day Family Bridges workshop. He rapidly restored his loving relationship with his mother and they now live happily together.

One case doesn’t make parental alienation valid, and we have only your word that your program works. It’s never been tested and its error rate is unknown. It’s very expensive. What about parents who can’t afford your services?

There are other cases involving reunification programs and parental alienation:

Son’s birthday pact with parents leads to ceasefire in bitter eight-year dispute


Yesterday, in a revealing conversation, P.F. criticized therapists and child welfare authorities in the case for clutching to pet theories about parental alienation syndrome. Under the controversial PAS diagnosis, children who are seen to have been systematically poisoned toward one parent by the other cannot evaluate their emotions accurately.

“I think they have done a lot more harm than good for our family,” P.F. said. “I think they were tilting the whole case in a direction that was more favourable to them, which was a more costly and stressful and damaging alternative for us. We don’t need all these people getting into our lives and directing the way things go.”

He also criticized the justice system for too easily sidelining children who are caught up in their parents’ warfare.

“Where people are making decisions, the kids should at least be heard and their opinions thoroughly considered; not interpreted or cast aside, as they were here,” he said. “When it is possible to simply walk up and say, ‘This kid is parentally alienated,’ that instantly takes away all their credibility. Our family made their minds up for themselves. In a way, we emancipated ourselves from these professionals that have been breathing down our necks the whole time.”

IN RE BIANCA H., On Appeal from the 254th Judicial District Court, Dallas County, Texas

Richard Warshak testified he is a clinical research psychologist. Alfano hired Warshak to evaluate Alfano’s case. Warshak has never met with Bianca, but has evaluated reports from other professionals and viewed a videotape of Bianca with Alfano. According to Warshak, Alfano is Bianca’s “psychological father,” and ceasing contact with him could be devastating to Bianca. Warshak admitted that the law does not recognize the concept of a “psychological parent.” He further acknowledged that another psychologist said Bianca’s attachment to Alfano was more like an attachment to an uncle or a grandfather.

Warshak testified that when conflict between “parents” causes a child distress, a court should order counseling and sanction the parent that instigated the conflict. Warshak believed any harm Bianca suffered because of the conflict would be less than the harm she would suffer if she lost Alfano. Indeed, Warshak testified the best way to remedy the conflict would be to increase Alfano’s access to the child.

After the testimony, the trial court stated that Alfano had been put in the position of an uncle since the child was twenty months old. The trial court noted that it had attempted to resolve the situation for four years with no progress. The trial court considered limited visitation, but determined that it would only put off the inevitable. Accordingly, the trial court terminated Alfano’s visitation rights.

In its findings of fact, the trial court found that (1) Alfano is not legally or biologically related to the child, (2) a great deal of conflict exists between Mother and Alfano, (3) the conflict was unlikely to abate in the future, (4) the conflict was injurious to the child’s best interest, (5) the circumstances of the child have materially and substantially changed since the date of the order sought to be modified, (6) the order has become unworkable and inappropriate under existing circumstances, and (7) modification would produce a positive improvement for and be in the best interest of the child. The trial court modified its prior order eliminating Alfano’s right to possession of and access to the child. This appeal followed.

Appellant raises six points of error. In the first five points of error, appellant asserts the trial court abused its discretion in modifying its prior order because the evidence is factually insufficient to support the trial court’s findings. In the sixth point of error, appellant asserts the trial court incorrectly applied the law in determining modification would be in the child’s best interest.

You never address the primary criticisms made by your critics. Parental alienation is an untested theory that has never been up for peer review. It’s not accepted by the legal, medical, scientific, and psychological community at large as valid. Parental alienation has been used by abusive fathers and their hired lawyers, evaluators, and psychs to wrest child custody away from mothers. Rather than point fingers at the Illuminati and one case supporting your Bridges program, and demonize your critics, you need to address your critic’s primary criticisms … which you haven’t done. And I’m not surprised.


I think the appropriate word for this dude is ninny….

UK based mail online MR. Justice Coleridge states that:

Mothers who refuse to let separated fathers see their children should have them taken away, a senior family court judge said yesterday.

The children should be handed over to the full time care of the father if the mother persistently defies court orders, Mr Justice Coleridge said.

He called for a ‘three strikes and you’re out rule’ by which children would be taken away if mothers ignored three court orders.

The judge said that family courts are losing their authority because so many people take no notice of their judgments.

Around 5,000 new cases a year come before the family courts in which parents – almost always mothers – defy orders to let the other parent have contact.

Judges are extremely reluctant to jail such mothers because of the damaging effects on the children, so many continue to get away with it.

Mr Justice Coleridge, 61, said: ‘If I were to call it three strikes and you’re out it sounds insensitive but something like it perhaps should be the norm.’

He added that occasionally it might be necessary to send a mother to jail.

First things first….how you could even take this Marie Antoinette cross dressing wannabe serious is beyond me!  If the laws were applied the same for fathers abusers to be to held to the same standards in family court we would have no issue.
BUT….this is NOT the case in family court.   Mothers and children are dying at the hands of their former abuser thanks to family court ordered visitation abuse.  Maternal deprivation is NOT acceptable any longer.
So as the old Monty Pythons Flying Circus recurring joke goes….Whats brown and sounds like a bell?
The idiot above.

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE                                     November 20, 2010

Wailuku, MAUI –
At 8:00am on Monday, November 22, 2010, domestic violence survivor, Maria Styke-Marquez, will be walking into Judge Keith Tanaka’s Second Circuit courtroom where, according to documents filed by the perpetrator’s attorney, Mimi DeJardins, the judge will grant her abuser’s request to permanently relocate to Minnesota with the former couple’s 2 1/2 year-old daughter, removing her not only from the island of her birth, but from access to her mother.
The child’s father, Bruce Anthony Sotelo Jr., was convicted and held in jail for beating a pregnant Ms. Styke-Marquez so severely in 2007 that the 4 month-old baby she was carrying died as a result of the attack that left Ms. Styke-Marquez with a concussion, broken ribs, cracked teeth, a split lip and contusions all over her body.

According to Hawaii State Statute 571-46(9) perpetrators of family violence are not candidates for either joint or sole custody of their children, yet in September 2010, Judge Tanaka inexplicably reversed his initial ruling that granted Ms. Styke-Marquez full physical/legal custody of their daughter and in contradiction of the statute, gave full physical/legal custody of the little girl to the man who put her mother in the hospital.

The case has caught the attention of several state lawmakers such as House Human Services Chair, Representative John Mizuno (Kalihi) and Domestic Violence Survivor Advocate, Dara Carlin, who said she is absolutely outraged by the situation.  “Domestic violence victims flee their abusers in full faith that the system will protect them and their children from further abuse and trauma once they’ve fled and laws have been put firmly in-place to ensure this.  That a family court judge can choose to disregard and override a state statute that protects those at-risk is simply unconscionable” Ms. Carlin states.

Research shows that 70% of batterers who request custody receive it, leading to 58,000 children per year who are forced to live with their identified abusers.[1]  Batterers are over 6 times more likely to sexually abuse their children.[2]

[1][2] Bancroft, Lundy and Silverman, Jay, The Batterer as Parent, Sage Publications, 2002

Financially devastated from the litigation her abuser has put her through, Ms. Styke-Marquez, unable to afford an attorney, will walk into the courtroom alone to face her abuser (who as recently as November 19th has a criminal contempt charge lodged against him), his attorney (who is also a Per Diem judge) and a judge who has already ruled against her and state statute.  “My last and only hope to save my daughter is to call public attention to what’s going on and I’m not the only one this is happening to – I know so many other domestic violence survivors who have lost custody of their children to their perpetrators as well which only tells me that this is no small problem.  I’m a protective parent, not a perfect one, and never tried to keep our daughter from her father so I can’t understand how this is being allowed to happen” says Ms. Styke-Marquez.

Contact:  Dara Carlin at or on Oahu at 218-3457.

Dear Amazon,

Your customers  have spoken…why haven’t you? We were faithful, we had our Christmas shopping all planned out…no standing in line…just sitting online….finding everything we wanted…we loved you!  We didn’t do anything to deserve your silent treatment.  All we wanted to know was why you were peddling and profiting from a pedophile guide ?  Everyone said we were threatening to boycott….this is no threat.  We know you couldn’t let go either.  We tried to close our accounts but you kept us hanging on..waiting for some word…nothing.

We wanted to know if was true, we couldn’t believe it, we had to find out the hard way.  You took the stance that it was censorship and that if we didn’t like it we could make our own purchasing decisions and we have.  Your silence is deafening…and telling….so I guess this is goodbye…. thanks for good times…I can find better places to shop…you’re not the ONLY online shopping available.

Your Former Loyal Shoppers


Farewell ungrateful traitor,
Farewell my perjured swain,
Let never injured creature
Believe a man again.
The pleasure of possessing
Surpasses all expressing,
But ’tis too short a blessing,
And love too long a pain.

‘Tis easy to deceive us
In pity of your pain,
But when we love you leave us
To rail at you in vain.
Before we have descried it,
There is no bliss beside it,
But she that once has tried it
Will never love again.

The passion you pretended
Was only to obtain,
But when the charm is ended
The charmer you disdain.
Your love by ours we measure
Till we have lost our treasure,
But dying is a pleasure,
When living is a pain.

John Henry Dryden

There seems to be some confusion in Shawnee County Kansas and most recently Warren County Kentucky the owners/authors/journalists of blogs that have exposed the dirty little secret of the family court system.  It would seem that these counties are hellbent on accusing and/or jailing Mothers of exposing their corruption, collusion and cronyism.  Mothers that have navigated the gauntlet of family court and then subsequently having their children kidnapped these courts have accused them of ….GASP….talking about their case online!  The HORROR!!  How dare a American citizen question the authority of the court system and their judges, Court Whore….GALs, Court Whore…psychologists..etc… get the picture.  These family court whores in Shawnee County have brought in so called experts that stated in court that various screen shots of posts on blogs, facebook etc. was placed their by Claudine Dombrowski.  Now let me educate the cyber-stalking court whores like Don and Jason Hoffman, Jill M. Dykes who troll here regularly.

Let me make this clear….


We have a right as a US citizen to speak….FYI

The point of all of this is not just the blatant First Amendment Violations but the FACTS are that there is NO way that court whore Debenham can obviously conclude that Claudine Dombrowski posted anything subsequently from her hearing in January. In fact to me it sounds more and more like someone deep within the corrupted Shawnee County courthouse with access to certain records set her up.

Dumbass Debenham has NO evidence whatsoever except for a bunch of egotistical, insignificant humans trolls  that google themselves and other various terms to find out if any information is posted.  But here is the thick of it….ANYONE can say they are ANYONE online….its done on a daily basis.  People imitate celebrities or other characters….or even Claudine Dombrowski. No you are going to pin ALL these posts on the internet by ONE woman?  You really don’t have a clue nor do you want to have a clue how the INTERNET actually works.  But the real point is the human rights violations of keeping a mother from her child and forcing her into silence and submission.  Every last criminal that kept this mother and child separated know that you will answer to your demons when they drag you to hell for your actions, that is one thing you can be sure of.

So I ask now…will the REAL Claudine Dombrowksi please stand up…..she already has.



What the hell is wrong with people?  Give me a break!

Rough Sketch – Rand Paul supporter asks for apology from woman he stomped? An apology guide.

Doesn’t anyone understand how apologies are supposed to work?

First, Virginia Thomas calls Anita Hill to demand an apology for whatever it was that happened 20 years ago.

Now Tim Profitt, the Rand Paul supporter who subdued a woman by stepping on her is saying she should apologize to him.

I know our culture is full of confusing cues about apologizing. There’s that old saying that love means never having to say you’re sorry. This led to a lot of confusion in my past relationships. “If I say I love you, then apologize, which one didn’t I mean?”

Then there’s that Elton John song (this week’s theme!) about how sorry seems to be the hardest word.

In fact, apologies are simple. An apology, from the Greek apo + logia, which roughly translates to “I am fairly certain that wasn’t my fault, but I want to rehabilitate my public image,” is something that Person A says to Person B when Person A has wronged Person B in some way, or Person B has complained about Person A to someone else, for instance, the news media.

The following are a few scenarios in which apologies are called for.

– You inadvertently award the Nobel Peace prize to the wrong political dissident crusader for human rights, because of a Google Translator error.

– While out hunting with a friend, you shoot him with buckshot. You are vice president of the United States.

– You attempt (unsuccessfully) to assassinate someone, then find yourself sitting next to him at a dinner party.

For all other scenarios, I’ve prepared a handy chart. Next time, consult this before you demand or offer an apology!


Take my child away, abuse me, take away my freedom of speech…NOT ON MY WATCH!

Lets catch everyone up here….here we are in 2010 and Shawnee County and Judge Debenham continue their obstruction of life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.  When our forefathers came up with the idea of truth…WE ALSO hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men/women are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights.

When entering family court they do not hold these truths but base their business on lies, corruption, collusion and cronyism.  They do not treat anyone equal, especially if you are a domestic abuse survivor.  We have seen these crimes, we have proof by way of transcripts, we have witnesses to the actions and we are making sure that no survivors nightmare with family court is silenced by those who meant to conceal their injustices, lies and bias.

This week we saw DIS-honarable Judge David Debenham spin his twisted head into a knot…not to mention GAL for this case psycho Jill M. Dykes and Attorney/Bitch  Jason Hoffman.  This judge court whore Debenham took posters for a DV rally at the capital.  Anyone could see he was punishing Claudine for allegedly speaking out, another First Amendement violation by the way.

But more interesting enough Debenham placine blame on her for placing a report from Roedheffer the PSYCHO-ologist in the case, online.  He states in court that he believes there is no other conclusion than it was Ms. Dombrowski who put it on the world wide web.  But no consideration that she was possibly set up by those that mean to do her harm?  No!  Especially since Claudine was not even allowed access to report…. but the others did!  Given the fact that Claudine was previously posting on the corruption of the court he based his conclusion on that alone… without proof or concrete evidence that SHE was the one that posted that report.  What about the expert Kimberly Ridgeway who stated incorrectly about posting on facebook.  Where is the proof?

No other conclusion????  Not even with a unprofessional GAL who told Claudine after she lunged for her and Dykes said she would make sure she NEVER sees her daughter again.  Screaming and shrieking through the halls of Shawnee Courthouse!  Not EVEN when the GAL has her husband contact Claudine on a PRIVATE number that cannot be googled??  Making threatening remarks about him taking care of the issue of his wife’s licentious and laughable behavior.  Unconscionable!  Amoral! Barbarous! Criminal! Dishonest! Unethical! Sneaky! Wicked!

So they claim that Claudine Dombrowski is everywhere…posting this….posting that….posting on her facebook page…CYBERSTALKING HER or was it HER???  But not only is it a crime in Debenhams court to criticize him on a blog or website but also for others….the WWW its a tool to use against her to not allow her to be a Mother to HER child.  I assure all of the idiots from Shawnee County right now that WE are everywhere…Claudine is our HERO…we love and cherish everyday that she has been in our lives…because we have had our own DIS-honarable Judge Debenhams in our life too….we have had our own court whore like  Jill M. Dykes….WE ARE CLAUDINE!  WE ARE EVERYWHERE!! Even in countries far far away!  Every one of those that blog about family court corruption has a simliar case to hers….sometimes even worse!…. where children have been murdered by their father by being placed by corrupt judges as you…sometimes children are sent to live with substantiated sexual abusers….but ALL the time we have a common thread….we have been abused not only by our abuser….but also abused by the injustices done by family court!  But most importantly we have survived.  We have beat the odds that we would be killed by an intimate partner who commits acts of violence.  We are the worst and best when it comes to being a true survivor….we are adamant we will not allow anyone to abuse us anymore in any shape or form.

We are not going to give up, shut up or go away….sorry.  Gag the internet…..but the internet is here to stay and so are we.  Ten years ago you would never find the social networking we have today.  Thank you facebook….thank you MySpace…thank you Al Gore!  You might be able to threaten a protective mother to not post anything and violate her first amendment rights….but you cannot GAG us all.  You say that she is her own worst enemy….no sir you are…you have failed to uphold the laws of the land…you have colluded with those that mean to do more harm to a victim of abuse….but mainly you are to blame for killing MOTHERHOOD.  Your askew view has made you the target….YOU DID THIS to yourself.

It began in February 1995 with a Domestic Violence Conviction against Halleck Richardson two months after her dear daughter was born.  What did you think she was going to do when Richardson came after custody?  NO MOTHER WOULD STOP….but you chose to stop her….we chose to continue to expose the evil and wicked ways of your court.  So RIP Shawnee County…from 1995-2010 you have tormented an abuse victim…but those days are over….its our turn.

So where in the world is Claudine Dombrowski??  Well..I will tell you…she is doing what every mother/survivor does that has lost a child to family court….living her life….walking in the truth….and waiting patiently for the day when she can look into the eyes of her child….and tell her I never gave up and I will love you forever.

So fuck off Shawnee County COURT WHORES….this is a free country and as long as I have the most potent and consequential words in American history….LIFE, LIBERTY and the pursuit of HAPPINESS…and boy am I pursuing it!  

Faster than a flying monkey the witch flew off the broom handle yesterday in a Kansas courtroom…yes we are talking about Jill M. Dykes!

After a hearing was adjourned in regards to the DIS-honorabel Judge David Debenham personally took off the docket of Judge Schimdt.  The same Judge who originally started the death of Claudine Dombrowksis relationship and being a MOTHER to HER child!

The beat went on at the hearing of course and in usual Debenham fashion he refused to enter any evidence of collusion and conflict by this Mother.  Today Debenham is set to determine soley based on his interview with the daughter IF he will followed the applied laws and statutes of the land of OZ.  That still remains to be seen….

But if the usual corruption, cronyism and collusion doesnt confound people by now this will.  After the hearing was adjourned GAL Jill M. Dykes Court Whore couldnt help herself to see what evidence Claudine had.  She viewed and cranked her neck over the shoulder to gain sight of the facebook screen shots of Dykes facebook.  She shrieked and squealed as if someone had murdered her.  She saw that her child was in one of the screenshots of Dykes public facebook profile.  Pictures SHE put on the internet for ALL to see…not just Claudine.  She ran to cry to the judge that OH MY GOD someone had found her public facebook account and took proof of the corruption.  Just as THEY have been doing to Claudine since she started exposing these whores of the court of Kansucks!

Last night at 5:06pm Claudine received a phone call from the GALs husband, Christopher Dykes.  Thats right, a professional that is paid with tax dollars put her husband up to phone Ms. Dombrowskis PRIVATE UNLISTED cell phone number.  He wanted to know if he had anything to worry about because, someone called me from the courthouse and told me my wife is upset,.  Hmmm…first off lets take this slow…since when is this EVER appropriate and secondly Claudines number is private for a reason, because she has been abused and stalked.  She is under protection with a program for abuse victims to make sure their abusers/colluders dont have access to their address or phone number.  Specifically unwanted contact like the call from the GALs hubby!  Claiming he knew nothing of Claudines case, but yet knew enough that his wife was upset regarding the facebook pictures.  Just as upset as ANY mother could be when they view their child is in danger.  Which the whole big beef that started this shit was the pictures and tribute video that a MOTHER made with HER childs pictures.

The next item of unbelievable corruption Debenham refused to return posters and other items for a DV Rally in Kansas worth over $500!  These items were in the galley…along with everyone’s coats and purses that he didn’t take…he said they were HIS.  Even after contacting police regarding this theft the judge refuses to return personal property!  Is he trying to avoid Claudine from protesting? 

That IS a FIRST Amendment Violation!  This is not over we are not going to stop blogging!



We know you are trying to shut her up, make her give up, go away….shes not…and NEITHER ARE WE!

AMPP Stands Behind Christian Coffey HIS Mother and All Their Supporters!

Please visit the following links for the incredible in-justice being done and the ILLEGAL actions of the Court and Child Welfare Services in Kentucky.

Face Book Page “Stop The Abuse of Christian Coffey”

VIDEO HERE: Corrupt Judge Catherine Rice Holderfild  “Stop the Abuse of Christian Coffey” Bowling Green, Kentucky

Kentucky Judge Rice-Holderfield Court Whore Exposing the dirty little secrets of family court.


Two hours of questioning of a minor child regarding the ownership of this blogs and many more is really showing how desperate this Judge court whore has become.

Rice-Holderfield sent out her goons today to many persons homes, including Miss Kentucky International Elaine Bateman.  What has become of the justice system that they are hell bent on jailing a mother for others taking the stance on this injustice?!

We hope you are proud of yourself by intimidating a child into submission, falsely accusing her of blogging the TRUTH…CPS worker Sheila and Police Officer Blevins. There is a special little place in hell for those who fail to protect and serve….not sure which level…I will have to get back to you on that.  In the meantime I suggest you do some reading….

In this provocative and well-researched book, Margaret Hagen, Ph.D, reveals how expert psychological testimony is a total fraud, showing how the courts have increasingly embraced not a cutting-edge science but, instead, a discipline that represents a terrifying retreat into fantasy and hearsay; a discipline propelled by powerful propaganda, arrogance, and greed.

You want to know who runs this blog…get a warrant…think you can haul anyone to Kensucky for an alleged felony class D….TRY ME…..we are waiting…and we still are not shutting up.

What kind of country are we living in where the authorities protect a person who beats a child and non-abusers and victims are threatened and harassed. We cannot let this go on.


Freedom of speech is protected in the First Amendment of the Bill of Rights and is guaranteed to all Americans.


Just when you think you have left an abusive relationship enter the family court judge. In Kentucky there is one such judge (court whore) that loves to hand out punishment to all but especially mothers and children.

As I researched the Honorable Judge Catherine Rice-Holderfield it gave me more insight to how this court whore ticks and how she got into the position she was appointed not voted into.

According to is where I found the interesting comments that Rice-Holderfield made in regards to her experience with family court matters.

Rice-Holderfield states, My parents divorced when I was a teenager. Being a child of divorce gives me a special perspective on how deeply this family tragedy affects children. I also could see how my parents struggled with custody, division of their property and debts, and with providing financial support. When my children were very young, their father and I divorced, very amicably, and I faced balancing management of my sole law practice with being a single parent, while always making sure my children were the focus of my attention. These are priorities I also keep now, and which I stress to persons in family court

First of all, just because your parents divorced and you divorced amicably does NOT mean you have all knowing experience in family court. Her special perspective is askew to the point that hypocrisy doesn’t even apply to her method of madness. Especially now when Kimberly Harris is facing judicial retaliation on October 19th for absolutely nothing. In what can only be described as judicial abuse and retaliation Rice-Holderfield has threatened jail for Kimberly Harris and her supporters for speaking about her judicial abuse online.

So to make this all clear, Rice-Holderfield is upset because American citizens have exposed her dirty little secrets? With the information I have gleaned from the www there is much more to expose about this Kentucky court whore.

First thing I did was check with the Constitution and it still says:

Amendment 1 – Freedom of Religion, Press, Expression. Ratified 12/16/1791

Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the Government for a redress of grievances.


redress v. 1. To set right, remedy or rectify. 2. To make amends for. n. 1. Satisfaction for wrong done; reparation. 2. Correction. [redresser.]

This is a redress and you should duly note it.

The absurdity and contradictions continue at They pose the question to Rice-Holderfield,

What issues, if any, are important to improve family court?

I believe I’m serving the community very well in family court. I treat every participant equally, fairly, with dignity and respect. I’m always striving toward greater efficiency in managing my large caseload, and to save money and time for the people in my court. I put the focus on the children whose entire lives will be affected by the decisions we make and the agreements we reach in family court. I try to put myself in the shoes of every person that comes into my courtroom, while applying the law to the facts presented to me.

Thankfully after I read this quote I didnt spew too hard onto my keyboard. After we heard about Kimberly Harris and her son we knew that this was insanity, we just didn’t anticipate the extent of it. Rice-Holderfield by her own admission is a product of divorce, she has been through divorce, she is a mother…but yet she is hellbent on jailing a mother who did nothing more than any mother would do to protect their child from abuse, it is blatantly apparent Rice-Holderfield doesn’t grasp that concept.

Sadly it doesn’t end there..the rest of the article here:

Family Court — Unconstitutional Judicial Gag Orders

Over the past decade, family court judges routinely have uttered broader and broader gag orders, forbidding parents in custody battles from talking or writing about their cases. The pretext for these orders is that they are needed for the protection of the child.  Nevertheless, it’s suspected that more often they are prompted by embarrassed officials who dislike scrutiny and criticism by internet bloggers in the wake of burgeoning out-of-control shoot-from-the-hip “therapeutic jurisprudence” in the family courts. The stated child protection rationale is specious because defamation, obscenity, violations of privacy, harassment, and other unprotected speech appropriately are addressed by the law after the fact when actual or potentially harmful speech can be specifically identified.

These orders are illegal under the First Amendment as violations of the constitutional prohibition against prior restraint. Now one mother, Faith Torres, has contacted the American Civil Liberties Union because of a gag order entered in her case by Judge Debra DeSegna in Providence, Rhode Island, July 29, at the request of the Rhode Island Department of Children, Youth and Families. Steven Brown, executive director of the ACLU’s Rhode Island affiliate, called the order a “blatant violation of the First Amendment.” Let’s see some federal lawsuits.

Corruption and Coverups Exposed in Garvin County, Oklahoma


Many speak for justice, but few have the courage to face down the devil in its name.
October 15, 2010 National USA……With the arrival in Oklahoma of nationally-known author, media personality and activist, Susan Murphy Milano, there begins the process of shedding more light on some of Oklahoma’s darkest secrets.  For years, families have struggled in this State with a “good ole boy” system that delivered not justice, but cold justice.

The families affected by this system of justice in Garvin County, Oklahoma have called on Murphy Milano to help them bring national attention to the alleged corruption surrounding several cases of possible murder that have been covered up or improperly investigated by those sworn into positions of authority.


The climate is quite hostile and the safety of those speaking out has been threatened.


According to Attorney Jaye Mendros, “When a murder is covered up, or inadequately investigated, and an erroneous cause or manner of death determination is made by a good ole’ boy who is NOT a physician, the Medical Examiner’s Office should NOT turn a blind eye and rubber stamp that determination.”


With the help of Oklahoma City attorney, Jaye Mendros, and Justice for the Dead, along with grass roots organization, The Eleventh Commandment, and the families of Chanda Turner, Sheila Deviney, Tom Horton, and others, they hope to illuminate the overwhelming evidence and bring justice to those who have gone without it for too long.


This corruption begs for national attention from major news networks.  In an upcoming election is a Sheriff who was present at each of these death scenes.


Does Garvin County, Oklahoma want more of the same?


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Anyone dealing with or has dealt with family court corruption knows what terrors fill the heart of Mothers and especially those that were abused.

There are many ‘leaders’ out there that may say “follow me” and I will help you but yet they will ultimately be the ones profiting off of the pain of others by writing books, using your inner precious light for their own gains.

Do not allow these false profits to line their coffers for their own benefit and gains. With all of those out here that have a story to tell…tell it yourself!

Tell your story of how you were abused not only by the father of your children but by the whole system too.

The more people that expose this corruption and be your own media by blogging…because Oprah hasn’t called back….don’t count on any one organization or advocate to be your Savior, be your own Savior…because if you don’t no one else can do it for you. Just as NO one will advocate better for your child than their Mother. That is what females do, we grow babies in our bodies, we care for them, we protect them. Nobody loves your children more than you do.

Be the wind for change…..and NOT for profiting off others pain.


Do you spend time with your family? Good. Because a man that doesn’t spend time with his family can never be a real man. Don Corleone

Family Court a.k.a. Organized Crime is one of the most dangerous organizations in the world.

Children and Mothers are victimized everyday by the “Goodfellas” that run it.

Let’s break down all the criminals that believe that the best interests for children is taking them away from the primary caregiver, usually the mother, and placing them in that hands of abusers, usually fathers.


The flawed Family Court system starts out with a Judge or “Godfather” who takes his cues from his Consigliere or Guardian Ad Litem. Even though the Godfather ultimately makes the decisions he relies heavily on what he says.

The Underboss or Family Court Commissioner is usually the one who carries out the actions of the Godfather and Consigliere, although he’s not a real “judge” he’s appointed by his Godfather.

Now in order to support the “crime family” they need the help of the “Capos” who are Lawyers, Psychologists, Mediators and any other court whore who takes money in exchange for looking out for the “best interests” of your child(ren), the ones that make you an offer you can’t refuse.

These Capos are in charge of the “Soldiers” who carry out orders that come down directly or indirectly from “The Godfather”.

In a small county in Wisconsin there is such a set up of Mafiosos that pilfer and pillage good parents by taking their money, but more importantly their children.

This Organization is known as Oconto County Family Court which is aided and abetted by another crime family, Marinette County Family Court.

The Godfathers, either Judge Richard Delforge or Judge David Miron and their Underbosses, FCC Frank M. Calvert and Francis Boyle do everything and anything to make certain that the protective parent (mother) pays dearly, mostly in money but especially in fear.

They intimidate, threaten and even go as far as ripping loving parents away from children who beg not to have to live with the abuser (the father).

This crime family has ONE objective and that is to make more money for ALL of their friends. The popular Consigliere and “Golden Boy” of Guardian Ad Litems, Aaron Krzewinski, is almost always handpicked by his Underboss and/or Godfather. He’s the one that smiles to your face, acts indifferent and NEVER does his job. Even when his job details that he must make sure there is no history of Domestic Violence and with a law enacted entailing,

“a rebuttable presumption against awarding a parent joint or sole legal custody if the court finds that the parent has engaged in a pattern or serious incident of abuse.”

click here for a .pdf file of Act 130

he apparently doesn’t make use of the Wisconsin Circuit Court Access as a tool to actually DO his job, which would provide him with details of patterns of abuse, but that matters not to the Consigliere, he wants to keep the Godfather and Underboss happy because those are the men that send business his way.

But at the end of the day when all the Mafiosos gather to play poker, drink beer above lawyer/ wannabe Godfather, Ed Burkes’ law office and think of new ways to keep them all rich and in jobs, including his child protection worker wife, they don’t realize the ramifications of all of their actions collectively as a organized crime organization.

What all the crime families/Family Courts don’t know or realize is that a lot of intelligent, strong and persistent Mothers are not going to let them get away with their crimes any longer. The truth is out and the line in the sand is drawn…because I’m not going to shut up, give up or go away!

Word to the wiseguys….the RICO Act isn’t just for La Cosa Nostra anymore!



The former Quebec cardiologist who was found not criminally responsible for killing his children was granted conditional release.

A re-evaluation session was held today at Montreal’s Pinel Institute. The Mental Health Assessment Commission said Guy Turcotte has made enough progress to be released.

He will, however, continue to see a psychotherapist.

He was found not criminally responsible 18 months ago for killing his two children in 2009.

Turcotte must not have contact with his former wife, Isabelle Gaston, or her family.

Unless Turcotte fails to keep the peace and adhere to his conditions, his case will not be reviewed for another year.

Turcotte will need to have his new address approved by authorities.

Former wife said she expected a release

Gaston said she felt “powerless” when facing the justice system in this case.

Hospital refuses to treat father of dead Que. children

SAINT-JEROME, Que. — A Quebec cardiologist expected to be questioned in the death of his children in a possible custody dispute had to be transferred to a Montreal hospital for medical treatment because the hospital where he worked didn’t want him as a patient.

A mixture of revulsion, shock and sadness among doctors and nurses at Hotel-Dieu de Saint-Jerome resulted in the medical staff requesting that the cardiologist, Dr. Guy Turcotte, be transferred to Hopital Sacre-Coeur in Montreal.

Turcotte is still in intensive care and police haven’t questioned him yet.

The psychological shock within Hotel-Dieu has been made all the more worse by the fact that the woman with whom Turcotte was involved in a messy marital separation was herself a doctor at Hotel-Dieu. She works in the emergency room.

Police discovered the dead bodies of two children, Olivier Turcotte, 5, and his sister Anne-Sophie Turcotte, 3, in a house that the doctor had rented in a short-term lease.

The children’s mother, and Turcotte’s wife, whose name has not been released, is a native of the Quebec City area. She was skiing east of Quebec City on Saturday when police were alerted to potential trouble involving the cardiologist.

“What happened was that (Turcotte and his children) were supposed to meet up in Prevost on Saturday with a family member, and when they didn’t show up, the family asked police to visit the house,” said Piedmont Mayor Clement Cardin Monday. “Police rang the bell, but got no answer. They entered the house through a window and found what they saw.”

Sgt. Martine Isabelle of the Quebec provincial police said Monday that the force will not be commenting on the cause of death until they get the results of an autopsy to be conducted this week.

Natalie Nolin, a media-relations official at the Saint-Jerome hospital, said she didn’t want to go into the details about why Turcotte was transferred to Sacre-Coeur. “All I can say is that the medical team came to us with a decision on the weekend, and we supported them.”

Outside of the house in Piedmont, a Laurentian town 65 kilometres north of Montreal, where the dead children were found, two little teddy bears and a little fur toy penguin were standing like sentries at the front door.

One envelope in front of the three furry creatures bore the words: “A Anne-Sophie et Olivier.” One card in English, although weak on spelling and grammar, was no less poignant. It read: “In memory of two angles that no longer here.”




Posted: February 23, 2015 in activism



Originally posted on Justice4Michaela:

A child is currently being hunted by her rapist and his minions, Oconto County Child Protective Services (CPS.)

She decided that the life they were forcing her into with her rapist/father was not going to happen and she took matters into her own hands and ran.

But this child has learned to survive in ways that non-abused children between 16 and 17 years have not had to learn. She has learned that recording liars who want to put her with her rapist father is a very good way to fight back against those that mean to do her more harm. As she said while sitting in juvenile detention and what has become her motto, “Recordings don’t lie, social workers do!”

So now the hunt is on. But the baby lion has been taught to survive in the jungle. She is still a cub but her skills on catching liars are…

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In the criminal justice system, sexually based offenses are considered especially heinous. In Essex County, the dedicated detectives who investigate these vicious felonies are usurped by rogue family court judges. This is one such story. 


Truth stranger than fiction? I think not. This blog post is going to cover a lot of failures in the system and agencies/individuals that choose to ignore victims. For those in authority or position in the state of New Jersey, specifically Hudson and Essex Counties.

We’ve all seen the show “Law & Order” each and any of the “units”.  Long before I was in the ‘business’ of being the voice for victims those shows got to me.  They still do, that’s why I can’t watch them.  I live, eat and breathe being a part of my own “Special Victims Unit”.

So here’s my pitch to Mariska Hartigay, Chris Meloni and even Ice T to take a look at this real case, ripped from the headlines.

In Essex County New Jersey there is no Detective Olivia Benson or Detective Elliot Stabler. But this could be one of the horrendous cases we’ve seen on tv. While a criminal court indicts a man for seven counts of child and sexual abuse the family court in another county totally usurps the impending criminal court matter and allows visitation to the alleged perp. But that’s not all. The retired judge who has now admitted he is “not neutral” and continually interferes and retaliates against children victims who have testified to a grand jury about the abuse. DUN DUN That’s just the first part. 

Imagine in the tv world where all problems are solved in the hour, perps are caught and brought to justice. The police and the prosecutors office works in a concert to protect victims but I don’t think criminal court knows the depths of darkness of family court. These are horses of another color and that color is green for money. Specifically the “retired” judge who is doing everything and anything to aid and abet the the family court with a great big middle finger to criminal justice system.

So from the top. A very wealthy man in NJ is indicted on seven counts of child and sexual abuse He is arrested, held on $50,000 bond, no contact with victim and now family court just went ahead and gave him “visitation”.

I imagine that if there really was a SVU unit in Essex County that the Prosecutors office, detectives getting an explanation as to why their victim and witnesses have been put into direct contact with the perp.



“….  but it’s supervised visitation”

“Oh, okay then”

“By his lawyer”


Once again let me iterate, a man is indicted on seven counts of child AND sexual abuse (of his own children) and he’s arrested, posts $50,000 bail, no contact with victim and family court just gave him supervised visitation with his lawyer as the supervisor


“Why are they allowing the perps lawyer to supervise? “

“Allow?! HA! You don’t know this retired judge or his neighbor the perps lawyer”


“So the retired judge who is no longer a judge is the neighbor to the perps attorney, but if he’s no longer a judge what is his dog in this fight?

“He is the “Parent Coordinator”

“WTF is a parent coordinator?”


How does one even begin to explain the clusterfuck to laymen in the criminal justice system. But you just got owned by a retired judge who’s  not even close to being an upright standing citizen let alone human.

Where is the basic human rights when children should not have to worry about being ripped away from their safety into the arms of a monster, plain and simple.



Meanwhile, I would like to point out to new readers of this blog that may not be aware that the perpetrator and his cronies have been on this blog incessantly since his indictment. I could say that I fear for my life since I am acutely aware of the perps proclivity to violence but I’m not. One cannot fear someone who’s only purpose on this earth is to abuse women and children is of no match for me. I’ve heard they don’t like this blog. Too fucking bad. I don’t like child molesters/abusers or those who enable them. Anytime a child needs my help I’ll be there….always. 




Officer Pulls Over Motorist Only To Be Arrested Himself for Drunk Driving (Video).

In the REAL world (not OCONTO COUNTY) police, lawyers, judges etc. do not get ‘special’ treatment like Oconto  Falls Wisconsin   police officer,  Corey A. Rank.  This particular officer was driving  around (drunk) with a minor  and  caused an accident.  What happened to him? NOT A DAMN THING


Donald O Bunker et al vs. Secura Insurance et al


Oconto County Case Number 2012CV000021

Personal Injury/Automobile


State of Wisconsin vs. Corey A Rank

Oconto County Case Number 2008CM000011

The defendant Corey A Rank was found guilty of the following charge(s) in this case.

  • Disorderly Conduct, a class B misdemeanor, Wisconsin Statutes 947.01.
The defendant Corey A Rank was found guilty of the following charge(s) in this case.

  • Disorderly Conduct, a class B misdemeanor, Wisconsin Statutes 947.01.





Corrupt courts;Pandemic for Moms: December 2013.

Sharon Ryan Montgomery, PsyD is on the board of trustees with CASA in New Jersey. 
Do you think it is right for her to be on a board that dictates how CASA workers will reunite children with their parents or not in contested custody or child protective services cases?  How many ties can she have to the legal system before she builds a bias? How long before she learns to play the players and the games they play rather than follow the ethics that her field requires her to follow?

Well…lets take a peek shall we? This is from the CASA website, this is a list of her experience and credentials.

“Sharon Ryan Montgomery is a licensed psychologist in private practice in Morristown, New Jersey. Dr. Montgomery completed her doctorate in psychology from Rutgers University.  Dr. Montgomery is past President of the New Jersey Psychological Association, the N.J. Chapter of the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts, Human Services Association of Morris County, and the Morris County Psychological Association. Her areas of expertise are in Clinical and Forensic Psychology.  She has taught and lectured extensively through the community and the media, having presented papers at both the National and International Child Abuse Conferences.  She has also served as a speaker at the Continuing Legal Education Center,  NJ Judicial College, the Judges Annual Retreats and for the newly appointed judges Orientation Workshops.  Dr. Montgomery has served as an expert in over 1000 custody disputes in New Jersey, as well as other states,  and has also conducted
evaluations in criminal matters, personal injury, marital tort cases, and testified in court on numerous occasions.  She also serves as a Therapist, Parenting Coordinator, does Mediation, Divorce Coaching and supervises other psychologists.”

Keeping in mind she was the President of the New Jersey Psychological Association, view this email which she sent to one of the parents involved in one of her cases. Her comments are in regards to one of the parents involved in her case too!

On Dec 21, 2013, at 7:13 AM, Sharon Ryan Montgomery
> <>
> wrote:
> >
> > Little does she know Amie Wolf is on that board and she
> also filled complaints against her!!! I’m only very briefly
> responding and including my letter to the court. I never met
> them nor did I take or use their money! Nor did you! I’m
> refuse to answer in great detail . Amie can explain and
> will. I’ll also include she’s filled complaints against
> every judge and mental health person involved.
> > By the way she’s totally evil!
> > Sharon
> >
> > Sent from my iPhone

Do you want this woman deciding the fate of NJ children? I do not! If you are in agreement with me, send your complaint to:  J. Michael Walker, Executive Director, Board of Psychological Examiners, PO Box 45017, Newark, NJ 07101, (973) 504-6470 


Well, it took them a little while, but the folks at Men’s Rights hate site A Voice for Men have finally figured out an angle on the Trayvon Martin case

Originally posted on we hunted the mammoth:

Well, it took them a little while, but the folks at Men’s Rights hate site A Voice for Men have finally figured out an angle on the Trayvon Martin case. According to regular AVFM contributor August Løvenskiolds, the whole thing can be blamed on a woman — specifically, Rachel Jeantel, the friend of Trayvon Martin who was on the phone with him just before he was killed.

According to Løvenskiolds, who seems to know more about what happened that night than it is in fact possible for him to know,

During a post-trial interview with Piers Morgan on CNN, Rachel Jeantel, the reluctant phone witness who was talking to Martin just before Martin assaulted Zimmerman, finally revealed that she had warned Martin that Zimmerman might be gay, or even, a gay rapist preparing to approach Martin.

This isn’t news; Jeantel said in her testimony that she told Martin she…

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