HELL IS FOR CHILDREN


 

They say that there is a special place in hell for women that do not help other women.  The same holds true for children.  Today, one such “woman” and a judge, Maureen Sogluizzo, of Hudson County is one of those women.

A child victim of incest told her deepest, darkest secret to a grand jury a few short weeks ago.  She told of the sexual abuse, she told of gasoline being poured over her. She told and now her abuser/father is trying to get custody/visitation of her two younger siblings. Currently there is a no contact order for this strong child but her younger siblings are still in the grips of a man who is hell bent on destroying their mother.  But this abuser cannot do this alone, he’s had help, a lot of help.  His money has paid many members of the legal community in New Jersey in order for him to have access to his victims all these years.  Judge Maureen Sogluizzo and others in the Hudson County courtroom are well aware they are being watched.

This ‘father’ was indicted on March 5, 2014 of 7 charges, 3 counts of 2nd degree sex assault against child and 4 counts of physical endangerment of a child, and this judge is considering allowing kids back there! Another Judge from Hudson removed the children on March 5th after grand jury indictment.  He was arrested March 12th and this case going to trial.  Head spinning yet? 

For those that know the family court system and the continuous failures inside the dirty little secret of family court we know how badly these failures can end for battered mothers and their children.  Several cases comes to mind, Jessica Gonzales, Dr. Amy Castillo and many more.

The below videos are just some examples and only the very worst case scenarios that happen when judges fail children.  If this man is not a danger to children, his own. then he should NOT have any custody/visitation until the criminal matter is settled.  The judge should err on the side of caution and should use due diligence when considering any move towards placing a child with a known violent man.  WE ARE WATCHING AND THIS BLOG AND OTHERS WILL CONTINUE TO SHINE THE LIGHT ON THE CORRUPTION, COLLUSION AND CRONYISM IN HUDSON COUNTY, NEW JERSEY JUDGE MAUREEN SOGLIUZZO.

 

Corrupt courts;Pandemic for Moms: 6 year old Child Imprisoned for Telling the Truth


Corrupt courts;Pandemic for Moms: 6 year old Child Imprisoned for Telling the Truth.

6 year old Child Imprisoned for Telling the Truth

Child tells the social worker and everyone else “Daddy made me lick his penis“.

Days later child is removed and put into complete isolation from mom, siblings, family, church, school and extracurricular activities. She can not speak to mom or rest of the family via phone or skype. She is not allowed to give her homework to her mom. She is not allowed even the smallest courtesy of her own clothes. Instead the state buys them and bills the mom while returning a bag of perfect even fashionable clothes. Next they may as well slide food under her cell door. Better not give them ideas. It seems harsher than even prison. Since in prison your allowed money for vending on your card. Your allowed visitors and phone calls. Your allowed to speak without sanction as long as respectable.

So conclusion Foster Care in some places in Michigan is worse than prison for murderers.

The child has been given some agreement, that is in question. Child stated “I didn’t break our deal” when social worker enters room because child whispered something private about needing to go to bathroom. Child also says ” I can’t hug you mommy or I have to hug him”(pedo dad who made 6 yo child lick his penis). Why would anyone force a child to hug someone like that? What kind of deal? Why is it not known by all parties? Seems like blackmail if they told child she cant see mommy if she says daddy made her do oral sex. Maybe that’s what they said because child is even more fearful now.

Child has begged and begged to come home. They wouldn’t even think about Christmas letting her go. Funny thing is the only evidence they had for removing child was that mom had a bad psych evaluation 3 years ago.She had good one too but for some reason that doesn’t count.Who decides what counts? In my eyes a bad and good balance each other out.

The state law on removing child into foster care says you must have exhausted all efforts for reunification~ Odd since the week before they asked mom’s attorney to extend supervised order to keep child safe from dad. When did they even tell mom looking at her as suspect ? When did they tell her there was  a problem? When did they ask her about psych eval? In fact they never did and they never did reunification!! So they broke the law?  Judges are allowed to break laws? I never saw that in the constitution!

Due process is in constitution though!

Social worker blatantly lied! She perjured herself and even proves it in her very own report! So all it would take is for the  judge to read her report and he would see the lies. Do judges read? Hmm, law school requires reading.  Therefore judge either can’t read or can’t hear or doesn’t care as he is as corrupt as sugar is sweet.

Child has drawn explicit sexual drawings for therapist alone with no parent in room.Therapist was licensed by social services to interview children to evaluate if abused. Somehow his opinion about said child was not good enough and he was let go.Why is his evaluation good when its other children but not this child? Maybe they don’t want child to tell truth about sexual abuse. Why, Is dad powerful? Is he scary? Has he blackmailed them or paid them off? So a child suffers because CPS is corrupted!

Sexually explicit drawings are not done by 6 year old children who are not abused in some form.

Child sees yellow lip gloss and freezes. Child says “that looks like daddy’s penis looks like this but its brown not yellow.”  Wow, in my whole life I have never heard how lip gloss looks like a penis. It does though now that I think of it. Why would a child who has allegedly never been abused think that when they see a simple thing like lip gloss.

Dad raped one woman in car with child present!

Dad has two members who are sex offenders already. In my mind I see a puzzle that fits clearly Do you see what I see?

Dad was caught naked in bed with 10 month old ! Why? What kind of man crawls in bed naked with a baby?

Child says Daddy slaps me there! Hmm toddler points to vagina and says this. Why is he touching or slapping there?

Children do not lie about abuse because they do not want to talk about it let alone give details!

Children can not keep lies straight.

Children do not know sexual words and descriptions unless they have seen them.

This mom has raised 4 perfectly healthy children with her ex.They have all graduated college and married healthy spouses. It was not a perfect divorce but they shared children and looked out for them above all!

Why would this child lie? She wouldn’t! 

SILENCE


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“I swore never to be silent whenever and wherever human beings endure suffering and humiliation. We must always take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented.” Elie Weisel from her 1986 Nobel acceptance speech.

I want to share an experience with you. I am and have been a volunteer mentor for women who are victims of domestic violence and are involved in custody issues. I am also a non-custodial mother. I talk to and offer support to women on a daily basis and have for some time, that is the backdrop for this event.

My best friend has a special needs daughter. When I lost custody of my child, she was there for me. She told me she needed help raising hers and would welcome my input. Her husband did not help much in that department. A few years back she asked for my input when Trinity wanted to play a game on line. Mom said it would help her with the math reinforcement she needed for school. I said it could get her started on gambling, because addictive behaviors go with her diagnosis, and because the game gave you bonus “money” for doing certain things. Mom said that was silly, because they have free offers with credit cards now and enticements for lower interest rates. Neither of us suspected the real problem.

There was a chat room in that game and she could make friends all over the world. She was having fun texting her friends from different countries and making pen pals. She met a guy in the chat room too.  The guy took up a lot of her time, and encouraged her to use phone minutes she did not have. He helped her create a facebook, and helped her sign up for Skype.  Trinity told her parents about the boy, and they thought it was cute. Trinity did not say he was a man, and all are unsure as to when she figured that out.

He encouraged her to take nude pictures of herself. Trinity has always had boundary issues, that symptom goes along with her diagnosis. Trinity wanted to please him, and asked if there were certain poses or what parts of her he wanted pictures of.  Even though they were Skyping, they have an older computer that does not have a web cam.

When she asked for help setting up a web cam, her parents were eager to help her, and it was in that process they discovered some of the messages that were exchanged.

So…I asked what the police had to say. Mom said she never called them. I could not believe my ears! I said you HAVE to call them! Heaven only knows how many other children he has done this to or worse! Mom says he is in Europe, and they fear bringing it out in public will damage their child more than staying silent. I told her not saying anything sends a message to Trinity that the abuse is ok and she should just be silent, which is wrong.

Then my bestie stood up, and she is taller than me! It was an intimidating move on her part too! She said to me, “I was there when they took your child, I was in every court hearing by your side and I have read all your court papers. Do you know what I learned from that? I learned that you should have kept your mouth shut! Since that time through your talk and all your “advocacy” work I have learned that if I report this to the police, I can lose my child! I love you like a sister but I am not taking the same path you took! We will work this out as a family and some other family can expose him for what he is. Let them air out their families dirty little secrets for the world to see! I understand that we all need to take a stand against this crap to make it stop, but look at the girl in the military who reported her rape and all she has gone through!”

Some days I just wonder. My Bestie and I, as I look at our arguments past and present, I see we are both correct, just from different perspectives.

This is hip wader material. Are we as advocates actually encouraging women to stay silent when we share our experiences? Is this a cycle of it’s own? How can we encourage women to speak out when they see what happened to us when we spoke out? We know things are not going to change until all domestic violence is reported and addressed and the perpetrators actually get charged, yet when it gets reported we lose custody of our children and are often punished in other ways as well.

I am very tired of chasing my tail in this circle, and I am ready for the next generation of advocates to develop better strategies than we have.

© Mia Tyler Kailin

WELCOME TO MAYBERRY—- a.k.a. OCONTO COUNTY


UPDATE!!!

http://fox11online.com/2014/02/27/peter-hanson-sentenced-to-life-in-prison/

OCONTO – An Oconto Falls man will spend the rest of his life behind bars for a murder 16 years ago.

Peter Hanson was convicted of shooting and killing 19-year-old Chad McLean after a night of drinking in February of 1998.

Prosecutors claimed Hanson dumped McLean’s body in the Pensaukee River.

Hanson walked into Oconto County Court Thursday afternoon, almost a year after the family of McLean was finally able to end its search for the teen’s killer.

“His last 15 years of freedom for us have been 15 years of injustice for Chad,” said Lori Neilson-Grigg, McLean’s cousin.

Early last year, witnesses came forward with new information, enough to charge Hanson.

The long wait for that charge is why McLean’s cousin told the courtroom her family wanted no chance of parole.

“Knowing my cousin, I will never wrap my head around what this scrawny, soft-spoken kid could have done to cause someone to want to end his life, not only end his life, but throw him away like garbage,” said Neilson-Grigg.

Hanson chose not to speak on his own behalf. However, his attorney asked the judge for a chance at parole after 20 years, when Hanson would be 73 years old.

“I think what is important to understand is that a parole eligibility date is not an automatic,” said Jeffrey Jazgar, Hanson’s attorney.

Judge Michael Judge sided with the prosecution and McLean’s family.

“The agony that Mr. Hanson caused to this family for 16 years, there’s no other word for it, it’s despicable,” said Judge.

“It’s just what we’ve been waiting for, for 16 years,” said Bob Neilson, McLean’s uncle. “It’s just too bad it couldn’t happen sooner. People could have come forward, but it means a lot and it’s the resolution we wanted.”

The years of waiting are why McLean’s family is encouraging people to come forward in any cold case, no matter how minor the information might seem.

“It is important and this case proved it because just somebody hearing a gunshot brought forward other people and this is the result,” said Neilson.

Charles Mlados, who also faces charges of killing McLean, is scheduled to go to trial in August.

 

 

Oconto County Strikes OUT again

Arrest Made in 15 Year Old Murder Case – www.nbc26.com.

Once again, Oconto County Sheriffs Dept. and Detective Darren Laskowski, needed outside help to solve a fifteen year “cold case” murder. Fifteen years to the day that Chad McLean’s body was found in the Pensaukee River.

According to the criminal complaint, Peter Hanson and Charles Mlados were investigated since 1998 when Chad McLean went missing on the night of February 22, 1998.  Hanson and Mlados were last seen with the victim, Chad McLean.

When you look at the evidence that they had fifteen years ago it would astound even a non criminal investigator could figure out that something was not right.  Both Hanson and his friend Mlados were the last ones seen with the victim, McLean’s body was found less than a mile from Hanson’s home in Abrams Wisconsin.  But it wasn’t law enforcement that brought this cold case to light in my opinion.  It was the voice of Hanson’s ex-wife, Kathy Hanson, who was interviewed by Laskowski on September 24, 2009.  Kathy had reported that her husband came home at 9:30pm on the evening of February 22, 1998 and noticed that her husband, Hanson, was “panicking and freaking out”.  She saw blood on Hanson’s hands and provided him with “bleach” to help clean up the blood.  Kathy Hanson will never see justice served as she is now also deceased.  A few months after she gave her interview with Laskowski she ” allegedly” committed suicide in 2009.  Not to mention that Hanson also “accidentally” shot and killed his brother long ago.  People seem to die haphazardly around Peter Hanson it would seem.   On May 12, 2008 Kathy Ann Hanson filed a temporary restraining order on then husband Peter Hanson in Oconto County.  On June 9, 2008 the restraining order was dismissed by Judge Michael Judge of  Oconto County.  By the winter of 2009 Kathy Hanson would be dead by an alleged “suicide”.

Oconto County would have you believe they worked tirelessly on this murder when that is exactly the opposite of what they do.  Not only did they place Kathy Hanson’s life in danger by re-interviewing her in 2009 they failed to protect her.  But that’s what Oconto County does, they give criminals a higher regard than victims.  There are several law enforcement agencies that finally brought this cold case to life and I immensely respect those that did.  The two agencies that I do not is Oconto County Sheriffs Department, Officer Laskoswski and Oconto Falls Police Department.  They couldn’t solve a solid colored Rubik’s Cube.  Even with surveillance video of a burglar in a persons home Oconto Falls PD couldnn’t figure out and refuse to.

The lesson here is once again that Oconto County is inept in any investigation they start or refuse to start.  Criminals and murderers run free for years.  It’s only and only when the Wisconsin Department of Justice gets involved that anything is solved.  Another lesson to learn is that Oconto County is dangerous to your health, safety and sanity.

My heart goes out to Chad McLean’s family and especially his mother, she deserved better than the fifteen years of shoddy police work.  My heart also goes out to the children of these alleged murderers who now are fatherless and Hanson’s who have lost both parents.  God bless the real investigators and do gooders in this case that had to come from outside of Oconto County’s little bubble of nepotism, corruption, collusion and cronyism to bring  justice to crime victims everywhere. May God have mercy on the souls of Oconto County and the bungling idiots that run amok there for my child and I will never have such mercy.

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THE PAYBACK


While I appreciate that Oconto County et al is still watching this blog it never ceases to amaze me that CPS worker is so concerened about her name and posts about CPS workers LYING on their reports. . . right Carrie?

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Yes my child has a voice and it’s very strong for being almost 15 years old. Since you don’t know how to do your jobs and hang around googling your names and searching this blog for info; here’s a little ditty for ya.  The following is a piece of poetry my daughter wrote.  She continually tells “mandated reporters” at her school about her home life with her father.  Don’t you think it’s high time you did your job?  I know my child thinks so and so do I.

Dedicated to CPS worker, Carrie Silbernagel-Burke and Oconto and Brown County Child Protection Agency

 

 

PRETENDING

I go to school pretending

everything is fine

I say “I’m okay”
I can’t believe I still stick with that line.

I pretend I didn’t go through

a “father abusing me phase; life had a lot to face.

I don’t want anyones sorrows or

their pity.

Yeah, I know it’s not all that shitty

That’s what you’ll say.

I want him to pay, pay for

everytime he would hit me.

All I would say is that

I miss my mom.

Is that so wrong?

I just want him to go away.

He  causes me so much pain, physical pain.

Am I the one to blame?

Don’t feel sorry for me

And don’t forget my NAME

by M.M.H. (you know who I am)

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A Voice for Men uses pic of brutalized woman to illustrate post blaming feminists for domestic violence


BADASSS MAMA:

RE-VICTIMIZING OVER AND OVER AGAIN. All together now…”The wheels of ABUSE go round and round”

Originally posted on man boobz:

[TRIGGER WARNING for picture of brutalized woman]

If you want to show someone what sort of website A Voice for Men is, have them look at the following screenshot, which I’m putting below the jump because it may well trigger some readers in its depiction of the effects of domestic violence on women:

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SOMEONE SAVED MY LIFE TONIGHT


This woman saved my life. When I was in a violent relationship I saw the particular story on Oprah. I recognized myself in these videos, trying had to be quiet to prevent his hands on me.  The judge who sentenced this abuser was emotional when describing what he saw in that video of Susan.  I wonder what did he see?  Did he realize that domestic violence is far more damaging of a crime than originally thought?  Do we really have the equal protection under law?  We as survivors of intimate partner violence have come a long way.  Just like Susan, I am a far cry from the subservient battered slave I once was.

If it were not for Susan and the countless other of survivors that have found their voice and share their story to the world to let us know, we are not alone, we are not crazy and you too can survive!  My work on this blog and elsewhere has led me down a path filled with love and empowerment.  My hope for the future is that all women will be protected as every human deserves.  Since we cannot eradicate “abuse” it is up to law enforcement and the judiciary to be well-informed and educated on the subject of domestic violence.  We have not only shattered that proverbial glass ceiling we are coming through it in masses.

You are not alone, your sisters are all around you, come find us!

In honor of Domestic Violence Awareness Month we want the world to know that we are here… we always have been.  It was only up until recently with the slap in the face against domestic violence survivors and victims in Topeka Kansas that our voices have only gotten louder.  We honor our fallen sisters who were not as lucky as we are to have survived a relationship.  We have faith in knowing they are guiding us as we preserve their memory.  Many are now gone but not forgotten, this is for you.        

http://www.topeka.org/cityofficials/

THE COLOR PURPLE


In the Month of October, the 24th National Domestic Violence Awareness Month– Topeka Legalizes Domestic Violence.  All Survivors and Victims every where have been thrown back into the dark ages.  Shame on Topeka for their ‘slap in the face’ to every victim nationwide.  Topeka Kansas is now– the abuser.
This will set a bad precedence through the nation.  One that will have deadly ripple effects.  Myself and other advocates and the three Councilpersons who voted against repealing and legalizing Domestic Violence engaged in a tense hour and half with dialogue with the rest of the Council and especially Dan Stanley Interim City Manger. 
 I tip my hat to these three Council members who were ‘bullied’ by the rest of the council’s self serving needs on the ‘backs of Domestic Violence Victims
Those who opposed in the final vote were: (please lend to them your support and thanks)

  • Denise Everhart
  • Richard Harmon
  • Larry Wolgast 
    The City Council members who sold out Victims of Violence: (and need to be voted out)
    Dan Stanley- Interim City Manager
    Mayor Bill Bunton

    • Karen Hiller
    • John Alcala,Deputy Mayor
    • Sylvia Ortiz 
    • Chad Manspeaker
    • Bob Archer
    • Andrew Gray
    The Councils email address and contact numbers are here: http://www.topeka.org/cityofficials/
    And to those I say:


     The seven Topeka City Council and District Attorney, Chad Taylor’s, off-the-cuff comments have a distinctly shrewish tone.  If you disagree with my claim that it can plausibly be surmised that these stooges compress their traducements into brief, highly reductive, definitive-sounding phrases, easily memorized and easily expressed, then read no further.  The Topeka City Council doesn’t simply want people to believe that “metanarratives” are the root of tyranny, lawlessness, overpopulation, racial hatred, world hunger, disease, and rank stupidity.  It wants this belief drummed into people’s heads from birth.  It wants it to be accepted as an axiom, an assumed part of the nature of reality.  Only then will the Topeka City Council truly be able to get away with twisting the truth.  In a Topeka City Council-led society, people who educate the public on a range of issues will be suppressed, vilified, hated, imprisoned, exiled, and killed.  From this anecdotal evidence I would argue that if a cogent, logical argument entered their brains, no doubt a concussion would result.  Once you begin to see the light you’ll realize that Topeka sees the world as somewhat anarchic, a game of catch-as-catch-can in which the sneakiest skivers nab the biggest prizes.You might not care that my message has always been that by supporting stupid, incontinent mountebanks with inferior moral standards, we devalue ourselves, the lives of our children, and the heroes who died for our freedoms, but you’d better start caring if you don’t want the Topeka City Council or District attorney to regiment the public mind as much as an army regiments the bodies of its soldiers.  Emotionalism is a plague upon us all, a pox that will likely not be erased in the lifetime of any reader of this blog.  To Topeka City Council, however, it’s merely a convenient mechanism for crushing any semblance of opposition to its filthy, combative apothegms.  The baneful nature of Topeka’s fulminations is not just a rumor.  It is a fact to which I can testify.It would seem the seven Topeka City Councilpersons have been working for years to create a faux moral and ideological climate in which cranky leeches can provide cover for a contumelious, anti-humanist agenda.And that’s all I have to say.  For now…

CALA NY Participates in Million Mom March Mother’s Day 2011 in Washington DC


CALA NY Participates in Million Mom March Mother’s Day 2011 in Washington DC.

Sunday, May 8, Mothers Day 2011, the Million Mom March has gathered participants and supporters for mothers who lost custody of their children in Family Courts across America.  Mothers of Lost Children included Linda Marie Sacks representing the American Mothers Political Party.

Representative, and other valuable organizers have been present in this historic march, including NOW Foundation Family Law Ad Hoc Committee, Leadership Council, Justice For Children, Domestic Violence Legal Empowerment & Appeals Project, Stop Family Violence, Battered Mothers Custody Conference, Randi James, Protective Parents for Children’s Rights, California Protective Parent Association, Center for Judicial Excellence, Family Court in America, Talia Carner, and The Coalition Against Legal Abuse.

Tourists and visitors on Capital Hill read the banners with great interest, and displayed absolute shock at the horrors that they were exposed to. People still cannot believe that courts will rip babies away from their mothers, and court order them to live with their abusive or pedophile fathers.

One mother had a poster exclaiming, “792 since I have seen my son”, while other posters had political messages to the President and First Lady, Michelle Obama.

This year saw the participation of Linda Marie Sacks, a mother who has filed a landmark case in the US Supreme Court on the eve of mother’s day. Our prayers are directed to Linda Marie in her pursuit of a favorable decision. This case will pave the road for mothers across America who have the strength and resolve to fight. “Mommy, please do not ever stop fighting for us”. We won’t. We love you too much!