POWER AND CONTROL


courage

I never talk much about my abuse or the specifics simply because it is too painful to re-live.  Although that doesn’t really matter much when you are re-victimized on a daily basis for standing alongside other battered mothers that are in my position.  The countless mothers that I have spoken to over the years and listening to their heartaches was bad enough for my mental health but now being attacked by others who allegedly have the same goals is simply too much.  I think thought it’s high time to shift gears and allow those that think they may know me and show them what I am and what depths of hell that I have been through.  I’ll start with the event that took place in late 1997 at the hands of my second abuser.  I will no longer be silent and I have risen above my pain.  For this is why I am who I am and why I tirelessly help others that share this heartache and nightmare.

It was after my divorce and during a lengthy custody battle where I met the second abusive man in my life.  During this time I found myself pregnant with this man’s child.  He didn’t treat me bad in the beginning but then again if he would have punched me in the face during our first date I can venture to say there would not have been a second one.  Abusers don’t operate that way, there is a process a “grooming” process of wearing you down and making sure that your defenses are low.

I was homeless, my children were being ripped from my life and I found myself living with a man that I should have listened to all the red flags, I didn’t.  The year was 1997 and the month must have been between November and December as I was five months pregnant.  I was twenty-nine years old and the pregnancy, my fourth child, was very wearing on me.  I am sure the ongoing verbal abuse from my abuser wasn’t helpful.  Not to mention the ongoing divorce/custody battle for my three older daughters.  I remember being exhausted and went to bed early that night.  I knew that my abuser was angry about it but I was just too tired to listen anymore and went to bed.  Sleep came easily and I remember that my sleep was the type that was deep and restful.

I am sure it was a divine intervention to which I received my deep slumber as the following events would change my life forever. My eyes slit open as I could feel the sun peeking through the bedroom window.  But something was strange; I couldn’t stretch or move my arms.  I opened my eyes to find my abuser and the father of my child standing at the foot of the bed. He was laughing.  I finally could open my eyes fully and forced myself to be wake up.  I looked at him and his face seemed different, his laugh was not the same, I knew I was in trouble as my heart began beating out of my chest.  I looked up and found that my wrists were tied with a yellow nylon rope to the headboard.  Strangely my legs were free, for now.  His laughter became louder as I tried to wiggle my wrists free but the more I tried the more pain came on my wrist from the nylon rope intertwining with other fibers of nylon making it tighter.  I asked him what the hell he was doing.  He couldn’t stop laughing.  I became angry and yelled that he needed to untie me now!  That’s when the laughter stopped.  I knew that when he was in the mood to fight this was the way he started it.  He came near my head and whispered in my ear as evil as you can imagine that he was coming for what he was “denied” last night.  My heart jumped as I knew something bad was going to happen to me and there was nothing I was going to be able to do about it.  He lifted me under my ribs and flipped me from my side and over onto my stomach.  I told him that he was hurting me and the baby.  He said nothing.  I begged him to allow me to lie on my back but he ignored every plea.  Nothing.  He grabbed the back top of my pajama pants and ripped them straight down the back.  I began to cry and tried to plead with him to stop.  Again, no response.  He was now naked and on top of my back as he pushed my face deep in the pillow to muffle my sobbing and screaming.  Finally, he spoke as he told me that if I was quiet he would untie me.  I quickly acquiesced and became silent and to be as still as I could be lying on my pregnant stomach.  Then he started laughing again.  He loved this torture; he was in control of my physical body and now my brain.  I couldn’t see him but only hear and feel the weight on my pregnant body.  I will skip some of the dirty little details of what transpired next.  But I will tell you that it was almost immediately after I obeyed his directives that I saw white and felt searing pain, my baby was moving as I could feel her moving slightly under the pressure.  I screamed in pain but it only made it worse as he loved to hear my screams of pain.  I couldn’t believe that I was being sodomized by a man who allegedly loved me with his baby inside of me.  After what seemed like forever he finally stopped and walked out of the room.  My body was in so much pain I feared that my baby would die from the pressure and trauma to my insides.  I knew I was bleeding as felt it run down my thighs.  I began to weep silently so he couldn’t hear me.  I was still tied with the rope and my wrists were on fire from the friction.  I hoped that he was done and that he would leave me alone, I was wrong.  It was almost immediately after I thought that when he returned.  I glanced at him through my tears and noticed he had a video camera.  My torture was far from over.  For hours I was raped and sodomized by the father of the child in my womb and now it was being captured on video.  My heart sank as my humanity was taken with every abuse.  I was scared for my baby.  I didn’t know if we were going to make it.  He finally left me alone as the afternoon began to wane. Alone and still tied up.  I laid there in my blood clutching the headboard to ease the pain on my wrists.  This was the beginning of the end of who I was and forever more I would be changed.  He came back and I winced when I saw him.  He had a small smile on his face of success.  Success in breaking me but not my spirit.  That’s when the yelling began, the name calling, the total degradation.  He got even angrier when he was finally trying to un-tie me as it was “my” fault that he couldn’t get the rope un-tangled due to my constant movement.  Once free, he ordered me out of bed and to clean up “my” mess.  I could barely move.  My hands were numb and my legs were weak.  I didn’t look him in the eye I could only just focus on getting feeling back into my extremities.  I complied with his orders and tried to get dressed but he ripped my clothes from my hands and demanded that I clean his bed up first.  I had to listen to him, what more could I do?  I was scared he would rape me again.  I took the sheets off the bed as I was sobbing silently as I walked past him to the laundry room.  He followed me and continued on watching me and criticizing the amount of detergent I used to the way I put the sheets in the washer.  He warned me that they had better not be ruined.  I hurriedly put the water on cold and set the washer on maximum as I hoped that the blood would be removed.  He was finally he was bored with me and left me alone.  I found some clean clothes and tried to head for the shower.  He was back spitting in my face as he told me that a “whore like me” wasn’t allowed to use his bathroom.  He told me that I had to go bathe in the lake across from his house.  My head was bent low.  My whole body was just waiting for him to strike again and I knew he could sense my fear and he loved every minute of it.

With him in control he ordered me to get dressed and to get dinner started.  I complied and said nothing in fear for any retaliation that he may perceive as defiance.  My heart was broken but if I had only known this was only the beginning of my torture I would have ran out that door as fast as I could.  But I was trapped.  Trapped by the fear of being homeless, penniless and pregnant.  I had no family or friends that would help, the other abuser made sure of that.  It was one of the lowest points of my life.  I tried to make this abuser stop abusing me.  I loved him and wanted him to be happy for the baby.  Nothing worked as everything I did was wrong and everything bad that happened to him was my fault (actually still is after all these years).

I can look back now and obviously write about this trauma with strength and courage as I know he can never hurt me again.  There was no reason to do the things he had done to me through the years and then to our child.  He is sadistic man with a severe, untreated mental illness.  I would hope that others out there reading this and are in a relationship with someone like this.   Run, don’t walk.  Leave while you can.  You cannot change an abuser and you will get hurt or even kiled.

I am happy to report that in this year, 2013, I am very happily married to the man of my dreams.  A real man that doesn’t hit screams, call me names or rape me.  My husband knew full well how much baggage I had when I met him. But rather than pushing aside this baggage he helped me to unpack it and I did.  I can say that I have been abuse free since 2005.  I took away the one thing that my abuser wanted so badly and that was power and control.  I took it back, my life, my body, my sanity, forevermore.

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Impact of Father Figures on Boy’s Future


FASCINATING ARTICLE DEBUNKING MYTH THAT SINGLE MOMS CANNOT RAISE CHILDREN SUCCESSFULLY WITHOUT A FATHER-

I have recently come across a brilliant article written by Shelbi York- a student and activist.  I am so happy someone has finally come out with research showing that a mom can in fact raise children without a man in the house.  For years- every time a young adult gets into trouble of any kind- single moms are blamed-

“The broken home” theory has always annoyed me.  Fathers do not determine if a kid will turn out good, or troubled.  It is true that a child benefits financially from a second income in a home- but the actual relationship with a father does not contribute to how a child turns out.

Below is the article written by Shelbi– and I think it is a brilliant- truthful- research article.  Thank you Shelbi– for shedding light on the truth that nobody will admit- Please read the below article and feel free to post comments on the comments thread-

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Impact of Father Figures on Boy’s Future
Shelbi York
Eastern Kentucky University
SOC 313 – Social Deviance
October 26, 2012
         Determining whether or not father figures have an influence on a boy’s future is a question that is crucial in understanding the roots of juvenile delinquency.  In a society where we always look for reasons and labels for others and their behaviors, the blame is often placed on the father and the role that he played in the child’s life.  Determining the correlation between a father figure and the actions of the child when they are grown can help in determining whether delinquency occurs when there is a lack of fathering.  Based on what society tells us, I would assume that there was a negative correlation between the two factors.  By examining Shears, Robinson, and Emde’s “Fathering relationships and their associations with juvenile delinquency,” we can start to analyze this connection.
         Jeffrey Shears is a researcher, Associate Professor, and BSW Coordinator at the University of North Carolina at Charlotte in the Department of Social Work.  He has a PhDfrom the University of Denver.  With his focus being primarily on family health, Shears does a lotof work concerning the family structure and delinquency in minors (UNC Charlotte).  JoAnn Robinson is a professor and the director of Early Childhood Education Training in the Department of Human Development and Family Studies at the University of Connecticut.  She has a PhD in Human Development and Family Studies from Cornell University.  She has a long history of researching families and young children in relation to the early impacts of intervention(Naropa University).  Robert Emde is a retired Professor of Psychiatry at the University of Colorado Health Sciences Center and Adjunct Professor of Psychology at the University of Denver.  Emde has an impressively long list of affiliations as well as honors, awards, recognitions, and books that have been published.  He has focused most of his work on early socio-emotional development and early preventive interventions (ZERO TO THREE).
         Shears, Robinson, and Emde started out questioning whether a man’s relationship with his father affects the relationship that he, in turn, has with his child.  This research team looked at “87 men who were identified as fathers or father figures by women involved in two Early Head Start sites in Denver, Colorado (2002:79).”  Based on the interviews “about their experiences when their child was between 2 and 3 years of age (2002:79),” Shears, Robinson, and Emde discovered that a relationship did exist between the way a man was raised and how that affects how he raises his children.  This is an important thing for people who work with children to understand when assessing the problems that a child is experiencing currently as well as the problems they will experience when they are in their adolescent years.  The study could predict domestic violence as well as an antisocial attitude that would be projected to the child’s peers throughout life.
         The researchers found that there was a “significant correlation (2002:84)” between how a man rated himself as a father and how attached he was to his child. That did not find an attachment between his self-rating and the involvement that he had in the child’s life.  Based on this data, they determined that men with positive experiences with father figures generally felt as if they were good fathers with high attachments levels to their children.  They also discovered that there was not a direct correlation between negative experiences with father figures and engagement in delinquent acts (2002: 84).  The study also showed that the men who said that they had experienced high levels of antisocial behaviors indicated that they had low involvement with their child and rated themselves low as fathers.  However, the men who did report high levels of antisocial behaviors did not indicated that they had any lower levels of emotional attachment to their children than those with lower levels of antisocial behaviors (2002:84).
         As a society that is so concerned with labeling people, we often times want to blame someone else for the delinquent acts that occur.  Often times when juvenile delinquency occurs,the blame is placed on the father figure (or the lack thereof) in the juveniles’ life.  As we learned in class, Cesare Combroso was a firm believer that people are not born with free will and that they are instead subject to intrinsic biological propensities.  He believed that some people are simply born with genetics that are predisposed to certain deviant behaviors (Matthews 2011).  Shears, Robinson, and Emde’s research would certainly support Combroso’s claim.  Based on the lack of evidence to show that negative experiences with a father figure affect a juvenile’s engagement in delinquent acts (2002:84), it seems to support the argument that the juveniles that commit these acts are genetically predisposed to do so.  One can look at this in comparison to the data that shows the rates of juvenile delinquency occurring in children that come from single parent homes.  It might be beneficial to analyze what other factors that were present in the home could have led to the delinquency of the minor since this study shows that the lack of a father figure does not necessarily present a link to delinquent behaviors.
         This study agrees with Cooley’s theory of the looking-glass self.  Cooley suggests that we define ourselves as individuals based on how we look at society.  He believed that you never see yourself for who you really are but instead you judge yourself based on how you feel that society views you and how you measure up to what is expected by our society (Matthews 2011).  By concluding that most men who reported having lots of instances of antisocial behaviors rate themselves poorly as fathers (2002:84) shows that society’s pressures on these men are often negative.  It can be assumed that these men have low self-confidence based on the anti-social behaviors they admitted to having.  This low self-confidence could have led them into believing that they are less of a father than someone with a better feeling about themselves.  The standards for what makes a good father from society suggests that one needs confidence in order to be successful.  These conflicting sides of what society sees and what the responder sees are a perfect example of Cooley’s theory.
         The findings from this survey also can be easily compared to the Symbolic Interactionism Perspective.  Symbolic Interactists view society as an ongoing process of social interactions in which people are constantly learning and evolving.  They also believe that everything we learn, know, and believe is our own creation (Matthews 2011).  SI’s would suggest that men would have negative experiences with their children if they had negative experiences with their fathers because that is all that they have been taught and all that they have learned.  This experiment discounts this theory’s hypothesis by providing evidence to suggest that a man that has had negative experiences with father figures does not always have negative experiences with his children (2002:84).
         In conclusion, based on the findings from this survey study, one can see that the role of a man’s father does not necessarily determine how he acts as a juvenile or an adult.  This can be very crucial in debunking the age-old myth that single mothers are not as effective in raising their children as a child that has a mother and a father.  While it is often a plus economically to have a male (or another income-earner) in the home, this study suggests that the lack of a male figure does not have a direct correlation to positive behaviors in the future.  Based on this information, more research can be done to determine if this stands true for the general population or if it was only true for these low-income males.
REFERENCES
Matthews, Austin. 2011. Lecture on Social Deviance. Eastern Kentucky University.
Naropa University. JoAnn Robinson. Boulder, CO: Naropa University. Retrieved October 22, 2012 (http://www.naropa.edu/academics/distance-learning/faculty/joann-robinson.php).
Shears, J., Robinson, J., & Emde, R. N. (2002). Fathering relationships and their associations with juvenile delinquency. Infant Mental Health Journal23(1/2), 79-87.
UNC Charlotte. 2012. Jeffrey Shears. Charlotte, NC: The University of North Carolina at Charlotte. Retrieved October 22, 2012 (http://socialwork.uncc.edu/directory/jeffrey-shears).
ZERO TO THREE: National Center for Infants, Toddlers and Families. 2012. Washington, DC:ZERO TO THREE: National Center for Infants, Toddlers and Families. Retrieved October 22, 2012 (http://www.zerotothree.org/about-us/board-staff/robert-emde-bio.html).

TO THE WORLD


Mildred D. Muhammad Special Guest on American Mothers Political Party Show 12/9/2010 5:00 PM CST

In domestic law on December 7, 2010 at 2:58 pm

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/americanmotherspoliticalparty/2010/12/09/still-standing

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Thursday — 12/9/2010 5:00 PM CST, 6 PM EST

Special Guest! Mildred D. Muhammad, Mother, Domestic Violence Advocate, Consultant, Author, International/National Spokesperson on Domestic Violence. Keynote Speaker at Conferences. domestic violence survivor with a story to tell the world.

Many know her first and foremost by her former husband, John Allen Muhammad – the convicted and now executed DC sniper who terrorized the Washington DC metro region in late 2002.

However, many are not aware that the reasons for the horrific attacks on innocent women, children and men in the DC Metro area, originated from John Allen Muhammad’s stalking and the control tactics he used on Mildred, his former wife, whom he sought to find and kill before, during and after the divorce.

After several years of silence, Mildred speaks openly about her day-to-day experiences as a survivor of domestic violence and how it affected her three children.

Mildred with Shannon Wilson from Mothers of Lost Children on Mothers Day 2010. Mothers from all over gathered in front of the Whitehouse to bring awarness to abusers getting custody of children.

WHERE IN THE WORLD IS CLAUDINE DOMBROWSKI?


SHES EVERYWHERE!

Take my child away, abuse me, take away my freedom of speech…NOT ON MY WATCH!

Lets catch everyone up here….here we are in 2010 and Shawnee County and Judge Debenham continue their obstruction of life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.  When our forefathers came up with the idea of truth…WE ALSO hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men/women are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights.

When entering family court they do not hold these truths but base their business on lies, corruption, collusion and cronyism.  They do not treat anyone equal, especially if you are a domestic abuse survivor.  We have seen these crimes, we have proof by way of transcripts, we have witnesses to the actions and we are making sure that no survivors nightmare with family court is silenced by those who meant to conceal their injustices, lies and bias.

This week we saw DIS-honarable Judge David Debenham spin his twisted head into a knot…not to mention GAL for this case psycho Jill M. Dykes and Attorney/Bitch  Jason Hoffman.  This judge court whore Debenham took posters for a DV rally at the capital.  Anyone could see he was punishing Claudine for allegedly speaking out, another First Amendement violation by the way.

But more interesting enough Debenham placine blame on her for placing a report from Roedheffer the PSYCHO-ologist in the case, online.  He states in court that he believes there is no other conclusion than it was Ms. Dombrowski who put it on the world wide web.  But no consideration that she was possibly set up by those that mean to do her harm?  No!  Especially since Claudine was not even allowed access to report…. but the others did!  Given the fact that Claudine was previously posting on the corruption of the court he based his conclusion on that alone… without proof or concrete evidence that SHE was the one that posted that report.  What about the expert Kimberly Ridgeway who stated incorrectly about posting on facebook.  Where is the proof?

No other conclusion????  Not even with a unprofessional GAL who told Claudine after she lunged for her and Dykes said she would make sure she NEVER sees her daughter again.  Screaming and shrieking through the halls of Shawnee Courthouse!  Not EVEN when the GAL has her husband contact Claudine on a PRIVATE number that cannot be googled??  Making threatening remarks about him taking care of the issue of his wife’s licentious and laughable behavior.  Unconscionable!  Amoral! Barbarous! Criminal! Dishonest! Unethical! Sneaky! Wicked!

So they claim that Claudine Dombrowski is everywhere…posting this….posting that….posting on her facebook page…CYBERSTALKING HER or was it HER???  But not only is it a crime in Debenhams court to criticize him on a blog or website but also for others….the WWW its a tool to use against her to not allow her to be a Mother to HER child.  I assure all of the idiots from Shawnee County right now that WE are everywhere…Claudine is our HERO…we love and cherish everyday that she has been in our lives…because we have had our own DIS-honarable Judge Debenhams in our life too….we have had our own court whore like  Jill M. Dykes….WE ARE CLAUDINE!  WE ARE EVERYWHERE!! Even in countries far far away!  Every one of those that blog about family court corruption has a simliar case to hers….sometimes even worse!…. where children have been murdered by their father by being placed by corrupt judges as you…sometimes children are sent to live with substantiated sexual abusers….but ALL the time we have a common thread….we have been abused not only by our abuser….but also abused by the injustices done by family court!  But most importantly we have survived.  We have beat the odds that we would be killed by an intimate partner who commits acts of violence.  We are the worst and best when it comes to being a true survivor….we are adamant we will not allow anyone to abuse us anymore in any shape or form.

We are not going to give up, shut up or go away….sorry.  Gag the internet…..but the internet is here to stay and so are we.  Ten years ago you would never find the social networking we have today.  Thank you facebook….thank you MySpace…thank you Al Gore!  You might be able to threaten a protective mother to not post anything and violate her first amendment rights….but you cannot GAG us all.  You say that she is her own worst enemy….no sir you are…you have failed to uphold the laws of the land…you have colluded with those that mean to do more harm to a victim of abuse….but mainly you are to blame for killing MOTHERHOOD.  Your askew view has made you the target….YOU DID THIS to yourself.

It began in February 1995 with a Domestic Violence Conviction against Halleck Richardson two months after her dear daughter was born.  What did you think she was going to do when Richardson came after custody?  NO MOTHER WOULD STOP….but you chose to stop her….we chose to continue to expose the evil and wicked ways of your court.  So RIP Shawnee County…from 1995-2010 you have tormented an abuse victim…but those days are over….its our turn.

So where in the world is Claudine Dombrowski??  Well..I will tell you…she is doing what every mother/survivor does that has lost a child to family court….living her life….walking in the truth….and waiting patiently for the day when she can look into the eyes of her child….and tell her I never gave up and I will love you forever.

So fuck off Shawnee County COURT WHORES….this is a free country and as long as I have the most potent and consequential words in American history….LIFE, LIBERTY and the pursuit of HAPPINESS…and boy am I pursuing it!  

PRESS RELEASE–First Amendment Violations in Warren County KY


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FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE

Contact:  AMPP Chairperson

American Mothers Political Party

Phone: (657) 549-2677

Email: Chairperson@americanmotherspoliticalparty.org

Web Site: http://www.americanmotherspoliticalparty.org

First Amendment Violations in Warren County Kentucky Courtroom

The truth is heavy; therefore few care to carry it

October 17, 2010 National USA –First Amendment violations and other illegal and unethical maneuvers in Warren County Kentucky.  American Mothers Political Party has announced they will stand up for those in Warren County Kentucky that have been unconstitutionally gagged by the family courts.

Kimberly Harris is preparing to be sent to jail on October 19, 2010 as she is being accused of speaking out about her horrific nightmare with Warren County government officials. The Warren County Kentucky Judge, Catherine Rice-Holderfield, has threatened Mrs.Harris not to speaking publicly regarding her son being placed into the foster care system by the juge. The corruption, illegal maneuvers of this unconstitutional activity came to the attention of AMPP in early October.  Frightened supporters knew that they could not in good conscience submit to the intimidation as Rice-Holderfield threatened to also jail the supporters for speaking out.

Warren County officials have become hostile due to the highly publicized blogging and/or expressing the outrage about this severe case of judicial abuse and impropriety, basic fundamental rights are in peril.  Many supporters have been warned that Bowling Green PD and DHS workers are questioning and harassing individuals regarding blog posts made, including the 14 year old girlfriend of the child abuse victim.

The 15 year old son of Mrs. Harris was brutally beaten by his father and was subsequently placed in foster care by Rice-Holderfield.  The child victim asked that his story be made public before he was taken into foster care.  This young man has stated that he wants to be home in the safe loving arms of his mother, Kimberly, and that very wish is disappearing by the same officials sworn to protect and serve their community and its most vulnerable citizens.

Over the past decade, family court judges routinely have uttered broader and broader gag orders, forbidding parents in custody battles from talking or writing about their cases. The pretext for these orders is that they are needed for the protection of the child.

It’s suspected they are prompted by humiliated officials who dislike scrutiny and criticism by internet bloggers in the wake of escalating out-of-control shoot-from-the-hip “therapeutic jurisprudence” in the family courts. The stated child protection rationale is specious because defamation, obscenity, violations of privacy, harassment, and other unprotected speech appropriately are addressed by the law after the fact when actual or potentially harmful speech can be specifically identified.

These orders are illegal under the First Amendment as violations of the constitutional prohibition against prior restraint. Now one mother, Faith Torres, has contacted the American Civil Liberties Union because of a gag order entered in her case by Judge Debra DeSegna in Providence, Rhode Island, July 29, at the request of the Rhode Island Department of Children, Youth and Families. Steven Brown, executive director of the ACLU’s Rhode Island affiliate, called the order a “blatant violation of the First Amendment.” http://newsblog.projo.com/2010/08/judge-bars-ri-mother-from-talk.html

We implore the Kentucky ACLU affiliate , media outlets and the general public to look closely at this case and assist those in need of being stripped of their right to speak freely.

AMPP is a social movement seeking justice and accountability within the family court system which includes DHHS/CPS, psychologists and other so called experts. We as mothers demand CITIZENSHIP and our Rights to our Children. We demand that our children not be used as pawns by our abuser in a custody dispute. We demand that Mothers and Children be equally protected against court ordered visitation with an abuser. We demand that Mothers and Children be given the same rights, privileges and voice that the abuser gets in family courts.

For more information see below:

Face Book Page “Stop The Abuse of Christian Coffey”

http://www.facebook.com/pages/Stop-the-Abuse-of-Christian-Coffey/146216185389326?ref=search

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IGutckf-HSc

http://judgecatherinericeholderfield.blogspot.com/

http://www.americanmotherspoliticalparty.org

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JUST US


Rights for Mothers | Resources and Support for Noncustodial and Custodially-Challenged Mothers.

Tonight a letter will be coming your way, detailing the miscarriage of justice that this Topeka mother and daughter has endured in Kansas courts.  Please consider carefully how best you can help.  Claudine has been a strong voice for battered and abused mothers, having testified before State Rep Mike Kiegerl‘s (R-Olathe) Joint Committee on Children’s Issues in December 2009.

Claudine has been gagged, denied documents to her case, denied parenting time (AGAIN), and even had her phone confiscated from her.  She came to court with 67 violations of the last court order of daddy Hal Richardson keeping Rikki from seeing her mother.  I was in court with Claudine in January when the order was issued to finally allow visitation, and Judge David Debenham (Shawnee County Court, phone number (785) 233-8200 begin_of_the_skype_highlighting (785) 233-8200 end_of_the_skype_highlighting ext. 4203 ) looked Richardson in the eyes and pointed to him and told him he WILL follow the court’s order.  He didn’t, and the motion to find him in contempt was dismissed as soon as Claudine didn’t have all her supporters there.

Your constituents, the voters of Kansas, the mothers of Kansas must have your support.  Another is waiting in the wings to be stomped on in Wichita on Tuesday (Jones vs. Youngquist  Case no. 06-DM 3626).  A father, Shawn Jones, who allegedly sexually abused his young daughter, has kept the children from their mother, Tammy Youngquist.  She has not seen them in months.  This is the abuser’s way of punishing mothers, and courts gladly help.  Scientific studies show that children rarely lie about sexual abuse, yet child protection workers constantly disregard allegations if they come from children of a broken home.  WAKE UP AND REALIZE CHILDREN ARE IN PAIN HERE.  CHILDREN ARE BEING ABUSED AND CHILDREN ARE BEING RAPED AND KANSAS COURTS ARE HELPING THE PERPETRATORS.

This is from Earl Glynn, the Kansas Watchdog:

Claudine Dombrowski

Claudine Dombrowski:  An abused mom victimized again by the Kansas CourtsClaudine Dombrowski: An abused mom victimized again by the Kansas Courts

Read details in written statement.

This is an truly incredible story that should never have happened in America.

Parts of the Kansas Judicial system should be disciplined for how it has victimized Ms. Dombrowski, who was an abused mom.

Instead of quotes from the audio, please consult these pages that document Dombrowski’s long and difficult battle to protect her daughter:

As you view these photos keep in mind that the court awarded FULL CUSTODY of their daughter to the “man” who did this to Claudine.

State Rep Bill Otto: “No crime? You haven’t been guilty of anything? This is a court order that says you can’t go to any school functions?”

“I was under court order till 2004 to not even call the police after I was being beaten because … I was not ‘co-parenting’”

Dombrowski: “These friends of the court make recommendations to the judge. The parents … don’t have a right to see these documents. They do this behind closed doors.”

Otto: (To Secretary Jordan): “You have no rights as a parent …?”

Secretary Don Jordan: “This would be something extreme … I’m not familiar with the situation.”

Otto: “Can a judge do that? … Is that legal… ?”

Jordan: “Under the right circumstances … I hesitate to speculate.”

Sen. Roger Reitz: “This is something that only … the judicial system can really answer … It would be helpful … to have someone … representing the judicial system … to give us some ideas how this could happen.”

Dombrowski: “When you are a victim of domestic violence, and suddenly there’s a child involved, the typical …. power of control is that ‘I’ll take your children from you’. They will and they can the way the laws are setup.” …

“I was told that I’m not to talk to my daughter about the violence. That’s why I don’t see her. That’s why I see her supervised. He was criminally convicted. “

“When women try to get away from people who hurt them … I heard somebody say it’s really hard to believe you won’t call the police … I tell people not to contact the police, because as soon as you walk into court with a DV (domestic violence) and children, you’re already cutting your throat. You will lose your children. That’s the way it is right now.”

“… on the 16th of this month I’ll probably go to jail for breaking the gag order and talking about [being the victim of] violence as it relates to my case.”

Reitz: “… someone ought to be able to deal with this in a way that would address her problem. It doesn’t seem like we’ve done the right thing with regards to this little niche of the law.”

Dombrowski: “The criminal convictions are completely tossed aside and they don’t have any bearing on the family court … The eight criminal convictions that my ex had before getting custody of my daughter were completely dropped [in family court]“

Chair Kiegerl: “I cannot believe that abuse is totally ignored. I cannot believe you can prohibit a person from speaking about their own case.”

“The one thing [where] … I disagree with you is abuse should always be reported.”

State Rep Peggy Mast (R-Emporia): “Domestic violence is a control issue. Sexual abuse is a control issue. Is there any correlation between domestic violence and sexual abuse? Why is that not something that is considered when we take someone to [family] court that has a history of domestic violence?”

Dombrowski: “Yes. That is something I’ve asked myself for 16 years. … It comes back to the family court that has a veil of immunity. … They don’t fully understand the impact of the violence. What battered women have … if they report the abuse, then they’re failing to protect their child … if they don’t report the abuse, they’re still failing to protect their child. So, both ways, they’re going to lose their children …”

For anybody who abuses their wife … [from] a 1996 presidential task force … there is a 70% increase that those children will be abused and/or sexually abused after there’s been battery with the mother.

Sen. Oletha Faust-Goudea: “In 2004 …. I talked with the homicide department in Sedgwick County…. During that time there had been 21 homicides in Sedgwick County and 18 were due to domestic violence …”

“A lot of women do make those phone calls and unfortunately, sometimes it ends in their death.” …

“I want to apologize to you for being treated like a pedophile … not being able to go to a music concert.”

“I commend you for what you’re doing.”

Dombrowski: “I have not talked to my daughter in 10 years [except] for the confines of supervised visits. I’m not allowed to talk to her about anything. All she knows is what her dad has told her.”

See this video:  Abused Mom Wants Unsupervised Visits with Daughter

Others have indicated a desire to help.  I have uploaded the email addresses for the Kansas House here and the Kansas Senate here.  This is just the beginning.

WHICH COUNTY IS NEXT?


DHS lawsuit & document gathering

A judge forces D.H.S to do a better job gathering the information the court has ordered it to hand over to Children’s Rights. Children’s Rights is suing to reform the state agency.

KOKH FOX 25 :: Top Stories.

CALLING ALL ANGELS


We are coming President and Mrs. Obama…..will you listen?

Two rallies in one month regarding children being placed into the hands of their abusers and/or their Mothers abusers. What does this say to our President as he was presented last week with a silent vigil on Mothers Day. We are coming Mr. President…..will you listen?????

http://mothersoflostchildren.wordpress.com/2010/03/23/silent-vigil-to-be-held-at-the-white-house-on-mothers-day/

There have been many dodgy campaigns in the so called “rights for children”, but are in reality only there for the sole purpose of securing the child as though they were a piece of property.  Statistics can be skewed all they like, but at the end of the day most children are better off with their mothers after divorce.  Nature knows it, criminologists know it and deep down we all knew it, but because the shared parenting campaign sold as well as the renown pyramid scheme – we all fell for it.  Religious commentators might say that it was like scientists “playing god”, but in this case it was male supremacists, robbing motherhood.  In their own sense of paranoid delusions, they thought that single motherhood was an “invasion of feminism”, but its not.  Its mothers working extremely hard through all of the hate set against them to raise their children to become strong and good human beings.  That is all, no matter how one tries to paint it, there is no more.  Now, because children’s rights have never been so appalling along with women’s rights, mothers have embraced feminism like never before.  The support every year for the white ribbon campaign grows every year and more people, whether men’s groups like it or not are beginning to see through the FRs hatred and propaganda.  I can be very thankful to learn that Australians are certainly not a dumb country as much as these vial groups represent.  The more violent incidents against women and children, the more people begin to know who is the real problem.  The continued support by dads in distress, dads on air members and even fathers4equality of a known perpetrator is a statement in itself that reveals what this group is truly about: Its not about and never was about men’s rights – it was abusers rights.  The right to conceal, the right to punish victims, the right to continue their terror unchallenged and most of all: The right to have judicial authority to continue to do this.

Know that there is indeed a war on children and motherhood.

Know that a critical mass can stop this

Know that the courts are accomplices in some of the most disgusting crimes of the century beyond 9/11  If we put all of the victims of this child and mother massacre: it would be classified as the greatest act of terror and genocide by the state and its actors.

Posted via web from australiansharedparentingdebate’s posterous

JUST US SYSTEM


Judge Briese of Florida continues to abuse his powers and keep a loving mother and her children apart.

Press Release

April 19, 2010

Judge Holds Mother in Contempt; Refuses to Hold Scheduled Custody Hearing

Daytona Beach – A mother who has been separated from her children for

more than three years was denied a hearing today to reunite with them and

instead was held in contempt by a Volusia County judge.

Linda Marie Sacks, an Ormond Beach mother, arrived this morning at the

City Island Courthouse in Daytona Beach for a scheduled hearing (Case

2004-30312 FMCI) asking for unsupervised visitations and total contact

with her daughters, ages 13 and 15. But Volusia County Family Court

Judge Shawn L. Briese declined to hold the hearing, which had been on

the trial court schedule for six months, and demanded instead that

Sacks submit to a deposition by the opposing counsel during the

scheduled hearing time.

Sacks filed for divorce in 2004 after her daughters began acting out

sexually. The eldest daughter, at age 8, drew a picture of the father

as an erect penis during a therapy session and made an outcry during

Sunday School that she had performed a sex act on her father. Sacks

has spent six years in the family court trying unsuccessfully to

protect her daughters.

Justice for Children, a Houston-based national child advocacy

organization, has written a letter to Volusia County law enforcement

authorities, including Department of Children and Family Administrator

Reggie Williams, expressing concern that the allegations of sexual and

physical abuse of  Sacks’ daughters was never properly investigated.

In April 2007 Judge Briese (Case 2004-30312-FMCI) ruled that the child

lied, gave the father sole physical custody of the daughters and

placed the mother on supervised visitation. In the last three years,

Sacks has had only 63 hours with her daughters at the The Family Tree

House Visitation Center in Daytona Beach.

In 2008 the Florida Fifth District Court of Appeals in Daytona Beach

reversed that decision,(Case 5D07-1682) and ruled that Judge Briese

had abused his trial court discretion, violated the mother’s due

process rights and ordered the custody case be retried in the lower

court. Despite the appeals court ruling and numerous motions to have

him removed from the case, Judge Briese has continued to deny Sacks

full-contact with her children.

Instead, just a few months after the Fifth District Court of Appeals

ruling, Judge Briese quickly set another custody hearing, denied to

admit any of the mother’s evidence or witnesses and again ruled that

Sacks be allowed only supervised visits with her daughters.

Sacks, this time as a pro se litigant, has again filed an appeal with

the Fifth District Court (Case 5D09-3752).  Recently, the appeals

court denied the father’s attorney’s motion to strike the mother’s

appeal brief. Within days the father’s attorneys, James L. Rose and

Leonard R. Ross of Daytona Beach, filed a subpoena in the lower court

demanding Sacks appear for a lengthy deposition and filed a motion to

end the mother’s two-hour a month supervised visit with her children.

Florida Rules of Civil Procedures Rule 1.310 (d) dictates that a deposition

being used to harass a party can be terminated. Rule 1.290 (2) also states that

a party cannot be forced into a deposition 20 days before a hearing.

Sacks was found to be in contempt of court after she refused to take

part in the deposition and only asked that she be able to have her hearing time.

During the hearing today, Judge Briese at first agreed with the

mother’s filed objection to the deposition saying the Ross has had

years to take the deposition. But when the Ross complained that the

mother is speaking to national organizations about the case, Judge

Briese changed his mind and demanded Sacks submit to the deposition.

Judge Briese said today that the mother will not be heard about being

reunited with her children until she does submit. The hearing to see

her children was scheduled for three days.

The mother will be back at the courthouse at 1:00 P.M. in hopes that hearing will be allowed to begin, but has already been told by the trial court judge, if you don’t allow the deposition, you will not get your scheduled hearing time.

Today Sacks filed an emergency motion to request a hearing before the

Seventh Judicial Circuit Chief Judge J. David Walsh to ask that Judge

Briese be disqualified from the case but was denied by Judge Briese.

Read more about Sacks’ battle to protect her children in the January

2010 MomLogic magazine article.

http://www.momlogic .com/2010/ 01/custody_crisis_ why_mothers_ are_punished_ in_family_ court. php