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Let me count the ways…..
It has now come the stand off between my child and the county putting me in jail.
If my crime is protecting my child when she says she’s scared to go to her fathers because he drinks and so does grandma.
When my child told me that she is made to sleep on grandmas living room floor or if she does not like that, she may chose to sleep in the unfinished basement.
She tells me of both her father and grandmother taking her to the bar, drinking and then when they left the bar, grandma got into the wrong car. There was even a witness, several of them that watched as two drunks left a bar with a worried looking girl.
When the child that wet the bed constantly stopped since she refused to go back to him. The child that tells me she doesn’t believe they will put me in jail, that says she would go instead of me. If I have gotten this far and put in jail by the same county that did nothing to protect my daughter from her drunk driving sexual abusive father in 2006. You know who you are and I know what you are and if you think I have contempt for you, you are correct.
I have NOTHING BUT CONTEMPT, DISDAIN AND DISGUST FOR ALL OF YOU
Hon. Frank M. Calvert, Oconto County Family Court Commissioner
Hon. David G. Miron, Marinette County Circuit Court Judge
Attorney/GAL Aaron Krzewinski, Oconto County
Child Protection Worker, Carrie Silbernagel-Burke Oconto County
Hon. Francis Boyle, Marinette County Family Court Commissioner
Psychologist, Michael Mervilde, Green Bay WI
Counselor, Jennifer Werner, Green Bay WI
and my daughter also feels contempt when she grows up and she will thank you for making her who she will become…..your worst nightmare….a child out for revenge for jailing her mother and not protecting either of us when we needed it most. See the wheels of abuse do go round and round. Our bond will never be broken she and I are the same and you can try but you will never succeed.
“Hey! My name’s Tony and I wanted to to let you in on a how you can make your child a mess and get back at the kids mother, all you got to do is accuse them of PAS…that’s right Parental Alienation Syndrome, a.k.a. “brainwashing”.
Don’t worry that it was invented by a total loon and pro-pedophile, Dr. Richard Gardner, who wound up offing himself by stabbing himself…a lot.
Don’t even fuss about the fact that PAS is not even accepted by any mental health care provider worth their salt anyways….hehehe If you think you might be a victim of PAS or your kids were or are a victim of PAS, or wait a minute, you’re the victim, but then the kids are the victim too, no, okay, you’re the victim but the child is the TRUE victim…yeah…that’s the ticket….fool me twice, shame on you…ah, you get it.
Please take the below quiz to find out if one of yous guys is a victim.
Question 1 Are you an Asshole?
Question 2 Does or did more than one person have a restraining order against you?
Question 3 Do/did you hit your wife/girlfriend?
Question 4 Do/did you hit your wife/girlfriend?
If you answered yes to any of these questions…then congratulations!
You have PAS or your kid does…doesn’t matter….somebody has it and your lawyer, the judge, the guardian ad litem and other court whores are going to profit from it and your kids are seriously going to hate you for accusing their mother of it, but they already do anyways don’t they?
BTW….if you can’t spell “brainwashing” or use the word “brainsmashing” instead of using the correct word…you probably shouldn’t use it at all.
“Children say that people are hung sometimes for speaking the truth.” St. Joan of Arc
“I AM NOT AFRAID, I WAS BORN TO DO THIS”
St. Joan of Arc & Mama Liberty
“My child and I have been threatened and intimidated by the possibility that I may go to jail and be held in contempt due to my child refusing to have visitation with her abusive father and she may go to foster care.” Her father has told her this over and over again, as well as Judge David Miron.
This is not the first time that this mother has had to protect her child from the father. Oconto County CPS did substantiate sexual abuse allegations against the the father, he found a loop hole and had the recused Family Court Commissioner, Frank M. Calvert unsubstantiated the sexual abuse allegations.
The system has failed my child, from Oconto County and its CPS worker, Carrie Silbernagel-Burke to Marinette County Circuit Court Judge, David Miron.
This father does not have the means to care for her. She has no bed or a bedroom due to the fact he lives with his mother who only has two bedrooms.
The 11 yr old child is given the choice to sleep either on the floor in the living room or down in the basement. She has no privacy or space to call her own while she is in her fathers care. She is continually tormented and tortured by both her paternal grandmother and father, this is nothing new.
This child has been exposed to domestic violence by her father towards her mother several times. She was also a passenger in his car when he was arrested for driving drunk in the middle of the day. The CPS worker, Carrie Silbernagel-Burke told the mother:
“drinking and driving with his daughter did not make him a bad father, he made a bad choice.”
This was nothing compared to the sexual abuse my child endured and other court ordered abuse.
My child has taken her stand against her abuser, the court ordered abuse and threats of foster care by Judge David Miron.
My child is not an empty vessel, she KNOWS where she is safe. She has not lied to social workers, even with her father prodding her to.
All her needs are provided by her loving Mother and she knows that
“I am not going to shut up, give up or go away!”
“My only wish is for my daughter to be safe and sane.”
If this mother is jailed for doing what any mother would do for her child
the consequences to my accusers and judges will be as follows.
There will be a hunger strike (Troscadh), and all the battles up until now were training for we intend to win the war and expose the dirty little secrets of family court and the criminals that run it.
Change
Everything you are
And everything you were
Your number has been called
Fights, battles have begun
Revenge will surely come
Your hard times are ahead
Best
You’ve got to be the best
You’ve got to change the world
And use this chance to be heard
Your time is nowChange
Everything you are
And everything you were
Your number has been called
Fights and battles ‘ve begun
Revenge will surely come
Your hard times are ahead
Best
You’ve got to be the best
You’ve got to change the world
And use this chance to be heard
Your time is now
Don’t
Let yourself down
Don’t let yourself go
Your last chance has arrived
Best
You’ve got to be the best
You’ve got to change the world
And use this chance to be heard
Your time is now
What the “Father Rights” Joke about? Below is a joke found on FR group…..how appropos….since they’re always complaining about how much child support they have to pay.
Tired of constantly being broke & stuck in an unhappy marriage, a young husband decided to solve both problems by taking out a large insurance policy on his wife with himself as the beneficiary, and then arranging to have her killed.
A ‘friend of a friend’ put him in touch with a nefarious dark-side underworld figure who went by the name of ‘Artie.’ Artie then explained to the husband that his going price for snuffing out a spouse was $5,000. The husband said he was willing to pay that amount, but that he wouldn’t have any cash on hand until he could collect his wife’s insurance money.
Artie insisted on being paid at least something up front, so the man opened his wallet, displaying the single dollar bill that rested inside. Artie sighed, rolled his eyes, & reluctantly agreed to accept the dollar as down payment for the dirty deed.
A few days later, Artie followed the man’s wife to the local Super Wal-Mart store. There, he surprised her in the produce department & proceeded to strangle her with his gloved hands. As the poor unsuspecting woman drew her last breath & slumped to
the floor ……. The manager of the produce department stumbled unexpectedly onto the murder scene Unwilling to leave any living witnesses behind, ol’ Artie had no choice but to strangle the produce manager as well.
However, unknown to Artie, the entire proceedings were captured by the hidden security cameras & observed by the store’s security guard, who immediately called the police. Artie was caught and arrested before he could even leave the store.
Under intense questioning at the police station, Artie revealed the whole sordid plan, including his unusual financial arrangements with the hapless husband who was also quickly arrested.
The next day in the newspaper, the headline declared…
*’ARTIE CHOKES 2 for $1.00 @ WAL-MART!’*
Why doesn’t Family Court get “it” that there is no such thing as joint/shared parenting when mothers have to deal with this type of a man?
Then this today…
Northfield man gets 15 years for killing mother of his five children
MAYS LANDING – Friday used to be the day Louis Ceresa took his five children out for pizza.
But this Friday, instead of picking them up, the Northfield man was sentenced to 15 years in prison for killing their mother.
Ceresa admitted in July that he strangled Amanda Carmen, 34, while the two sat in her minivan outside his Revere Avenue home during a scheduled custody exchange Jan. 11.
Superior Court Judge Bernard DeLury called the plea agreement’s recommended 15-year sentence “lenient,” but said that Ceresa’s willingness to admit his guilt spared his children from a painful trial and his eldest from having to testify in court.
The couple’s 11-year-old son witnessed the killing.
“I can’t tell you what I did that night or why I did it,” Ceresa, 33, told the judge Friday. “I don’t know what happened.”
When he pleaded to aggravated manslaughter in July, Ceresa said “I exploded” after Carmen told him she was moving away with their children.
“I didn’t mean for this to happen,” he said at the time.
“To lose a child, at any age, from illness or accident is horrific,” Carmen’s mother, Margaret, said in a statement read in court by victim counselor Trisha Hayek. “But to lose her because someone was angry and just ‘didn’t mean to kill her’ is unbearable.”
Now, Carmen’s children will not have their mother with them for all the important things in life, she said: “What Louis did will have an effect on our family not just now, but also for generations to come.”
“I have no excuse for what I did,” Ceresa said.
He apologized to his children – who were not in court – as well as the dozen family members there to support him. He also apologized to the Carmens, explaining, “they were my family for many years.”
And once again, as he had when he pleaded, Ceresa professed his love for Carmen.
“Louis claims he loved Amanda,” Margaret Carmen wrote. “How do you put your hands around the throat of someone you love and watch them take their last breath of life? How is his defense, ‘I didn’t mean to’?”
But defense attorney Anthony Previti said the killing was an anomaly, and Ceresa is a good man who has shown consistent remorse since the killing.
Previti said Ceresa asked that nothing positive be said about him in court, “but I am compelled to say it.”
“I don’t feel like a good person,” Ceresa said. “I do feel rotten. I do feel like crap, and I should. I’ll make sure I come down on myself for the rest of my life.”
For at least the next 12 years, that life will be in prison. He must serve 85 percent of the imposed sentence before he is eligible for parole.
By that time, the victim’s mother said, the children “will have the time to grow up and understand the situation and how they feel about it.”
She said she would like to see Ceresa spend the rest of his life in jail, but the family accepted the plea deal to spare her 11-year-old grandson “the agony of having seen his mother strangled to death by his father and then have to testify and put his father in prison.”
It is more time than the nine years Millville police Sgt. Robert Vanaman received after admitting during jury selection for his murder trial in March that he killed his wife and tried to cover up the crime in 2006.
In August, DeLury sentenced Rosina McKinnie to nine years in prison under a plea agreement in which she admitted to fatally stabbing her live-in boyfriend Aramis Smith during a 2008 party at the couple’s Pleasantville home. There was a history of domestic violence against McKinnie in that case.
Previti told DeLury on Friday how the judge often said domestic violence cases are one step away from homicide. But in this case, “there was no warning,” Previti said.
Police had not broken up fights between the two. Ceresa had no criminal background.
“I don’t believe he’s even had a parking ticket,” Previti said.
But there was daily alcohol consumption and a history of cocaine use, DeLury pointed out.
“This defendant was not entirely a law-abiding person, as evidence by his frequent (drug) abuse.”
Ceresa relinquished his parental rights. The children, ages 5 to 11, now live with their maternal grandmother in Egg Harbor Township.
“I lost my children. I lost Amanda. I lost everything over something stupid,” Ceresa told the judge. “When I die, I’ll pay for this again. I’ll be judged again.”
We lost our green land, we lost our clean air ,
We lost our true wisdom and we live in despair.
O sisters, o sisters, lets stand up right now,
Its never too late to start from the start.
O wisdom, o wisdom, thats what we ask for,
And, yes, my dear sisters, we must learn to ask.
Wisdom, o wisdom, thats what we ask for,
Thats what we live for no-oo-ow.
Wisdom, o wisdom, thats what we ask for,
Thats what we live for no-oo-ow.
O sisters, o sisters, lets wake up right now,
Its never too late to shout from our hearts.
O freedom, o freedom, thats what we fight for,
And, yes, my dear sisters, we must learn to fight.
Freedom, o freedom, thats what we ask for,
Thats what we live for no-oo-ow.
O freedom, o freedom, thats what we ask for,
Thats what we live for no-oo-ow.
O sisters, o sisters, lets give up no more,
Its never too late to build a new world .
O new world, o new world, thats what we live for,
And, yes, my dear sisters, we must learn to live.
New world, O new world, thats what we live for,
Thats what we must now learn to build.
O new world , o new world, thats what we live for,
Thats what we must now learn to build.
New world, o new world, thats what we live for,
Thats what we must now learn to build.
O new world, o new world, thats what we live for,
Thats what we must now learn to build.
lyrics by Yoko Ono
Dedicated to my abusers…J— and C—-….you might have tried to break me but I’m not broken….my life is better than ever…..you never had me.
Dedicated to my loving husband, best friend, soul mate, Chad
DEAD
Taken away forever
Gone
DEAD
Taken away forever
Not one day goes by that a murder-suicide has NOT occurred.
The ‘father/men rights’ activists try to say that women, not men, commit more acts of violence and also murder.
These men are becoming so entrenched with hating women that they are seriously losing the plot. I say to all women that are in an abusive relationship and are thinking of finally getting out…please be EXTRA careful! The precautions that were previously taken when leaving an abusive relationship should be upped an notch or two. If you think you cannot do it on your own, know you can! If you think your abuser will change, no he will not! Or if you fear for your children’s safety you definitely should! The following is an abstract from a publication regarding murder-suicide from 2005…
I am sure nothing has changed since then except that the rate is probably higher for 2009
From Murder-Suicide: An Overview by Roger W. Byard M.D.
Murder-suicide is an act in which the perpetrator of a homicide kills him or herself after killing the victim(s). Rates of murder-suicide are fairly consistent across communities and are much lower than rates for homicide or suicide. The most common murder-suicide scenario involves a White male perpetrator in his 40s who kills his estranged spouse and perhaps his children before killing himself. The three most common categories of murder-suicide are cases in which (1) the act is caused by jealously or concern about age or illness; (2) the act is perpetrated by a parent who kills all of the children and then themselves; and (3) the act involves disgruntled employees, cult members, or members of religious or political groups who target a large number of victims before committing suicide. Aspects of the investigation are reviewed, international rates of murder-suicide are presented, and the possible motivations for murder-suicide are briefly considered.
 forever young
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Straight From The U.S. Department of Health & Human Service’s Mouth: Children are More at Risk With Fathers
As she says…this is straight from the government statistics. The blogger Dastardly Dads did a great job on this by combing through all the statistics in the Third National Incidence Study of Child Abuse and Neglect (also known as NIS-3), put out by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services.
Why then does HHS give all these grants to father’s organizations to take custody of children from moms???
Fathers rights people often remind us that married couple families do better than single-parent households in nearly every measure of child abuse and neglect, which on the face of it is true. I suppose the public policy implication is keep everybody married with a man in the house (how we will do this is never made entirely clear–outlaw divorce?), and child abuse will lessen.
This is basically a variation of the BMW fallacy, or confusing correlation with causation. Here’s how it goes. BMW owners are nearly uniformly well-to-do successful professionals with six figure incomes who own their own homes. So–if somebody who’s low-income manages to buy a BMW, will they be financially successful?
No, they will be broke. Saddled with more car can they afford and with more financial troubles than ever.
So it is with marriage. People who are happily married tend to stay married and tend not to have families plagued with abuse, drug or alcohol issues, mental health problems, and other stuff like that. Married people who do have these problems in their relationships will tend to split up over time and form single parent households.
So the question is not comparing single parents with married households, but comparing the relative safety of father-headed households and mother-headed households, even though the numbers of these households are not the same. (And not because of the family courts. Most mother-headed families are that way by default, not by design or legal proceedings.) Hence, we convert the child abuse data from each type of household type into incident rates per 1,000 children.
So what do we have then? Let’s start by taking a peek at maltreatment (i.e. abuse and neglect) under what’s called the “harm standard.” Under the “harm standard,” children were considered to be maltreated only if they had already experienced harm from abuse or neglect. (The other standard is the “endangerment standard,” which is children who experience abuse or neglect that puts them at risk of harm, combined with kids who are alreadly harmed by abuse or neglect.)
Let’s start with overall maltreatment (abuse and neglect combined). Children living with their only their mothers experienced maltreatment under the Harm Standard at a rate of 26.1 per 1,000 children. Children living with only their dads? 36.6 per 1,000. As NIS-3 notes, “This rate is more than two and one-third times higher than that of children in two-parent families.”
Oops. So much for the theory that keeping a dad–any dad–in the family somehow confers protection from that nasty abusive mommy.
What about abuse as such? Children living with only their moms: 10.5 per 1,000. Children living with only their dads: 17.7 per 1,000. Here’s what NIS-3 says about that: “Children in father-only families had more than twice the risk of abuse as defined by the harm standard compared to children living in both-parent families. Their risk was more than one and two-thirds that of children in mother-only families, a marginal difference in this maltreatment category. Thus, the pattern in connection with abuse essentially reflects the higher risk of children who live with only their fathers.”
Physical abuse is a subcategory under abuse. Children living with only their moms: 6.4 per 1,000 children. Children living with only their dads: 10.5 per 1,000 children. Here’s what NIS-3 states: “When specific types of abuse under the Harm Standard are examined, it is apparent that the findings described in the previous paragraph stem from the disproportionate incidence of physical abuse among children in father-only households….An estimated 10.5 per 1,000 children living with only their fathers were harmed by physical abuse in 1993, which is more than two and two-thirds higher than the incidence rate of 3.9 per 1,000 for children living with both their parents. Children in mother-only families were not statistically different from those in both-parent households in their risk of physical abuse under the Harm Standard.”
Let’s turn to neglect now. Children living with only their moms: 16.7 per 1,000 children. Children living with only their dads: 21.9 per 1,000 children.
Emotional neglect is one of the subcategories under neglect. What do the numbers say now? Frankly, I figured moms would get nailed on something as nebulous as emotional neglect, but I was wrong. Children living with only their moms: 3.4 per 1,000 children. Children living with only their fathers: 8.8 per 1,000 children.
How about severity of injury? The data was said to be statisically unreliable for Fatalities, so let’s turn to Serious Injuries. Children living with only their moms: 10.0 per 1,000 children. Children living with only their dads: 14.0 per 1,000. And Moderate Injuries? Children living with only their moms: 14.7 per 1,000 children. Children living with only their dads: 20.5 per 1,000.
I’m not sure if there’s enough data geeks among you to go into maltreatment under the “endangerment standard” (see definition above), but I will go into it briefly anyway. Suffice it to say that the pattern is very much the same, except with bigger numbers.
All maltreatment (abuse and neglect) for children living with only their moms: 50.1 per 1,000 children. For children living with only their dads: 65.6 per 1,000.
All abuse for children living with only their moms: 18.1 per 1,000 children. For children living only with their dads: 31.0 per 1,000.
Physical abuse for children living with only their moms: 9.8 per 1,000 children. For children living with only their dads: 16.5 per 1,000. As NIS-3 concludes, “Similar to the pattern described above in relation to Harm standard physical abuse, children who live with only their fathers are at a marginally higher risk of physical abuse than those who live with two parents. (The father-only household is associated with two and one-third times greater risk.)”
To read the whole post, please visit Dastardly Dads.
Note: Cross posted from [wp ridezstormz] Silent No More!.
“Domestic violence is about control, not anger. Once a victim says ‘I’m leaving you,’ the last thing the batterer has over the victim is the children“.
Advocates of domestic violence victims say a growing number of batterers are using the tactic in court to gain custody of their children.
“In cases where domestic violence is alleged, the perpetrator’s attorney can put in this alleged parental alienation syndrome,” said Dallas psychologist Jane Toler, who will give a presentation on the issue at the conference. “Then, all of a sudden, it takes the focus off the perpetrator and puts it back onto the victim.”
Dr. Toler, who has a private practice and also works for The Family Place for victims of domestic abuse, said lack of awareness about the complex concept can lead to a violent parent gaining custody. That can raise questions about the safety of the children involved, she said.
The one-day family violence conference also will include presentations about women who use violence, elder abuse, the clergy’s response to victims, and domestic violence in the gay community. The keynote speaker is Carolyn Thomas, a Waco woman whose ex-boyfriend shot her in the face and caused extensive injuries in December 2003.
The conference, which is expected to draw about 200 people, is sponsored by the Dallas County district attorney’s office and the Dallas County Domestic Violence Awareness, Child Abuse Awareness and Elder Abuse coalitions.
Parental alienation syndrome recently has become a leading defense in custody cases – and a controversial topic among family violence experts.
Casey Alexander, president of Texas Fathers for Equal Rights in Fort Worth, said the defense should not be discounted.
“I tend to believe there are far more cases of legitimate alienation than there are guys beating their wives who are using this to get their children,” Mr. Alexander said, adding that he experienced parental alienation syndrome during his divorce.
Paige Flink, executive director of The Family Place, said parental alienation syndrome has increasingly been used against her clients.
“A lot of it is rooted in blaming the victim,” she said. “We’ve seen the judges taking the kids from the mother and giving them to the abuser.”
State law prohibits family court judges from awarding full or joint custody to an abusive parent if there is a finding of family violence. However, advocates say such evidence is not always presented in court, sometimes because the victim cannot afford legal representation.
Some abusers have gone so far as to accuse victims of domestic violence of going to a shelter just to keep the children away from them, said Katie Foster, regional training coordinator for the family violence division of the Dallas County district attorney’s office.
“Domestic violence is about control, not anger. Once a victim says ‘I’m leaving you,’ the last thing the batterer has over the victim is the children,” she said.
The division also conducted training on the issue in February, Ms. Foster said.
“There is a need for more awareness about this issue. There’s a need for more education about it,” she said.
