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Let me count the ways…..
It has now come the stand off between my child and the county putting me in jail.
If my crime is protecting my child when she says she’s scared to go to her fathers because he drinks and so does grandma.
When my child told me that she is made to sleep on grandmas living room floor or if she does not like that, she may chose to sleep in the unfinished basement.
She tells me of both her father and grandmother taking her to the bar, drinking and then when they left the bar, grandma got into the wrong car. There was even a witness, several of them that watched as two drunks left a bar with a worried looking girl.
When the child that wet the bed constantly stopped since she refused to go back to him. The child that tells me she doesn’t believe they will put me in jail, that says she would go instead of me. If I have gotten this far and put in jail by the same county that did nothing to protect my daughter from her drunk driving sexual abusive father in 2006. You know who you are and I know what you are and if you think I have contempt for you, you are correct.
I have NOTHING BUT CONTEMPT, DISDAIN AND DISGUST FOR ALL OF YOU
Hon. Frank M. Calvert, Oconto County Family Court Commissioner
Hon. David G. Miron, Marinette County Circuit Court Judge
Attorney/GAL Aaron Krzewinski, Oconto County
Child Protection Worker, Carrie Silbernagel-Burke Oconto County
Hon. Francis Boyle, Marinette County Family Court Commissioner
Psychologist, Michael Mervilde, Green Bay WI
Counselor, Jennifer Werner, Green Bay WI
and my daughter also feels contempt when she grows up and she will thank you for making her who she will become…..your worst nightmare….a child out for revenge for jailing her mother and not protecting either of us when we needed it most. See the wheels of abuse do go round and round. Our bond will never be broken she and I are the same and you can try but you will never succeed.
I don’t understand it….why would my dog hate me? I’m his owner, I give him housing and shelter, he is only here because of me.
I own him, I can do whatever I want to him and he better not hate me for it, I own him.
Why does my dog hate me when I buy him treats but then it is so much fun to tease him by taking them away. Just withholding his milkbone a few extra seconds makes him appreciate me more, I am his owner, I own him.
Why does my dog hate me, he reminds me of his mother… that bitch, I use to kick her around too and then she ran off, I OWNED her. But I still have my little buddy here to keep tormenting….torturing her still…..this dog really hates me…why? Must be his mother that taught him to hate me…what other reason would a dog have to hate it’s owner? He’s my dog to kick…you can’t hate me for that, I own him.
What’s that? You want your Mommy? Sorry….I own you.
Do you spend time with your family? Good. Because a man that doesn't spend time with his family can never be a real man. Don Corleone
Family Court a.k.a. Organized Crime is one of the most dangerous organizations in the world.
Children and Mothers are victimized everyday by the “Goodfellas” that run it.
Let’s break down all the criminals that believe that the best interests for children is taking them away from the primary caregiver, usually the mother, and placing them in that hands of abusers, usually fathers.
The flawed Family Court system starts out with a Judge or “Godfather” who takes his cues from his Consigliere or Guardian Ad Litem. Even though the Godfather ultimately makes the decisions he relies heavily on what he says.
The Underboss or Family Court Commissioner is usually the one who carries out the actions of the Godfather and Consigliere, although he’s not a real “judge” he’s appointed by his Godfather.
Now in order to support the “crime family” they need the help of the “Capos” who are Lawyers, Psychologists, Mediators and any other court whore who takes money in exchange for looking out for the “best interests” of your child(ren), the ones that make you an offer you can’t refuse.
These Capos are in charge of the “Soldiers” who carry out orders that come down directly or indirectly from “The Godfather”.
In a small county in Wisconsin there is such a set up of Mafiosos that pilfer and pillage good parents by taking their money, but more importantly their children.
This Organization is known as Oconto County Family Court which is aided and abetted by another crime family, Marinette County Family Court.
The Godfathers, either Judge Richard Delforge or Judge David Miron and their Underbosses, FCC Frank M. Calvert and Francis Boyle do everything and anything to make certain that the protective parent (mother) pays dearly, mostly in money but especially in fear.
They intimidate, threaten and even go as far as ripping loving parents away from children who beg not to have to live with the abuser (the father).
This crime family has ONE objective and that is to make more money for ALL of their friends. The popular Consigliere and “Golden Boy” of Guardian Ad Litems, Aaron Krzewinski, is almost always handpicked by his Underboss and/or Godfather. He’s the one that smiles to your face, acts indifferent and NEVER does his job. Even when his job details that he must make sure there is no history of Domestic Violence and with a law enacted entailing,
“a rebuttable presumption against awarding a parent joint or sole legal custody if the court finds that the parent has engaged in a pattern or serious incident of abuse.”
click here for a .pdf file of Act 130
he apparently doesn’t make use of the Wisconsin Circuit Court Access as a tool to actually DO his job, which would provide him with details of patterns of abuse, but that matters not to the Consigliere, he wants to keep the Godfather and Underboss happy because those are the men that send business his way.
But at the end of the day when all the Mafiosos gather to play poker, drink beer above lawyer/ wannabe Godfather, Ed Burkes’ law office and think of new ways to keep them all rich and in jobs, including his child protection worker wife, they don’t realize the ramifications of all of their actions collectively as a organized crime organization.
What all the crime families/Family Courts don’t know or realize is that a lot of intelligent, strong and persistent Mothers are not going to let them get away with their crimes any longer. The truth is out and the line in the sand is drawn…because I’m not going to shut up, give up or go away!
Word to the wiseguys….the RICO Act isn’t just for La Cosa Nostra anymore!
On November 12, 2009 in Marinette County Courthouse, I have to answer to a contempt hearing regarding why my 11 yr old refuses visitation with her father. I am being held accountable and the “Honorable” Judge David Miron has already sentenced me to 30 days, if my daughter would have returned to her father then I would have purged that contempt. He also threatened to place my child in foster care…her father told her she’s going…she says she’d rather go there then be with him.
But she hasn’t gone and he hasn’t come to pick her up…but he insists that I am withholding her. If I am jailed I WILL HUNGER STRIKE….make no mistake……I do this for my daughter and every other child that is made to live with their abuser, their mothers former abuser…we will never give up, shut up or go away!!!!!!
I played pretend between the trees, and fed my houseguests bark and leaves, and laughed in my pretty bed of green.
I had a dream
That I could fly from the highest swing.
I had a dream.
Long walks in the dark through woods grown behind the park, I asked God who I’m supposed to be.
The stars smiled down on me, God answered in silent reverie. I said a prayer and fell asleep.
I had a dream
That I could fly from the highest tree.
I had a dream.
Now I’m old and feeling grey. I don’t know what’s left to say about this life I’m willing to leave.
I lived it full and I lived it well, there’s many tales I’ve lived to tell. I’m ready now, I’m ready now, I’m ready now to fly from the highest wing.
I had a dream
That I could fly from the highest swing.
I had a dream.
The stars smiled down on me, God answered in silent reverie. I said a prayer and fell asleep.
That I could fly from the highest tree.
I had a dream.
I lived it full and I lived it well, there’s many tales I’ve lived to tell. I’m ready now, I’m ready now, I’m ready now to fly from the highest wing.
“Children say that people are hung sometimes for speaking the truth.” St. Joan of Arc
“I AM NOT AFRAID, I WAS BORN TO DO THIS”
St. Joan of Arc & Mama Liberty
“My child and I have been threatened and intimidated by the possibility that I may go to jail and be held in contempt due to my child refusing to have visitation with her abusive father and she may go to foster care.” Her father has told her this over and over again, as well as Judge David Miron.
This is not the first time that this mother has had to protect her child from the father. Oconto County CPS did substantiate sexual abuse allegations against the the father, he found a loop hole and had the recused Family Court Commissioner, Frank M. Calvert unsubstantiated the sexual abuse allegations.
The system has failed my child, from Oconto County and its CPS worker, Carrie Silbernagel-Burke to Marinette County Circuit Court Judge, David Miron.
This father does not have the means to care for her. She has no bed or a bedroom due to the fact he lives with his mother who only has two bedrooms.
The 11 yr old child is given the choice to sleep either on the floor in the living room or down in the basement. She has no privacy or space to call her own while she is in her fathers care. She is continually tormented and tortured by both her paternal grandmother and father, this is nothing new.
This child has been exposed to domestic violence by her father towards her mother several times. She was also a passenger in his car when he was arrested for driving drunk in the middle of the day. The CPS worker, Carrie Silbernagel-Burke told the mother:
“drinking and driving with his daughter did not make him a bad father, he made a bad choice.”
This was nothing compared to the sexual abuse my child endured and other court ordered abuse.
My child has taken her stand against her abuser, the court ordered abuse and threats of foster care by Judge David Miron.
My child is not an empty vessel, she KNOWS where she is safe. She has not lied to social workers, even with her father prodding her to.
All her needs are provided by her loving Mother and she knows that
“I am not going to shut up, give up or go away!”
“My only wish is for my daughter to be safe and sane.”
If this mother is jailed for doing what any mother would do for her child
the consequences to my accusers and judges will be as follows.
There will be a hunger strike (Troscadh), and all the battles up until now were training for we intend to win the war and expose the dirty little secrets of family court and the criminals that run it.
Change
Everything you are
And everything you were
Your number has been called
Fights, battles have begun
Revenge will surely come
Your hard times are ahead
Best
You’ve got to be the best
You’ve got to change the world
And use this chance to be heard
Your time is nowChange
Everything you are
And everything you were
Your number has been called
Fights and battles ‘ve begun
Revenge will surely come
Your hard times are ahead
Best
You’ve got to be the best
You’ve got to change the world
And use this chance to be heard
Your time is now
Don’t
Let yourself down
Don’t let yourself go
Your last chance has arrived
Best
You’ve got to be the best
You’ve got to change the world
And use this chance to be heard
Your time is now
We lost our green land, we lost our clean air ,
We lost our true wisdom and we live in despair.
O sisters, o sisters, lets stand up right now,
Its never too late to start from the start.
O wisdom, o wisdom, thats what we ask for,
And, yes, my dear sisters, we must learn to ask.
Wisdom, o wisdom, thats what we ask for,
Thats what we live for no-oo-ow.
Wisdom, o wisdom, thats what we ask for,
Thats what we live for no-oo-ow.
O sisters, o sisters, lets wake up right now,
Its never too late to shout from our hearts.
O freedom, o freedom, thats what we fight for,
And, yes, my dear sisters, we must learn to fight.
Freedom, o freedom, thats what we ask for,
Thats what we live for no-oo-ow.
O freedom, o freedom, thats what we ask for,
Thats what we live for no-oo-ow.
O sisters, o sisters, lets give up no more,
Its never too late to build a new world .
O new world, o new world, thats what we live for,
And, yes, my dear sisters, we must learn to live.
New world, O new world, thats what we live for,
Thats what we must now learn to build.
O new world , o new world, thats what we live for,
Thats what we must now learn to build.
New world, o new world, thats what we live for,
Thats what we must now learn to build.
O new world, o new world, thats what we live for,
Thats what we must now learn to build.
lyrics by Yoko Ono
Straight From The U.S. Department of Health & Human Service’s Mouth: Children are More at Risk With Fathers
As she says…this is straight from the government statistics. The blogger Dastardly Dads did a great job on this by combing through all the statistics in the Third National Incidence Study of Child Abuse and Neglect (also known as NIS-3), put out by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services.
Why then does HHS give all these grants to father’s organizations to take custody of children from moms???
Fathers rights people often remind us that married couple families do better than single-parent households in nearly every measure of child abuse and neglect, which on the face of it is true. I suppose the public policy implication is keep everybody married with a man in the house (how we will do this is never made entirely clear–outlaw divorce?), and child abuse will lessen.
This is basically a variation of the BMW fallacy, or confusing correlation with causation. Here’s how it goes. BMW owners are nearly uniformly well-to-do successful professionals with six figure incomes who own their own homes. So–if somebody who’s low-income manages to buy a BMW, will they be financially successful?
No, they will be broke. Saddled with more car can they afford and with more financial troubles than ever.
So it is with marriage. People who are happily married tend to stay married and tend not to have families plagued with abuse, drug or alcohol issues, mental health problems, and other stuff like that. Married people who do have these problems in their relationships will tend to split up over time and form single parent households.
So the question is not comparing single parents with married households, but comparing the relative safety of father-headed households and mother-headed households, even though the numbers of these households are not the same. (And not because of the family courts. Most mother-headed families are that way by default, not by design or legal proceedings.) Hence, we convert the child abuse data from each type of household type into incident rates per 1,000 children.
So what do we have then? Let’s start by taking a peek at maltreatment (i.e. abuse and neglect) under what’s called the “harm standard.” Under the “harm standard,” children were considered to be maltreated only if they had already experienced harm from abuse or neglect. (The other standard is the “endangerment standard,” which is children who experience abuse or neglect that puts them at risk of harm, combined with kids who are alreadly harmed by abuse or neglect.)
Let’s start with overall maltreatment (abuse and neglect combined). Children living with their only their mothers experienced maltreatment under the Harm Standard at a rate of 26.1 per 1,000 children. Children living with only their dads? 36.6 per 1,000. As NIS-3 notes, “This rate is more than two and one-third times higher than that of children in two-parent families.”
Oops. So much for the theory that keeping a dad–any dad–in the family somehow confers protection from that nasty abusive mommy.
What about abuse as such? Children living with only their moms: 10.5 per 1,000. Children living with only their dads: 17.7 per 1,000. Here’s what NIS-3 says about that: “Children in father-only families had more than twice the risk of abuse as defined by the harm standard compared to children living in both-parent families. Their risk was more than one and two-thirds that of children in mother-only families, a marginal difference in this maltreatment category. Thus, the pattern in connection with abuse essentially reflects the higher risk of children who live with only their fathers.”
Physical abuse is a subcategory under abuse. Children living with only their moms: 6.4 per 1,000 children. Children living with only their dads: 10.5 per 1,000 children. Here’s what NIS-3 states: “When specific types of abuse under the Harm Standard are examined, it is apparent that the findings described in the previous paragraph stem from the disproportionate incidence of physical abuse among children in father-only households….An estimated 10.5 per 1,000 children living with only their fathers were harmed by physical abuse in 1993, which is more than two and two-thirds higher than the incidence rate of 3.9 per 1,000 for children living with both their parents. Children in mother-only families were not statistically different from those in both-parent households in their risk of physical abuse under the Harm Standard.”
Let’s turn to neglect now. Children living with only their moms: 16.7 per 1,000 children. Children living with only their dads: 21.9 per 1,000 children.
Emotional neglect is one of the subcategories under neglect. What do the numbers say now? Frankly, I figured moms would get nailed on something as nebulous as emotional neglect, but I was wrong. Children living with only their moms: 3.4 per 1,000 children. Children living with only their fathers: 8.8 per 1,000 children.
How about severity of injury? The data was said to be statisically unreliable for Fatalities, so let’s turn to Serious Injuries. Children living with only their moms: 10.0 per 1,000 children. Children living with only their dads: 14.0 per 1,000. And Moderate Injuries? Children living with only their moms: 14.7 per 1,000 children. Children living with only their dads: 20.5 per 1,000.
I’m not sure if there’s enough data geeks among you to go into maltreatment under the “endangerment standard” (see definition above), but I will go into it briefly anyway. Suffice it to say that the pattern is very much the same, except with bigger numbers.
All maltreatment (abuse and neglect) for children living with only their moms: 50.1 per 1,000 children. For children living with only their dads: 65.6 per 1,000.
All abuse for children living with only their moms: 18.1 per 1,000 children. For children living only with their dads: 31.0 per 1,000.
Physical abuse for children living with only their moms: 9.8 per 1,000 children. For children living with only their dads: 16.5 per 1,000. As NIS-3 concludes, “Similar to the pattern described above in relation to Harm standard physical abuse, children who live with only their fathers are at a marginally higher risk of physical abuse than those who live with two parents. (The father-only household is associated with two and one-third times greater risk.)”
To read the whole post, please visit Dastardly Dads.
Angels, Duncan & Jack
A Mothers worst nightmare came true the day her ex-husband didn’t return their two sons, Duncan & Jack, back to their Mother Amy Leichtenberg.
In fact this mother had tried tirelessly to protect them, as we all do from abusive men. This case is not rare, in fact the increasing court ordered abuse is causing children to placed in danger by their father makes the news on a daily basis.
The justice system failed this family and now two little boys are taken forever from their Mother because the abuser knew that was the one thing that would hurt the Mother the most…this is their modus operandi, it’s the ultimate act of control, which is what an abuser does best.
Today Susan Murphy-Milano talks with Amy Leichtenberg about her tragedy from March. Don’t miss this important show can help others see the warning signs and how to protect yourself against your abuser and Family Court. Most importantly we need to learn how we can hold accountable the Judge and any other person(s) affiliated with the court ordered murder. A law should be in place so that other children will never part from their Mother, for ANY reason.
Show Time: 4:00 PM EST 3:00 PM CST 1:00 PM PST Call-in Number:
(347) 326-9337
If you have a question for Amy… and are unable to call in please email Susan Murphy-Milano at: contact@movingoutmovingon.com and it will be read on air Wednesday, September 9, 2009
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http://duncanandjackconnolly.com/
Duncan
Jack
